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This topic was created in the Gemini forum by Winters12 on Wednesday, October 7, 2020 and has 53 replies.
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What’s the best way to help a Gemini woman when she’s fed up with life and it becomes a routine/ what can I do to help her it’s a hard question as she has 2 children and the dad isn’t really involved at the moment. I just want to take her away from it .
I feel sorry for you, this woman has you so twisted. You’ve thrown away your marriage and your children and you’ll never be enough for her. You can’t fix her and the sooner you see that you might be able to fix yourself and your own family.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
Posted by sweetheartsWe have both spoken to each other and had it out we are living separately and dealing with our own children until they get a bit older and then we will decide to live together later on. I am dealing with my children when I have them on the weekend and she is dealing with hers from now on.
I feel sorry for you, this woman has you so twisted. You’ve thrown away your marriage and your children and you’ll never be enough for her. You can’t fix her and the sooner you see that you might be able to fix yourself and your own family.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
I would just like a little advice on how to cheer my partner up as I think she has taken on more than she could chew she wants the house decorated and then she hasn’t slept very well as she’s been up itching all night with this allergy she has so she’s tired and she had to get up to do the school run and then rush straight to work she said her live just feel like a routine and she needs time away from the kids as she seems really stressed and fed up and no motivation what can I do really as a partner to help her I said I will have the kids if you want a night out etc or if you want our alone time I can also arrange that I can help her with her house etc I duno what else I can do as a partner to help any advice also thank you for your concern but my last relationship was a little rocky I was with another Sagittarius.
Posted by Winters12Again. You can’t fix her.Posted by sweethearts
I feel sorry for you, this woman has you so twisted. You’ve thrown away your marriage and your children and you’ll never be enough for her. You can’t fix her and the sooner you see that you might be able to fix yourself and your own family.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
We have both spoken to each other and had it out we are living separately and dealing with our own children until they get a bit older and then we will decide to live together later on. I am dealing with my children when I have them on the weekend and she is dealing with hers from now on.
I would just like a little advice on how to cheer my partner up as I think she has taken on more than she could chew she wants the house decorated and then she hasn’t slept very well as she’s been up itching all night with this allergy she has so she’s tired and she had to get up to do the school run and then rush straight to work she said her live just feel like a routine and she needs time away from the kids as she seems really stressed and fed up and no motivation what can I do really as a partner to help her I said I will have the kids if you want a night out etc or if you want our alone time I can also arrange that I can help her with her house etc I duno what else I can do as a partner to help any advice also thank you for your concern but my last relationship was a little rocky I was with another Sagittarius.click to expand
You’ve been together, what 6 months? You should still be in honeymoon phase but the amount of obstacles and problems and differences you’ve already had aren’t going to miraculously go away, they will grow and escalate. You’re looking for the impossible, I’m being nice. Soon you’ll be bombarded with some cutting truths and you really need to start taking some of that on board!
Posted by sweetheartsTo be honest I have already started to take a lot of it on board and started to realise a lot.Posted by Winters12Posted by sweethearts
I feel sorry for you, this woman has you so twisted. You’ve thrown away your marriage and your children and you’ll never be enough for her. You can’t fix her and the sooner you see that you might be able to fix yourself and your own family.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
We have both spoken to each other and had it out we are living separately and dealing with our own children until they get a bit older and then we will decide to live together later on. I am dealing with my children when I have them on the weekend and she is dealing with hers from now on.
I would just like a little advice on how to cheer my partner up as I think she has taken on more than she could chew she wants the house decorated and then she hasn’t slept very well as she’s been up itching all night with this allergy she has so she’s tired and she had to get up to do the school run and then rush straight to work she said her live just feel like a routine and she needs time away from the kids as she seems really stressed and fed up and no motivation what can I do really as a partner to help her I said I will have the kids if you want a night out etc or if you want our alone time I can also arrange that I can help her with her house etc I duno what else I can do as a partner to help any advice also thank you for your concern but my last relationship was a little rocky I was with another Sagittarius.
Again. You can’t fix her.
You’ve been together, what 6 months? You should still be in honeymoon phase but the amount of obstacles and problems and differences you’ve already had aren’t going to miraculously go away, they will grow and escalate. You’re looking for the impossible, I’m being nice. Soon you’ll be bombarded with some cutting truths and you really need to start taking some of that on board!click to expand
We been together 9months just over now.
Thing is with our relationship how it started has a big impact on the whole relationship we had complete stress from the start.
And some of the stress has eased off I know I can’t fix her and I shouldn’t have to the only thing I can do is try my best to be a good partner and if that isn’t enough in the end then so be it.
Posted by sweetheartsTo be honest I have already started to take a lot of it on board and started to realise a lot.Posted by Winters12Posted by sweethearts
I feel sorry for you, this woman has you so twisted. You’ve thrown away your marriage and your children and you’ll never be enough for her. You can’t fix her and the sooner you see that you might be able to fix yourself and your own family.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
We have both spoken to each other and had it out we are living separately and dealing with our own children until they get a bit older and then we will decide to live together later on. I am dealing with my children when I have them on the weekend and she is dealing with hers from now on.
I would just like a little advice on how to cheer my partner up as I think she has taken on more than she could chew she wants the house decorated and then she hasn’t slept very well as she’s been up itching all night with this allergy she has so she’s tired and she had to get up to do the school run and then rush straight to work she said her live just feel like a routine and she needs time away from the kids as she seems really stressed and fed up and no motivation what can I do really as a partner to help her I said I will have the kids if you want a night out etc or if you want our alone time I can also arrange that I can help her with her house etc I duno what else I can do as a partner to help any advice also thank you for your concern but my last relationship was a little rocky I was with another Sagittarius.
Again. You can’t fix her.
You’ve been together, what 6 months? You should still be in honeymoon phase but the amount of obstacles and problems and differences you’ve already had aren’t going to miraculously go away, they will grow and escalate. You’re looking for the impossible, I’m being nice. Soon you’ll be bombarded with some cutting truths and you really need to start taking some of that on board!click to expand
We been together 9months just over now.
Thing is with our relationship how it started has a big impact on the whole relationship we had complete stress from the start.
And some of the stress has eased off I know I can’t fix her and I shouldn’t have to the only thing I can do is try my best to be a good partner and if that isn’t enough in the end then so be it.
When you say cutting truths do mean looking at the realities??
Posted by Winters12I’m talking about the majority of DXPers that will be waking up soon, and yes things are about to get real!
When you say cutting truths do mean looking at the realities??
You’ve had 9 months of drama and you’re still hanging in there?? What.. did your first wife make this one look like a breeze? 🤦🏼♀️
She has a job, a house, two children, a caring boyfriend, health, time and money to spend on decorating.
So what are her "problems"?
1) Her children. I'm sorry, but not sorry! She choose to have them. Why isn't their dad "involved at the moment"? How long is that "moment"? Does she have sole custody? Do you know that older children can look after younger ones, and also help in the household? I was six when mum started to leave me alone with my toddler sister to look after (aka play with). Also about that age, when I was put "in charge" with cleaning the kitchen, on top of looking after my own room (shared with my sister) and clothes. This is how my generation grew up, and this is what made us so independant and resilient.
Are both her kids younger than 6? if not, ask her to train them to help her! If yes, fine! Don't offer to babysit! You should go on a date with her, not babysit her offspring while she goes on dates, lmao! FFS, tell her to give some pocket money to an older teenager to sit on her sofa watching TV, while you are on a date!
2) Allergy. Are you a dermatologist? What do you want to do about this? Scratch her back? Make an appointment? Drive her there...? It's not like you have 10 options to choose from, and need our help deciding
3) House decorating. This should be a pleasure, an escape! What do you want to do about it? Spend your own money buying her stuff or paying the painter? Visit furniture shops? Discard the crap in a dump hole? Again, your options are limited.
To cheer her up:
1) Bring a positive spin to every complain she dumps on you. If you can't, just say "you can do it!"
2) Praise whatever she has done recently
3) Offer a couple of practical solutions that are minor and appropriate, considering you've been dating for only 6 months and you don't live together. Do not enable her to use you or your money.
4) Avoid feeling sorry for her...women need someone to be proud of them, not pity them! For pity, there are mothers and BFFs.
5) Make positive, good memories together.
So what are her "problems"?
1) Her children. I'm sorry, but not sorry! She choose to have them. Why isn't their dad "involved at the moment"? How long is that "moment"? Does she have sole custody? Do you know that older children can look after younger ones, and also help in the household? I was six when mum started to leave me alone with my toddler sister to look after (aka play with). Also about that age, when I was put "in charge" with cleaning the kitchen, on top of looking after my own room (shared with my sister) and clothes. This is how my generation grew up, and this is what made us so independant and resilient.
Are both her kids younger than 6? if not, ask her to train them to help her! If yes, fine! Don't offer to babysit! You should go on a date with her, not babysit her offspring while she goes on dates, lmao! FFS, tell her to give some pocket money to an older teenager to sit on her sofa watching TV, while you are on a date!
2) Allergy. Are you a dermatologist? What do you want to do about this? Scratch her back? Make an appointment? Drive her there...? It's not like you have 10 options to choose from, and need our help deciding
3) House decorating. This should be a pleasure, an escape! What do you want to do about it? Spend your own money buying her stuff or paying the painter? Visit furniture shops? Discard the crap in a dump hole? Again, your options are limited.
To cheer her up:
1) Bring a positive spin to every complain she dumps on you. If you can't, just say "you can do it!"
2) Praise whatever she has done recently
3) Offer a couple of practical solutions that are minor and appropriate, considering you've been dating for only 6 months and you don't live together. Do not enable her to use you or your money.
4) Avoid feeling sorry for her...women need someone to be proud of them, not pity them! For pity, there are mothers and BFFs.
5) Make positive, good memories together.
Dude... Stop talking. You're like one of those people who always want to talk and feel instead of doing anything!!! Do something. Stop asking to help and be a man and help. Volunteer to pick up and drop off the kids 3 times a week. And cook breakfast for the family those mornings. All in your feelings and your head. Do something!!!! Right now you're just a talker.. Be a doer!!! If her kids are running rampant in the back of the car, buy some car seats. Send some takeout in the evening or cook dinner. There are a hundred ways to help other than running your mouth or feeling for someone. If you want to be the man in her life than be the fucking man... Sack Dropping #101. .
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Posted by GemCurioThe1Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
Posted by sweetheartsWe're not all monsters you know?! 😒Posted by Winters12
When you say cutting truths do mean looking at the realities??
I’m talking about the majority of DXPers that will be waking up soon, and yes things are about to get real!
You’ve had 9 months of drama and you’re still hanging in there?? What.. did your first wife make this one look like a breeze? 🤦🏼♀️click to expand
You talk as if this forum is comprised only of people like Dazed and co (those active members who seem to take great joy - in kicking someone who's already down).🙄 Most ruthless and condescending of DXP'ers passed away couple of years back (i get that she was welcomed - while dealing with members who were overly delusional about a given situation - but that was more of a side effect or a bonus - if you will... cause her usual attitude - as can be seen in most of her comments... used to fit the description from above parenthesis to a T), so chill.
Posted by UndineNo one was talking about your miserable experiences with people. All people have a duality. Create a topic on here and see how many women willingly ask for help. If you don't know this, to your own peril..Posted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.click to expand
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaThey have all the required "qualities" to be one, thoughPosted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".click to expand
Posted by GemCurioThe1I don't have miserable experiences with people!Posted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
No one was talking about your miserable experiences with people. All people have a duality. Create a topic on here and see how many women willingly ask for help. If you don't know this, to your own peril..click to expand
What are YOU talking about, if not YOUR experience? Flights of fancy? Lala land? Oups, Lindaland? Cat lady astrology books? Your arsehole....?
Get real, you moron!
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaWhat are you complaining about, thenPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".
They have all the required "qualities" to be one, though
Yes, being human.click to expand
? That we use the star sign of people we know and look for patterns? LOLPosted by GemCurioThe1Firstly for your information I do cook tea nearly every night I am at hers also I have been helping her decorate all of her house it’s impossible for me to do school pick up because of my working hours we aren’t all lucky enough to do this !
Dude... Stop talking. You're like one of those people who always want to talk and feel instead of doing anything!!! Do something. Stop asking to help and be a man and help. Volunteer to pick up and drop off the kids 3 times a week. And cook breakfast for the family those mornings. All in your feelings and your head. Do something!!!! Right now you're just a talker.. Be a doer!!! If her kids are running rampant in the back of the car, buy some car seats. Send some takeout in the evening or cook dinner. There are a hundred ways to help other than running your mouth or feeling for someone. If you want to be the man in her life than be the fucking man... Sack Dropping #101. .
It’s not that I like to talk I just want to make sure I do things the right way I do a hell of a lot for my partner all the time .
Did I also mention I have my own children to look after as well
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaI came on this thread to offer advice to a Sag who asked for it! Do you have anything to say about the advice I gave....?Posted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".
They have all the required "qualities" to be one, though
Yes, being human.
What are you complaining about, then
That you're explaining away everything that's going on with her sun sign. Amateur move for an astrologer, idiot move for anyone else.click to expand
I then proceed to correct an "amateur astrologer" who talked out of his arse.
Haughty af, huh? Touched a nerve for you, as a Gem, or maybe your whole spine?
She's got u in her life simping for her and she's still complaining about boredom. You know what to do...
Dont fall for it. Whole time she could be sob storying you while having the real dad in the background doing all kinds of stuff for her? How we know he doesn't send her money or come around when you're not there? And she chose to have them now all of a sudden she's tired? Was she tired when she was making them? Once you have kids, sorry, you dont get to get tired and dont expect breaks. The home decorating....she's AT HOME! Why is she bitching instead of doing it? Sounds like she's fishing for an eager sucker. Tread carefully. These ppl can be cold calculating users. Dont throw money in the mix. People always talk about their problems but never solve them. They want others to. Then they get rid of them. Thanks for the help, now bye. Be careful. She's just trying to get needs met. She's not here for love. BEWARE OF THE SOB STORIES! I dont deal with anyone who has sob stories. We all got problems but some of us get shit done while others sucker hunt.
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaIt's an anyone trait. It doesn't skip signs. Any sign can be a low life user, and there are a few geminis who fit that bill.Posted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".click to expand
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".
They have all the required "qualities" to be one, though
Yes, being human.
What are you complaining about, then
That you're explaining away everything that's going on with her sun sign. Amateur move for an astrologer, idiot move for anyone else.
I came on this thread to offer advice to a Sag who asked for it! Do you have anything to say about the advice I gave....?
I then proceed to correct an "amateur astrologer" who talked out of his arse.
Haughty af, huh? Touched a nerve for you, as a Gem, or maybe your whole spine?
No. It's just dumb.click to expand
What? That Gem can't be users? LMAO
Let's see...an user needs to have some intelligence (to plan it), be full of charm (to get under the victim's skin), good with words (to persuade someone), cold (to have little remorse) and independant (to avoid bonding). Good at role playing (including the damsel in distress).
Noooo, these are not traits attributed to Gems....wha wah wah!
Oh wait....
First of all... we're just some random people on the internet - so don't take every advice to heart (as if given by a guiding Angel - who's sole purpose revolves around helping X or Y). We all have our own life and our own hardships/struggles - and we all fail at all kinds of stuff that should be pretty obvious - relationships included (if not especially). And by we... i don't mean Geminis, but people. If you're looking for some cheap therapy online - you kinda get what you're paying for (even bad advices). That being said... not all Geminis are alike, so hard to say what really works... if anything - you should be the one closer to that answer - while in a relationship with her. Even if situations are relatable - that's rarely the case with people (to know what it's really like to walk in her shoes or yours). Not to mention - there's people with children here - who take that very personally (the fact that you have children of your own - as she does), so their answers are quite emotional - and focused on that detail alone (far from seeing or taking into account the whole picture, which - to be fair... is also kinda impossible to grasp - cause you only shared some fragments - yet, that fragmented information taking as a whole... as if all details are known by DXP's Solmons).
Last but not least... people might change, but that rarely happens cause of a random advice. Words are rarely a good teacher... All you can do is try and try - till something starts to work - and keep repeating that till you're getting better and better at it - or till it stops working. Same goes for her... but are you in the right state of mind - to make that happen, or is your life mostly ruled by chaos/despair (some parts at least - like the relationship you have with her). If it's the latter - slow down... and try to fix what can actually be fixed, one thing at the time. So hey, what can you do?! If there's something - you can think of? Cause you should know that by now. If the answer is... nothing. Then, do nothing. If all feels like is lost and nothing works... then might be for the best to let it be. And move on. Again, i'm just guy on the internet... i don't know what it's like to be you, or her... or what's the best answer (if there's any). Only you can know that... by trying (trial and error - type of thing). Good luck and take care.
Last but not least... people might change, but that rarely happens cause of a random advice. Words are rarely a good teacher... All you can do is try and try - till something starts to work - and keep repeating that till you're getting better and better at it - or till it stops working. Same goes for her... but are you in the right state of mind - to make that happen, or is your life mostly ruled by chaos/despair (some parts at least - like the relationship you have with her). If it's the latter - slow down... and try to fix what can actually be fixed, one thing at the time. So hey, what can you do?! If there's something - you can think of? Cause you should know that by now. If the answer is... nothing. Then, do nothing. If all feels like is lost and nothing works... then might be for the best to let it be. And move on. Again, i'm just guy on the internet... i don't know what it's like to be you, or her... or what's the best answer (if there's any). Only you can know that... by trying (trial and error - type of thing). Good luck and take care.
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaNo you didn't say that "exactly". You said it like gems cant be users, it's not their trait, which is a big lie.Posted by OnigenZPosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".
It's an anyone trait. It doesn't skip signs. Any sign can be a low life user, and there are a few geminis who fit that bill.
Yes, which is exactly what I said.click to expand
Oh shit...I just remembered yet another Gem, for years ago, who pretended to be very much into me, following me everywhere like a dog, until I arrived at a department store, where he...tried to persuade me to buy him designer shirts that he couldn't --temporarily, just temporarily!--afford!
Damn, and I have nothing against Gemini...they are good fun, if you don't fall for them!
I blame that obnoxious Curio for opening a can of worms, lmao!!!!
Damn, and I have nothing against Gemini...they are good fun, if you don't fall for them!
I blame that obnoxious Curio for opening a can of worms, lmao!!!!
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaNah, that was my imitation of you....Posted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".
They have all the required "qualities" to be one, though
Yes, being human.
What are you complaining about, then
That you're explaining away everything that's going on with her sun sign. Amateur move for an astrologer, idiot move for anyone else.
I came on this thread to offer advice to a Sag who asked for it! Do you have anything to say about the advice I gave....?
I then proceed to correct an "amateur astrologer" who talked out of his arse.
Haughty af, huh? Touched a nerve for you, as a Gem, or maybe your whole spine?
No. It's just dumb.
What? That Gem can't be users? LMAO
Let's see...an user needs to have some intelligence (to plan it), be full of charm (to get under the victim's skin), good with words (to persuade someone), cold (to have little remorse) and independant (to avoid bonding). Good at role playing (including the damsel in distress).
Noooo, these are not traits attributed to Gems....wha wah wah!
Oh wait....
It doesn't take much to turn you into a squalling toddler. Jesus.click to expand
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaIn contrast to a Gem, yes of course!Posted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".
They have all the required "qualities" to be one, though
Yes, being human.
What are you complaining about, then
That you're explaining away everything that's going on with her sun sign. Amateur move for an astrologer, idiot move for anyone else.
I came on this thread to offer advice to a Sag who asked for it! Do you have anything to say about the advice I gave....?
I then proceed to correct an "amateur astrologer" who talked out of his arse.
Haughty af, huh? Touched a nerve for you, as a Gem, or maybe your whole spine?
No. It's just dumb.
What? That Gem can't be users? LMAO
Let's see...an user needs to have some intelligence (to plan it), be full of charm (to get under the victim's skin), good with words (to persuade someone), cold (to have little remorse) and independant (to avoid bonding). Good at role playing (including the damsel in distress).
Noooo, these are not traits attributed to Gems....wha wah wah!
Oh wait....
It doesn't take much to turn you into a squalling toddler. Jesus.
Nah, that was my imitation of you....
Oh, I understood. Super mature.click to expand
Posted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".
They have all the required "qualities" to be one, though
Yes, being human.
What are you complaining about, then
That you're explaining away everything that's going on with her sun sign. Amateur move for an astrologer, idiot move for anyone else.
I came on this thread to offer advice to a Sag who asked for it! Do you have anything to say about the advice I gave....?
I then proceed to correct an "amateur astrologer" who talked out of his arse.
Haughty af, huh? Touched a nerve for you, as a Gem, or maybe your whole spine?
No. It's just dumb.
What? That Gem can't be users? LMAO
Let's see...an user needs to have some intelligence (to plan it), be full of charm (to get under the victim's skin), good with words (to persuade someone), cold (to have little remorse) and independant (to avoid bonding). Good at role playing (including the damsel in distress).
Noooo, these are not traits attributed to Gems....wha wah wah!
Oh wait....
It doesn't take much to turn you into a squalling toddler. Jesus.
Nah, that was my imitation of you....
Oh, I understood. Super mature.
In contrast to a Gem, yes of course!
I know you are, but what am I?
I'm rubber, you're glue. Anything you say bounces off me and sticks on you.
Nanna nanna boo boo.click to expand
I bounce on you, rubber
. Really enjoyed it too...back to work now!
You can’t ‘fix’ someone else’s mental health issues.
Her depression is not a problem you can solve.
Her depression is not a problem you can solve.
Posted by Winters12Shock collar.
What’s the best way to help a Gemini woman when she’s fed up with life and it becomes a routine/ what can I do to help her it’s a hard question as she has 2 children and the dad isn’t really involved at the moment. I just want to take her away from it .
I can send you my picture. It tends to make people laugh.
Posted by OnigenZI know he’s not in the back ground for a fact as she has an injunction against him He’s not aloud to have any contact with her at all as he use to kick her door in when his kids was in bed and also use to get drunk and walk out on her every weekend he also use to text and ring her non stop with threats everyday he’s definitely not on the seen I know that . But I get what you mean people will just use people .
Dont fall for it. Whole time she could be sob storying you while having the real dad in the background doing all kinds of stuff for her? How we know he doesn't send her money or come around when you're not there? And she chose to have them now all of a sudden she's tired? Was she tired when she was making them? Once you have kids, sorry, you dont get to get tired and dont expect breaks. The home decorating....she's AT HOME! Why is she bitching instead of doing it? Sounds like she's fishing for an eager sucker. Tread carefully. These ppl can be cold calculating users. Dont throw money in the mix. People always talk about their problems but never solve them. They want others to. Then they get rid of them. Thanks for the help, now bye. Be careful. She's just trying to get needs met. She's not here for love. BEWARE OF THE SOB STORIES! I dont deal with anyone who has sob stories. We all got problems but some of us get shit done while others sucker hunt.
Posted by Winters12Wooh Don’t get me wrong She has also been doing the decorating her self as well and for the money thing he pays weekly child maintenance she does work very hard her self she has a job as well as looking after the kids doing the school run etc she really is a lovely person it’s hard to explain as people don’t know the ins and outs she was probably just stressed out and needs a breakPosted by OnigenZ
Dont fall for it. Whole time she could be sob storying you while having the real dad in the background doing all kinds of stuff for her? How we know he doesn't send her money or come around when you're not there? And she chose to have them now all of a sudden she's tired? Was she tired when she was making them? Once you have kids, sorry, you dont get to get tired and dont expect breaks. The home decorating....she's AT HOME! Why is she bitching instead of doing it? Sounds like she's fishing for an eager sucker. Tread carefully. These ppl can be cold calculating users. Dont throw money in the mix. People always talk about their problems but never solve them. They want others to. Then they get rid of them. Thanks for the help, now bye. Be careful. She's just trying to get needs met. She's not here for love. BEWARE OF THE SOB STORIES! I dont deal with anyone who has sob stories. We all got problems but some of us get shit done while others sucker hunt.
I know he’s not in the back ground for a fact as she has an injunction against him He’s not aloud to have any contact with her at all as he use to kick her door in when his kids was in bed and also use to get drunk and walk out on her every weekend he also use to text and ring her non stop with threats everyday he’s definitely not on the seen I know that . But I get what you mean people will just use people .click to expand
Posted by Aqua-MarineHehehe 🏃♀️Posted by OnigenZPosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by OnigenZPosted by Dread_Pirate_PhantaPosted by UndinePosted by GemCurioThe1
I might seem harsh but wtf??? There are two types of people.. TALKERS... And DOERS... How much are you going to talk??? You remind me of one of those people who will see someone in need of help on the side of the road with car trouble and slow down causing traffic and never actually do anything. She's probably seeing you the same way. She's looking for a partner. Not a robot she has to program. Air Signs especially Geminis have so much pride that they will never ask for help from anyone but family. You're trying to be her man then man up!!! I can't think of any woman that wants to ask for help from a man, so just shut up and help or don't. Either way taking actions or not taking actions tell the story of who you are as a person. No one should have to tell you this. So because I have to I find this absurd...
Wrong! Gemini women I know are happy to play "damsel in distress" as long as they have suckers they could use, while coldheatingly laughing behind their back.
Not just Gemini women...men as well! My ex Gem redecorated his entire house --and vegetable patch-- while constantly mistaken his girlfriend for his unpaid interior designer and landscape gardner, over two years! Redecoration finished, he terminated the relationship by email.
User bitch is not a Gemini "trait".
It's an anyone trait. It doesn't skip signs. Any sign can be a low life user, and there are a few geminis who fit that bill.
Yes, which is exactly what I said.
No you didn't say that "exactly". You said it like gems cant be users, it's not their trait, which is a big lie.
🤦🏻♀️click to expand
Posted by sweetheartsI think I have come to the conclusion that me and my current partner will not work out she is all about her children not interested in mine and I put my all into her children . Because we are supposed to be taking time out she has separated mine and her children where as before they use to see each other every weekend . She has told me since they haven’t been seeing each other and staying over night etc they have been different children I.e better behaved now don’t get me wrong when all the kids are together they are a night mare but you make do because if you want to be with someone bad enough that’s what you do.
I feel sorry for you, this woman has you so twisted. You’ve thrown away your marriage and your children and you’ll never be enough for her. You can’t fix her and the sooner you see that you might be able to fix yourself and your own family.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
I said how will our future work out tho because if our children need to be away from each other now how on Earth are we ever going to live together.
She said they will be a lot older by then and when she said my kids start seeing hers again it will be when we go out on day trips and not at her house because she doesn’t want things getting dirty in her house and all this I don’t see a future here someone correct me if I’m wrong?
She had this massive problem like two weeks ago if any of you have seen my previous posts that My oldest daughter who’s with me full time who is from a relationship when I was 17 before my other two daughters and said she likes girls well my partner said I don’t want her around my child That is 8 years old and encouraging her to also be gay I understand to some point that she is just being a parent trying to protect her child however my daughter has the right to be what the fuck she wants .
My ex partner however (Sag like me) is still in the back ground seeing my oldest daughter as she was in her life for 8 years and I also have another two daughters with my ex so she stay around every now and then too see her siblings.
My current partner hates that she is still seeing her .
My ex partner said she broke off with this guy she was seeing because he didn’t like the fact she was still seeing my daughter but she said if you don’t like it I’m sorry we can’t be together so now there not also my ex partner excepts the fact my daughter wants to be what ever she wants to be.
Here’s the problem I cannot see a future now with my current partner (Gem) because of a lot of these things going on .
However I hurt my ex who I literally now know I had everything with the family life everything I just messed up thinking the grass was greener on the other side when in fact I should of respected the mother of my children. Since being with my partner she has opened my eyes to a lot of my wrong doings towards my ex partner and what I should and shouldn’t of done now I know.
Posted by Winters12Didn’t you also say that your ex and your relationship was really bad?Posted by sweethearts
I feel sorry for you, this woman has you so twisted. You’ve thrown away your marriage and your children and you’ll never be enough for her. You can’t fix her and the sooner you see that you might be able to fix yourself and your own family.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
I think I have come to the conclusion that me and my current partner will not work out she is all about her children not interested in mine and I put my all into her children . Because we are supposed to be taking time out she has separated mine and her children where as before they use to see each other every weekend . She has told me since they haven’t been seeing each other and staying over night etc they have been different children I.e better behaved now don’t get me wrong when all the kids are together they are a night mare but you make do because if you want to be with someone bad enough that’s what you do.
I said how will our future work out tho because if our children need to be away from each other now how on Earth are we ever going to live together.
She said they will be a lot older by then and when she said my kids start seeing hers again it will be when we go out on day trips and not at her house because she doesn’t want things getting dirty in her house and all this I don’t see a future here someone correct me if I’m wrong?
She had this massive problem like two weeks ago if any of you have seen my previous posts that My oldest daughter who’s with me full time who is from a relationship when I was 17 before my other two daughters and said she likes girls well my partner said I don’t want her around my child That is 8 years old and encouraging her to also be gay I understand to some point that she is just being a parent trying to protect her child however my daughter has the right to be what the fuck she wants .
My ex partner however (Sag like me) is still in the back ground seeing my oldest daughter as she was in her life for 8 years and I also have another two daughters with my ex so she stay around every now and then too see her siblings.
My current partner hates that she is still seeing her .
My ex partner said she broke off with this guy she was seeing because he didn’t like the fact she was still seeing my daughter but she said if you don’t like it I’m sorry we can’t be together so now there not also my ex partner excepts the fact my daughter wants to be what ever she wants to be.
Here’s the problem I cannot see a future now with my current partner (Gem) because of a lot of these things going on .
However I hurt my ex who I literally now know I had everything with the family life everything I just messed up thinking the grass was greener on the other side when in fact I should of respected the mother of my children. Since being with my partner she has opened my eyes to a lot of my wrong doings towards my ex partner and what I should and shouldn’t of done now I know.click to expand
Get away from your current partner, seriously, everything you’ve said about her, she’s selfish and manipulative and doesn’t sound at all like a decent person. I can’t see how you can’t see it. Surely as you are writing everything down it’s smacking you in the face the type of person you are dealing with.
Are you thinking about trying to reconcile with your ex? You cheated on her with this other lady didn’t you?
Posted by sweetheartsWhen I say it was bad really I was bad it was my fault okay she wasn’t perfect like always on her phone not sitting next to each other on the night times I was just sat playing PlayStation not really interested I thought I could do what the fuck I wanted when I wanted but I was wrong I was out of order and everything that has happened since for my ex is all my fault she is in a way still sticking by me And my daughter even tho I have hurt her I felt like there was no escape from my past relationship with her as it become routine and I was moaning a lot at her for being on her phone for not cooking tea when I would come home from work and she be at home with the kids etc a lot of things like that but what I should of done was taking some time out not met a new person who I can now see doesn’t seem right for me or my kids .Posted by Winters12Posted by sweethearts
I feel sorry for you, this woman has you so twisted. You’ve thrown away your marriage and your children and you’ll never be enough for her. You can’t fix her and the sooner you see that you might be able to fix yourself and your own family.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
I think I have come to the conclusion that me and my current partner will not work out she is all about her children not interested in mine and I put my all into her children . Because we are supposed to be taking time out she has separated mine and her children where as before they use to see each other every weekend . She has told me since they haven’t been seeing each other and staying over night etc they have been different children I.e better behaved now don’t get me wrong when all the kids are together they are a night mare but you make do because if you want to be with someone bad enough that’s what you do.
I said how will our future work out tho because if our children need to be away from each other now how on Earth are we ever going to live together.
She said they will be a lot older by then and when she said my kids start seeing hers again it will be when we go out on day trips and not at her house because she doesn’t want things getting dirty in her house and all this I don’t see a future here someone correct me if I’m wrong?
She had this massive problem like two weeks ago if any of you have seen my previous posts that My oldest daughter who’s with me full time who is from a relationship when I was 17 before my other two daughters and said she likes girls well my partner said I don’t want her around my child That is 8 years old and encouraging her to also be gay I understand to some point that she is just being a parent trying to protect her child however my daughter has the right to be what the fuck she wants .
My ex partner however (Sag like me) is still in the back ground seeing my oldest daughter as she was in her life for 8 years and I also have another two daughters with my ex so she stay around every now and then too see her siblings.
My current partner hates that she is still seeing her .
My ex partner said she broke off with this guy she was seeing because he didn’t like the fact she was still seeing my daughter but she said if you don’t like it I’m sorry we can’t be together so now there not also my ex partner excepts the fact my daughter wants to be what ever she wants to be.
Here’s the problem I cannot see a future now with my current partner (Gem) because of a lot of these things going on .
However I hurt my ex who I literally now know I had everything with the family life everything I just messed up thinking the grass was greener on the other side when in fact I should of respected the mother of my children. Since being with my partner she has opened my eyes to a lot of my wrong doings towards my ex partner and what I should and shouldn’t of done now I know.
Didn’t you also say that your ex and your relationship was really bad?
Get away from your current partner, seriously, everything you’ve said about her, she’s selfish and manipulative and doesn’t sound at all like a decent person. I can’t see how you can’t see it. Surely as you are writing everything down it’s smacking you in the face the type of person you are dealing with.
Are you thinking about trying to reconcile with your ex? You cheated on her with this other lady didn’t you?click to expand
I think the only way forward for me now is too be on my own to look after my children and concentrate on them become friends with my ex as really she’s not a bad person at all yes we had our problems like everyone else however she did really except everything I done and even now is still here 10 months later. And I need to move forward get my new house for my children and go from there.
Posted by Winters12You need to work on yourself, be on your own for a while. Work out what you really want and need but don’t go jumping back to the ex right now because it’s gone sour with the other lady. Don’t put your ex through more heart ache or your children for that matter, it’s you that needs to figure out yourself.Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12Posted by sweethearts
I feel sorry for you, this woman has you so twisted. You’ve thrown away your marriage and your children and you’ll never be enough for her. You can’t fix her and the sooner you see that you might be able to fix yourself and your own family.
Go see a councillor yourself, you do seem like a half decent guy.
I think I have come to the conclusion that me and my current partner will not work out she is all about her children not interested in mine and I put my all into her children . Because we are supposed to be taking time out she has separated mine and her children where as before they use to see each other every weekend . She has told me since they haven’t been seeing each other and staying over night etc they have been different children I.e better behaved now don’t get me wrong when all the kids are together they are a night mare but you make do because if you want to be with someone bad enough that’s what you do.
I said how will our future work out tho because if our children need to be away from each other now how on Earth are we ever going to live together.
She said they will be a lot older by then and when she said my kids start seeing hers again it will be when we go out on day trips and not at her house because she doesn’t want things getting dirty in her house and all this I don’t see a future here someone correct me if I’m wrong?
She had this massive problem like two weeks ago if any of you have seen my previous posts that My oldest daughter who’s with me full time who is from a relationship when I was 17 before my other two daughters and said she likes girls well my partner said I don’t want her around my child That is 8 years old and encouraging her to also be gay I understand to some point that she is just being a parent trying to protect her child however my daughter has the right to be what the fuck she wants .
My ex partner however (Sag like me) is still in the back ground seeing my oldest daughter as she was in her life for 8 years and I also have another two daughters with my ex so she stay around every now and then too see her siblings.
My current partner hates that she is still seeing her .
My ex partner said she broke off with this guy she was seeing because he didn’t like the fact she was still seeing my daughter but she said if you don’t like it I’m sorry we can’t be together so now there not also my ex partner excepts the fact my daughter wants to be what ever she wants to be.
Here’s the problem I cannot see a future now with my current partner (Gem) because of a lot of these things going on .
However I hurt my ex who I literally now know I had everything with the family life everything I just messed up thinking the grass was greener on the other side when in fact I should of respected the mother of my children. Since being with my partner she has opened my eyes to a lot of my wrong doings towards my ex partner and what I should and shouldn’t of done now I know.
Didn’t you also say that your ex and your relationship was really bad?
Get away from your current partner, seriously, everything you’ve said about her, she’s selfish and manipulative and doesn’t sound at all like a decent person. I can’t see how you can’t see it. Surely as you are writing everything down it’s smacking you in the face the type of person you are dealing with.
Are you thinking about trying to reconcile with your ex? You cheated on her with this other lady didn’t you?
When I say it was bad really I was bad it was my fault okay she wasn’t perfect like always on her phone not sitting next to each other on the night times I was just sat playing PlayStation not really interested I thought I could do what the fuck I wanted when I wanted but I was wrong I was out of order and everything that has happened since for my ex is all my fault she is in a way still sticking by me And my daughter even tho I have hurt her I felt like there was no escape from my past relationship with her as it become routine and I was moaning a lot at her for being on her phone for not cooking tea when I would come home from work and she be at home with the kids etc a lot of things like that but what I should of done was taking some time out not met a new person who I can now see doesn’t seem right for me or my kids .click to expand
You’ve jumped from the frying pan to the fire and now you’re thinking of jumping back into the frying pan??
Work on yourself, figure you out and then after that if you still think you want her back then court her all over again. Not by jumping in bed or back into the home, go out together on dates and spend time getting to know each other again, and fall back in love.
I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .
who tf needs all that grief in their life when they should be a better role model and raise children
yes, dump the baggage and be by yourself with your children who need a more stable environment
they won't be children forever and right now all you are teaching them is about stupid drama and not real life caring and helpful and loving people
yes, dump the baggage and be by yourself with your children who need a more stable environment
they won't be children forever and right now all you are teaching them is about stupid drama and not real life caring and helpful and loving people
Posted by Winters12I find that facing your fears head on is the best therapy, from there it only gets better.
I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .
Concentrate on your work and your children, sounds like one of them is confused and going to need your guidance.
Posted by sweetheartsYou are correct my oldest The 11year old is very confused at this moment in time she needs me as do my other children I do love my current partner (Gem) this is why it’s so hard I also have feelings there for my ex still when I chat to her we are always having a laugh and joking around etc it comes naturally. This is why it’s confusing me as well My mum is saying my current partner is lovely but there’s more to why she doesn’t want the kids at her house and Also cannot see it working out in the long run and my mums partner is saying look at how different they are as people where is my ex partner has always been their for my oldest daughter never had a problem with her living with us when we was together and also even offered to care for her full time because her mother is a waster !! she even puts my own kid down as her own what I mean by this is she will buy my daughter Christmas / birthday presents before even thinking about it Invite her for tea with our children have movie nights for them at a drop of a hat she cares for my oldest daughter a lot and she wouldn’t care if she decided to be lesbian or what ever the hell she wanted to be but she is a little funny at times and never use to make me tea after work when I come home some times I even had to make the kids tea with mine on the evening after work when she use to sit at home with the kids all day and use to get a little funny with me going out with my mates to football/soccer on the weekend and she also use to moan a lot at me after work if I didn’t want to go out because she had been stuck in the same 4 walls all day long when that isn't my fault She never had any enthusiasm inside of her no get up and go and never really wanted to pay her way when it come to visiting her family far away Etc however when it came to my daughter she was more than brilliant! My current partner is good with my children however she has been alone for so long that it feels like it’s just all about her and her children I have always put my all into her children no matter what and what I should of been doing was putting it into my children anyway the indications are there too see she’s very clever with her words trying to make me feel like I’m wrong or that she has done no wrong what so ever she can’t accept that my ex is still in contact with my family members but she was apart of our family for 8/9 years and all my partners response to that is how would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot and my ex was around my family etc no I wouldn’t like it no body would however have I done stuff about it yes I have I have spoken to my ex about it and my family to make it easier but sometimes it still happens I cannot control my family’s life neither should I and I cannot control my ex partner either so my hands are tied what can I do nothing .Posted by Winters12
I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .
I find that facing your fears head on is the best therapy, from there it only gets better.
Concentrate on your work and your children, sounds like one of them is confused and going to need your guidance.click to expand
Posted by Winters12Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12
I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .
I find that facing your fears head on is the best therapy, from there it only gets better.
Concentrate on your work and your children, sounds like one of them is confused and going to need your guidance.
You are correct my oldest The 11year old is very confused at this moment in time she needs me as do my other children I do love my current partner (Gem) this is why it’s so hard I also have feelings there for my ex still when I chat to her we are always having a laugh and joking around etc it comes naturally. This is why it’s confusing me as well My mum is saying my current partner is lovely but there’s more to why she doesn’t want the kids at her house and Also cannot see it working out in the long run and my mums partner is saying look at how different they are as people where is my ex partner has always been their for my oldest daughter never had a problem with her living with us when we was together and also even offered to care for her full time because her mother is a waster !! she even puts my own kid down as her own what I mean by this is she will buy my daughter Christmas / birthday presents before even thinking about it Invite her for tea with our children have movie nights for them at a drop of a hat she cares for my oldest daughter a lot and she wouldn’t care if she decided to be lesbian or what ever the hell she wanted to be but she is a little funny at times and never use to make me tea after work when I come home some times I even had to make the kids tea with mine on the evening after work when she use to sit at home with the kids all day and use to get a little funny with me going out with my mates to football/soccer on the weekend and she also use to moan a lot at me after work if I didn’t want to go out because she had been stuck in the same 4 walls all day long when that isn't my fault She never had any enthusiasm inside of her no get up and go and never really wanted to pay her way when it come to visiting her family far away Etc however when it came to my daughter she was more than brilliant! My current partner is good with my children however she has been alone for so long that it feels like it’s just all about her and her children I have always put my all into her children no matter what and what I should of been doing was putting it into my children anyway the indications are there too see she’s very clever with her words trying to make me feel like I’m wrong or that she has done no wrong what so ever she can’t accept that my ex is still in contact with my family members but she was apart of our family for 8/9 years and all my partners response to that is how would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot and my ex was around my family etc no I wouldn’t like it no body would however have I done stuff about it yes I have I have spoken to my ex about it and my family to make it easier but sometimes it still happens I cannot control my family’s life neither should I and I cannot control my ex partner either so my hands are tied what can I do nothing .click to expand
The relationship your ex has with your family is hers. As long as she isn’t there all the time and when you are there if it makes you uncomfortable. I say that because I have my own relationship with my ex in laws. But, I also have a friendly relationship with my ex’s wife, even if she didn’t like me or the fact that I was apart of their lives at times, there isn’t anything she could do about it and my ex-husband isn’t bothered by it at all.
Nothing you’ve said about your partner has any merit to her being a nice person at all. Wake up! When’s she’s done with you, she’ll burn you financially if you stay the legal distance!
No one is perfect, when we raise children we lose motivation and don’t feel good about ourselves. You guys work, not saying it’s easy but you do have a life outside those walls where we have to recreate ourselves as people, as well as a mother and a wife when we are exhausted. If she doesn’t easily make friends or have a friendship group it’s easy to give up. And, If she knew you were cheating, maybe that’s why she wasn’t cooking for you. Ffs man, I’d do more than that. I’d plot my own revenge and you wouldn’t know what hit you until it did, you and your little slut!! Trust me, you got off lightly there!
At the end of the day, you now know the person your partner is and it’s only a matter of time before you split, sounds like she is making excuses and opening the door for you. So choice is yours, stay and be treated like a door mat, you’ve made your bed, lie in it or leave and slam the door shut in her face!
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12
I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .
I find that facing your fears head on is the best therapy, from there it only gets better.
Concentrate on your work and your children, sounds like one of them is confused and going to need your guidance.
You are correct my oldest The 11year old is very confused at this moment in time she needs me as do my other children I do love my current partner (Gem) this is why it’s so hard I also have feelings there for my ex still when I chat to her we are always having a laugh and joking around etc it comes naturally. This is why it’s confusing me as well My mum is saying my current partner is lovely but there’s more to why she doesn’t want the kids at her house and Also cannot see it working out in the long run and my mums partner is saying look at how different they are as people where is my ex partner has always been their for my oldest daughter never had a problem with her living with us when we was together and also even offered to care for her full time because her mother is a waster !! she even puts my own kid down as her own what I mean by this is she will buy my daughter Christmas / birthday presents before even thinking about it Invite her for tea with our children have movie nights for them at a drop of a hat she cares for my oldest daughter a lot and she wouldn’t care if she decided to be lesbian or what ever the hell she wanted to be but she is a little funny at times and never use to make me tea after work when I come home some times I even had to make the kids tea with mine on the evening after work when she use to sit at home with the kids all day and use to get a little funny with me going out with my mates to football/soccer on the weekend and she also use to moan a lot at me after work if I didn’t want to go out because she had been stuck in the same 4 walls all day long when that isn't my fault She never had any enthusiasm inside of her no get up and go and never really wanted to pay her way when it come to visiting her family far away Etc however when it came to my daughter she was more than brilliant! My current partner is good with my children however she has been alone for so long that it feels like it’s just all about her and her children I have always put my all into her children no matter what and what I should of been doing was putting it into my children anyway the indications are there too see she’s very clever with her words trying to make me feel like I’m wrong or that she has done no wrong what so ever she can’t accept that my ex is still in contact with my family members but she was apart of our family for 8/9 years and all my partners response to that is how would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot and my ex was around my family etc no I wouldn’t like it no body would however have I done stuff about it yes I have I have spoken to my ex about it and my family to make it easier but sometimes it still happens I cannot control my family’s life neither should I and I cannot control my ex partner either so my hands are tied what can I do nothing .
The relationship your ex has with your family is hers. As long as she isn’t there all the time and when you are there if it makes you uncomfortable. I say that because I have my own relationship with my ex in laws. But, I also have a friendly relationship with my ex’s wife, even if she didn’t like me or the fact that I was apart of their lives at times, there isn’t anything she could do about it and my ex-husband isn’t bothered by it at all.
Nothing you’ve said about your partner has any merit to her being a nice person at all. Wake up! When’s she’s done with you, she’ll burn you financially if you stay the legal distance!
No one is perfect, when we raise children we lose motivation and don’t feel good about ourselves. You guys work, not saying it’s easy but you do have a life outside those walls where we have to recreate ourselves as people, as well as a mother and a wife when we are exhausted. If she doesn’t easily make friends or have a friendship group it’s easy to give up. And, If she knew you were cheating, maybe that’s why she wasn’t cooking for you. Ffs man, I’d do more than that. I’d plot my own revenge and you wouldn’t know what hit you until it did, you and your little slut!! Trust me, you got off lightly there!
At the end of the day, you now know the person your partner is and it’s only a matter of time before you split, sounds like she is making excuses and opening the door for you. So choice is yours, stay and be treated like a door mat, you’ve made your bed, lie in it or leave and slam the door shut in her face!click to expand
I wasn’t cheating on her I cheated once and left as I couldn’t hurt her anymore I was totally wrong !! Your right tho
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12
I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .
I find that facing your fears head on is the best therapy, from there it only gets better.
Concentrate on your work and your children, sounds like one of them is confused and going to need your guidance.
You are correct my oldest The 11year old is very confused at this moment in time she needs me as do my other children I do love my current partner (Gem) this is why it’s so hard I also have feelings there for my ex still when I chat to her we are always having a laugh and joking around etc it comes naturally. This is why it’s confusing me as well My mum is saying my current partner is lovely but there’s more to why she doesn’t want the kids at her house and Also cannot see it working out in the long run and my mums partner is saying look at how different they are as people where is my ex partner has always been their for my oldest daughter never had a problem with her living with us when we was together and also even offered to care for her full time because her mother is a waster !! she even puts my own kid down as her own what I mean by this is she will buy my daughter Christmas / birthday presents before even thinking about it Invite her for tea with our children have movie nights for them at a drop of a hat she cares for my oldest daughter a lot and she wouldn’t care if she decided to be lesbian or what ever the hell she wanted to be but she is a little funny at times and never use to make me tea after work when I come home some times I even had to make the kids tea with mine on the evening after work when she use to sit at home with the kids all day and use to get a little funny with me going out with my mates to football/soccer on the weekend and she also use to moan a lot at me after work if I didn’t want to go out because she had been stuck in the same 4 walls all day long when that isn't my fault She never had any enthusiasm inside of her no get up and go and never really wanted to pay her way when it come to visiting her family far away Etc however when it came to my daughter she was more than brilliant! My current partner is good with my children however she has been alone for so long that it feels like it’s just all about her and her children I have always put my all into her children no matter what and what I should of been doing was putting it into my children anyway the indications are there too see she’s very clever with her words trying to make me feel like I’m wrong or that she has done no wrong what so ever she can’t accept that my ex is still in contact with my family members but she was apart of our family for 8/9 years and all my partners response to that is how would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot and my ex was around my family etc no I wouldn’t like it no body would however have I done stuff about it yes I have I have spoken to my ex about it and my family to make it easier but sometimes it still happens I cannot control my family’s life neither should I and I cannot control my ex partner either so my hands are tied what can I do nothing .
The relationship your ex has with your family is hers. As long as she isn’t there all the time and when you are there if it makes you uncomfortable. I say that because I have my own relationship with my ex in laws. But, I also have a friendly relationship with my ex’s wife, even if she didn’t like me or the fact that I was apart of their lives at times, there isn’t anything she could do about it and my ex-husband isn’t bothered by it at all.
Nothing you’ve said about your partner has any merit to her being a nice person at all. Wake up! When’s she’s done with you, she’ll burn you financially if you stay the legal distance!
No one is perfect, when we raise children we lose motivation and don’t feel good about ourselves. You guys work, not saying it’s easy but you do have a life outside those walls where we have to recreate ourselves as people, as well as a mother and a wife when we are exhausted. If she doesn’t easily make friends or have a friendship group it’s easy to give up. And, If she knew you were cheating, maybe that’s why she wasn’t cooking for you. Ffs man, I’d do more than that. I’d plot my own revenge and you wouldn’t know what hit you until it did, you and your little slut!! Trust me, you got off lightly there!
At the end of the day, you now know the person your partner is and it’s only a matter of time before you split, sounds like she is making excuses and opening the door for you. So choice is yours, stay and be treated like a door mat, you’ve made your bed, lie in it or leave and slam the door shut in her face!click to expand
We sat down last night and have had a chat,
She has told me she is 100% committed to me and my children and she has made a few good points her end.
She is currently struggling with her children at the moment as she is raising them on her own however I try to help when ever I can.
She has told me at this moment in time she cannot committee to my child arrangements hence why she suggested that we keep the kids apart for a little bit until hers start to behave and have that routine back and because she needs to sort her own children out first they are unsettled and out of routine due to her moving house and sorting her child arrangements through court with her ex partner etc .
I have made it clear that my children come first and that they come with me as a package and she has said she’ll never leave them out and completely understood that when we got together, whenever we come to live together it wouldn’t be a problem them staying with us over night every other weekend as that is my arrangements anyway .
So last night I went to hers and soon as she opened the door I just wanted to laugh and she told me so did she but I held it in tho and so did she because we was both still upset I just felt complete love for her soon as I seen her and once we talked about things and straightened them out things got a little heated under the sheets and the connection we had was unreal she told me she thought she was going to loose me and that I was going to break it off with her and I did consider it however once we sat and spoke we both realised that we haven’t really shown each other much respect lately and have been expecting too much of each other so soon in the relationship ! I love this lady because she is fair but we just see things differently at times and get our wires crossed and I do feel she can also be unfair at times but so can I, I am far from perfect and I get a lot of things wrong . I seen my ex also with my children and I do miss them a lot however when speaking with my ex I can’t really look her in the eye anymore the spark I had with her is there one moment and gone the next I am pretty confused myself but I do know I love my partner.
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12
I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .
I find that facing your fears head on is the best therapy, from there it only gets better.
Concentrate on your work and your children, sounds like one of them is confused and going to need your guidance.
You are correct my oldest The 11year old is very confused at this moment in time she needs me as do my other children I do love my current partner (Gem) this is why it’s so hard I also have feelings there for my ex still when I chat to her we are always having a laugh and joking around etc it comes naturally. This is why it’s confusing me as well My mum is saying my current partner is lovely but there’s more to why she doesn’t want the kids at her house and Also cannot see it working out in the long run and my mums partner is saying look at how different they are as people where is my ex partner has always been their for my oldest daughter never had a problem with her living with us when we was together and also even offered to care for her full time because her mother is a waster !! she even puts my own kid down as her own what I mean by this is she will buy my daughter Christmas / birthday presents before even thinking about it Invite her for tea with our children have movie nights for them at a drop of a hat she cares for my oldest daughter a lot and she wouldn’t care if she decided to be lesbian or what ever the hell she wanted to be but she is a little funny at times and never use to make me tea after work when I come home some times I even had to make the kids tea with mine on the evening after work when she use to sit at home with the kids all day and use to get a little funny with me going out with my mates to football/soccer on the weekend and she also use to moan a lot at me after work if I didn’t want to go out because she had been stuck in the same 4 walls all day long when that isn't my fault She never had any enthusiasm inside of her no get up and go and never really wanted to pay her way when it come to visiting her family far away Etc however when it came to my daughter she was more than brilliant! My current partner is good with my children however she has been alone for so long that it feels like it’s just all about her and her children I have always put my all into her children no matter what and what I should of been doing was putting it into my children anyway the indications are there too see she’s very clever with her words trying to make me feel like I’m wrong or that she has done no wrong what so ever she can’t accept that my ex is still in contact with my family members but she was apart of our family for 8/9 years and all my partners response to that is how would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot and my ex was around my family etc no I wouldn’t like it no body would however have I done stuff about it yes I have I have spoken to my ex about it and my family to make it easier but sometimes it still happens I cannot control my family’s life neither should I and I cannot control my ex partner either so my hands are tied what can I do nothing .
The relationship your ex has with your family is hers. As long as she isn’t there all the time and when you are there if it makes you uncomfortable. I say that because I have my own relationship with my ex in laws. But, I also have a friendly relationship with my ex’s wife, even if she didn’t like me or the fact that I was apart of their lives at times, there isn’t anything she could do about it and my ex-husband isn’t bothered by it at all.
Nothing you’ve said about your partner has any merit to her being a nice person at all. Wake up! When’s she’s done with you, she’ll burn you financially if you stay the legal distance!
No one is perfect, when we raise children we lose motivation and don’t feel good about ourselves. You guys work, not saying it’s easy but you do have a life outside those walls where we have to recreate ourselves as people, as well as a mother and a wife when we are exhausted. If she doesn’t easily make friends or have a friendship group it’s easy to give up. And, If she knew you were cheating, maybe that’s why she wasn’t cooking for you. Ffs man, I’d do more than that. I’d plot my own revenge and you wouldn’t know what hit you until it did, you and your little slut!! Trust me, you got off lightly there!
At the end of the day, you now know the person your partner is and it’s only a matter of time before you split, sounds like she is making excuses and opening the door for you. So choice is yours, stay and be treated like a door mat, you’ve made your bed, lie in it or leave and slam the door shut in her face!click to expand
I am interested to know what you meant by sounds like she’s opening the door for me ? Because she was in tears pleading with me last night .
Posted by Winters12It’s good that you’re communicating, keep that up and don’t under any circumstances take any crap about your children and those arrangements or her insecurities with your ex visiting your family, she is the mother of your children and not Abusive like her ex so she needs to learn to deal with that.Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Winters12
I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .
I find that facing your fears head on is the best therapy, from there it only gets better.
Concentrate on your work and your children, sounds like one of them is confused and going to need your guidance.
You are correct my oldest The 11year old is very confused at this moment in time she needs me as do my other children I do love my current partner (Gem) this is why it’s so hard I also have feelings there for my ex still when I chat to her we are always having a laugh and joking around etc it comes naturally. This is why it’s confusing me as well My mum is saying my current partner is lovely but there’s more to why she doesn’t want the kids at her house and Also cannot see it working out in the long run and my mums partner is saying look at how different they are as people where is my ex partner has always been their for my oldest daughter never had a problem with her living with us when we was together and also even offered to care for her full time because her mother is a waster !! she even puts my own kid down as her own what I mean by this is she will buy my daughter Christmas / birthday presents before even thinking about it Invite her for tea with our children have movie nights for them at a drop of a hat she cares for my oldest daughter a lot and she wouldn’t care if she decided to be lesbian or what ever the hell she wanted to be but she is a little funny at times and never use to make me tea after work when I come home some times I even had to make the kids tea with mine on the evening after work when she use to sit at home with the kids all day and use to get a little funny with me going out with my mates to football/soccer on the weekend and she also use to moan a lot at me after work if I didn’t want to go out because she had been stuck in the same 4 walls all day long when that isn't my fault She never had any enthusiasm inside of her no get up and go and never really wanted to pay her way when it come to visiting her family far away Etc however when it came to my daughter she was more than brilliant! My current partner is good with my children however she has been alone for so long that it feels like it’s just all about her and her children I have always put my all into her children no matter what and what I should of been doing was putting it into my children anyway the indications are there too see she’s very clever with her words trying to make me feel like I’m wrong or that she has done no wrong what so ever she can’t accept that my ex is still in contact with my family members but she was apart of our family for 8/9 years and all my partners response to that is how would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot and my ex was around my family etc no I wouldn’t like it no body would however have I done stuff about it yes I have I have spoken to my ex about it and my family to make it easier but sometimes it still happens I cannot control my family’s life neither should I and I cannot control my ex partner either so my hands are tied what can I do nothing .
The relationship your ex has with your family is hers. As long as she isn’t there all the time and when you are there if it makes you uncomfortable. I say that because I have my own relationship with my ex in laws. But, I also have a friendly relationship with my ex’s wife, even if she didn’t like me or the fact that I was apart of their lives at times, there isn’t anything she could do about it and my ex-husband isn’t bothered by it at all.
Nothing you’ve said about your partner has any merit to her being a nice person at all. Wake up! When’s she’s done with you, she’ll burn you financially if you stay the legal distance!
No one is perfect, when we raise children we lose motivation and don’t feel good about ourselves. You guys work, not saying it’s easy but you do have a life outside those walls where we have to recreate ourselves as people, as well as a mother and a wife when we are exhausted. If she doesn’t easily make friends or have a friendship group it’s easy to give up. And, If she knew you were cheating, maybe that’s why she wasn’t cooking for you. Ffs man, I’d do more than that. I’d plot my own revenge and you wouldn’t know what hit you until it did, you and your little slut!! Trust me, you got off lightly there!
At the end of the day, you now know the person your partner is and it’s only a matter of time before you split, sounds like she is making excuses and opening the door for you. So choice is yours, stay and be treated like a door mat, you’ve made your bed, lie in it or leave and slam the door shut in her face!
We sat down last night and have had a chat,
She has told me she is 100% committed to me and my children and she has made a few good points her end.
She is currently struggling with her children at the moment as she is raising them on her own however I try to help when ever I can.
She has told me at this moment in time she cannot committee to my child arrangements hence why she suggested that we keep the kids apart for a little bit until hers start to behave and have that routine back and because she needs to sort her own children out first they are unsettled and out of routine due to her moving house and sorting her child arrangements through court with her ex partner etc .
I have made it clear that my children come first and that they come with me as a package and she has said she’ll never leave them out and completely understood that when we got together, whenever we come to live together it wouldn’t be a problem them staying with us over night every other weekend as that is my arrangements anyway .
So last night I went to hers and soon as she opened the door I just wanted to laugh and she told me so did she but I held it in tho and so did she because we was both still upset I just felt complete love for her soon as I seen her and once we talked about things and straightened them out things got a little heated under the sheets and the connection we had was unreal she told me she thought she was going to loose me and that I was going to break it off with her and I did consider it however once we sat and spoke we both realised that we haven’t really shown each other much respect lately and have been expecting too much of each other so soon in the relationship ! I love this lady because she is fair but we just see things differently at times and get our wires crossed and I do feel she can also be unfair at times but so can I, I am far from perfect and I get a lot of things wrong . I seen my ex also with my children and I do miss them a lot however when speaking with my ex I can’t really look her in the eye anymore the spark I had with her is there one moment and gone the next I am pretty confused myself but I do know I love my partner.click to expand
Stop doing too much for her too, keep it around the 50/50 - 60/40 mark.
When you find your coming to strangers on a forum for so much advice, that is when you should be confronting her and airing out your differences. Good luck moving forward, I hope you are not still confused and I do hope she sees what she has been like and changes her ways.
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