Have I lost her ?

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by Winters12 on Thursday, August 27, 2020 and has 34 replies.
I am a Sagittarius male and I have a Gemini lady as a partner I need to know if I have lost her she’s asking me to go to my mums and has said that I have lost her but in another breath told me she needs space because I have lied to her and I have held my hands up to it I haven’t been honest and told her a lot of things because I was trying to protect our relationship but I’m return I have destroyed it because I wasn’t honest I really love her and I don’t know what to do she is perfect in every way I need to know what a Gemini would be thinking now and what to expect she loves me as well and keeps saying it breaks her heart etc she said she may feel different in a few days when she misses me but I really love her and I have made a huge mistake I didn’t tell her about thing that my ex have text me because my ex is still going on days out with my family and my partner the Gemini strongly dislikes it and I get why but it leads us to argue so I thought it would be easier until it blew over for me to stop saying things to her and now I have fucked it all up please help 🥺
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Why is your ex going out with your family?

At same time, your Gemini shouldnt worry about your ex unless you have given her a reason to worry.

Give her the space she asks for, take that time to self reflect and let her know in a considerable timeframe that you have improved your mindset and behaviour.

My daughter is Gemini and she is very forgiving by nature because she understands people do f*ck up from time to time. Dont know if this counts for Gemini in general tho. She feels that, as long as you own up to your own missteps, she can forgive. Perhaps thats the same for your Gemini.
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Posted by Winters12

I am a Sagittarius male and I have a Gemini lady as a partner I need to know if I have lost her she’s asking me to go to my mums and has said that I have lost her but in another breath told me she needs space because I have lied to her and I have held my hands up to it I haven’t been honest and told her a lot of things because I was trying to protect our relationship but I’m return I have destroyed it because I wasn’t honest I really love her and I don’t know what to do she is perfect in every way I need to know what a Gemini would be thinking now and what to expect she loves me as well and keeps saying it breaks her heart etc she said she may feel different in a few days when she misses me but I really love her and I have made a huge mistake I didn’t tell her about thing that my ex have text me because my ex is still going on days out with my family and my partner the Gemini strongly dislikes it and I get why but it leads us to argue so I thought it would be easier until it blew over for me to stop saying things to her and now I have fucked it all up please help 🥺
As gemini..

I will do the same also..

You should take an action

Make she believes that there's nothing happened with your ex and your family..

You are a fire sign.. take a brave and smart decision to proof your love.

Or you can try to make your gemini close with your family also..

She will play some brain games..

But you should proof that you serious with your love and your decision.

Don't be too pushy

If she need times.. give..

I'm sure she will come back.

Thank me later 👍
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I hope I can make it right I fucked up I haven’t gave her reason to worry she’s just always worried think it’s a past insecurity of hers any way I haven’t been up front and kept things quiet as I didn’t want us to full out also my ex I have children with her and my family like to keep in touch because of the children she doesn’t trust me now and I get why . I duno what to do I really think she could be everything,
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Posted by Winters12

I am a Sagittarius male and I have a Gemini lady as a partner I need to know if I have lost her she’s asking me to go to my mums and has said that I have lost her but in another breath told me she needs space because I have lied to her and I have held my hands up to it I haven’t been honest and told her a lot of things because I was trying to protect our relationship but I’m return I have destroyed it because I wasn’t honest I really love her and I don’t know what to do she is perfect in every way I need to know what a Gemini would be thinking now and what to expect she loves me as well and keeps saying it breaks her heart etc she said she may feel different in a few days when she misses me but I really love her and I have made a huge mistake I didn’t tell her about thing that my ex have text me because my ex is still going on days out with my family and my partner the Gemini strongly dislikes it and I get why but it leads us to argue so I thought it would be easier until it blew over for me to stop saying things to her and now I have fucked it all up please help 🥺


As gemini..

I will do the same also..

You should take an action

Make she believes that there's nothing happened with your ex and your family..

You are a fire sign.. take a brave and smart decision to proof your love.

Or you can try to make your gemini close with your family also..

She will play some brain games..

But you should proof that you serious with your love and your decision.

Don't be too pushy

If she need times.. give..

I'm sure she will come back.

Thank me later 👍
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In what way could I do this tho ? Please
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What did you lie about?
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Stupid stuff like it was my little girls birthday my child who I have with my ex and she was meeting up with my sister to go to mc Donald’s etc but it didn’t tell my partner as I know she gets very pissed off with it if she hears thing about my ex spending time with my family so I thought it would be easier to not say anything and deal with it my self I know I have dealt with it wrongly but i was just trying to save us from falling out as I really love her .
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How is lying about an ex being involved with you and your family ‘protecting the relationship’. It’s not. It’s protecting your own ass.

‘I hope I can make it right I fucked up I haven’t gave her reason to worry she’s just always worried think it’s a past insecurity of hers’

Or maybe she’s insecure because you keep withholding and hiding things from her! Take some responsibility for your actions here because this situation is of your own making.
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Posted by LadyNeptune

How is lying about an ex being involved with you and your family ‘protecting the relationship’. It’s not. It’s protecting your own ass.

‘I hope I can make it right I fucked up I haven’t gave her reason to worry she’s just always worried think it’s a past insecurity of hers’

Or maybe she’s insecure because you keep withholding and hiding things from her! Take some responsibility for your actions here because this situation is of your own making.

Your right I should do I know o have ducked up can I win her back tho because I really love her .
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Omg..

It's so complicated

And you should not lie from beginning

Even without being a gemini every girl must be fucked up by that fact.

You can try to explain why you lie before

And tell everything to her even the things that she didn't know. And if it's real you did that to protecting her feelings.. give the valid and good reason also..

You can try..

And admit if you were wrong

I'm not really sure it will works actually

The problem is too complicated

But you can try.
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And promise to be honest from now also
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I know she will want me to leave in the morning I just don’t know what to do now as I don’t want to loose her at all but I don’t want to be clingy .
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Because we had a drink together on the night and she said I wouldn’t let you drive and I wouldn’t anyway we do not live together but I have been staying with her for a quite a while I just want to make it work I really don’t want to loose her .
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She also has two children from a previous relationship and is going through legal stuff with arrangements etc with the ex partner being abusive etc I have lied about this stuff I except that and I know I shouldn’t of acted this way it’s unfair on her when she’s been nothing but perfect to me .
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Posted by LadyNeptune

How is lying about an ex being involved with you and your family ‘protecting the relationship’. It’s not. It’s protecting your own ass.

‘I hope I can make it right I fucked up I haven’t gave her reason to worry she’s just always worried think it’s a past insecurity of hers’

Or maybe she’s insecure because you keep withholding and hiding things from her! Take some responsibility for your actions here because this situation is of your own making.
This right here.. I agree with. Geminis are very loving and loyal. They can justify almost anything because they get situations, but your crap is some straight garbage...

Besides, if you loved her you wouldn't let your family or your ex be existing factors in your relationship. You can't be one couple with a group of people involved.
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Posted by GemiAwesomeAss
Posted by Winters12

She also has two children from a previous relationship and is going through legal stuff with arrangements etc with the ex partner being abusive etc I have lied about this stuff I except that and I know I shouldn’t of acted this way it’s unfair on her when she’s been nothing but perfect to me .


Hold back and think...why is she want you to leave? What did you actually do that is a deal breaker for her?
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It’s a deal breaker because I lied and didn’t tell her things the only reason I did was to avoid confrontation with her as I love her and all I want is for us to get along and have a peaceful life but in fact I have destroyed her trust and I think the relationship.
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Posted by Hypnotoad

Go to your moms that's good advice, she will feed you and you'll realise these bishes ain't shit.

What do you mean by your comment?
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Ffs, you need to learn that if you have children with someone else they will be in yours and your families lives forever!! There will be birthdays Christmases weddings holidays and relatives.

If she is that insecure about all that she’s probably not the right person for you. You shouldn’t be hiding it either. Grow some balls! Your family have a right to be in your children’s lives and you should be putting them and their needs ahead of a bit of pussy! How would she react if you dared to have a say about her children and who they spend time with.

Once again grow some balls or she’ll lead you around by them until you do. Have you heard the term blood is thicker than water?
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She also has two children from a previous relationship and is going through legal stuff with arrangements etc with the ex partner being abusive etc I have lied about this stuff I except that and I know I shouldn’t of acted this way it’s unfair on her when she’s been nothing but perfect to me .


Hold back and think...why is she want you to leave? What did you actually do that is a deal breaker for her?

It’s a deal breaker because I lied and didn’t tell her things the only reason I did was to avoid confrontation with her as I love her and all I want is for us to get along and have a peaceful life but in fact I have destroyed her trust and I think the relationship.


You didn’t tell her that your ex will be at your kid bday with your family?? I am failing to see betrayal.

What’s the big deal? Please explain. I am in your side but it seems I am the only one. Even you aren’t on your side.:🤷‍♀️
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So my ex planned a birthday party at my dads house and I didn’t go because I want my ex away from my family and out of respect for my partner I said I am not going it’s not right that my ex is still hanging around like everything use to be so I know how much it hurts my partner when she hears about things like this so when she asked me where is she throwing my child’s birthday I said I don’t know but I did know I lied because I wanted her to not judge my family or for her to feel like an outsider all the time etc do you understand .
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Posted by Hypnotoad
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Go to your moms that's good advice, she will feed you and you'll realise these bishes ain't shit.

What do you mean by your comment?


Absolutely nothing.
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I mean I don’t understand what you mean by this bishes ain’t shit ?
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She also has two children from a previous relationship and is going through legal stuff with arrangements etc with the ex partner being abusive etc I have lied about this stuff I except that and I know I shouldn’t of acted this way it’s unfair on her when she’s been nothing but perfect to me .


Hold back and think...why is she want you to leave? What did you actually do that is a deal breaker for her?

It’s a deal breaker because I lied and didn’t tell her things the only reason I did was to avoid confrontation with her as I love her and all I want is for us to get along and have a peaceful life but in fact I have destroyed her trust and I think the relationship.


You didn’t tell her that your ex will be at your kid bday with your family?? I am failing to see betrayal.

What’s the big deal? Please explain. I am in your side but it seems I am the only one. Even you aren’t on your side.:🤷‍♀️

So my ex planned a birthday party at my dads house and I didn’t go because I want my ex away from my family and out of respect for my partner I said I am not going it’s not right that my ex is still hanging around like everything use to be so I know how much it hurts my partner when she hears about things like this so when she asked me where is she throwing my child’s birthday I said I don’t know but I did know I lied because I wanted her to not judge my family or for her to feel like an outsider all the time etc do you understand .


I don’t understand her reaction. If she is real and carring as you saying she would understand your hesitation. And your ex will be in your life forever because of kids. And Gem has her own kids...had she taken her exes parents out of her kids life? 🤷‍♀️
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No because her ex’s parents do not bother with her children at all as they are not very nice people .
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I done something my self for my child when it was my day to have her . I didn’t take my partner or myself as my dad and his partner have no accepted me and my new partner because of the way I left my ex partner so we are not really on talking terms at the moment .
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Just so you all understand the situation I am not usually one to air all my business however I feel it’s sort of relevant now so here goes I have 3 children my partner also has children two of them to be precise. Now I left my ex partner after trying for years to be happy I talked it out countless times over and over but still it didn’t work so I left like I said I would eventually. Some of my family members did not agree with the way I left my ex it was wrong of me I hold my hands up . I work in a school and I left my ex for a lady who is now my partner in the same school as I was very unhappy . So my ex is meeting up with my family members still And my partner does not like it as she says it feel as if she’s sharing me and I sort of get it however when I have approached my family about stop meeting with her they openly have said it’s only because of my kids otherwise they wouldn’t associate with my ex . Now while all this is going on when I started this relationship I was getting constant abuse from my partners ex who she has children with saying he’s going to beat me up bust my noes etc he was also kicking in my partners front door at one point . I hope your keeping up with this 🤣 anyway she has a injunction put on him now he’s not aloud to contact her and it’s going through court with the child arrangements he doesn’t buy his own kids birthday or Christmas presents etc he’s not a nice person at all . So I am completely different I have spent endless days with them and treated them like my own loved them like my own children and putting massive amounts of time and effort because that’s what you do when you take on other kids however in doing so I think I have left my own kids in the back seat a little bit .heres where the confrontation comes from my partner does not like the fact that my ex partner is still going around my dads meeting up on days out with my sisters and three children planing our children’s birthday party’s around my dads house etc so I tried to stop the confrontation and stopped telling her things and lied about them so we would get along and have a easy life together because that is all I want and wanted !! Nothing else really mattered in my head and i just fault with time my dad would come to terms with me and my new partner and my ex would fade out however because I lied my Gemini partner now want me to leave and go to my mums and probably break up because of it I hope this has given you all a clearer picture of my situation.
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What a tangled mess you’ve weaved for yourself. Everything that is happening is because you did this the wrong way. You crossed over the relationship which has put you in this position instead of ending things first and then working on yourself before moving in with this other woman. Had you taken some time to yourself first you would have more perspective on what is more important and that is your own children. Now you’re fathering someone else’s before your own and sounds like Your jumping into another relationship that isn’t going to work.

All you care about is fixing something that shouldn’t be this broken in such a short time. Good luck, can’t see a happy ending here, way too much drama in the beginning.
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So if I understand this correctly, your children visits your family with your ex while you're with your Gemini and her children. Is that correct??

If so you might be able to fix this. I just want to make sure I'm understanding this right.
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Betrayal sucks when we’re honest with a person,

It’s one of the most disappointing feels

The heart grows fonder for a person with distance

Let her and time decide, respect her wish
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I have been out with her today but we have barley said 10 words to each other and I am still here at the moment she try’s not to make eye contact with me at the moment and she just stares out the window of the car by the way I do not live with her she has her own place and so do I but we was talking about living together as she’s getting a new house and in the future get married she said how could she marry me now and also has said I think we should live alone at the moment but on the other hand asked me if I am going out with her to the shops etc I duno what’s going to happen to us .
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I have been out with her today but we have barley said 10 words to each other and I am still here at the moment she try’s not to make eye contact with me at the moment and she just stares out the window of the car by the way I do not live with her she has her own place and so do I but we was talking about living together as she’s getting a new house and in the future get married she said how could she marry me now and also has said I think we should live alone at the moment but on the other hand asked me if I am going out with her to the shops etc I duno what’s going to happen to us .
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I have been to the shops etc with her this morning but hardly talking at all and looking miserable I fee terrible and I duno what to do now .
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I hope I can make it right I fucked up I haven’t gave her reason to worry she’s just always worried think it’s a past insecurity of hers any way I haven’t been up front and kept things quiet as I didn’t want us to full out also my ex I have children with her and my family like to keep in touch because of the children she doesn’t trust me now and I get why . I duno what to do I really think she could be everything,


She sounds like a person who can't handle the fact that you have a child. And you didn't help with hiding something that is 100% normal. You sound so desperate to be with her on the expense of your kid. What will happen when you for example have bd party for your kid? Mother should not be invited?


Technically YES - he CAN have a kid party at HIS parents house without his ex being invited. Just because he is there with his new partner...it’s his child and his parents and his new partner and his new life! He DOES have rights to do that.

It would be better if all could be together but it’s not always possible IF his ex and him not friends.

So...man simply a whipped wimp. Too stressed out. Too scared. And value this woman too much.

See...he never said he knows she is weing and a bitch about his kids...🤔


Technically they could all be at the party. But lets make life more complicated than it already is. The op's attitude is the biggest problem.


I think he said him and ex not on speaking terms.

And remember - she was abusive...

So I can see why they can’t be at the party together. Not everyone is capable of booking vacation for an ex and his new wife as I do...😂😂😂

So IF they aren’t agreeing on togetherness - ex need to butt out! But Gem needs to grow up or begone!


I read just couple of first posts, had no idea the bd party was actually a topic later lol!

Now i read the rest. She wasn't abusive her ex's partner was and to him too, i think. He was just unhappy and left the woman with 3 kids to be with this woman who is making him even more miserable.

I have no idea, it's a mess. Both are a mess.
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You are correct
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She is laughing at the topic with me trying to

Talk it out with her all she sees is that I have lied nothing else hasn’t asked her self why or brought me to lie in the first place and by the way it was because she would always fly off the Handel every dam time my ex’s name would come up I never gave her anything

To worry about until now when I lied but I done it to protect her feelings and is having conflicts in the relationship I’m sick to death of it she’s saying she wants to be with me when I ask her but I am not convinced at all and also just one more thing I would watch her children for her when she would go to the gym etc and because I mentioned playing football one evening she didn’t like it and said she couldn’t rely on me etc and now she’s saying there’s no more ties so don’t ask me to have your kids if you go to football and she now can take her kids to the gym with her like wtf is going on !!
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Posted by Winters12

I have been to the shops etc with her this morning but hardly talking at all and looking miserable I fee terrible and I duno what to do now .


It’s a game she is playing. Being upset and all...

If she is like me - that shit needs to boil stink out of it all by itself.

You talking to her now will produce anger outcome. So wait until she talks...she is probably going to jump on you or cry about how wrong you were...and this is a moment to FIRMLY tell her that you haven’t betrayed her - and if she wasn’t this psycho bitch you would TELL her about the party!

She want you to crawl and plead but if you’ll do it she will despise you. So be a man! And tell her you have children!

Btw you haven’t reacted on all of us saying she is a bitch about your kids...do you agree?
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What do you mean by cookiemonster ??
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You have lost her trust. If she does come back around, it only a matter of time before she moves on.
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Do you guys think I should call her bluff I mean say we need space and I go home for a few days you have opened my eyes to somethings Do you think she will come crawling back as I have to her in the past?
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