If Cap man wants something, does he ever give up??
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by Lionesslady84 on Friday, September 11, 2020 and has 11 replies.
Ok so a little back story. I met the cap on a dating site. Pulled up his chart with his permission & the synastry was mind blowing...
Me: Leo sun, cap moon, mercury/Venus Virgo, Scorpio mars
Him: cap sun, sag moon, mercury in cap, Venus/mars in Pisces
I haven’t had this good of synastry with someone in a while. We were constantly texting, he would call me all throughout the day during work. A lot of good banter. It was nice to connect with someone. After a bit of talking he out of the blue asks if I believe in twin flames. I told him I think it’s a bunch of toxic bull. He then goes on to explain that his ex is his twin flame & he keeps getting signs that remind her of him but he’s wanting to be done with it. At this point my red flag meter is going off...I don’t want to be a rebound or get in the way of someone’s healing, so I back off & delete his info. He then chases me like crazy. I eventually give in but I’m very cautious.. A few days after that, we make a date to go out. As it gets closer I get this feeling that he’s only after sex or a rebound. It’s screaming at me to not meet up with this man. I enjoy the conversation but I do not want to be used or get hurt emotionally. So, I break off the date & ask to just be friends. He gets mad & wont talk to me right away & I’m ok with that bc everyone deals differently. So I give him time & he comes back to me to tell ME that since I have pulled away twice, that he can’t trust me & I’m showing red flags lol so I’m like ok, I hopefully can earn your trust back as a friend. That night he’s constantly Snapchatting me & he gets drunk & uses some foul language towards me. Calls me a ‘dirty little bitch’. Tells me that I will eventually end up having sex with him bc we have such good chemistry. I only want to be his friend so I keep telling him that I don’t want to be anything other than that. Now every time we talk he will be very complimentary at first & then gets sexual in texts. I just laugh & change the subject.
I guess what I’m asking here is: is this some kind of ‘goal’ he is trying to meet? Maybe he had it in his mind that we would be fwb, & now that I’ve rejected it, he wants to try harder? Will he ever stop the sex talk & just be friendly? He’s also acting very jealous that I’m back on a dating app. Why? We are only friends... help me understand why he’s acting this way. I would love to stay friends bc we get along super great & joke a lot, but idk how much longer I can take of his ego thinking he will eventually get me into bed.
Sorry this is so long, thank you for reading!
Me: Leo sun, cap moon, mercury/Venus Virgo, Scorpio mars
Him: cap sun, sag moon, mercury in cap, Venus/mars in Pisces
I haven’t had this good of synastry with someone in a while. We were constantly texting, he would call me all throughout the day during work. A lot of good banter. It was nice to connect with someone. After a bit of talking he out of the blue asks if I believe in twin flames. I told him I think it’s a bunch of toxic bull. He then goes on to explain that his ex is his twin flame & he keeps getting signs that remind her of him but he’s wanting to be done with it. At this point my red flag meter is going off...I don’t want to be a rebound or get in the way of someone’s healing, so I back off & delete his info. He then chases me like crazy. I eventually give in but I’m very cautious.. A few days after that, we make a date to go out. As it gets closer I get this feeling that he’s only after sex or a rebound. It’s screaming at me to not meet up with this man. I enjoy the conversation but I do not want to be used or get hurt emotionally. So, I break off the date & ask to just be friends. He gets mad & wont talk to me right away & I’m ok with that bc everyone deals differently. So I give him time & he comes back to me to tell ME that since I have pulled away twice, that he can’t trust me & I’m showing red flags lol so I’m like ok, I hopefully can earn your trust back as a friend. That night he’s constantly Snapchatting me & he gets drunk & uses some foul language towards me. Calls me a ‘dirty little bitch’. Tells me that I will eventually end up having sex with him bc we have such good chemistry. I only want to be his friend so I keep telling him that I don’t want to be anything other than that. Now every time we talk he will be very complimentary at first & then gets sexual in texts. I just laugh & change the subject.
I guess what I’m asking here is: is this some kind of ‘goal’ he is trying to meet? Maybe he had it in his mind that we would be fwb, & now that I’ve rejected it, he wants to try harder? Will he ever stop the sex talk & just be friendly? He’s also acting very jealous that I’m back on a dating app. Why? We are only friends... help me understand why he’s acting this way. I would love to stay friends bc we get along super great & joke a lot, but idk how much longer I can take of his ego thinking he will eventually get me into bed.
Sorry this is so long, thank you for reading!
Anyone care to help please? Thank you
Girl he's crazy
Posted by BiboroonLol it appears so... I think I’m gonna drop the friendship bc this is too much even for this Leo
Girl he's crazy
Woman... You're a Lioness!!! That story was like watching a cat play with a mouse. Will he give up?? Heck no... You haven't swatted him like a fly yet. I think what's more important is what is it you want. I agree he seems like he's rebounding. Tell him he's friend zoned until he does some soul searching and some healing. If we go by the red flags we see in people, we'd all be single forever, but he must at least be entertaining to you. He didn't get dropped like leftover Chinese food.
Posted by GemCurioThe1When he’s not acting crazy he is appearing to be an awesome person lol it’s kinda like we could’ve been best friends! I haven’t been entertaining him much lately, very vague small talk & he always comes back stronger than before when I’m not readily available. I was hoping to salvage the friendship, but he just won’t stay in the friend zone.
Woman... You're a Lioness!!! That story was like watching a cat play with a mouse. Will he give up?? Heck no... You haven't swatted him like a fly yet. I think what's more important is what is it you want. I agree he seems like he's rebounding. Tell him he's friend zoned until he does some soul searching and some healing. If we go by the red flags we see in people, we'd all be single forever, but he must at least be entertaining to you. He didn't get dropped like leftover Chinese food.
Posted by Lionesslady84Well... How many women out there just carry guys around as play things for years??? Kudos to you for not wasting energy, but short of him screwing up massively, he's not going to give up. You could always just say something extreme like the chemistry is one sided and your weighing keeping many friends. That usually turns us earth signs off. Not being #1.Posted by GemCurioThe1
Woman... You're a Lioness!!! That story was like watching a cat play with a mouse. Will he give up?? Heck no... You haven't swatted him like a fly yet. I think what's more important is what is it you want. I agree he seems like he's rebounding. Tell him he's friend zoned until he does some soul searching and some healing. If we go by the red flags we see in people, we'd all be single forever, but he must at least be entertaining to you. He didn't get dropped like leftover Chinese food.
When he’s not acting crazy he is appearing to be an awesome person lol it’s kinda like we could’ve been best friends! I haven’t been entertaining him much lately, very vague small talk & he always comes back stronger than before when I’m not readily available. I was hoping to salvage the friendship, but he just won’t stay in the friend zone.click to expand
Posted by GemCurioThe1I’ll probably just have a talk with him this afternoon. He has his son today so I don’t want to take anytime away from that. Ugh I wish he’d just be normal lolPosted by Lionesslady84Posted by GemCurioThe1
Woman... You're a Lioness!!! That story was like watching a cat play with a mouse. Will he give up?? Heck no... You haven't swatted him like a fly yet. I think what's more important is what is it you want. I agree he seems like he's rebounding. Tell him he's friend zoned until he does some soul searching and some healing. If we go by the red flags we see in people, we'd all be single forever, but he must at least be entertaining to you. He didn't get dropped like leftover Chinese food.
When he’s not acting crazy he is appearing to be an awesome person lol it’s kinda like we could’ve been best friends! I haven’t been entertaining him much lately, very vague small talk & he always comes back stronger than before when I’m not readily available. I was hoping to salvage the friendship, but he just won’t stay in the friend zone.
Well... How many women out there just carry guys around as play things for years??? Kudos to you for not wasting energy, but short of him screwing up massively, he's not going to give up. You could always just say something extreme like the chemistry is one sided and your weighing keeping many friends. That usually turns us earth signs off. Not being #1.click to expand
Posted by Lionesslady84Posted by GemCurioThe1Posted by Lionesslady84Posted by GemCurioThe1
Woman... You're a Lioness!!! That story was like watching a cat play with a mouse. Will he give up?? Heck no... You haven't swatted him like a fly yet. I think what's more important is what is it you want. I agree he seems like he's rebounding. Tell him he's friend zoned until he does some soul searching and some healing. If we go by the red flags we see in people, we'd all be single forever, but he must at least be entertaining to you. He didn't get dropped like leftover Chinese food.
When he’s not acting crazy he is appearing to be an awesome person lol it’s kinda like we could’ve been best friends! I haven’t been entertaining him much lately, very vague small talk & he always comes back stronger than before when I’m not readily available. I was hoping to salvage the friendship, but he just won’t stay in the friend zone.
Well... How many women out there just carry guys around as play things for years??? Kudos to you for not wasting energy, but short of him screwing up massively, he's not going to give up. You could always just say something extreme like the chemistry is one sided and your weighing keeping many friends. That usually turns us earth signs off. Not being #1.
I’ll probably just have a talk with him this afternoon. He has his son today so I don’t want to take anytime away from that. Ugh I wish he’d just be normal lolclick to expand
Posted by Lionesslady84I think if he was normal you'd have been bored to death already and dating someone else. Instead your knowing his schedule today... Just saying...Posted by GemCurioThe1Posted by Lionesslady84Posted by GemCurioThe1
Woman... You're a Lioness!!! That story was like watching a cat play with a mouse. Will he give up?? Heck no... You haven't swatted him like a fly yet. I think what's more important is what is it you want. I agree he seems like he's rebounding. Tell him he's friend zoned until he does some soul searching and some healing. If we go by the red flags we see in people, we'd all be single forever, but he must at least be entertaining to you. He didn't get dropped like leftover Chinese food.
When he’s not acting crazy he is appearing to be an awesome person lol it’s kinda like we could’ve been best friends! I haven’t been entertaining him much lately, very vague small talk & he always comes back stronger than before when I’m not readily available. I was hoping to salvage the friendship, but he just won’t stay in the friend zone.
Well... How many women out there just carry guys around as play things for years??? Kudos to you for not wasting energy, but short of him screwing up massively, he's not going to give up. You could always just say something extreme like the chemistry is one sided and your weighing keeping many friends. That usually turns us earth signs off. Not being #1.
I’ll probably just have a talk with him this afternoon. He has his son today so I don’t want to take anytime away from that. Ugh I wish he’d just be normal lolclick to expand
Posted by GemCurioThe1Lol you’re rightPosted by Lionesslady84Posted by GemCurioThe1Posted by Lionesslady84Posted by GemCurioThe1
Woman... You're a Lioness!!! That story was like watching a cat play with a mouse. Will he give up?? Heck no... You haven't swatted him like a fly yet. I think what's more important is what is it you want. I agree he seems like he's rebounding. Tell him he's friend zoned until he does some soul searching and some healing. If we go by the red flags we see in people, we'd all be single forever, but he must at least be entertaining to you. He didn't get dropped like leftover Chinese food.
When he’s not acting crazy he is appearing to be an awesome person lol it’s kinda like we could’ve been best friends! I haven’t been entertaining him much lately, very vague small talk & he always comes back stronger than before when I’m not readily available. I was hoping to salvage the friendship, but he just won’t stay in the friend zone.
Well... How many women out there just carry guys around as play things for years??? Kudos to you for not wasting energy, but short of him screwing up massively, he's not going to give up. You could always just say something extreme like the chemistry is one sided and your weighing keeping many friends. That usually turns us earth signs off. Not being #1.
I’ll probably just have a talk with him this afternoon. He has his son today so I don’t want to take anytime away from that. Ugh I wish he’d just be normal lol
I think if he was normal you'd have been bored to death already and dating someone else. Instead your knowing his schedule today... Just saying...click to expand
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