So I wrote about this Cap chick before. We've been texting and talking for a few weeks now and its generally nice, but I'm kind of curious about a few things that happened, so, I wanted to check it with any cap women, or any women, really.
So, at the beginning, we're skyping, talking, and texting and the conversations are easy-going, but she was holding back and whatnot. Many texts and calls later, I asked her if she was depressed. She got offended and asked me what made me ask such a question, and my reasoning, pretty much, was that I've been trying to "reach" her and found her unresponsive. Kind of like she's not engaging in or investing in the friendship/situationship. I'm good at what I do, but she kind of instinctively rebuffed my efforts, a little too well, so, I had to ask myself, maybe this person is just "unavailable" or maybe it's not the right time in their life or something.
She was defensive for a minute and then started talking about her past relationships and how she now has to take care of herself by keeping distance and really getting to know someone before investing into anything, which is understandable. By the end of that conversation, she thanked me for bringing it up and I was happy having it.
I mean the convo got very awkward for a while, and her tone changed a fair bit and I knew that I was getting her full attention, but it eventually went somewhere good/happy and It felt that something was happening. At the end of that convo, I told her that I respected her and what she was telling me, and I think that she needs a lot of space and time to grow and I accept that. She somewhat didn't like that last bit.
I didn't text/call for almost a week, and then she texted me. That was the first time ever that she initiates a convo. She also added me on IG/FB just before texting me (and I didn't send her any requests), and then our conversations changed a bit. Most interestingly to me, she became very submissive in language and in tone. I thought cap women are not openly/instinctively submissive?
We haven't talked since her messaging me. She keeps telling me that she's busy with work and can't talk right now, so I give her some more space, and then when she realizes that I just gave her some more space, she tells me that her work isn't hectic and texting isn't that taxing on her.
Anyway... if you read all of that, what can you make of that?
Signed Up:
Jan 19, 2013Comments: 1552 · Posts: 9503 · Topics: 11
That was a master move!
I think you've got her attention (and respect!) now. No wonder she adopted a more submissive tone and also started to initiate, aka put more effort in.
isn't she the psychiatrist? You appeared to have exchanged roles for a sec, and she was taken aback, lol!