Scorp Men- genuine or have hidden agenda?

Posted by ramfishtwins
Ah...the eternal scorpio issue...it's never going to go away!!
A lot of them are game players. I think it's because they are trying to protect themselves. So, this back and forth could go on for quite some time. As an Aries myself, I could never handle it due to my lack of patience and my hatred of the game itself. He's testing you...that's what they do. Just stand your ground and be a strong Aries and see how it plays out.
Good luck girl...could be a rough ride!!

Posted by IcyG
Personally, I would be a tad shy. The way he texts I guess I would text like that too or really similarly. I really do think he likes you/ wants to kiss you.

Posted by starsapphire91
Hey girl!
I think you need to put your foot down, and leave the ball in his court. Tell him, "Look, i'm sick of playing games with you. I want somethimg real, and i need a man who knows what he wants. So, you contact me when your ready to grow up and be serious." And don't call him, text him, or contact him in any way unless he contacts you first. I think this is the best solution because this will force him to get over himself and realize that if he wants to be with you, he's gotta be more mature and sure of himself and his feelings. Plus, if this does work, and a real relationship forms, then he will know in the future that his game-playing is NOT acceptable. To all the women who say that this is a Scorpio male trait, only immature men act like this. Mature people in general are sure of their feelings and are direct with them, and don't have to play mind games and dance around their feelings because they aren't sure about what they want. I can't believe that EVERY Scorpio male in this world is immature.

Posted by ariesgirl402
ariessun - tnx for your support isn't it funny that most of aries women/scorp men relationships are so similar it's scarry

Posted by *Tasha

----- wowwwwww he still hasn't tried to kiss u?! this ^^^ made me laugh sorry. my friend's scorp didn't kiss her the first 2 dates? b/c he was "intimidated b/c she's so pretty" is what he said...but after that he was over it. and mine kissed me soon as we got back to my house save the judgment
that's something i'd expect from a Virgo or someone else kinda shy...u should really find out his moon. idk i wouldn't have the patience for that. fuck that. unless i wasn't physically attracted to him...

Posted by starsapphire91
Thanx! You're my favorite Aries on DXPnet!
You should tell it to him in the way you normally would. Yes, my version was rather cutting , but you should retain a certain firmness. Maybe tell him, "Look, i really like you, but i'm not too sure if you like me. I don't even think that you're sure if you like me. That's fine, but i would like something more from this. If you can't give me that, or if this just isn't the right time for you, then that's okay too. But, i can't keep doing this "in-between" thing, it's too nerve-racking and stressful. Either we're gonna be in a real relationship, or, we stay platonic friends." He has an aries moon? The scorpio sun + aries moon combo i think would make him a VERY direct person, i know my aries moon does! Jesus, he's acting like a libra! Does he have a libra rising, perhaps?

Posted by poopsie1
maybe txt him back -
"what do YOU think? " lol

Posted by poopsie1
ok this one for being late -

"sorry for being late. better than never right . ok my reply to you - yes sexy, why haven't we never made out? why why oh why?" lol

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Posted by ramfishtwins
Ah...the eternal scorpio issue...it's never going to go away!!
A lot of them are game players. I think it's because they are trying to protect themselves. So, this back and forth could go on for quite some time. As an Aries myself, I could never handle it due to my lack of patience and my hatred of the game itself. He's testing you...that's what they do. Just stand your ground and be a strong Aries and see how it plays out.
Good luck girl...could be a rough ride!!

thank you RFT! ugh, why do they have to be like this?! haha. i think that i actually have pretty good patience/willpower, but i just don't want to get screwed over or effed with, and that's why it's so difficult/annoying to deal with! hah.
yeah, i'm trying to not play the games back anymore...and i've already brought it up twice. do you think he wants me to play games back and be chill/laid-back or stand up to his antics? i just don't know the best route to take?!
thank you!!

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Posted by starsapphire91
The problem here is not that he wants to wait for sex, it's the fact that he is acting immature. Point blank. I'm sorry, but any man who wants to "Wait" for sex, won't send flirty text messages insinuating that he wants to have sex with you. He keeps on going back and forth, and this kind of "wishy washy" behavior is not somehing i would expect from a 29-almost-30 yr old, it's unacceptable. The fact of the matter here is, HE isn't sure about what he wants, so he needs to grow up and make a fucking decision. If he wants to keep things platonic, then he needs to stop sending flirtacious texts and keep things "friendly". If he wants FWB (which i'm sure he's not interested in), then he needs to quit being a pussy, and tell her to her face. If he wants a relationship, the he needs to tell her as well. I'm sorry, but he needs to state his fucking intentions. Plus, any man who wants to flirt or "talk" to me about sex... had better pick up the goddamn phone and call me! This constant texting is teenage bullshit, i'm 17 and i expect more!

Posted by poopsie1
I agree Aries women and Scorpios men are not good for each other in general for Aries lack sensitivity, intuition and the ability to understand subtlety which are what water signs are made for.

Posted by ariessun
hi ramfishtwin!
poopsie obviously does not know aries peeps all that well..otherwise this person would have never used "fear" and aries in the same breath. the concept of fear does not exist in aries land. not sure that's a GOOD thing, but it is what it is...

Posted by poopsie1
ramfishtwins, I'm a sign of truth, from my perspective as always of course lol.

"what do you think of Aquarius woman/Scorp man??!"
unsure, if your scorp has air in his chart and you have water and earth in yours that would work better unless he has significant fire in him.

Posted by ariessun
meh ..you're welcome. i have an aqua moon, which i THINK makes it worse with scorp men. i detach so quickly...which is not a good thing when dealing with signs that run on emotion and manipulation, such as the scorp man. he doesn't understand how i can turn tail and not look back. but...we've got "other" issues we're dealing with..or rather he's got an issue that needs to be rectified and so..that's about all i'm gonna say about that. other than it's a dealbreaker and he knows it. so...yea..um..hmmm...anyway...my best advice? err...i have none, really. sorry.

Posted by starsapphire91
Hey!
I think it may work at some point, but... i think you two might need to take a break from each other for him to really figure his feelings out. To be totally honest, even if you two enter a serious relationship, he might be the type to fear commitment, and that's a whole 'nother headache! I don't really think it's a hidden agenda with him, i don't think he's that aware of his emotions, so i don't think it's that deep. Some women read too far into the behaviors of their Scorpio men, due to stereotypes. Not every Scorpio is filled with intensity and emotional depth. Case in point, your guy seems very flirtacious and airy. Which isn't a bad thing at all, in fact i know it makes him quite charming! But i think he needs to live a little more before he can become more serious about life. Granted, you're younger than him, and far more mature, but men mature slower than women. Yeah... that sucks, but imagine how i feel! I'm 17, and most teenage boys suck! Aw hell, men suck in general! But for now, i think you should start to be a little more serious with him in your communication. If you keep things more serious, maybe a real relationship will bud between you two. I hope this helps some!

Posted by P-Angel
Scorp Men- genuine or have hidden agenda?


Every person has an agenda that is for thier own benefit, and every person has information about their agenda that they aren't revealing unless it is to their benefit.

Posted by machiavelli bull
Always hidden agenda!Always

Posted by poopsie1
"I just can't get over her screen name...I keep wanting to call her Poops, but am refraining LOL! Sorry Poops!"
Poop or not (LOL) what made you think I'm a her?
I may be her scorp don't you think lol.

Posted by saywha?
hmm yea..
i'm going through the worst kind of commitment blues ever. Scorp *can* drive me insane day in and day out. Even the parents' meet up has done nothing to calm me... rather heightened every instinct. I feel like I should be listening to my instincts and break into a run.

Posted by saywha?

that sounds great! One thing i do know about scorps is they dont generally hide the ppl they know from their parents. Its nice that he's made them known that a person called you exists in his life. A small step, but sure might lead to bigger things in the future if you both keep up the standard and the fireworks(very imp to a scorp guy) for a long time.
Mine is a little different. Its not just me meeting/talking to his parents, but both of our parents meeting up to talk/discuss. ... we've known each other for almost 5 yrs, committed 4 of those and long distance except for a stolen couple of months here and there. In june both our parents met up to talk and in the general course of discussion it became evident that his father's younger brother and my father's elder brother have been good friends for more than 10yrs! yea.. we've been blessed with tiny surprises... and both the families are more than eagerly looking forward to our wedding (infact, forcing us to go ahead and tie the knot as quickly as possible..)
Although things are not really as bad as I make it seem, I have been possessed by Paranoia itself. I'm not sure if it is the woman's intuition or pure scare of what the future might hold or how his high and mighty scorpionic azz would inflict hurt upon my naivve, innocent, completely trusting heart .

i know right?!...i figure meeting his parents MUST be a good thing as well...i think we are moving in the right direction, but in the next 2 weeks or so i'll know for sure where we stand with one another. either he wants to date me and hopefully only me, he just wants FWB (which i don't want), or we'll be platonic friends...that's pretty much it. i'll tell him what i'm looking for and if that's not what he wants then so be it! i won't hold it against him. he's the one missing out hehe.
and that is so crazy about them being friends for 10 years! what a small world! i know, paranoia is quite the killer huh?! so annoying! well, i hope your Scorp is trustworthy! i really do. i would think if you've known him for 5 years now and been with him for 4, that should be a pretty good sign have you set your wedding date yet? and if you don't mind me asking...where do you live? because i do wedding photography! hehe. just throwing it out there and what issues do you have with your Scorp? do you think he's cheating or somet

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Posted by saywha?
Haha not yet.. we still have a lot practical issues to work through. hehe, thanks, I would sure like to check out your work but we're not sure.. we'd be getting married in a different country (India)
maybe i need to be more aggressive, but not tooo aggressive maybe... but dont be too aggressive too... they like to chase.

Posted by Rumi
in an emotional situation, i guess his Moon would become top concern.. risings r facade.. more or less.

Posted by scorpio rising
dont respond...

Posted by scorpio rising
i really dont know, and honestly this 'mysterious' way that 'scorpios' communicate/or not is just plain weird, i would just come right out with it.........if he contacts you...if he texts you, ask him if he has a voice, when he calls just ask him whatever is on your mind
i just dont agree with walking on eggshells with these guys at all..

Posted by Rumi
I wonder if 'walking on eggshells' is possible for fire signs.. if it does not come naturally, any put on is very easily picked up by scorps...
if it is NOT you.. dont show this face..

its already pretty strange.. why dont make it a bit simple..
cut the crap and be forthright...
just a thought

or you can go another few months with this delicious texting, while both of you enjoy it.

Posted by deemnsout4ever
he's keeping the conversation flowing,stop complaining,woman !!

Posted by deemnsout4ever
attagirl !!

I didn't read through all those posts, but at least you got him to reply to your texts in a timely manner

Posted by Mr Nice

This is rubbish, He will be just shy theres no game. He could also be trying to find out how you like him. Advice, but we all know aries hate advice, if you want to give this ago then you make the first move and kiss him. I was like this with may aries I'm a scorp she made the first and were still together it can be a tough relationship because we are a like meaning we both like to be in charge I've gotten around this by letting are think shes in charge. I also tend to give in lol but, its a good challenge and never boring. You also need to know what day of the month he was born? my aries is in early april I don't tend to get along with aries born in late march or late april. Other advice I would give you is don't judge someone becuase your confused by give the a chance. With knowing astrology aries and scorpio not ment to compatible but, if we learn to listen and try to understand each others good and bad traits there could be a good union with both signs.

i know, i think you're right about him trying to find out if i like him...also, i just got out of a 5 year relationship in February. ScorpGirl83 said that he might be really hesitant because of this.
...she also said i should just make the first move because he wants to make sure i'm ready for that ahh, it's going to be so difficult, but i will try!
and good job letting your Aries think she's in charge Pretty sure that's the only way a Scorp/Aries relationship can work!! hahah i definitely think this relationship would never be boring, which i love but we'll see if we can make it work first!
i was born March 23rd and he is November 2nd...when is your bday?
and thank you...i'm trying soooo hard not to judge because of my confusion with him, but man it's difficult! :-/ we just really need to have a good long conversation about everything and clear the confusion. i definitely think communication is key here.
thanks mr nice!!

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Posted by Mr Nice
I definitely think communication is key here. You are right about that but, it just depends how patient you can be. my aries 1st april me 17th nov. If you get fed up find a libra, or auqqies maybe. Hope this helps good luck