Cancer (lion rising) woman falling hard for a Gemini Man (yeah, I know not best match)

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by Creamcheese113 on Monday, February 7, 2022 and has 39 replies.
Hello everyone,

First, I would like to apologize for my english as it's not my mother tongue.

The title is self explanatory and it's pretty painful...

Few weeks ago, I met a Gemini man who worked as a rider in the stable where my horse is retired (I visit her every weeks). We started talking and... Well Gemini... I started falling for him. He took my number and started to call me every 2/3 days and sometimes for a 2 hours... Around his boss, he was cold but on the phone he could make several comments about me being single.

His boss is a business partner of mine (we buy and sale horses) and last week, the three of us went visiting other stables for a couple of days and we slept together...

Thing is, he may be friendly now but I can tell that he is not flirty anymore... Sex wasn't great and he told me it wasn't a good idea to sleep together because we have to work together..

Yesterday, while talking with his boss, I realized that when he really liked a woman, he doesn't mind driving hours, something he never did for me... We spent the day together other the weekend and it was great, we had tons of fun but no flirt. I didn't show anything, I am pretty good at acting like nothing happens out of pride but trust me, I was crying driving back home Sad

It's been years since I ve fallen for someone so hard and I have no idea how to handle the situation
Since he doesn't feel the same way you do maybe it's best to stay away from him and protect your heart. I'm married to a Gemini and have dated others, I do know that when they want you they will chase you down. Unrequited love is painful, I would just stay away from him if I were you.
Posted by DonnaLibra

Since he doesn't feel the same way you do maybe it's best to stay away from him and protect your heart. I'm married to a Gemini and have dated others, I do know that when they want you they will chase you down. Unrequited love is painful, I would just stay away from him if I were you.
And still he keeps calling me everyday... I don't move, don't call, don't text and he keeps calling me...
So what are upset about exactly? you slept together and had bad sex (that would make me cry) but he keeps giving you attention and you don't want it? I'm so confused!
@Wizardz_ omg - you are not helping! But you are making me laugh......

.........her desire consumed her with unstoppable flame. Finding herself alone in the barn with the object of her desire, she knew she would not be able to hold back. She flung the horse dung from the stall in slow, deliberate motions, sensing his presence coming nearer and nearer. Finally, his hot breath was on her neck, she turned and he tore the flannel shirt from her glistening body in one sweep of his strong arms.......together they dropped to the fragrant hay beneath them....she had cleared all the poop so it was all good.......locked in embrace they satisfied their mutual hunger.....the horses were embarrased.
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.........her desire consumed her with unstoppable flame. Finding herself alone in the barn with the object of her desire, she knew she would not be able to hold back. She flung the horse dung from the stall in slow, deliberate motions, sensing his presence coming nearer and nearer. Finally, his hot breath was on her neck, she turned and he tore the flannel shirt from her glistening body in one sweep of his strong arms.......together they dropped to the fragrant hay beneath them....she had cleared all the poop so it was all good.......locked in embrace they satisfied their mutual hunger.....the horses were embarrased.
I was looking for advice... Thanks a lot for mocking
I asked a legit question before it though, so I might actually offer advice. @Wizardz_ is a bad influence on me. Carry on!
...........and to add, if your skin is that thin that you take offence so easily. Better stay away from Gemini's.......all of them.
Posted by geminiflyby

I asked a legit question before it though, so I might actually offer advice. @Wizardz_ is a bad influence on me. Carry on!
Sorry I didn't see you question... Only the three posts about romance novel...

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah...................I'm dying! I'm going to get fired for laughing so hard!
OMG we are going to have to apologize to OP! hahahaha..............I'm a mess over here!!
You may need to seduce him, if friendship is not enough for you. Are you sure he's single and emotionally available, though?



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Posted by DonnaLibra

Since he doesn't feel the same way you do maybe it's best to stay away from him and protect your heart. I'm married to a Gemini and have dated others, I do know that when they want you they will chase you down. Unrequited love is painful, I would just stay away from him if I were you.


And still he keeps calling me everyday... I don't move, don't call, don't text and he keeps calling me...
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Hmmm, friendzone maybe?
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Posted by DonnaLibra

Since he doesn't feel the same way you do maybe it's best to stay away from him and protect your heart. I'm married to a Gemini and have dated others, I do know that when they want you they will chase you down. Unrequited love is painful, I would just stay away from him if I were you.


And still he keeps calling me everyday... I don't move, don't call, don't text and he keeps calling me...


Hmmm, friendzone maybe?
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Yeah probably… That and the fact that before sleeping together he said it was not a good idea as I am technically his boss…
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Posted by DonnaLibra

Since he doesn't feel the same way you do maybe it's best to stay away from him and protect your heart. I'm married to a Gemini and have dated others, I do know that when they want you they will chase you down. Unrequited love is painful, I would just stay away from him if I were you.


And still he keeps calling me everyday... I don't move, don't call, don't text and he keeps calling me...


Hmmm, friendzone maybe?


Yeah probably… That and the fact that before sleeping together he said it was not a good idea as I am technically his boss…

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Hopefully you don't get in trouble for sexing a subordinate.
i feel like I ruined everything with him
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Posted by DonnaLibra

Since he doesn't feel the same way you do maybe it's best to stay away from him and protect your heart. I'm married to a Gemini and have dated others, I do know that when they want you they will chase you down. Unrequited love is painful, I would just stay away from him if I were you.


And still he keeps calling me everyday... I don't move, don't call, don't text and he keeps calling me...


Hmmm, friendzone maybe?


Yeah probably… That and the fact that before sleeping together he said it was not a good idea as I am technically his boss…


Hopefully you don't get in trouble for sexing a subordinate.
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Lol no certainly not
Poor dude is trying to keep his job while keeping you in the friendzone. I'm sure if you push he will deliver more bad sex to your door. But that seems a bit like an abuse of power.

This was romantic to read.

You have to stay grounded.

Detach emotionally
Posted by karlsmagpie

What I gather is you slept with him too quickly, the two of you barely knew each other. He saw it as a fling and maybe a fun time when he comes around but nothing to get wrapped up in especially given that you seem to "be in love" already. I've noticed that with Cancers of any placement you fall so quickly for anyone and it's unfair to the object of your desire because they have to live out the fantasy you've cooked up in your head about the two of you. You also work together that's just messy. Chalk it up as a fling, cry in private, and put on a brave face until you are over it. One thing about gemini is they're always running their mouth about one thing or another so let him talk but understand it's all just talk, hot air. You'll notice his pattern of flakiness. If you're seeking LTR, gemini's are for fun but nothing to be taken seriously in my experience.
He was really flirty two weeks before we went on that trip and two nights before he also made several comments while calling me at 11pm--- while sleeping in the room next to me. I dismissed it because I knew I had feeling for him... I deeply regret sleeping with him... SInce then I am the same, showing no emotions at all, simply being friendly and letting time do its work...

To the ones talking about abuse... I am certainly not in a position to fire him for anything due to sleeping with your boss thing... Here in Finland it is seen as two adults dealing with their personal lives... His boss is my partner but you can't cause trouble to someone for something like that let alone pressuring someone to have sex with you... We are both in our thirties, both divorced and both parents....
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What I gather is you slept with him too quickly, the two of you barely knew each other. He saw it as a fling and maybe a fun time when he comes around but nothing to get wrapped up in especially given that you seem to "be in love" already. I've noticed that with Cancers of any placement you fall so quickly for anyone and it's unfair to the object of your desire because they have to live out the fantasy you've cooked up in your head about the two of you. You also work together that's just messy. Chalk it up as a fling, cry in private, and put on a brave face until you are over it. One thing about gemini is they're always running their mouth about one thing or another so let him talk but understand it's all just talk, hot air. You'll notice his pattern of flakiness. If you're seeking LTR, gemini's are for fun but nothing to be taken seriously in my experience.


He was really flirty two weeks before we went on that trip and two nights before he also made several comments while calling me at 11pm--- while sleeping in the room next to me. I dismissed it because I knew I had feeling for him... I deeply regret sleeping with him... SInce then I am the same, showing no emotions at all, simply being friendly and letting time do its work...

To the ones talking about abuse... I am certainly not in a position to fire him for anything due to sleeping with your boss thing... Here in Finland it is seen as two adults dealing with their personal lives... His boss is my partner but you can't cause trouble to someone for something like that let alone pressuring someone to have sex with you... We are both in our thirties, both divorced and both parents....


don't feel bad about caring for someone, even if it was quickly. I guess you can't help what you feel. Maybe I'm a bit cynical anyway don't beat yourself up about it. It happens, putting yourself through the wringer about it won't change anything and you'll only feel worse. It appears that you've dealt with this best you can and are letting it wash over you. Get back on your horse and ride again. [pun intended Winking ]

Speaking of horses, I'd love to know more I love horses, I live in the city and have no place for a horse lol. I've ridden a few times and have gone to a few shows. Do you ride? Are your horses for show, riding, racing?
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I used to ride but now only doing horse trade for show jumping.

It's a lesson, he wanted to have fun and i wanted something too serious... Anyway... He is really cold now and I just regret the fact that we used to have fun.

I understand and I accept the fact that there will be nothing else than that night but I wish he will be back at being just a friend and feel comfortable with me...

I realize now that he is not a good match for me and I still need to work on myself and have my emotions in check and can't put that much pressure on anyone...
Our work here is done.
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Our work here is done.
Yep smile

I just hope we can be friends in the future because it's great to talk to him and we share the same passion but no more romance or else, just good friendship....

Posted by ClaireDeLune

Awwww I'm sorry fellow cancer, Gemini men require a tooooon of mental stimulation and knowing when to set your boundaries with them. They'll respect you more when they see you're not too easy physically, emotionally and mentally. I think this pair could work, but it's knowing when to play and be stern together and being able to not only keep up with them mentally but surprising them with other random facts or knowledge to keep some interests.

Maybe a pisces or a Taurus will work better in the future
We'll see who I meet in the future... Not ready yet lol

It's still a bit painful even though I fully understand why it didn't and won't work

I feel like a fool for thinking he wanted something else but I will get other it and time will do its work
@Wizardz_ - Is that our category also? Tongue
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Posted by Creamcheese113
Posted by ClaireDeLune

Awwww I'm sorry fellow cancer, Gemini men require a tooooon of mental stimulation and knowing when to set your boundaries with them. They'll respect you more when they see you're not too easy physically, emotionally and mentally. I think this pair could work, but it's knowing when to play and be stern together and being able to not only keep up with them mentally but surprising them with other random facts or knowledge to keep some interests.

Maybe a pisces or a Taurus will work better in the future


We'll see who I meet in the future... Not ready yet lol



It's still a bit painful even though I fully understand why it didn't and won't work

I feel like a fool for thinking he wanted something else but I will get other it and time will do its work


You're not a fool, Geminis don't know what they want. As soon as you genuinely act and feel like you don't want him he'll prob try to get into bed with you again 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Don't take it to heart too much. He's the crazy fucking Gemini not you..
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Do you think he will be back to its friendly self (not talking about flirting there) ? Or will he keep being cold and distant with me as if I was the worst person in the universe?
He came back, he was flirty again and I told him nothing will happen again... He is back at his usual self, calling me 5 times a day but to be honest, I just see his flaky and unstable side now. I just roll my eyes when he becomes cold for no reason knowing he will become nice again in no time...
Ahhh the days when I used to thought Gemini men and cancer women were compatable. Yep those were the days. Until years later I discovered my chart is sort of a windy and cloudy condition with a 50% chance of rain. They still can be compatible if both parties willing to compromise tho. I for one never believe in that compatability kind of stuff astrological wise. I used to let them do all the chasing. One even used to text me exotic messages on my phone late at night at work asking me if she can kiss me when I get off. When it got too much I ignored her. I don't know if it's cancer women or just women in general that they don't know when to leave a man alone when they get horny in bed by themselves.


That's incredibly funny because I never text or call... In months I called him once... So not ALL CANCER women are the same



Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Ahhh the days when I used to thought Gemini men and cancer women were compatable. Yep those were the days. Until years later I discovered my chart is sort of a windy and cloudy condition with a 50% chance of rain. They still can be compatible if both parties willing to compromise tho. I for one never believe in that compatability kind of stuff astrological wise. I used to let them do all the chasing. One even used to text me exotic messages on my phone late at night at work asking me if she can kiss me when I get off. When it got too much I ignored her. I don't know if it's cancer women or just women in general that they don't know when to leave a man alone when they get horny in bed by themselves.

Posted by Creamcheese113

That's incredibly funny because I never text or call... In months I called him once... So not ALL CANCER women are the same
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Ahhh the days when I used to thought Gemini men and cancer women were compatable. Yep those were the days. Until years later I discovered my chart is sort of a windy and cloudy condition with a 50% chance of rain. They still can be compatible if both parties willing to compromise tho. I for one never believe in that compatability kind of stuff astrological wise. I used to let them do all the chasing. One even used to text me exotic messages on my phone late at night at work asking me if she can kiss me when I get off. When it got too much I ignored her. I don't know if it's cancer women or just women in general that they don't know when to leave a man alone when they get horny in bed by themselves.


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Oh ok I don't know what your chart look like as a whole other than being a leo aka lion rising as indicated to your title. And not that it's any of my concern now that I'm done with reading charts. And I wanna believe you right. I'm guessing it's those water down cancer women that do all the calling and texting all the time. I'm also guessing your Gemini is pretty fiery and does all the initiating. Don't sound shy at all. By the sound of some posts I read of yours he sound kind of like the playa type.
by experience, if a man is interested he will initiate contact. To be honest, each time I had to call/text, I realized quickly that he was not interested at all... When I was married it was different but during first months/year of a relationship, I don't really show much... A male friend of mine once told me, if he doesn't call, he is not that into you, period. It's probably not 100% true, it depends on men I guess but I decided to follow that rule. I am pretty independent

Don't know if he is a playa but he keeps calling and talking about his life, his anxiety...

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Posted by Creamcheese113

That's incredibly funny because I never text or call... In months I called him once... So not ALL CANCER women are the same
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Ahhh the days when I used to thought Gemini men and cancer women were compatable. Yep those were the days. Until years later I discovered my chart is sort of a windy and cloudy condition with a 50% chance of rain. They still can be compatible if both parties willing to compromise tho. I for one never believe in that compatability kind of stuff astrological wise. I used to let them do all the chasing. One even used to text me exotic messages on my phone late at night at work asking me if she can kiss me when I get off. When it got too much I ignored her. I don't know if it's cancer women or just women in general that they don't know when to leave a man alone when they get horny in bed by themselves.




Oh ok I don't know what your chart look like as a whole other than being a leo aka lion rising as indicated to your title. And not that it's any of my concern now that I'm done with reading charts. And I wanna believe you right. I'm guessing it's those water down cancer women that do all the calling and texting all the time. I'm also guessing your Gemini is pretty fiery and does all the initiating. Don't sound shy at all. By the sound of some posts I read of yours he sound kind of like the playa type.
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Posted by Creamcheese113

I would say, by experience, if a man is interested he will initiate contact. To be honest, each time I had to call/text, I realized quickly that he was not interested at all... When I was married it was different but during first months/year of a relationship, I don't really show much... A male friend of mine once told me, if he doesn't call, he is not that into you, period. It's probably not 100% true, it depends on men I guess but I decided to follow that rule. I am pretty independent

Don't know if he is a playa but he keeps calling and talking about his life, his anxiety...
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Posted by Creamcheese113

That's incredibly funny because I never text or call... In months I called him once... So not ALL CANCER women are the same
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Ahhh the days when I used to thought Gemini men and cancer women were compatable. Yep those were the days. Until years later I discovered my chart is sort of a windy and cloudy condition with a 50% chance of rain. They still can be compatible if both parties willing to compromise tho. I for one never believe in that compatability kind of stuff astrological wise. I used to let them do all the chasing. One even used to text me exotic messages on my phone late at night at work asking me if she can kiss me when I get off. When it got too much I ignored her. I don't know if it's cancer women or just women in general that they don't know when to leave a man alone when they get horny in bed by themselves.




Oh ok I don't know what your chart look like as a whole other than being a leo aka lion rising as indicated to your title. And not that it's any of my concern now that I'm done with reading charts. And I wanna believe you right. I'm guessing it's those water down cancer women that do all the calling and texting all the time. I'm also guessing your Gemini is pretty fiery and does all the initiating. Don't sound shy at all. By the sound of some posts I read of yours he sound kind of like the playa type.


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Oh I'm very different. If I'm interested I much prefer face to face initiation. Though sometimes I'm skeptic about that because I be getting those gut feelings that I'm being a pest. So I cut off the initiation and wait and see what her plans are. If I don't hear from her, oh well I guess. I really can't speak on behalf of other gems. I'm only speaking on behalf of my experience as a dude. Not as a Gemini.
Posted by Creamcheese113

He came back, he was flirty again and I told him nothing will happen again... He is back at his usual self, calling me 5 times a day but to be honest, I just see his flaky and unstable side now. I just roll my eyes when he becomes cold for no reason knowing he will become nice again in no time...
Now you get it. Go with the flow and enjoy his company while he's around and he will keep coming back. Bitch and complain and he will keep disappearing. He's there for a good time, not a bad time smile
Posted by Creamcheese113

That's incredibly funny because I never text or call... In months I called him once... So not ALL CANCER women are the same
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Ahhh the days when I used to thought Gemini men and cancer women were compatable. Yep those were the days. Until years later I discovered my chart is sort of a windy and cloudy condition with a 50% chance of rain. They still can be compatible if both parties willing to compromise tho. I for one never believe in that compatability kind of stuff astrological wise. I used to let them do all the chasing. One even used to text me exotic messages on my phone late at night at work asking me if she can kiss me when I get off. When it got too much I ignored her. I don't know if it's cancer women or just women in general that they don't know when to leave a man alone when they get horny in bed by themselves.


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What’s your moon, Mars, and Venus, if you don’t mind me asking 👀
>My Venus is in Leo and my Mars is in Scorpio

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Posted by Creamcheese113

That's incredibly funny because I never text or call... In months I called him once... So not ALL CANCER women are the same
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Ahhh the days when I used to thought Gemini men and cancer women were compatable. Yep those were the days. Until years later I discovered my chart is sort of a windy and cloudy condition with a 50% chance of rain. They still can be compatible if both parties willing to compromise tho. I for one never believe in that compatability kind of stuff astrological wise. I used to let them do all the chasing. One even used to text me exotic messages on my phone late at night at work asking me if she can kiss me when I get off. When it got too much I ignored her. I don't know if it's cancer women or just women in general that they don't know when to leave a man alone when they get horny in bed by themselves.




What’s your moon, Mars, and Venus, if you don’t mind me asking 👀
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is Libra

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Posted by Creamcheese113

That's incredibly funny because I never text or call... In months I called him once... So not ALL CANCER women are the same
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Ahhh the days when I used to thought Gemini men and cancer women were compatable. Yep those were the days. Until years later I discovered my chart is sort of a windy and cloudy condition with a 50% chance of rain. They still can be compatible if both parties willing to compromise tho. I for one never believe in that compatability kind of stuff astrological wise. I used to let them do all the chasing. One even used to text me exotic messages on my phone late at night at work asking me if she can kiss me when I get off. When it got too much I ignored her. I don't know if it's cancer women or just women in general that they don't know when to leave a man alone when they get horny in bed by themselves.




What’s your moon, Mars, and Venus, if you don’t mind me asking 👀
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It’s a great feeling when the rose colored glasses come off
Posted by Creamcheese113

And my moon is Libra
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Posted by Creamcheese113

That's incredibly funny because I never text or call... In months I called him once... So not ALL CANCER women are the same
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Ahhh the days when I used to thought Gemini men and cancer women were compatable. Yep those were the days. Until years later I discovered my chart is sort of a windy and cloudy condition with a 50% chance of rain. They still can be compatible if both parties willing to compromise tho. I for one never believe in that compatability kind of stuff astrological wise. I used to let them do all the chasing. One even used to text me exotic messages on my phone late at night at work asking me if she can kiss me when I get off. When it got too much I ignored her. I don't know if it's cancer women or just women in general that they don't know when to leave a man alone when they get horny in bed by themselves.




What’s your moon, Mars, and Venus, if you don’t mind me asking 👀


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Thanks for sharing! 🙂

I was just curious bc of you mentioning not being the one to call, the ones I know are the opposite