Vulnerability

This topic was created in the Aries forum by xtina on Saturday, January 18, 2014 and has 19 replies.
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I know that I read somewhere that Aries hate being vulnerable... and yes everyone hates being vulnerable. So, my question is: How do you deal with being vulnerable?
Had a tough day to day and got into a big argument with my brother-in-law (who is a Libra) and when I reflected upon it it all came down to my vulnerability and how I HATE to be vulnerable. So how do you deal with it or not deal with it? Do you guys hate it too?
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Definitely, one of my favorite TED talk btw smile
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Posted by xoxoRain
My Venus is in Aries.
So Venus(love&relationships)
i actually hate feeling vulnerable if it comes to love. Ive met a Guy (Leo), which makes me the most weak, vulnerable, girl i've ever been in my entire life. And usually, I never let anyone break down my Guard, to hide that vulnerability. But it happens, and u just end up with a very sensitive girl.
Most of the time, Im very headstrong, and don't let anything affect my heart or emotions. But if it comes to him i have a weakness.
How do i deal with being vulnerable?
I just go with it, & Let the cards play out as they are supposed to.


What is your sun sign?
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Posted by LilyTree
Yes, I I highly dislike the feeling and I run from it. I think this is why I don't let people get too close, even family. I only ever let one person get very close to me emotionally and, unfortunately, things didn't work out between us, so I think my fear of vulnerability has been made worse. I just keep to myself. I recently discovered that I can confide in a complete strangers online because the people are just that, strangers I most likely won't ever meet in real life. I simply deflect or change the direction of the conversation if it's heading where I don't want it to go. If I feel cornered, I can get irritated and aggressive.
I will listen to your TED talk. Thank you for sharing.



I know how you feel! I feel like I'm the exact way. I think it's because I have trust issues because I've been hurt so many times by a lot of people... family, friends, guys... and instead of dealing with it I push it under the rug. So, I close up because it's easier than feeling vulnerable or weak.. plus it also means I have to admit I'm a sensitive soul.
+1 on the strangers part. I think for me it's that anonymous, cold and distant, computer screen that makes me feel comfortable about opening up.
Not going to lie so posted this for my benefit to find someone that feels like I do. And it's nice to have people that feel the same way. Thank you to the both of you smile.
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Posted by xtina
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An amazing follow up I'd like to share as well. She's a Scorp btw... go figure smile
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Posted by LilyTree
I enjoyed the one in the OP, but I can't see the one in your latest comment.
I used to be fearless, but life has ripped the rug from under me and has left me shaken. I'm currently trying to find my way back.


Yes! I know what you mean smile

Here I think you'll like this one too smile
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Posted by LilyTree
I enjoyed the one in the OP, but I can't see the one in your latest comment.
I used to be fearless, but life has ripped the rug from under me and has left me shaken. I'm currently trying to find my way back.


I really hope you do find your way back smile
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Posted by GandalftheGrey
You need to have courage to be vulnerable.


Exactly what Brene Brown said! Which made me think she was a Leo but she's a scorp... but I'm almost 100% sure she has some leo in her chart somewhere smile
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Posted by LilyTree
Xtina, thank you for your words! I don't think I will seek professional help as the speaker in the TED talk did. ^_^ I feel that it's something I need to live through and figure out myself. Thank you for the link; I'll check it out. Cheers!


I hope you don't think I was trying to insinuate you need therapy... I wasn't. I just thought you would appreciate the video. And yes I don't need therapy either. What sign are you Lilytree?
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Posted by LilyTree
Xtina, thank you for your words! I don't think I will seek professional help as the speaker in the TED talk did. ^_^ I feel that it's something I need to live through and figure out myself. Thank you for the link; I'll check it out. Cheers!


I hope you don't think I was trying to insinuate you need therapy... I wasn't. I just thought you would appreciate the video. And yes I don't need therapy either. What sign are you Lilytree?


No, not at all! I simply entertained the thought after listening to the TED Talk but decided that it's just part of my growth, and I need to get through it in my own way.
I'm an Aries, how about you?
And I agree that it takes courage to be vulnerable. It's very easy to be courageous when you've never even hurt, so the true test of a person's heart is when (s)he is able to be that way after getting hurt. I can now appreciate that.
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I'm an Aries too!... Yes, actually here is one of my favorite all time quotes and I never really truly understood it until recently...
"Real fearlessness is the product of our tenderness. It comes from letting the world tickle your raw and beautiful heart."
-Chogyam Trungpa
Yes, on finding you're own way. Personally, I have found it really helpful to write everything down so I can get my thoughts organized and talking to a really close friend helps too. They don't necessarily have to give advice but just being there and letting you open up and being honest really helps. I think the verbalizing of it helps me to remember it.... because it's sometimes easy to forget everything you've learned. It's easily swept up in the fast pace of life.
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Lol, kind of reminding myself rather than telling you smile
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I defintely believe that part of my strength is in my vunerability. I get so heart broken, but, I try, I put myself out there.
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Posted by starlover
"Real fearlessness is the product of our tenderness. It comes from letting the world tickle your raw and beautiful heart."
-Chogyam Trungpa
That is beautiful..thanks for sharing
Thank you... I appreciate your advice smile
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Posted by raerae2one8
I defintely believe that part of my strength is in my vunerability. I get so heart broken, but, I try, I put myself out there.


Yes, but putting yourself out there can be a scary thing... learning to though smile
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not putting yourself out there is scary too!smile I totally understand, but I am getting better at what I am putting myself out for. take off those rose colored glasses
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Posted by raerae2one8
not putting yourself out there is scary too!smile I totally understand, but I am getting better at what I am putting myself out for. take off those rose colored glasses


I love dem rose colored glasses tho *-*
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Posted by blisss
Is the dislike of feeling vulnerable but feeling it anyway a trait of Aries? My moon is in Aries...just trying to figure myself out.


I want to say yes, but I would be lying... it's a human trait. We don't want to feel vulnerable because it's looked as being weak. You should really watch the video and the follow up video on shame... very interesting pieces.
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I do try very hard to put myself out there, and I really don't care what people think of me, I think I don't like being vulnerable in the way of depending on others, even in a romantic relationship to me it's a weaknesses/bad thing to be too dependent on someone else. Also I think it is a very Arian trait, Aries like to do things themselves and they like to be hero like in a way, they don't want to be made to feel vulnerable because we are very emotionally/mentally strong people, and I feel like Arians take pride in that fact.
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