My New Aries Boyfriend - Problem

We haven't even known eachother well enough for at least 1 month and already he wants to have sex! Even just after 3 days we've just become partners, he askes to kiss me. I already told him, that I would rather go slow at first with him and get to know him more. Sex is very serious, once we do this I know our relationship will become alot more deeper. I sometimes worry what if he even begins cheating on me after we do have sex? But anyway as I told him, I have to get to know him better and for him to meet my family before we get more serious. I do not even know anything about his personal background information yet. I really like him alot and I do want to be with him. I just do not want to go so fast like he does. However, he has told me he will wait for me when I'm ready but the clock is ticking. Do you think if I wait too long, he will leave me? Or maybe he will understand, and wait until I have finish learning what kind of person he really is?

Hello virgogirl

I think that your stand is correct. You need to be with a guy who respects you.
If he really likes you and if he cares for you, he'll wait. If he can't do that, it means he doesn't care about you much and you're better off without him anyway. The clock is ticking for him, not for you.
Sex is a very serious thing, and besides, it's only a part of a relationship. I'd say something like 10% ... the other things like emotional, intellectual, freiship elements are important too, you need to work on those. Sometimes sex too early in a relationship can kill all those other things, because sex can be very addictive, and people can end up doing nothing else.

So, I'd say that don't even think of changing your stance. I think that it's great that you respect yourself, and also the real meaning and bond of sex. If he leaves you, it's his loss.

Exactly, Starlight! Thank you so much! 🙂 I'm definitely going to stay where I stand. Thanks so much, for assuring me that I'm definitely doing the right thing and that it will be his lost, if he leaves and not mines. Relationships should always foremost be about respect.

I agree with starlight.If your not ready your not ready and would be very inconsiderate and disrespectful to threaten if it doesn't happen when he wants it to.If your looking for suggestions as well,answer his questions with questions or tell him that you'd much rather talk about getting to KNOW each other rather than talking about when sex is going to happen or not.If he is that driven by sex and his penis to cheat,leave you or whatever it won't be much of a loss because you wouldn't have gained much beyond just liking him and don't know anything else to make it stronger.Im not an aries though,just a chick scorpio,the queens of b/tches I guess ha ha.

I'm glad that you agree, Sagitauries. I think that if Virgogirl's guy really cares about her, he'll be willing to wait, because he'll want be be with her even without the sex.
Besides, there's nothing worse than having sex and being guilty, nervous and uncertain about it.

Good luck, Virgogirl !

Hello there virgogirl:

"Sex is very serious, once we do this I know our relationship will become alot more deeper".

I don't want to be the devil's advcoate here Virgogirl - or maybe I do:-) but I will just toss out my observations to you.

Yes,to some people, and especially girls/women, sex is "very serious" - but to lots of others, including alot of guys (they are slaves to their biology:-)!!)...sex is just meant to be fun, a fun way to get together, to get closer.....sometimes the intimacy leads to something deeper and more special....and sometimes it doesn't and that's just the way!!!!

Why do you want/need him to "meet your family" before you get serious— Yes, it's nice if you, he and your family get on but not essential or "written in stone". If I was a guy and a girl said to me, you got to meet my family before we get serious, I'd be feeling under pressure, very under pressure and be thinking twice about the situation.....

I know virgos think alot and are serious in the love-stakes - so too are Aries. I have been with three - but aries are highly-sexed creatures - believe me for that...so the clock is ticking, it's you who holds the ace of spades at the moment and that is very OK - don't feel under pressure from anyone or anbody - but just remember how most males operate - you gotta get inside his phyche too.

3 days and he asks for a kiss...........surely there isn't one thing wrong with that in my book?

Hey, I'be be wondering if there's something wrong if they didn't want to kiss me after three hours!!!:-)!!!!

But then again, I'm not you, you're not me........we operate differently:-) and that's very OK.

I wish you the best Virgogirl..............the very best.

Alana x

Thanks alot, everyone. I wanted to share this with you all, I am completely through and done with this guy. He was way too stubborn, bossy and immature. Also, supposedly he had another girlfriend, and last night he told me he was pissed off because I didn't believe he was telling truth about having another girl. I did begin to believe him, but all along I was never so assured. I wrote a letter to the lady who has claimed he was definitely going out with and told her I really needed to know some information and the absolute honest truth. I learned alot and that even though he didn't really like this women or have sex with her, the two were still going out together.

Anyway, I told him I had every right to know the truth about him and this other lady he's being going out with. He on the other hand, didn't want to understand my feelings, as he usually never does. I had enough of his disrespectful and irritable ways. I am gone for good and erasing him from my life. He needs to look somewhere else if he wants a girl who is blind to his faults and wants to have sex right away. She is not me.

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im amazed virgo girl, generally ariens never two time....