Are all/most Capricorns this passive aggressive and bitchy?

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by allrounder on Monday, October 4, 2021 and has 38 replies.
There's this Capricorn girl in my class who I'm pretty sure doesn't like me. I'm a Virgo Sun with a Pisces Moon and Libra placements as well making me super non confrontational and flighty until enough is enough. And I've had enough of her passive aggressiveness towards me frankly and I plan to ask her to join a video call with me to assertively discuss our problems ​and differences.


Basically this Capricorn girl and I have been in this class project together for the past few weeks with some other people in our group. Both her and I struggle with anxiety too so there's that. But basically one of the days, we were both paired to write something up together and I asked her some questions about how the structure should be and what should we put in this section etc. and she for some reason got pissed, sighed heavily, rolled her eyes and said "never mind, I'll do it myself. You can go if you want." and because I'm awkward and non confrontational at first, I awkwardly left.


And honestly, I hate people who have such little respect for me that they eye roll and toss me aside without explaining what their problems are with me first.


Then for the past few weeks after, each time we're with our group, she's passive aggressively been saying "I'm the one who wrote it", "weeell, I had no one to help write this with me", "I'm left to do all this work aaa", "I get to decide because I'm the one who wrote it" and then gives me lowkey side eye at times and even today when we did a group meeting, she said "that's why I wanted help writing this" and one of the girls in our group said "oh don't worry, that's why we're going through all this now" and the Capricorn girl, I sh*t you not said "don't worry, that wasn't for you" whilst I was sitting behind the Capricorn girl. She knew that I would hear.


I hate that type of bitchy passive aggressive high school behaviour. We're in University for crying out loud. We're both of adult age. Why is she even being like this? You saw what I said. She's the one who said in a very fed up tone "never mind, I'll do it MYSELF". And even prior to this in previous years, I've always been intimidated by her alpha aggressive type of energy because I never knew what she was thinking and assumed she just did not like me because of how she would act towards me a lot of the times yet I know I haven't done anything terrible towards her. And now she's just being passive aggressive about me not helping her out in front of our group. I also hate humiliation (Leo Mars).


I even spoke about this with my tutor today and she thankfully understands me and empathised with my situation. She understands my personality and the Capricorn girl's where I'm more flighty and gentle/reserved and the Capricorn girl is more aggressive and fight mode. We're literally on the opposite ends of the spectrum.


For what I understand, Capricorns like super direct and fiery people who know what they want in every situation and to help guide them. It's why I see so many are best friends with Aries people, because Aries are generally impulsive and direct go getters who like to put on a brave demeanor with every situation they're faced with. Capricorn are like the Scorpios of Earth Signs. Both Capricorns and Scorpios are fiery despite their Water and Earth elements.
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I mean… she’s not wrong tho. You did bail on the project and left her to do that portion. Where did she lie? I mean, her delivery is shit. But were you really expecting her to give you credit for the writing portion you bailed on?
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She feels you don’t pull your weight

And you leaving so easily confirmed it.
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Non confrontational and flightly. That annoys my cap placements already. It sounds like your making it more work/stressful to work with. Caps do have high standards tho so it just sounds like a bad team up
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Posted by Bumboklaat

Non confrontational and flightly. That annoys my cap placements already. It sounds like your making it more work/stressful to work with. Caps do have high standards tho so it just sounds like a bad team up


I agree with this. I was always usually the one to informally initiate leadership and layout the structure of what needed to get done and allocate tasks among others but did not mind someone else stepping up and doing that. If I felt someone was not pulling their weight OPENLY (this is important, you can't just be caring in your head), I would passive aggressively imply certain things just because being direct and telling someone to get their shit together and contribute doesn't work. If she's not allocating tasks, I suggest you directly mention to her in front of the rest of the group how you guys should allocate parts to work on... Or just start working on something someone else hasn't covered and declare you'll be doing that. I don't understand why people wait for others instead of take their own initiative. This is probably a very important learning lesson for you OP.
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God I always hated these group projects in school. I was a bit of a perfectionist and a control freak and always ended up doing most of the work. Still trying to learn from my mistakes and be a better team mate. 🤭


You should have said something and not left. Insist on dividing the tasks and if she's not happy with your work then she can change it whatever she likes but she can't blame you for it later on. That passive aggressiveness on her part is really immature. You should call her out on it instead of getting annoyed in silence.


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Virgo and a Capricorn….y’all fighting for the same promotion or something?
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Are you worried that she's gonna tell the teacher that you did nothing?

Why can't you review the work and offer up something to add?

You didn't pull your weight in the project and she's reminding you every chance she gets, so put some work in.

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I met a Capricorn woman she was lovely and a great kisser.
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Posted by Gobbie

You'll have to get her natal chart to get a better understanding, as it doesn't come across as typical Cap behaviour.


Withstanding her natal chart, I can only think of two possible reasons:


1) She's a January Cap (December Caps are usually more laidback).


2) The environment itself could bring out a level of competitiveness in those on your course. It's not sign specific and there will always be a few of them on every course.


As for you, I have one piece of advice: whenever you find yourself in these situations again, don't quietly walk away. Try to discuss the matter or speak out whenever necessary. People, in general can be weird, and all it takes is a misunderstanding or a failure to clear the air to worsen the situation.
Thanks for the advice, really appreciate it. I guess this was just a life lesson by The Universe for me to speak up for myself more and solve conflict instead of running away all the time. I realised it's just really hard for me not only because I have Libra and Pisces placements in my main placements, but also because of my trauma responses from heavy abuse by my mother who I still live with. I don't really like defining who I am because of how she raised me but sometimes it is a huge reason that does apply like in this case to explain why I'm so non confrontational. Because my mother raised me so that every time I did try to "talk back" or speak up for myself, she would abuse me in some way. That's why I became scared to do so whenever anyone who exhibited an intimidating or scary or bossy demeanor like her. Just like my Capricorn classmate here. I'm not trying to get pity but I'm just hoping anyone else reading this can understand my side too.
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Posted by LadyNeptune

I mean… she’s not wrong tho. You did bail on the project and left her to do that portion. Where did she lie? I mean, her delivery is shit. But were you really expecting her to give you credit for the writing portion you bailed on?
I didn't say I expected credit. I'm actually a type of person who when I find something I'm super passionate about, I will put my mind to it and become one of the most determined and hard working people you'll know. But even with any task I'm given, I do the best with what I have and can do. But in this whole situation, it's just been so messy and lost with my whole group who some of us agree we've had lack of communication in general, it's been super hard.


And the Capricorn girl did say "never mind, I'll do it myself". She has a voice that is very deep and boomy and she sounded fed up when she told me that even though I didn't say anything to piss her off other than asking her a question about our thing we were writing about. I get scared that I'll piss her off because she's angrily outbursted in our classes many times before. I'm scared and intimidated of her in general because of that and it's hard to read what she thinks or feels.


To me, when she told me that in her fed up tone, I simply thought she made up her mind. And I didn't want to aggravate her because I wanted to protect myself. Whenever someone sounds like they've made up their mind, I simply go about my own thing and let them do their thing. I can't mind read if someone changes their mind halfway. If you've changed your mind, you should communicate that. And she didn't do that either. So yeah I know, it's clear us two have a lack of communication..
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Posted by Bumboklaat

Non confrontational and flightly. That annoys my cap placements already. It sounds like your making it more work/stressful to work with. Caps do have high standards tho so it just sounds like a bad team up


I agree with this. I was always usually the one to informally initiate leadership and layout the structure of what needed to get done and allocate tasks among others but did not mind someone else stepping up and doing that. If I felt someone was not pulling their weight OPENLY (this is important, you can't just be caring in your head), I would passive aggressively imply certain things just because being direct and telling someone to get their shit together and contribute doesn't work. If she's not allocating tasks, I suggest you directly mention to her in front of the rest of the group how you guys should allocate parts to work on... Or just start working on something someone else hasn't covered and declare you'll be doing that. I don't understand why people wait for others instead of take their own initiative. This is probably a very important learning lesson for you OP.
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I'm guessing you're a Capricorn. May I ask why you guys get passive aggressive then? I don't see how that's helpful or nice compared to being direct, mature and assertive? Passive aggressiveness to me is immature. And you read how my classmate acted. It's immature and petty. I now understand and admit I have some faults in this situation, but so does she. Passive aggressiveness is immature and not needed, especially if you're forced to work with that person.


And when she told me she'd do it by herself, I simply took that as she made up her mind so I'll go do my own thing. I guess I didn't mention but I chose to do my own research to add to our shared group folder. I went to research the ethics, our purpose of our project overall and other bits of research for our piece instead. Which is something some other people in our group are doing, but I realised no one had researched and written up the ethics, purpose etc. so I did it. But this Capricorn girl is still giving me the backhand despite her knowing I did research instead.


I can't read someone's mind if they've changed their mind. If she had changed her mind, I wish she would've communicated that to me too. Our relationship in the prior years has never been smoothly communicative anyway, but yeah this time it's real bad.
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Posted by LadyNeptune

I mean… she’s not wrong tho. You did bail on the project and left her to do that portion. Where did she lie? I mean, her delivery is shit. But were you really expecting her to give you credit for the writing portion you bailed on?


I didn't say I expected credit. I'm actually a type of person who when I find something I'm super passionate about, I will put my mind to it and become one of the most determined and hard working people you'll know. But even with any task I'm given, I do the best with what I have and can do. But in this whole situation, it's just been so messy and lost with my whole group who some of us agree we've had lack of communication in general, it's been super hard.


And the Capricorn girl did say "never mind, I'll do it myself". She has a voice that is very deep and boomy and she sounded fed up when she told me that even though I didn't say anything to piss her off other than asking her a question about our thing we were writing about. I get scared that I'll piss her off because she's angrily outbursted in our classes many times before. I'm scared and intimidated of her in general because of that and it's hard to read what she thinks or feels.


To me, when she told me that in her fed up tone, I simply thought she made up her mind. And I didn't want to aggravate her because I wanted to protect myself. Whenever someone sounds like they've made up their mind, I simply go about my own thing and let them do their thing. I can't mind read if someone changes their mind halfway. If you've changed your mind, you should communicate that. And she didn't do that either. So yeah I know, it's clear us two have a lack of communication..
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I understand what your saying.


It makes me think of a mixed use studio group project I had in college. We split up the project and myself and one other finished within a few hours during studio time where as the 2 other people in the group had spent that time instead working on projects for their other classes due that day. Myself and the other person finished handed over our work and went to leave. They got an attitude with us because they expected us to stay until they finished their portion. We were like hell nah. We are not gonna sit on our ass waiting for you to time manage. We will see you tomorrow.

The next day we meet before the presentation and as we are flipping through the slides we notice much of our work didn't make it in. Petty af.

And since I have no chill and happened to be presenting the project I would pause every other slide and point out to the class and instructors that myself or her had created wonderful graphics for this section of the presentation... somehow it didn't make it in... shocking.


Group projects are tough but real life/most careers are collaborative at least in some elements. So knowing how to work with/for difficult people is an important skill worth honing.


Next time write the section yourself on your own time if you feel the person is too aggressive and dismissive of you. Protect your own ass so that the group sees you still put in the effort and didn't give up.

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Posted by Timone

God I always hated these group projects in school. I was a bit of a perfectionist and a control freak and always ended up doing most of the work. Still trying to learn from my mistakes and be a better team mate. 🤭


You should have said something and not left. Insist on dividing the tasks and if she's not happy with your work then she can change it whatever she likes but she can't blame you for it later on. That passive aggressiveness on her part is really immature. You should call her out on it instead of getting annoyed in silence.
Looking at your profile photo, are you a Libra? Surely you might get what I mean by the non confrontational side of a Libra, right? (other than me coming from an abusive family background), having Libra and Pisces in my chart, I realised makes me incredibly non confrontational and flighty. And this Capricorn girl has angrily outbursted in our classes many times before, I think that's another reason I'm so scared and intimidated by her is because I'm so scared that I'll tick her off and aggravate her and something bad will happen. Because whenever I've spoken up with my mother (the abusive parent), she'd abuse me. I think that's why I have incredible trouble in speaking up. But I have been working on that!


And I agree, I do realise I have faults in this situation as well now but her passive aggressiveness was unneeded and just super immature. Leave that type of catty behaviour in high school..


You're right though, I do plan on asking her if we can have a video call so at least we'll have the comfort of our homes to discuss our issues as comfortably as possible.
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Posted by -Capriquarius

Capricorn placments don't like lazy people and people who are trying to get work done by minimal effort. You say, you were working on group projects before. Maybe you did something before that triggered her.

I know few Capricorns, and I know they don't get annoyed by nothing
I thought as much with Capricorns. But on a genuine note, when I am given any task, I actually do the best I can with what I have and am given. And especially when I'm passionate about something and put my mind to it, I'll be one of the hardest working, resilient and determined people you'll see. And I know, me not speaking up is definitely what snowballed this issue, but I didn't even mean to not help her write this paper we're doing. I went off to do separate research for our group that I realised no one had done yet.


If this Capricorn girl had changed her mind about wanting to do it on her own, then I wish she had communicated that to me too. Instead of brooding in her growing anger over me and projecting it in an immature manner. Both sides are at fault.


And the group projects before when I think back to it, I remember I was the leader in the last one we were in together, I was the more bossy one because her and another Capricorn dude were leaving everything last minute. I know how the tables have turned. But maybe it was my stress at them being last minute that I had to become bossy and constantly texted everyday to send the documents and clips over, maybe this is her revenge? I really don't know.
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Posted by saggurl88

Are you worried that she's gonna tell the teacher that you did nothing?

Why can't you review the work and offer up something to add?

You didn't pull your weight in the project and she's reminding you every chance she gets, so put some work in.
No. I already mentioned here. I confided to my tutor about the situation frankly. I really trust this tutor of mine, she's super understanding, kind, comforting and helpful. She understood what I was going through and did her best to understand both sides because she knows the both of us as opposite type personalities.


My tutor agreed that I could try doing the video call I planned of doing with my Capricorn classmate to discuss our issues with each other, or the tutor offered to be there in the room when we do discuss it instead but I denied doing that because I want to try my way first because I feel guilty in dragging my tutor into the middle of this.


Again, I didn't look at the paper because I thought the capricorn girl had made up her mind when she said she'd do it by herself. When someone seems to have made up their mind, I simply leave them alone unless they communicate to me that they've changed their mind which she did not at all. And she chose to now project her brooding anger towards me through passive aggression in our group meetings.


I didn't mention in my post, but I've mentioned to my group that I was doing research work on ethics and other bits that I realised no one else in our group researched about but that our tutors were looking for to be explained in our final presentation tomorrow. Yet this Capricorn girl is still brooding in her mood about the scriptwriting that was assigned to both of us as a pair. Again, she was fed up and said she'd do it herself. And I can't mind read if she changed her mind later on. I will admit that I now realise I need to speak up for myself and solve our conflict though because maybe that's not what she really wanted despite saying it. I just didn't know.


But I get it now, it's just a pure misunderstanding and lack of communication between us.
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Posted by Timone

God I always hated these group projects in school. I was a bit of a perfectionist and a control freak and always ended up doing most of the work. Still trying to learn from my mistakes and be a better team mate. 🤭


You should have said something and not left. Insist on dividing the tasks and if she's not happy with your work then she can change it whatever she likes but she can't blame you for it later on. That passive aggressiveness on her part is really immature. You should call her out on it instead of getting annoyed in silence.


Looking at your profile photo, are you a Libra? Surely you might get what I mean by the non confrontational side of a Libra, right? (other than me coming from an abusive family background), having Libra and Pisces in my chart, I realised makes me incredibly non confrontational and flighty. And this Capricorn girl has angrily outbursted in our classes many times before, I think that's another reason I'm so scared and intimidated by her is because I'm so scared that I'll tick her off and aggravate her and something bad will happen. Because whenever I've spoken up with my mother (the abusive parent), she'd abuse me. I think that's why I have incredible trouble in speaking up. But I have been working on that!


And I agree, I do realise I have faults in this situation as well now but her passive aggressiveness was unneeded and just super immature. Leave that type of catty behaviour in high school..


You're right though, I do plan on asking her if we can have a video call so at least we'll have the comfort of our homes to discuss our issues as comfortably as possible.
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PTSD need to work through that because unfortunately you will meet other bullies and u need to know how to stand up for yourself.
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Posted by allrounder

I didn't mention in my post, but I've mentioned to my group that I was doing research work on ethics and other bits that I realised no one else in our group researched about but that our tutors were looking for to be explained in our final presentation tomorrow.
Omg then just take the L and move on. Pointless to schedule a chat with her to discuss her bitchiness when the project is tomorrow and ya'll can just move on from this whole situation anyways.

If your stuck in a group with her for the rest of the class term then I can understand trying to mediate and smooth things over. Otherwise just let sleeping dogs lie. If she was annoyed at you asking questions during the project imagine how aggro she'll be when you bring up her bitchiness AFTER the project is already completed. Save yourself the headache.
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God I always hated these group projects in school. I was a bit of a perfectionist and a control freak and always ended up doing most of the work. Still trying to learn from my mistakes and be a better team mate. 🤭


You should have said something and not left. Insist on dividing the tasks and if she's not happy with your work then she can change it whatever she likes but she can't blame you for it later on. That passive aggressiveness on her part is really immature. You should call her out on it instead of getting annoyed in silence.


Looking at your profile photo, are you a Libra? Surely you might get what I mean by the non confrontational side of a Libra, right? (other than me coming from an abusive family background), having Libra and Pisces in my chart, I realised makes me incredibly non confrontational and flighty. And this Capricorn girl has angrily outbursted in our classes many times before, I think that's another reason I'm so scared and intimidated by her is because I'm so scared that I'll tick her off and aggravate her and something bad will happen. Because whenever I've spoken up with my mother (the abusive parent), she'd abuse me. I think that's why I have incredible trouble in speaking up. But I have been working on that!


And I agree, I do realise I have faults in this situation as well now but her passive aggressiveness was unneeded and just super immature. Leave that type of catty behaviour in high school..


You're right though, I do plan on asking her if we can have a video call so at least we'll have the comfort of our homes to discuss our issues as comfortably as possible.

PTSD need to work through that because unfortunately you will meet other bullies and u need to know how to stand up for yourself.
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That's unfortunate.. So people who bully still proceed outside of high school into late adulthood too, huh?


And yeah, it'll be easier said than done with my placements and CPTSD abuse trauma but once I move out of my mother's place, I think it'll get easier to heal myself. I have been working on myself, but I definitely now know I need to work on solving conflict head on more and standing up for myself in times of conflict.
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Posted by Hypnotoad

Fuck all the haters in here, Caps can be like this. Lowvibe cancers without the emotional manipulation just stone cold instead.



Grow a thicker skin is all you can do in this life ms Virgo.
Thank you, appreciate it. Definitely more motivated to use this as an opportunity to thicken my skin. I wish the people in this world weren't so harsh..
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Posted by allrounder

I didn't mention in my post, but I've mentioned to my group that I was doing research work on ethics and other bits that I realised no one else in our group researched about but that our tutors were looking for to be explained in our final presentation tomorrow.


Omg then just take the L and move on. Pointless to schedule a chat with her to discuss her bitchiness when the project is tomorrow and ya'll can just move on from this whole situation anyways.

If your stuck in a group with her for the rest of the class term then I can understand trying to mediate and smooth things over. Otherwise just let sleeping dogs lie. If she was annoyed at you asking questions during the project imagine how aggro she'll be when you bring up her bitchiness AFTER the project is already completed. Save yourself the headache.
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Yeah I suppose so. But after confiding in my tutor about this today, she was giving me advice and a choice. The choice is I either move on, heal and let this go because she said we will just move on to the next collaborative project. Or I talk with her to try solve this out. The thing is my course is very collaborative so who's to say I won't be in a group with her again?


My tutor was just concerned and empathetic for me because she knows how scared and intimidated I am of the Cap girl now, and she knows how that girl is too. The aggression she exudes. And my tutor brought up her own experiences with aggressive alpha females she's had to deal with before too, and she was just saying that when she's faced the conflict head on to try solve it, even if it didn't work out, she knew she could come out the other side knowing that she at least did her best to try solve the conflict and can therefore move on with closure.


So she thinks I could try talking with Cap girl to at least say I tried as well. Because my tutor doesn't want me to find a cool group to collaborate with later in the year but then find that Cap girl is with that group of people too then I feel too scared to join or bring out my best potential because of her presence in the group just like how she's in my group now. And that Cap girl is pretty popular, like she knows a lot of the people in our course.


I've had a real think though all day now, and I've decided I wanna at least improve myself, say I did my best to solve this conflict. I don't wanna keep running away from conflict for my whole life anymore. I'm gonna stand up for myself, even if she'll burn me in the video call. F*ck it. And yeah it's Mercury Retrograde, but better to try make peace with my enemies than die never knowing if it could've been solved, right?
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I didn't mention in my post, but I've mentioned to my group that I was doing research work on ethics and other bits that I realised no one else in our group researched about but that our tutors were looking for to be explained in our final presentation tomorrow.


Omg then just take the L and move on. Pointless to schedule a chat with her to discuss her bitchiness when the project is tomorrow and ya'll can just move on from this whole situation anyways.

If your stuck in a group with her for the rest of the class term then I can understand trying to mediate and smooth things over. Otherwise just let sleeping dogs lie. If she was annoyed at you asking questions during the project imagine how aggro she'll be when you bring up her bitchiness AFTER the project is already completed. Save yourself the headache.


Yeah I suppose so. But after confiding in my tutor about this today, she was giving me advice and a choice. The choice is I either move on, heal and let this go because she said we will just move on to the next collaborative project. Or I talk with her to try solve this out. The thing is my course is very collaborative so who's to say I won't be in a group with her again?


My tutor was just concerned and empathetic for me because she knows how scared and intimidated I am of the Cap girl now, and she knows how that girl is too. The aggression she exudes. And my tutor brought up her own experiences with aggressive alpha females she's had to deal with before too, and she was just saying that when she's faced the conflict head on to try solve it, even if it didn't work out, she knew she could come out the other side knowing that she at least did her best to try solve the conflict and can therefore move on with closure.


So she thinks I could try talking with Cap girl to at least say I tried as well. Because my tutor doesn't want me to find a cool group to collaborate with later in the year but then find that Cap girl is with that group of people too then I feel too scared to join or bring out my best potential because of her presence in the group just like how she's in my group now. And that Cap girl is pretty popular, like she knows a lot of the people in our course.


I've had a real think though all day now, and I've decided I wanna at least improve myself, say I did my best to solve this conflict. I don't wanna keep running away from conflict for my whole life anymore. I'm gonna stand up for myself, even if she'll burn me in the video call. F*ck it. And yeah it's Mercury Retrograde, but better to try make peace with my enemies than die never knowing if it could've been solved, right?
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Or alternatively she gets more annoyed by you calling her out and actually becomes your enemy, going out of her way to make the class unbearable for you.

Hope for the best, anticipate the worst.

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Every Capricorn woman is sexually frustrated. They portray that frustration of no dick or no good dick, outwards.
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Posted by Bumboklaat

Non confrontational and flightly. That annoys my cap placements already. It sounds like your making it more work/stressful to work with. Caps do have high standards tho so it just sounds like a bad team up


I agree with this. I was always usually the one to informally initiate leadership and layout the structure of what needed to get done and allocate tasks among others but did not mind someone else stepping up and doing that. If I felt someone was not pulling their weight OPENLY (this is important, you can't just be caring in your head), I would passive aggressively imply certain things just because being direct and telling someone to get their shit together and contribute doesn't work. If she's not allocating tasks, I suggest you directly mention to her in front of the rest of the group how you guys should allocate parts to work on... Or just start working on something someone else hasn't covered and declare you'll be doing that. I don't understand why people wait for others instead of take their own initiative. This is probably a very important learning lesson for you OP.


I'm guessing you're a Capricorn. May I ask why you guys get passive aggressive then? I don't see how that's helpful or nice compared to being direct, mature and assertive? Passive aggressiveness to me is immature. And you read how my classmate acted. It's immature and petty. I now understand and admit I have some faults in this situation, but so does she. Passive aggressiveness is immature and not needed, especially if you're forced to work with that person.


And when she told me she'd do it by herself, I simply took that as she made up her mind so I'll go do my own thing. I guess I didn't mention but I chose to do my own research to add to our shared group folder. I went to research the ethics, our purpose of our project overall and other bits of research for our piece instead. Which is something some other people in our group are doing, but I realised no one had researched and written up the ethics, purpose etc. so I did it. But this Capricorn girl is still giving me the backhand despite her knowing I did research instead.


I can't read someone's mind if they've changed their mind. If she had changed her mind, I wish she would've communicated that to me too. Our relationship in the prior years has never been smoothly communicative anyway, but yeah this time it's real bad.
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I'm not a cap but I do have some cap placements. There's a way to be constructively passive aggressive since the relationship you have with her isn't something romantic or long term, it's completely temporary to meet a certain short term goal, but this cap girl just sounds like they would rather be mean and bitch than make sure everyone in the group feels inclusive which is always my ultimate goal. It sounds like you just have to be more stronger in being vocal and clearly communicative on what you've been contributing and just make sure it supports the parts of all your other group members. There's always someone in group projects who does more than others... Aim to not end up being one of the ones who does the least contributing. Don't take these things personal. Everyone just wants to get the project over with without having to pull the most weight than others but if they feel that way they usually bitch.
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i feel the same way about Capricorn women


but i'm also Cap dominant but i feel like i'd still be passive-aggressive even without it but more on the passive side really


like there was this Cap from way back in school who acted this way around me but her BFF was a Virgo sun whose bday was just a day away from mine which is weirder coz one time she kinda made sure that I heard her telling this other girl that she's always wanted to be my friend


and i'm like: 'huh? but she's like always passive-aggressively insulting me."


they're so confusing which is a real shame since I find their axis sooo pretty
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i feel the same way about Capricorn women


but i'm also Cap dominant but i feel like i'd still be passive-aggressive even without it but more on the passive side really


like there was this Cap from way back in school who acted this way around me but her BFF was a Virgo sun whose bday was just a day away from mine which is weirder coz one time she kinda made sure that I heard her telling this other girl that she's always wanted to be my friend


and i'm like: 'huh? but she's like always passive-aggressively insulting me."


they're so confusing which is a real shame since I find their axis sooo pretty
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Posted by Hypnotoad

Fuck all the haters in here, Caps can be like this. Lowvibe cancers without the emotional manipulation just stone cold instead.



Grow a thicker skin is all you can do in this life ms Virgo.
but they're sooo attractive


stone cold brooding but the lack of emotional manipulation is kinda offensive
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i feel the same way about Capricorn women


but i'm also Cap dominant but i feel like i'd still be passive-aggressive even without it but more on the passive side really


like there was this Cap from way back in school who acted this way around me but her BFF was a Virgo sun whose bday was just a day away from mine which is weirder coz one time she kinda made sure that I heard her telling this other girl that she's always wanted to be my friend


and i'm like: 'huh? but she's like always passive-aggressively insulting me."


they're so confusing which is a real shame since I find their axis sooo pretty


As in the Capricorn girl wanted to be your friend?


If she's saying that to a random person, but she's had cases of harassing and bullying you, I'd be wary about her just saying it to that person just to look good and seem like a sweet, nice person in front of them when in actuality, they're not. I've met way too many two faced fake people. Those kinds of people never get past me cause I sus them out real quick.


I know there's people who are mean as a means of showing someone they like the person whether romantic or platonic, but there is a fine line between malicious and secretly friendly intent. You've just gotta keep watch and protect yourself is what I learnt.
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i feel the same way about Capricorn women


but she's like always passive-aggressively insulting me."


This is how Caps are asking for your attention when they desperately need it Big Grin
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Posted by virgoOPPP

i feel the same way about Capricorn women


and i'm like: 'huh? but she's like always passive-aggressively insulting me."


This is how Caps are asking for your attention when they desperately need it Big Grin
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i was class president and she was VP


she thinks i'm 'not doing enough'


like chill girl we're in high school
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Posted by Timone

God I always hated these group projects in school. I was a bit of a perfectionist and a control freak and always ended up doing most of the work. Still trying to learn from my mistakes and be a better team mate. 🤭


You should have said something and not left. Insist on dividing the tasks and if she's not happy with your work then she can change it whatever she likes but she can't blame you for it later on. That passive aggressiveness on her part is really immature. You should call her out on it instead of getting annoyed in silence.


Looking at your profile photo, are you a Libra? Surely you might get what I mean by the non confrontational side of a Libra, right? (other than me coming from an abusive family background), having Libra and Pisces in my chart, I realised makes me incredibly non confrontational and flighty. And this Capricorn girl has angrily outbursted in our classes many times before, I think that's another reason I'm so scared and intimidated by her is because I'm so scared that I'll tick her off and aggravate her and something bad will happen. Because whenever I've spoken up with my mother (the abusive parent), she'd abuse me. I think that's why I have incredible trouble in speaking up. But I have been working on that!


And I agree, I do realise I have faults in this situation as well now but her passive aggressiveness was unneeded and just super immature. Leave that type of catty behaviour in high school..


You're right though, I do plan on asking her if we can have a video call so at least we'll have the comfort of our homes to discuss our issues as comfortably as possible.
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I get it but I'm not telling you to pick a fight with her. You're both adults and you should be able to discuss things calmly and if she wants to be a bitch about it then it's her problem. Don't let it get to you. How long do you have to work with her? Maybe there's other tasks you can do instead.
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Posted by virgoOPPP

i feel the same way about Capricorn women


and i'm like: 'huh? but she's like always passive-aggressively insulting me."


This is how Caps are asking for your attention when they desperately need it Big Grin


i was class president and she was VP


she thinks i'm 'not doing enough'


like chill girl we're in high school
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Really? It seems they come for people who in their opinion don't look like they're doing "enough" work then.. They sound like debilitating workaholics in that case. Who said we have to work for their approval anyway? F*ck that nonsense.
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Posted by Undine
Posted by virgoOPPP

i feel the same way about Capricorn women


and i'm like: 'huh? but she's like always passive-aggressively insulting me."


This is how Caps are asking for your attention when they desperately need it Big Grin


i was class president and she was VP


she thinks i'm 'not doing enough'


like chill girl we're in high school


Really? It seems they come for people who in their opinion don't look like they're doing "enough" work then.. They sound like debilitating workaholics in that case. Who said we have to work for their approval anyway? F*ck that nonsense.
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my Capricorn ex was a workaholic. i worked even harder when we got together to try to impress him. but you know what? he'd STILL criticize you if you work too much. they just criticize in general like i was so subservient in that relationship that i just felt resentful. status-wise i was leagues above him just being honest like how dare this dude neg me. some of them are deeply insecure but comes off arrogant externally. and they will ALWAYS bring up how you suck at communication when they STONEWALL.


it's too bad coz they're so hot. *cries
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Posted by allrounder
Posted by Timone

God I always hated these group projects in school. I was a bit of a perfectionist and a control freak and always ended up doing most of the work. Still trying to learn from my mistakes and be a better team mate. 🤭


You should have said something and not left. Insist on dividing the tasks and if she's not happy with your work then she can change it whatever she likes but she can't blame you for it later on. That passive aggressiveness on her part is really immature. You should call her out on it instead of getting annoyed in silence.


Looking at your profile photo, are you a Libra? Surely you might get what I mean by the non confrontational side of a Libra, right? (other than me coming from an abusive family background), having Libra and Pisces in my chart, I realised makes me incredibly non confrontational and flighty. And this Capricorn girl has angrily outbursted in our classes many times before, I think that's another reason I'm so scared and intimidated by her is because I'm so scared that I'll tick her off and aggravate her and something bad will happen. Because whenever I've spoken up with my mother (the abusive parent), she'd abuse me. I think that's why I have incredible trouble in speaking up. But I have been working on that!


And I agree, I do realise I have faults in this situation as well now but her passive aggressiveness was unneeded and just super immature. Leave that type of catty behaviour in high school..


You're right though, I do plan on asking her if we can have a video call so at least we'll have the comfort of our homes to discuss our issues as comfortably as possible.


I get it but I'm not telling you to pick a fight with her. You're both adults and you should be able to discuss things calmly and if she wants to be a bitch about it then it's her problem. Don't let it get to you. How long do you have to work with her? Maybe there's other tasks you can do instead.
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No no. Today is our assessment day now. And I do want to be mature about this and ask her if we can do a video call tomorrow in the comfort of our own homes so we feel more relaxed I guess and I'm gonna attempt speaking with an assertive approach to try get my emotions and point across to her without being victimising, aggressive or accusing or demanding as possible. She can respond in whatever way she wants to, but yeah, if she's not gonna cooperate despite my efforts to solve our conflict in an assertive manner then I will just have to move on and let this go.


Thankfully, we all move onto a new collaborative project with different people. But the thing that my tutor mentioned was at least trying to smooth things over with her because she doesn't want me to feel scared if I find a cool group to work with but feel scared and not bring out my best potential if the Cap girl happens to be in the same group. And this Cap girl knows and talks with a lot of people in our course so cripes..


But yeah thanks, I'll do my best to not let her terrorise my emotional and mental state. She doesn't deserve to. No one does.
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Posted by allrounder
Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by Undine
Posted by virgoOPPP

i feel the same way about Capricorn women


and i'm like: 'huh? but she's like always passive-aggressively insulting me."


This is how Caps are asking for your attention when they desperately need it Big Grin


i was class president and she was VP


she thinks i'm 'not doing enough'


like chill girl we're in high school


Really? It seems they come for people who in their opinion don't look like they're doing "enough" work then.. They sound like debilitating workaholics in that case. Who said we have to work for their approval anyway? F*ck that nonsense.


my Capricorn ex was a workaholic. i worked even harder when we got together to try to impress him. but you know what? he'd STILL criticize you if you work too much. they just criticize in general like i was so subservient in that relationship that i just felt resentful. status-wise i was leagues above him just being honest like how dare this dude neg me. some of them are deeply insecure but comes off arrogant externally. and they will ALWAYS bring up how you suck at communication when they STONEWALL.


it's too bad coz they're so hot. *cries
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Gurl, you need to not get pulled into that toxic cycle.. That or wait for a kind hearted non toxic Capricorn, if that's even possible lol you don't deserve to feel like not enough despite your efforts. I know we Virgos like to be in service to people and are givers, but you need to give kind service to yourself too. Leave that toxicity behind.


but lol I thought Virgos were critical enough. I totally think the Cap girl I'm dealing with is incredibly insecure because I know she has an anxiety condition too and uses the bunch of people she knows on our course to feel relevant and validated within herself. It's not good. That's the thing I'm currently working away from, letting other people determine the value of your worth by their approval and validation of you as a valuable person. You need to value yourself first. And that's what I'm working on. I refuse to let people determine my worth now.
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Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by allrounder
Posted by virgoOPPP
Posted by Undine
Posted by virgoOPPP

i feel the same way about Capricorn women


and i'm like: 'huh? but she's like always passive-aggressively insulting me."


This is how Caps are asking for your attention when they desperately need it Big Grin


i was class president and she was VP


she thinks i'm 'not doing enough'


like chill girl we're in high school


Really? It seems they come for people who in their opinion don't look like they're doing "enough" work then.. They sound like debilitating workaholics in that case. Who said we have to work for their approval anyway? F*ck that nonsense.


my Capricorn ex was a workaholic. i worked even harder when we got together to try to impress him. but you know what? he'd STILL criticize you if you work too much. they just criticize in general like i was so subservient in that relationship that i just felt resentful. status-wise i was leagues above him just being honest like how dare this dude neg me. some of them are deeply insecure but comes off arrogant externally. and they will ALWAYS bring up how you suck at communication when they STONEWALL.


it's too bad coz they're so hot. *cries


Gurl, you need to not get pulled into that toxic cycle.. That or wait for a kind hearted non toxic Capricorn, if that's even possible lol you don't deserve to feel like not enough despite your efforts. I know we Virgos like to be in service to people and are givers, but you need to give kind service to yourself too. Leave that toxicity behind.


but lol I thought Virgos were critical enough. I totally think the Cap girl I'm dealing with is incredibly insecure because I know she has an anxiety condition too and uses the bunch of people she knows on our course to feel relevant and validated within herself. It's not good. That's the thing I'm currently working away from, letting other people determine the value of your worth by their approval and validation of you as a valuable person. You need to value yourself first. And that's what I'm working on. I refuse to let people determine my worth now.
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i won't criticize you if i want you
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Lol @ people who aren't Caps but use either dominant/many placement.


She's just a moody bratty regardless of your effort. If she still behaves after your effort, yeah why even trying?
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Posted by Gobbie

You'll have to get her natal chart to get a better understanding, as it doesn't come across as typical Cap behaviour.


Withstanding her natal chart, I can only think of two possible reasons:


1) She's a January Cap (December Caps are usually more laidback).


2) The environment itself could bring out a level of competitiveness in those on your course. It's not sign specific and there will always be a few of them on every course.


As for you, I have one piece of advice: whenever you find yourself in these situations again, don't quietly walk away. Try to discuss the matter or speak out whenever necessary. People, in general can be weird, and all it takes is a misunderstanding or a failure to clear the air to worsen the situation.
I have no idea about number one listed above. Your Libra placements may square her Sun. Libra and Capricorn are both cardinal signs which square each other (tension). I agree with number two above. The entire world is on edge right now, and mental illness is coming out all over the place.
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