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Earth signs - how do you get over someone?
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Time - often a long time.
Do you keep coming back cuz you miss them?
Even though it was your decision to walk away?
Even if im uncertain I stay andRun it to the ground ubtil there is nothing left to give.
Then constantly wonder what of.
Time heals all
Its much easier of someone betrays you tho.
Then im over it instantly.
Then constantly wonder what of.
Time heals all
Its much easier of someone betrays you tho.
Then im over it instantly.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Time - often a long time.
Do you keep coming back cuz you miss them?
Even though it was your decision to walk away?
Sometimes. I try not to do that these days as I don’t think it is helpful. I still think of the people sometimes.click to expand
You’re right. It’s torture. I’ve had this happen with a Virgo & now the Cap. The first one didn’t stop til I married someone else. Which was the wrong way to handle it.. what’s the best way to get you to stop? If you do, do it?
Posted by Boots1313
Even if im uncertain I stay andRun it to the ground ubtil there is nothing left to give.
Then constantly wonder what of.
Time heals all
Its much easier of someone betrays you tho.
Then im over it instantly.
That’s a better way in my opinion.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Time - often a long time.
Do you keep coming back cuz you miss them?
Even though it was your decision to walk away?
Sometimes. I try not to do that these days as I don’t think it is helpful. I still think of the people sometimes.
You’re right. It’s torture. I’ve had this happen with a Virgo & now the Cap. The first one didn’t stop til I married someone else. Which was the wrong way to handle it.. what’s the best way to get you to stop? If you do, do it?
I think in some ways you have to be harsh to them in some way to get rid of an earth sign. Like Boots said if there was some element of betrayal or something that makes you question if you still like the person then I personally lose interest right away.click to expand
Apparently I’m not harsh enough.. enough for him to back up only I guess. Maybe about knowing I still care?
It’s almost like the betrayal or harshness has to be part of the relationship not later as they try to come back. Like you have to be cheated on to end it?
there are so many unreliable people that rub at my ego and i don't feel safe with.
makes it easy for me to drop them.
(except for that one time with a Scorpio but he was really hot + he's Gemini moon so you can't really blame me for getting obsessed, but even then that was like 2-3 months).
makes it easy for me to drop them.
(except for that one time with a Scorpio but he was really hot + he's Gemini moon so you can't really blame me for getting obsessed, but even then that was like 2-3 months).
Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Time - often a long time.
Do you keep coming back cuz you miss them?
Even though it was your decision to walk away?
Sometimes. I try not to do that these days as I don’t think it is helpful. I still think of the people sometimes.
You’re right. It’s torture. I’ve had this happen with a Virgo & now the Cap. The first one didn’t stop til I married someone else. Which was the wrong way to handle it.. what’s the best way to get you to stop? If you do, do it?
I think in some ways you have to be harsh to them in some way to get rid of an earth sign. Like Boots said if there was some element of betrayal or something that makes you question if you still like the person then I personally lose interest right away.
Apparently I’m not harsh enough.. enough for him to back up only I guess. Maybe about knowing I still care?
It’s almost like the betrayal or harshness has to be part of the relationship not later as they try to come back. Like you have to be cheated on to end it?click to expand
Basically yes. Betrayal during the course of the relationship
and okay i was obsessed with an aqua moon for 4 years.
but that was a pipe dream.
but that was a pipe dream.
Short but most honest answer I can give - by getting under someone else...
when I was young I had masochistic levels of loyalty to their memory - would isolate myself and mourn the loss for as long or longer than the actual relationship...all that ever did was land me in a downward spiral which ended in a therapists office with a new prescription...these days I take a lesson from my ex'es and others - new relationships, even if they start off slow and platonic, really do help me to heal...we're social creatures, world is full of beautiful and interesting people now more accessible and interconnected than ever, and the newness of relationships where you're learning about someone is the most exciting part to me, even if it's reconciling with/rediscovering an old flame and seeing how much you've both changed and grown....
when I was young I had masochistic levels of loyalty to their memory - would isolate myself and mourn the loss for as long or longer than the actual relationship...all that ever did was land me in a downward spiral which ended in a therapists office with a new prescription...these days I take a lesson from my ex'es and others - new relationships, even if they start off slow and platonic, really do help me to heal...we're social creatures, world is full of beautiful and interesting people now more accessible and interconnected than ever, and the newness of relationships where you're learning about someone is the most exciting part to me, even if it's reconciling with/rediscovering an old flame and seeing how much you've both changed and grown....
Posted by virgoOPPP
and okay i was obsessed with an aqua moon for 4 years.
but that was a pipe dream.
Fixed moon issues
I'm obsessed with scorpio moon 😩😩
Posted by ELIGABPosted by virgoOPPP
and okay i was obsessed with an aqua moon for 4 years.
but that was a pipe dream.
Fixed moon issues
I'm obsessed with scorpio moon 😩😩click to expand
if i ever stopped fucking around, must be coz i'm with a scorpio moon man by then. one of my biggest regrets in life was leaving a cancer sun/scorpio moon.
by stalking them.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by ELIGABPosted by virgoOPPP
and okay i was obsessed with an aqua moon for 4 years.
but that was a pipe dream.
Fixed moon issues
I'm obsessed with scorpio moon 😩😩
if i ever stopped fucking around, must be coz i'm with a scorpio moon man by then. one of my biggest regrets in life was leaving a cancer sun/scorpio moon.click to expand
Mhmm
That sounds yummy, cancer sun/scorp moon lol
I could only imagine😍
But it gotta be better as a Taurus moon, no?
I'm a weird ass aqua moon lmao
Posted by greylaternPosted by PuzzlePieces
Or do you?
If you decide it’s not going to work, but still have feelings. How do you handle it?
I want to understand. 🤷♀️
Accept the feelings and the fact it didn't work out. Those are 2 separate things. As in one doesn't rely on the other to be true.
I don't understand why people hold on until things get toxic or require things to get toxic to let go. Why not end on a good note? Hell you never know. So long as the well isn't poisoned(negative feelings), a opportunity could come up where it can work out later.click to expand
Such a mature and wise perspective...wish everyone thought like this...had someone I was in a short term relationship with tell me she needed to hate me to get past things....
Posted by Tommy_boy90
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
Have found rituals like this, even if they need repetition for a bit, work surprisingly well....
Posted by Tommy_boy90Posted by MetatronPosted by Tommy_boy90
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
Have found rituals like this, even if they need repetition for a bit, work surprisingly well....
Me and you have the same moon, right?
In my case, it messed me up because she was the only one I couldn't get (Who got away)..
Does this sound familiar in your case?click to expand
lol...I actually had a cap in high school I was obsessed with bc I couldn't seem to get out of the friend zone...not sure she even knew how I felt bc I played my cards so close....handled that all so poorly and still have regrets around it...if anyone fits the 'one who got away' role it would be her though we did link back up later in life and she expressed interest...moon is in leo...in my adult life I am too proud/egocentric to be interested in or chase anyone that doesn't reciprocate....
Posted by Tommy_boy90Posted by MetatronPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by MetatronPosted by Tommy_boy90
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
Have found rituals like this, even if they need repetition for a bit, work surprisingly well....
Me and you have the same moon, right?
In my case, it messed me up because she was the only one I couldn't get (Who got away)..
Does this sound familiar in your case?
lol...I actually had a cap in high school I was obsessed with bc I couldn't seem to get out of the friend zone...not sure she even knew how I felt bc I played my cards so close....handled that all so poorly and still have regrets around it...if anyone fits the 'one who got away' role it would be her though we did link back up later in life and she expressed interest...moon is in leo...in my adult life I am too proud/egocentric to be interested in or chase anyone that doesn't reciprocate....
This makes a lot of sense tbh.
I've put myself in the friendzone, kept myself in the friendzone(kept myself really delusional at that), start to develop mixed feelings, she starts sending pretty obvious signals, I pull back with the "You're like a sister to me" and I bail.
How about this: Let's say out of a 100 women = 1 is a real wifey type of girl with whom you see a stable future with and the rest are basically just there(random women sending you really obvious signals)
What would you do, settle down with the wifey or go for 99 unknown whatever happens happensclick to expand
lol...that's probably my main angle in courtship....friendzone myself and work from there...hide my obsession if I have to...helps me to really assess compatibility...Ive found it to work a lot better for me...firstly the power of subtlety is really underestimated imo but it also just comes across as a bit over the top anytime I've been too direct/assertive...I tell myself I'm also being respectful of them but end of the day I am just not good at handling rejection so it's a safer route....
On settling down, I always wind up in committed ltr's...it just happens with time....at some point I figure I'm being cruel to be non-committal...if I were all about what I want, these days I'd probably keep things light and open - date various people...unless someone is really progressive I tend to feel I've learned everything about them there is to know within two yrs. and I get bored easily....lowkey hoping I wind up in jihadist's heaven...have Venus in gemini though...I supplement those urges by trying to keep the relationship dynamic in various ways, communicating whenever and for what reasons if I'm getting bored, and making sure we're engaged with a good social circle and not just holed up/insulated and isolated...
Posted by GobbyPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Time - often a long time.
Do you keep coming back cuz you miss them?
Even though it was your decision to walk away?
You've been here long enough to realise that your ex's moon and Venus play significant roles and NOT just their sun...click to expand
I know. He has a lot of earth, not just Cap. I do too. Well mostly Cap lol. It’s just similar to the Virgo sun who was also a deep love. I was much younger, but the aftermath quite similar. I was just wondering if other earth signs had similar experiences. Perhaps part of the problem is we both share a lot of earth placements. Both cap merc & Venus. Distraction is just distraction. It doesn’t last. And then there is the connection again, whether we are in touch or not. I want to know how to truly move on, not just physically.
Posted by greylaternPosted by PuzzlePieces
Or do you?
If you decide it’s not going to work, but still have feelings. How do you handle it?
I want to understand. 🤷♀️
Accept the feelings and the fact it didn't work out. Those are 2 separate things. As in one doesn't rely on the other to be true.
I don't understand why people hold on until things get toxic or require things to get toxic to let go. Why not end on a good note? Hell you never know. So long as the well isn't poisoned(negative feelings), a opportunity could come up where it can work out later.click to expand
It’s the coming back that’s the problem. It keeps stirring up the feelings. They are in a nice safe place they can’t hurt me & there they are again 😢
Posted by Boots1313Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Time - often a long time.
Do you keep coming back cuz you miss them?
Even though it was your decision to walk away?
Sometimes. I try not to do that these days as I don’t think it is helpful. I still think of the people sometimes.
You’re right. It’s torture. I’ve had this happen with a Virgo & now the Cap. The first one didn’t stop til I married someone else. Which was the wrong way to handle it.. what’s the best way to get you to stop? If you do, do it?
I think in some ways you have to be harsh to them in some way to get rid of an earth sign. Like Boots said if there was some element of betrayal or something that makes you question if you still like the person then I personally lose interest right away.
Apparently I’m not harsh enough.. enough for him to back up only I guess. Maybe about knowing I still care?
It’s almost like the betrayal or harshness has to be part of the relationship not later as they try to come back. Like you have to be cheated on to end it?
Basically yes. Betrayal during the course of the relationshipclick to expand
I’m the only that doesn’t betray him.. I just am not that person to do that.
Posted by ELIGABPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by ELIGABPosted by virgoOPPP
and okay i was obsessed with an aqua moon for 4 years.
but that was a pipe dream.
Fixed moon issues
I'm obsessed with scorpio moon 😩😩
if i ever stopped fucking around, must be coz i'm with a scorpio moon man by then. one of my biggest regrets in life was leaving a cancer sun/scorpio moon.
Mhmm
That sounds yummy, cancer sun/scorp moon lol
I could only imagine😍
But it gotta be better as a Taurus moon, no?
I'm a weird ass aqua moon lmaoclick to expand
😂😂🤦♀️ weird ass aqua moon lol
Posted by Tommy_boy90
It took me about 6-7 years to get over one cappie girl who was everything I never knew I wanted in a girl.
Never understood why this was until recently.
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
That hasn’t worked. We’ve both tried it 😳😳
He keeps coming back & running away. I’m thinking next time I’m going to tell him he needs to stop torturing me if he can’t stay put.
Posted by PuzzlePieces
Or do you?
If you decide it’s not going to work, but still have feelings. How do you handle it?
I want to understand. 🤷♀️
Are you fucking kidding me? 👀
lol ❤️
Posted by Tommy_boy90Posted by MetatronPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by MetatronPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by MetatronPosted by Tommy_boy90
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
Have found rituals like this, even if they need repetition for a bit, work surprisingly well....
Me and you have the same moon, right?
In my case, it messed me up because she was the only one I couldn't get (Who got away)..
Does this sound familiar in your case?
lol...I actually had a cap in high school I was obsessed with bc I couldn't seem to get out of the friend zone...not sure she even knew how I felt bc I played my cards so close....handled that all so poorly and still have regrets around it...if anyone fits the 'one who got away' role it would be her though we did link back up later in life and she expressed interest...moon is in leo...in my adult life I am too proud/egocentric to be interested in or chase anyone that doesn't reciprocate....
This makes a lot of sense tbh.
I've put myself in the friendzone, kept myself in the friendzone(kept myself really delusional at that), start to develop mixed feelings, she starts sending pretty obvious signals, I pull back with the "You're like a sister to me" and I bail.
How about this: Let's say out of a 100 women = 1 is a real wifey type of girl with whom you see a stable future with and the rest are basically just there(random women sending you really obvious signals)
What would you do, settle down with the wifey or go for 99 unknown whatever happens happens
lol...that's probably my main angle in courtship....friendzone myself and work from there...hide my obsession if I have to...helps me to really assess compatibility...Ive found it to work a lot better for me...firstly the power of subtlety is really underestimated imo but it also just comes across as a bit over the top anytime I've been too direct/assertive...I tell myself I'm also being respectful of them but end of the day I am just not good at handling rejection so it's a safer route....
On settling down, I always wind up in committed ltr's...it just happens with time....at some point I figure I'm being cruel to be non-committal...if I were all about what I want, these days I'd probably keep things light and open - date various people...unless someone is really progressive I tend to feel I've learned everything about them there is to know within two yrs. and I get bored easily....lowkey hoping I wind up in jihadist's heaven...have Venus in gemini though...I supplement those urges by trying to keep the relationship dynamic in various ways, communicating whenever and for what reasons if I'm getting bored, and making sure we're engaged with a good social circle and not just holed up/insulated and isolated...
Ok, this all legit and I see the pointers you're making.
However, I don't usually friendzone myself on purpose, I legit don't even know how I get into relationships in the first place.
It's like the women come out of nowhere and suddenly I'm in a relationship, but not always like this.
Now that I've stopped myself and become aware of how a lot of this happens, it's really confusing and almost like paralyzing in a sense that now I think before I act.
Think of it like: now you see the signs so clearly, that the only things that comes to mind is "Damn....."
Anyway, I need you input if you've managed to get and stay where I'm not atm.
So, I got this Taurus sun, cappie moon chick that I've known for almost 3 years, never met her but she lives an hour away from me.
We vibe well, she's shy, to me she's funny in a lot of way, always working and today I introduced the idea of getting married, she thought about it and I asked her - what do you see.
She responded "A happy couple and a good relationship".
Now my mind's on overdrive with the idea of her being the one and basically good bye to the rest of women.
I'm usually really half-assing my relationships but this one could potentially be the real deal.
I know it's a broad question but any advice on what to do?click to expand
You seem young....never lock yourself into serious commitments like that hastily....take your time...I am with a cap moon atm though....get on well with that placement....a tad repressed emotionally but can be very thoughtful and devoted under the right conditions....
Posted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90
It took me about 6-7 years to get over one cappie girl who was everything I never knew I wanted in a girl.
Never understood why this was until recently.
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
That hasn’t worked. We’ve both tried it 😳😳
He keeps coming back & running away. I’m thinking next time I’m going to tell him he needs to stop torturing me if he can’t stay put.
How long has this gone on for?click to expand
1st time he ran away was 2 years ago. He’s done it 3 more times. Lots happened about a year and a half ago & we didn’t see each other for a year. The last two times were this year & very short lived. Everything is out on the table now & so it’s like I’ve forced him to see reality instead of fantasy. I need him to stop coming back.
Posted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90
It took me about 6-7 years to get over one cappie girl who was everything I never knew I wanted in a girl.
Never understood why this was until recently.
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
That hasn’t worked. We’ve both tried it 😳😳
He keeps coming back & running away. I’m thinking next time I’m going to tell him he needs to stop torturing me if he can’t stay put.
How long has this gone on for?
1st time he ran away was 2 years ago. He’s done it 3 more times. Lots happened about a year and a half ago & we didn’t see each other for a year. The last two times were this year & very short lived. Everything is out on the table now & so it’s like I’ve forced him to see reality instead of fantasy. I need him to stop coming back.
What reality is that?click to expand
How he treated me. How he gets excited that this is what he wants but he doesn’t stay to work on it when something comes up. And then gets upset if I’m hesitant or get emotional cuz he backs up. That it’s mixed messages. How can I trust him when he keeps running away? That it feels like marriage, but he’s the one planning a future, he’s the one who wanted the two romantic vacations we went on, the photo shoot that he was so fun but felt like wedding pics. I’m like you freak yourself out. I was always willing to go slow, see how it goes. But he runs away when we get to close. Every time. It feels so good, but is so scary. But if you won’t communicate why you’re having trouble, how can we address it?
To be clear we have both been married twice & its hella scary.. I have never asked for future or marriage. He just does this naturally because in theory it’s what he wants but runs when “we got too close”.
Posted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90
It took me about 6-7 years to get over one cappie girl who was everything I never knew I wanted in a girl.
Never understood why this was until recently.
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
That hasn’t worked. We’ve both tried it 😳😳
He keeps coming back & running away. I’m thinking next time I’m going to tell him he needs to stop torturing me if he can’t stay put.
How long has this gone on for?
1st time he ran away was 2 years ago. He’s done it 3 more times. Lots happened about a year and a half ago & we didn’t see each other for a year. The last two times were this year & very short lived. Everything is out on the table now & so it’s like I’ve forced him to see reality instead of fantasy. I need him to stop coming back.
What reality is that?
How he treated me. How he gets excited that this is what he wants but he doesn’t stay to work on it when something comes up. And then gets upset if I’m hesitant or get emotional cuz he backs up. That it’s mixed messages. How can I trust him when he keeps running away? That it feels like marriage, but he’s the one planning a future, he’s the one who wanted the two romantic vacations we went on, the photo shoot that he was so fun but felt like wedding pics. I’m like you freak yourself out. I was always willing to go slow, see how it goes. But he runs away when we get to close. Every time. It feels so good, but is so scary. But if you won’t communicate why you’re having trouble, how can we address it?
To be clear we have both been married twice & its hella scary.. I have never asked for future or marriage. He just does this naturally because in theory it’s what he wants but runs when “we got too close”.
This is exactly what Impulsv was telling me about.
The grass is greener syndrome.
My advice, you are the greener grass, regardless of him.
Keep yourself the greenest of them all for yourself and at some point, he may see it, finally slow down and smell the roses.click to expand
He admits I’m the greenest grass even & what he wants. I’m over the bullshit. But there is no denying the connection 😢 He comes back cuz no one compares lol. But still can’t stay? Wtf. And why would I trust he would at this point? I would’ve been long gone but I can’t seem to meet anyone that actually works. I mean come back when you’re serious not when you’re lonely & miss me.
Posted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90
It took me about 6-7 years to get over one cappie girl who was everything I never knew I wanted in a girl.
Never understood why this was until recently.
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
That hasn’t worked. We’ve both tried it 😳😳
He keeps coming back & running away. I’m thinking next time I’m going to tell him he needs to stop torturing me if he can’t stay put.
How long has this gone on for?
1st time he ran away was 2 years ago. He’s done it 3 more times. Lots happened about a year and a half ago & we didn’t see each other for a year. The last two times were this year & very short lived. Everything is out on the table now & so it’s like I’ve forced him to see reality instead of fantasy. I need him to stop coming back.
What reality is that?
How he treated me. How he gets excited that this is what he wants but he doesn’t stay to work on it when something comes up. And then gets upset if I’m hesitant or get emotional cuz he backs up. That it’s mixed messages. How can I trust him when he keeps running away? That it feels like marriage, but he’s the one planning a future, he’s the one who wanted the two romantic vacations we went on, the photo shoot that he was so fun but felt like wedding pics. I’m like you freak yourself out. I was always willing to go slow, see how it goes. But he runs away when we get to close. Every time. It feels so good, but is so scary. But if you won’t communicate why you’re having trouble, how can we address it?
To be clear we have both been married twice & its hella scary.. I have never asked for future or marriage. He just does this naturally because in theory it’s what he wants but runs when “we got too close”.
This is exactly what Impulsv was telling me about.
The grass is greener syndrome.
My advice, you are the greener grass, regardless of him.
Keep yourself the greenest of them all for yourself and at some point, he may see it, finally slow down and smell the roses.
He admits I’m the greenest grass even & what he wants. I’m over the bullshit. But there is no denying the connection 😢 He comes back cuz no one compares lol. But still can’t stay? Wtf. And why would I trust he would at this point? I would’ve been long gone but I can’t seem to meet anyone that actually works. I mean come back when you’re serious not when you’re lonely & miss me.
I mean, the girl I'm kind of "seeing" now, I've done the same thing to her as he has done to you.
She's always been there to be honest, it's just that I acknowledge a good thing when I see one and if I would've jumped straight into a relationship with her, it would've turned bad because I wasn't ready for it.
Even if she was.
However, I still know that she's the good thing and if she's ready to welcome me with open arms regardless of how crazy I come across 70% of the time, when I see what I'm doing - this gave me the extra kick to strive to get the rest of the demons out of my head as soon as possible to get where I really want to be.
With her.
If she's still giving me chances after me doing stuff that she doesn't really understand - she's a keeper and eventually all will be well.
I believe in this.click to expand
It’s just such a rollercoaster. My emotions just get so big.. and it’s very hard. It’s a pattern at this point & it just never different.
I will admit neither of us was ready in the beginning. He freaked me out but I stayed & tried to work through it .. to be in a space we both could handle. But, it’s like he rushes to years in the future. But you have to get through current period to get there, you know?
I say I won’t go back every time.. and here I am trying to understand how to move forward, when do they give up, etc. to protect myself from the next emotional drama. I mean it would be better to be with someone who you work together with instead of against. With being cap dominant, I may be doomed lol
Posted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90
It took me about 6-7 years to get over one cappie girl who was everything I never knew I wanted in a girl.
Never understood why this was until recently.
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
That hasn’t worked. We’ve both tried it 😳😳
He keeps coming back & running away. I’m thinking next time I’m going to tell him he needs to stop torturing me if he can’t stay put.
How long has this gone on for?
1st time he ran away was 2 years ago. He’s done it 3 more times. Lots happened about a year and a half ago & we didn’t see each other for a year. The last two times were this year & very short lived. Everything is out on the table now & so it’s like I’ve forced him to see reality instead of fantasy. I need him to stop coming back.
What reality is that?
How he treated me. How he gets excited that this is what he wants but he doesn’t stay to work on it when something comes up. And then gets upset if I’m hesitant or get emotional cuz he backs up. That it’s mixed messages. How can I trust him when he keeps running away? That it feels like marriage, but he’s the one planning a future, he’s the one who wanted the two romantic vacations we went on, the photo shoot that he was so fun but felt like wedding pics. I’m like you freak yourself out. I was always willing to go slow, see how it goes. But he runs away when we get to close. Every time. It feels so good, but is so scary. But if you won’t communicate why you’re having trouble, how can we address it?
To be clear we have both been married twice & its hella scary.. I have never asked for future or marriage. He just does this naturally because in theory it’s what he wants but runs when “we got too close”.
This is exactly what Impulsv was telling me about.
The grass is greener syndrome.
My advice, you are the greener grass, regardless of him.
Keep yourself the greenest of them all for yourself and at some point, he may see it, finally slow down and smell the roses.
He admits I’m the greenest grass even & what he wants. I’m over the bullshit. But there is no denying the connection 😢 He comes back cuz no one compares lol. But still can’t stay? Wtf. And why would I trust he would at this point? I would’ve been long gone but I can’t seem to meet anyone that actually works. I mean come back when you’re serious not when you’re lonely & miss me.
I mean, the girl I'm kind of "seeing" now, I've done the same thing to her as he has done to you.
She's always been there to be honest, it's just that I acknowledge a good thing when I see one and if I would've jumped straight into a relationship with her, it would've turned bad because I wasn't ready for it.
Even if she was.
However, I still know that she's the good thing and if she's ready to welcome me with open arms regardless of how crazy I come across 70% of the time, when I see what I'm doing - this gave me the extra kick to strive to get the rest of the demons out of my head as soon as possible to get where I really want to be.
With her.
If she's still giving me chances after me doing stuff that she doesn't really understand - she's a keeper and eventually all will be well.
I believe in this.
It’s just such a rollercoaster. My emotions just get so big.. and it’s very hard. It’s a pattern at this point & it just never different.
I will admit neither of us was ready in the beginning. He freaked me out but I stayed & tried to work through it .. to be in a space we both could handle. But, it’s like he rushes to years in the future. But you have to get through current period to get there, you know?
I say I won’t go back every time.. and here I am trying to understand how to move forward, when do they give up, etc. to protect myself from the next emotional drama. I mean it would be better to be with someone who you work together with instead of against. With being cap dominant, I may be doomed lol
You have a Capricorn going crazy.
Let that sink in.click to expand
Ok fine, I get that. I just don’t know how it gets resolved.
Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90
It took me about 6-7 years to get over one cappie girl who was everything I never knew I wanted in a girl.
Never understood why this was until recently.
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
That hasn’t worked. We’ve both tried it 😳😳
He keeps coming back & running away. I’m thinking next time I’m going to tell him he needs to stop torturing me if he can’t stay put.click to expand
What NEXT time? 👿
Posted by GemitatiPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Tommy_boy90
It took me about 6-7 years to get over one cappie girl who was everything I never knew I wanted in a girl.
Never understood why this was until recently.
3 years ago, just in my mind, wished her all the best and may she have a best life - with me or without me, doesn't matter.
Then I finally could let go.
That hasn’t worked. We’ve both tried it 😳😳
He keeps coming back & running away. I’m thinking next time I’m going to tell him he needs to stop torturing me if he can’t stay put.
What NEXT time? 👿click to expand
Next time he tries to see me ... I’m preparing 😂😂
Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by ELIGABPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by ELIGABPosted by virgoOPPP
and okay i was obsessed with an aqua moon for 4 years.
but that was a pipe dream.
Fixed moon issues
I'm obsessed with scorpio moon 😩😩
if i ever stopped fucking around, must be coz i'm with a scorpio moon man by then. one of my biggest regrets in life was leaving a cancer sun/scorpio moon.
Mhmm
That sounds yummy, cancer sun/scorp moon lol
I could only imagine😍
But it gotta be better as a Taurus moon, no?
I'm a weird ass aqua moon lmao
😂😂🤦♀️ weird ass aqua moon lolclick to expand
👽👽🤣
Posted by greylaternPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by greylaternPosted by PuzzlePieces
Or do you?
If you decide it’s not going to work, but still have feelings. How do you handle it?
I want to understand. 🤷♀️
Accept the feelings and the fact it didn't work out. Those are 2 separate things. As in one doesn't rely on the other to be true.
I don't understand why people hold on until things get toxic or require things to get toxic to let go. Why not end on a good note? Hell you never know. So long as the well isn't poisoned(negative feelings), a opportunity could come up where it can work out later.
It’s the coming back that’s the problem. It keeps stirring up the feelings. They are in a nice safe place they can’t hurt me & there they are again 😢
You are allowing them to physically come back without the core issues resolved?click to expand
There was progress. He was communicating. There was enough to see if he was serious about it. But he ran quickly both times this year. The lack of communication, the running becomes the core issue, and how do you know that is resolved until it happens or else you must not allow yourself to be in the situation? I just think I’m hitting what ever makes him this afraid right away now vs the longer periods we were together before. My perspective is he wants this, but just can’t do it. But he keeps returning like he hasnt given up.
Posted by ElvisStalinWoods
Simply ignore their entire existence. Depending on who it is, it may be incredibly hard, but keep at it and it will work
This is exactly what he does. You Caps!! But he fails every time..
Posted by KoinuPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by greylaternPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by greylaternPosted by PuzzlePieces
Or do you?
If you decide it’s not going to work, but still have feelings. How do you handle it?
I want to understand. 🤷♀️
Accept the feelings and the fact it didn't work out. Those are 2 separate things. As in one doesn't rely on the other to be true.
I don't understand why people hold on until things get toxic or require things to get toxic to let go. Why not end on a good note? Hell you never know. So long as the well isn't poisoned(negative feelings), a opportunity could come up where it can work out later.
It’s the coming back that’s the problem. It keeps stirring up the feelings. They are in a nice safe place they can’t hurt me & there they are again 😢
You are allowing them to physically come back without the core issues resolved?
There was progress. He was communicating. There was enough to see if he was serious about it. But he ran quickly both times this year. The lack of communication, the running becomes the core issue, and how do you know that is resolved until it happens or else you must not allow yourself to be in the situation? I just think I’m hitting what ever makes him this afraid right away now vs the longer periods we were together before. My perspective is he wants this, but just can’t do it. But he keeps returning like he hasnt given up.
Sounds like he really likes you. He needs to sit still and take the full pain of his fear to overcome it.click to expand
Yep. He’s been unable to so far. The question is can he?
You don't exist to us. Simple. We are very much capable of standing alone so that helps to move on too.
Posted by ElvisStalinWoodsPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by ElvisStalinWoods
Simply ignore their entire existence. Depending on who it is, it may be incredibly hard, but keep at it and it will work
This is exactly what he does. You Caps!! But he fails every time..
How long has this been going on with your cap?
I admit we waver every now and then but we usually manage to reign it in and stay cut off. But if the back and forth goes on for a long while, man needs to throw in the towel and give in (he just doesn't know it yet).click to expand
We met 3 years ago. 4 months until we got together. 8 months on. 3 months off. 5 months on. At this point he was planning a life with me. Then sabotage. Really at this point Considered it over. Then 6 months later begging for forgiveness.. took 5 months before I’d see him.. working through stuff. And he started figuring things out he didn’t believe before. Saying lots of stuff .. shich he meant but then... 2 days on and he ran. 4 months off. Again working through more & wanting to see how to make it work.. 2 days on & freaking tortured look and then off. Now showing signs of paying attention again.
Both times of the 2 days he’s was back to big plans the first day.. and then the tumble. I have addressed that he needs to stop doing that.. but it’s like a natural thing cuz he can see us together in the end.
I never let him know in any way shape or form I pay attention or reach out after I’m sure he’s run again. He now admits he can’t get me out.. of his heart, his head. He caves when he can’t take missing me anymore. Caves to his feelings not anything I’ve done. I’ve learned there is nothing I can do, it’s all internal. So I do exactly what you said.. trying to tell myself he’s gone forever, like he doesn’t exist. And then... omg there he is again. I did block him once. It didn’t work either. Perhaps cuz I still have hope. Idk. Saggis & hope 🤦♀️
I just don’t see why he keeps coming back if he can’t get through this hump.
Posted by KoinuPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by KoinuPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by greylaternPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by greylaternPosted by PuzzlePieces
Or do you?
If you decide it’s not going to work, but still have feelings. How do you handle it?
I want to understand. 🤷♀️
Accept the feelings and the fact it didn't work out. Those are 2 separate things. As in one doesn't rely on the other to be true.
I don't understand why people hold on until things get toxic or require things to get toxic to let go. Why not end on a good note? Hell you never know. So long as the well isn't poisoned(negative feelings), a opportunity could come up where it can work out later.
It’s the coming back that’s the problem. It keeps stirring up the feelings. They are in a nice safe place they can’t hurt me & there they are again 😢
You are allowing them to physically come back without the core issues resolved?
There was progress. He was communicating. There was enough to see if he was serious about it. But he ran quickly both times this year. The lack of communication, the running becomes the core issue, and how do you know that is resolved until it happens or else you must not allow yourself to be in the situation? I just think I’m hitting what ever makes him this afraid right away now vs the longer periods we were together before. My perspective is he wants this, but just can’t do it. But he keeps returning like he hasnt given up.
Sounds like he really likes you. He needs to sit still and take the full pain of his fear to overcome it.
Yep. He’s been unable to so far. The question is can he?
Don't think it's can he. It's more like does he know how. He can, he just doesn't know the how.click to expand
You are absolutely correct. So he keeps banging his head up against the wall 🤦♀️
Posted by Capricorn91
You don't exist to us. Simple. We are very much capable of standing alone so that helps to move on too.
Until it’s not simple. What then?
Time has a way of taking time...
Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Capricorn91
You don't exist to us. Simple. We are very much capable of standing alone so that helps to move on too.
Until it’s not simple. What then?click to expand
Back and forth and repeat till we feel we are done.
Posted by Capricorn91Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Capricorn91
You don't exist to us. Simple. We are very much capable of standing alone so that helps to move on too.
Until it’s not simple. What then?
Back and forth and repeat till we feel we are done.click to expand
Okay that’s what’s happened.. different than the Virgo after all. Thanks.
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