Is my chart the reason why my life’s a mess??

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by Anais__ on Friday, August 12, 2022 and has 15 replies.
Pls somebody help me, why do I have the worst luck with men and can’t seem to settle down, I’m having a quarter life crisis in the middle of the night here, is it something in my birth chart??? If anyone can read charts please help I’m desperate

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I can't really read a chart like a true astrologer. Though I can say my life, as crazy as it always has been, actually made more sense before I knew I was a Scorpio moon. At that point I instantly had an excuse, or thing to point at for all my problems rather then actually looking at myself as a individual human.

So while I do deeply believe in astrology and the birth chart, you can't use that as a reason or excuse for being messed up. If anything your birth chart should be nothing more then a reference on how you can become better, and develop as an individual human.
You tell us what you think the problem is?

I feel like ppl know exactly what the issue is but maybe we aren’t ready to acknowledge Sag moon?

Maybe you nag people to death with your Virgo

Maybe your two high maintenance with your Leo

Maybe you secretly sabotage your relationships with your Scorpio

Maybe you can be a know it all with your Sagittarius
i agree with the others.

don’t worry,

no one’s life is “doomed” because of a birth chart.

your birth chart might tell you where your strong points are and where your weak points are. It might give you clues about “tendencies” you may have but nothing in life is set in stone.

your bad luck with men:

are you careful and selective in choosing which men to give your time and energy to...? are you picking men who have a track record of being careless and irresponsible....?

your inability to settle down:

what fears and concerns are preventing you from wanting to settle down...?

a healthy and optimistic mindset will always get you far in life. I know it’s difficult to remain with a good mindset when real life circumstances are looking less than hopeful, but try to figure out what patterns have been interfering with your happiness.
Do you relate to this?

Sun square moon.

What people who were born with Sun square Moon in their natal charts want and what they need are in conflict. The Sun square Moon aspect is similar to the Sun opposition Moon aspect in this sense, but there are very notable differences. Whereas the struggle between wants and needs is mostly played out on the inside and through significant relationships with Sun opposition Moon people, Sun square Moon people tend to confront obstacles that come from the outside. In truth, the struggle is within, as it is a case of being “one’s own worst enemy”. There can be a tendency to attract challenging situations into the life as an unconscious attempt to recreate the tension of early childhood. As well, specific habits and attitudes can hamper their progress in life.

These people experience a struggle between their need for nurture and their need for independence. When they get the autonomy that they seem to crave, they feel unsupported by others. When they receive the support they crave, they feel smothered. This internal clash is most apparent in the relationships they form, especially in the first half of their lives when they may not be aware of these patterns. Confrontations and challenges are frequent–not just with romantic partners, but also on the job, with friends, and so forth. However, these people have a lot of drive and spunk. They are resilient creatures who have faced conflict and who have survived it. Although they face a struggle with fluctuating energy, they are motivated to accomplish something. Ideally, they learn through experience to accomplish something for themselves rather than to prove their worth to others.

People born with a Sun-Moon tension can spend much of their lives struggling to balance the principles of the Sun and the Moon within their personalities, and will bring this struggle to some degree into their relationships. The urge to form meaningful relationships is generally powerful, but relationships can be as much of a struggle to these natives as the inner conflict is to themselves. This inner conflict occurs with the square, opposition, and quincunx. The desire to find meaningful relationships is stronger than it is when the natal Sun and Moon form a sextile or trine, and early relationships in particular can be challenging until the stressful aspects are recognized as an inner tension.

Sun square Moon suggests an internal “war” between two equally powerful desires: the desire for emotional commitment and the desire for autonomy. The native can be quite defensive and even belligerent with others, and often over-sensitive, which can take its toll in personal relationships. Partners may complain that the native often seems to be spoiling for a fight, and relationships can be turbulent until the native learns to compromise.
Posted by Midnite_Riser

From what I've seen, people with Pisces or Scorpio placements have the WORST luck. But maybe I haven't really seen the reality of everyone else's life and how it goes. Everyone suffers some sort of misfortune in life.
Unless they have a well aspected Jupiter
Posted by Soul

I can't really read a chart like a true astrologer. Though I can say my life, as crazy as it always has been, actually made more sense before I knew I was a Scorpio moon. At that point I instantly had an excuse, or thing to point at for all my problems rather then actually looking at myself as a individual human.

So while I do deeply believe in astrology and the birth chart, you can't use that as a reason or excuse for being messed up. If anything your birth chart should be nothing more then a reference on how you can become better, and develop as an individual human.


Can’t argue with that. Whenever I find faults in others I immediately think it’s because of some of their placements… I just thought some of my bad luck might be down to my chart 🥲
Posted by DMV

You tell us what you think the problem is?

I feel like ppl know exactly what the issue is but maybe we aren’t ready to acknowledge Sag moon?

Maybe you nag people to death with your Virgo

Maybe your two high maintenance with your Leo

Maybe you secretly sabotage your relationships with your Scorpio

Maybe you can be a know it all with your Sagittarius


I feel extremely attacked right now because all of these sound like me

I think the main problem is that I don’t know what I want and every man that I’ve been with has had something about them starts bothering me. I think I’m waiting for this feeling that this is it this is the guy that you’re supposed to be with but maybe I give up too easily idk
Posted by Midnite_Riser

From what I've seen, people with Pisces or Scorpio placements have the WORST luck. But maybe I haven't really seen the reality of everyone else's life and how it goes. Everyone suffers some sort of misfortune in life.
I don’t think I have a lot of water in my chart, maybe some Scorpio energy and idk if that’s a good thing
Posted by serenidad

i agree with the others.

don’t worry,

no one’s life is “doomed” because of a birth chart.

your birth chart might tell you where your strong points are and where your weak points are. It might give you clues about “tendencies” you may have but nothing in life is set in stone.

your bad luck with men:

are you careful and selective in choosing which men to give your time and energy to...? are you picking men who have a track record of being careless and irresponsible....?

your inability to settle down:

what fears and concerns are preventing you from wanting to settle down...?

a healthy and optimistic mindset will always get you far in life. I know it’s difficult to remain with a good mindset when real life circumstances are looking less than hopeful, but try to figure out what patterns have been interfering with your happiness.


I needed that : )

Hmm if I’d have to really self analyse myself I think I go for the guys who are exciting, boring men are not for me, and maybe that has made me look past a couple of red flags, I also hate hate clinginess, if a guy is too into it too fast I find that extremely off putting

I think maybe it’s my inability to make a decision that’s preventing me to settle down, also the fear of choosing the wrong partner

Aww thanks for that, you ask all the right questions : ))
Posted by Reincarnation4
Posted by Anais__

Pls somebody help me, why do I have the worst luck with men and can’t seem to settle down, I’m having a quarter life crisis in the middle of the night here, is it something in my birth chart??? If anyone can read charts please help I’m desperate

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It's your Leo Mars. You are a pain in the ass when angry. I find this placement very immature.

Also, you need to learn how to better cooperate with others.

All this combined with the pickiness of a Virgo. Yeah... Fun times.
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Oops, I might have heard that a couple of times before

I think I do have a hot temper, if I get really angry I feel a bit aggressive ngl
Posted by SphinxFinks

I think it is due to Saturn in fall and opposite your Sun.

Saturn is extra shitty in Aries.


Ohh no, I might have to read up on that ; (
Posted by Timone

Do you relate to this?

Sun square moon.

What people who were born with Sun square Moon in their natal charts want and what they need are in conflict. The Sun square Moon aspect is similar to the Sun opposition Moon aspect in this sense, but there are very notable differences. Whereas the struggle between wants and needs is mostly played out on the inside and through significant relationships with Sun opposition Moon people, Sun square Moon people tend to confront obstacles that come from the outside. In truth, the struggle is within, as it is a case of being “one’s own worst enemy”. There can be a tendency to attract challenging situations into the life as an unconscious attempt to recreate the tension of early childhood. As well, specific habits and attitudes can hamper their progress in life.

These people experience a struggle between their need for nurture and their need for independence. When they get the autonomy that they seem to crave, they feel unsupported by others. When they receive the support they crave, they feel smothered. This internal clash is most apparent in the relationships they form, especially in the first half of their lives when they may not be aware of these patterns. Confrontations and challenges are frequent–not just with romantic partners, but also on the job, with friends, and so forth. However, these people have a lot of drive and spunk. They are resilient creatures who have faced conflict and who have survived it. Although they face a struggle with fluctuating energy, they are motivated to accomplish something. Ideally, they learn through experience to accomplish something for themselves rather than to prove their worth to others.

People born with a Sun-Moon tension can spend much of their lives struggling to balance the principles of the Sun and the Moon within their personalities, and will bring this struggle to some degree into their relationships. The urge to form meaningful relationships is generally powerful, but relationships can be as much of a struggle to these natives as the inner conflict is to themselves. This inner conflict occurs with the square, opposition, and quincunx. The desire to find meaningful relationships is stronger than it is when the natal Sun and Moon form a sextile or trine, and early relationships in particular can be challenging until the stressful aspects are recognized as an inner tension.

Sun square Moon suggests an internal “war” between two equally powerful desires: the desire for emotional commitment and the desire for autonomy. The native can be quite defensive and even belligerent with others, and often over-sensitive, which can take its toll in personal relationships. Partners may complain that the native often seems to be spoiling for a fight, and relationships can be turbulent until the native learns to compromise.


All of this… Idk where you got that from but I can relate to all of it

There can be a tendency to attract challenging situations into the life as an unconscious attempt to recreate the tension of early childhood.

This part right here 🥲

I often find myself thinking I just can’t catch a break, and I self sabotage big time

And the second paragraph I’m literally speechless, every sentence here is about me but especially the need for nurture and independence and that I find myself clashing a lot with the people who are closest to me, it can be pretty intense

the desire for emotional commitment and the desire for autonomy. The native can be quite defensive and even belligerent with others, and often over-sensitive, which can take its toll in personal relationships. Partners may complain that the native often seems to be spoiling for a fight, and relationships can be turbulent until the native learns to compromise.

This is probably the part that I can relate to the most… and I find it a bit ironic as I absolutely can’t stand sensitive people

Is it really me who’s causing all of these fights??? I think sometimes it’s necessary though to have these fights
Posted by Midnite_Riser
Posted by Anais__
Posted by Midnite_Riser

From what I've seen, people with Pisces or Scorpio placements have the WORST luck. But maybe I haven't really seen the reality of everyone else's life and how it goes. Everyone suffers some sort of misfortune in life.


I don’t think I have a lot of water in my chart, maybe some Scorpio energy and idk if that’s a good thing


It may not be so much on bad luck. It is how you handle it. Scorpios and Pisces can't handle the rough stuff very well from what I've seen.
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Hmm I see…

Well my sister is a Pisces and I’ve seen her have a lot of meltdowns through the years, she’s very emotionally reactive but I think her Virgo bf has calmed her down a lot, she’s like another person now
Posted by Midnite_Riser
Posted by Anais__
Posted by Midnite_Riser

From what I've seen, people with Pisces or Scorpio placements have the WORST luck. But maybe I haven't really seen the reality of everyone else's life and how it goes. Everyone suffers some sort of misfortune in life.


I don’t think I have a lot of water in my chart, maybe some Scorpio energy and idk if that’s a good thing


It may not be so much on bad luck. It is how you handle it. Scorpios and Pisces can't handle the rough stuff very well from what I've seen.
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Scorpios are the most adept at handling the rough stuff

Pluto kills us and then brings us back to life over many lifetimes

Its the most resilient of signs...