Cancer man won’t commit but also won’t leave me alone?

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by Purpleaqua01 on Tuesday, May 2, 2023 and has 6 replies.
Sooo I’ve been dating this cancer man for 2 months. Everything felt too good to be true.(me- Aqua sun/Venus , Leo moon,Gemini rising) (him- cancer sun, Aqua moon, Gemini Venus, leo rising) he’s the first guy I’ve dated with really promising compatibility but we have a big age difference he’s 25 & im 29. Basically we were obsessed with each other up until a week ago the night of the eclipse. Btw I hate mercury retrograde this is insane. We spent as much time together as possible, we’re planning trips for the summer, I had clothes/items at his place & vice versa. I can honestly I’d never felt this complete with someone. So one night we had reservations for dinner & last minute something told me not to go. On the way there I saw 444 & 999 multiple times. His energy was off but he was still trying to keep it together and reassuring me. So after that night I felt his energy was off but I stayed positive. We got in multiple arguments over the next few days over pettiness mostly on my part bc I was feeling his energy was off and it was making me insecure. So finally I asked him was I his girlfriend.. & he told me he wasn’t ready yet. He just moved here from another country, & we’d been arguing alot so he confessed he needed more time to figure out if this is what he wants. I felt whiplashed. We’d already traveled, had future plans, I was so excited to feel seen. & now I had to take a step back. So the next day my guy friend hmu & said he had an extra ticket on helicopter ride so O went to cheer myself up & he got upset thinking it was a date but I assured him it wasn’t and that I spoke about him the entire time. After that we hung out a few more times everything felt fine. & then one night he tells me he’s going to take a nap(at 730pm) & he’ll call me when he wakes up. So no call from him, he’s watching my story & I noticed his name phone was on dnd. Cool. So next day I have him the space he wanted by ignoring his advances all day.. harsh I know but he ignored me and I felt like he now has another girl involved. So the next day I finally calmed down and hit him up & we made plans and he ghosted me! He claimed he got arrested bc his friend had a gun in the car getting pulled over to my house… who knows. So he hits me as soon as he gets bonded & I feel bad for assuming the worst and apologized. So he tells me he wants to see me that night & I told him I’ll call after I had a nap. I did so & he told me he was going out with his friends and he would hmu after. No calls nothing. Even today he didn’t call until 5pm.


What should I do? He’s not trying anymore. He usually texts me good morning/good night. He even came up with some wack excuse why we couldn’t go on our Hawaii trip.(we’re literally supposed to be there right now!). I’m heartbroken. I even threw up from the stress. I thought I found my person & I’m so tired of the universe messing with my head.
Also to add in that since he’s told me he doesn’t want a relationship I’ve blocked him multiple times. The last thing I want is a toxic situationship. But he’ll reach out to me no caller ID & tell me everything I want to hear. Should I be patient or move on?
Move on
Posted by DMV
Move on
Thank you for the advice, I’m wondering tho if it’s just the mercury retrograde/eclipse tho?
I did read somewhere that people that leave your life during eclipses served their purpose… I just wanna know what was the point.
Posted by Eggroll
Imagine this is your best friend and a guy she likes. What advice would you give her if you saw a man treating her like this
I honestly don’t know, if he’s still planning dates, & calling. It’s just the past 2 days he’s been like this. Literally on Friday he was begging to take me out. I’m so confused with this man. I’m definitely pulling away I’m not answering anymore of his calls I just know I’m not getting closure.

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