Advice needed from Aquarius men!
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by silvertongued666 on Sunday, November 6, 2011 and has 6 replies.
I'm a Libra and have known this Aquarius man for about a year now.
We started talking, things were great, he is extremely intelligent and unique, I started to like him very quickly. We met, had a great weekend together! After I dropped him off at the airport, he texted me with "You must be really sad. Do you miss me?" which I replied "Yes, I miss you already." Then he vanishes. Stops talking to me, ignores calls, ignores texts, EVERYTHING. Anytime he did reply it was with "I'll text tomorrow" or "I'll call tomorrow". This went on for quite some time and my patience was wearing off.
So the patience wore off, and I lopped him off. Deleted everything I knew about him, and within a few hours he was texting me wondering what happened to me. I ignored him for a few days, and then called him. I explained to him that I was just tired of being ignored and don't keep friends that do that, and he seemed mystified that I felt that way. He kept asking me why I hated him, and I told him that I never said I hated him, I just don't like being ignored. Ended with him agreeing to not ignore me, but I just needed to give him some space, so I agreed. I did ask him if he liked me, and he was silent, and then said that he did like me. But to me, that was very good, so things became good.
Few months go by, and he completely flakes out on me when I was supposed to meet him. Everything seemed great again, and I was to meet him, and suddenly he forgot to tell me that he was leaving town. I became so angry that I cursed him out more than I had ever cursed someone out in my life, and again he asks me why I hate him. WTF? He promises to make it up to me by visiting me, and I again agree because I love him (and I told him that, though he ignored that too).
Time goes on, he is somewhat more talkative, though only when it's convenient to him. He never speaks of meeting again, forgets my birthday, so I lop him off again. This time I block his number so that I won't see if he texts me so that I won't be inclined to answer. A month goes by, and I get a text from another phone number and it's him, wanting to know what happened to me. So me being me, I talk to him. I explain to him that no matter what I seem to do, I always just end up in the dark. He completely ignores that and says that he wants to be my friend. I accept and he once again he's ignoring me.
What do I do? Does this man like me?
We started talking, things were great, he is extremely intelligent and unique, I started to like him very quickly. We met, had a great weekend together! After I dropped him off at the airport, he texted me with "You must be really sad. Do you miss me?" which I replied "Yes, I miss you already." Then he vanishes. Stops talking to me, ignores calls, ignores texts, EVERYTHING. Anytime he did reply it was with "I'll text tomorrow" or "I'll call tomorrow". This went on for quite some time and my patience was wearing off.
So the patience wore off, and I lopped him off. Deleted everything I knew about him, and within a few hours he was texting me wondering what happened to me. I ignored him for a few days, and then called him. I explained to him that I was just tired of being ignored and don't keep friends that do that, and he seemed mystified that I felt that way. He kept asking me why I hated him, and I told him that I never said I hated him, I just don't like being ignored. Ended with him agreeing to not ignore me, but I just needed to give him some space, so I agreed. I did ask him if he liked me, and he was silent, and then said that he did like me. But to me, that was very good, so things became good.
Few months go by, and he completely flakes out on me when I was supposed to meet him. Everything seemed great again, and I was to meet him, and suddenly he forgot to tell me that he was leaving town. I became so angry that I cursed him out more than I had ever cursed someone out in my life, and again he asks me why I hate him. WTF? He promises to make it up to me by visiting me, and I again agree because I love him (and I told him that, though he ignored that too).
Time goes on, he is somewhat more talkative, though only when it's convenient to him. He never speaks of meeting again, forgets my birthday, so I lop him off again. This time I block his number so that I won't see if he texts me so that I won't be inclined to answer. A month goes by, and I get a text from another phone number and it's him, wanting to know what happened to me. So me being me, I talk to him. I explain to him that no matter what I seem to do, I always just end up in the dark. He completely ignores that and says that he wants to be my friend. I accept and he once again he's ignoring me.
What do I do? Does this man like me?
Do you have to ask us does this guy like you? I mean really "think" about his behavior. Does he behave like a man that likes you?
He spends the weekend, (correct me if I'm wrong) sex was given, you fell in love and now POOF he's gone, he got sex and you got nothing.
He stated he wants to be "friends" that means he's not interested in developing anything romantic with you, it hurts I know it hurts but the reality is he's acting like your not important to him and being very ambivalent towards you, he just want to keep his own selfish ego intact by being your friend so he won't have to feel like the true jerk he really is, DON'T BE HIS FRIEND, let him feel the consequences of his behavior by CLOSING THE DOOR ON HIM and don't GIVE him another chance to reject you and keep playing you out like this.
Not only is he not acting like he likes you, he's not acting like a friend either, he's being a jerk and he's only coming back b/c he wants to ensure you are AVAILABLE if he changes his mind about you and/or to keep the door open for sex if he want sex with you later on down the line.
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He spends the weekend, (correct me if I'm wrong) sex was given, you fell in love and now POOF he's gone, he got sex and you got nothing.
He stated he wants to be "friends" that means he's not interested in developing anything romantic with you, it hurts I know it hurts but the reality is he's acting like your not important to him and being very ambivalent towards you, he just want to keep his own selfish ego intact by being your friend so he won't have to feel like the true jerk he really is, DON'T BE HIS FRIEND, let him feel the consequences of his behavior by CLOSING THE DOOR ON HIM and don't GIVE him another chance to reject you and keep playing you out like this.
Not only is he not acting like he likes you, he's not acting like a friend either, he's being a jerk and he's only coming back b/c he wants to ensure you are AVAILABLE if he changes his mind about you and/or to keep the door open for sex if he want sex with you later on down the line.
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Posted by tiki33
Do you have to ask us does this guy like you? I mean really "think" about his behavior. Does he behave like a man that likes you?
He spends the weekend, (correct me if I'm wrong) sex was given, you fell in love and now POOF he's gone, he got sex and you got nothing.
He stated he wants to be "friends" that means he's not interested in developing anything romantic with you, it hurts I know it hurts but the reality is he's acting like your not important to him and being very ambivalent towards you, he just want to keep his own selfish ego intact by being your friend so he won't have to feel like the true jerk he really is, DON'T BE HIS FRIEND, let him feel the consequences of his behavior by CLOSING THE DOOR ON HIM and don't GIVE him another chance to reject you and keep playing you out like this.
Not only is he not acting like he likes you, he's not acting like a friend either, he's being a jerk and he's only coming back b/c he wants to ensure you are AVAILABLE if he changes his mind about you and/or to keep the door open for sex if he want sex with you later on down the line.
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This! I ALWAYS enjoy reading Tiki's posts because this freaking woman is brilliant and insightful! Honey I know it hurts but you have to cut his as $ loose.
@silvertongued..i know by your last questioning sentence that ur in too deep. When we are in too deep, we tend to have selective memory about the relationship, we remember only the good parts & put the bad parts in the 'rough patch' category. The thing about rough patching faults, is that they don't go away(cycling) until u learn to stand up for yourself or move on. You haven't reached YOUR limit yet, that's why u ask for outside help. Don't feel bad for that or for accepting him over & over again bcoz that's the only way that will take U a step closer to 'enough is enough'. We get over(or end them) relationships in varying speeds, so if ur not there yet, no amount of advice will help, ONLY U will know when u get there. At the time being, plz remember that u deserve a man(maybe not even a man, but U) that treats u like a human being. Remember that u deserve to be loved as u love, anything less is not worthy of u. Never let anybody treat u the way u don't treat them. Learn to love yourself MORE bcoz when sumbody loves u LESS believe me u will notice. It's all up to u.U deserve more babe- all the best to u.
My bestpal(a taurus girl), for years she was involved with a guy who treated her like shit & peeing(REALLY urinated all over her) on her on many occassions. I'm not the type to tell a person to leave a situation unless they are really ready, throughout the years i listened & listened, with listening i built(her self worth) & built until she decided for herself that it was enough.Today she knows what she wants & doesn't. Sumtimes building a person's self rather than telling them to do 123 helps bcoz by the time a current situation is over with & a next 1 arrives, the person will know how to act accordingly. Lets not push or judge by our own standards. Lets be friends who listen & build 1another. It infuriates me when women let men treat them like things, but i am not them or are they me, so all i can do is pick my friends up every time it happens. I must admit it annoys me a wee bit when they talk about the same boyfriend drama time & again, but i don't judge or push. It's their life not mine. That's just watercup being watercup
I grew up without parents(both passed away by my early teens,1995 & 1999 respectively) SO I learned to be selfish & put my own happiness & well being above all else. Everything I am/or am not today is ALL my doing, nobody else's, that's why i give the same previleges to all who come in contact with me.If there was a person telling me what to do & not to do, i wouldn't have learned all i've learnt, I'M THANKFUL. Life is full of lessons for us all, lesson that appear to break us, but are really gearing us to find our CORE where strength lies. The point of this rambling is-LET PPL FIND THEIR OWN WAY-even little boyfriend/girlfriend stories navigate ppl to learning to stand & be happy all by themselves without sumbody else.Ur born alone, everybody else u meet is a fellow traveller so don't act like they were born with/for u, let ppl go if their part in your story is over/if they don't play it right-again it's YOUR JOURNEY. I'm going to smoke sum weed now so happy puffs to all of ya.
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