Ahhh....what do you think this means?

So my so called aqua girl and I broke up weeks ago.

Ever since then, as some of you know, it's been very confusing trying to know and understand what I needed to do or not do to make things work again.

The last time we talk, I tried to see if I could see her again, but she didn't seem interested in doing that...to that point we had been talking almost every day...so that's why I was so confused and thought maybe we were getting back.

Because of that, I did most of what I could to let her know that I wanted to find a way out to make things work. I even drove down there one day, for fours hours, just to drop her flowers, a gift, and a note. She was very touched, but still, wasn't sure "when" we could see each other again...so of course it all came down to that one last talk, I brought up, since I needed to know what was going on...

Days after the last and final break up talk I get a message from her wishing me the best, I replied with one where I wished her the same, then she replied w an interesting e-mail, that ended in these lines:

"I do appreciate all the attempts you made to try to contact me and to try to sort things out...it was definitely not disregarded, but I think I just didn't know where I was with my feelings and didn't know how to handle everything. So I am sorry if you felt like I didn't care at all about all the nice things you were doing and saying to me-I did. You are right though about me giving up and not knowing whether or not it was the right thing to do...

So I hope you have the best birthday ever...and I will be thinking about you."

Once again, I'm confused...especially about the part where she said that she did give up, but "didn't know" if it was the right thing to do...What in the world?!
Do that sounds like she would want to get back? This girl confuses me so much...

Sometimes I feel like she's just being selfish again and she just wants to keep the options open with me...I don't know.
And if she's giving me a chance to try to get back together w her again, what in the world do I need to do? I'm afraid to do anything else right now and get pushed away again...

She texted me 3 times since then and she called me once. I texted her back telling her I was a bit scared to talk again and asked her if there was something good she wanted to say, to which she replied "I just wanted to wish you happy bday and apologize...it's ok".

I'm so confused right now...any thoughts, comments would help!!

Hi Virgowithalittlelibra~

Gosh, I can see why you may be confused and those type of feelings do keep one unsettled a bit. Could it be that she is confused with her feelings of herself thus not knowing what she wants or does not want and this is coming into the relationship?

For now, I would take care to think of yourself - what do YOU want? What type of relationships make you happy? KNOW THYSELF and you may release yourself from that state of confusion.

Best of luck "V" - hope this was helpful in someway for you. 😉

Wait VWL I know you know that Aqua's are the sign of freedom! They do not like to be tied down and if i were you. I would let that little birdie fly. Aqua's are very unpredicatable. One moment "sweet and loving" the next-They act just like you don't exist. If you guys are broken up. Treat it as such.

Freebird, Karima, Kris, pluto's muso, and primegen...thank you so much!

You guys are great.

I actually have been feeling very charmed by a Libra girl lately, she knows I'm not looking to rush into anything at all, but she wanted to go on a date, to just get to know each other and hang out, she's very sweet and so pretty...and I've been considering that...so that's why I was so torn today and last night after I heard back from my ex over and over...because if I knew my x aqua and I could work things out, I would stop seeing or even comtemplating the dating scene with anybody for a while...I'm the one person at a time type...

But of course, although Im still hurting a bit and still care for my aqua I need to keep on moving if she keeps on breaking up...that's something I don't think she understands....what else could I do you know?
I've waited for a over a month now, for her to come back to her senses, but she didn't and now out of the blue she may be...?!

I don't know what Ms. Aqua excepts me to do, but knowing how much I've done and tried lately I doubt that she will expect me to try anything again right now...

I guess time will heal and tell...too bad it didn't work, I really think we could have done great things together...but oh well...

I'll let this fish go (thanks primegen)and keep on with my boat if its needed....maybe one day we would meet again, but right now is hard to feel safe...

I will read what Linda Goodman's (whoever she is) has to say, thank pluto's muse...Ill check that right now.

Karim and Kris...hope I didn't carry any bad impressions about aquas...I think they are wonderful people, it is justm that my ex aqua in this case that seems a bit unsure of what she needs and wants from me...and keeps on confusing me even now...but hopefully she doesn't mean bad...and maybe one day it will all make more sense for her, for her own good.

and FREEBIRD!

I loved what you quoted: "KNOW THYSELF and you may release yourself from that state of confusion"

Love it! It helped me tons! Thank you so much. I'll hold on to that and come back with more thoughts!

Have a great day everyone!

VLL

Good Morning VLL -

You are so welcome - glad I was able to help :-)

Looking forward to your new thoughts!

FB

Hi VLL

I told you she'd be in contact more often. Dont get your hopes up and don't stop dating the cute Libra just yet. Be nonchalant and respond to aqua girl in a friendly manner and wait and see where she's going with this.

uhh u dont know about linda goodman??
::faints::


NO...whose she— 😛...let me check her out 😛

LadyM,

Great aqua words coming from an aqua. By non-chalant do you mean to not have long talks or e-mails with her? We, Virgos, when we do open up, goodness, we can do to the very details of things (or maybe is my Libra side) so I want to make sure I understand what non-chalante means =)

I was very brief and a bit cold on my last messages...not same old sweet me...because I'm so scared of missinterpreting things again you know...
My thought is if she really wants to be with me, she should tell me, but maybe she did on her last e-mail? Plus I've heard aquas don't fight too much for love and rather move on...or never express it....so is hard to know what to do or not...

I'll stay friendly though and be brief...non-chalant (once you help me out to know what that could mean =)) and see where that goes...
Plus, honestly is good for me to keep that distance a bit, because as FreeBird said, I need to know myself and what I want too...to make any decisions....

Cute Libra is still as sweet, but coming a bit strong sometimes...I would usually run away at this point, but she's so cute in her charming ways...is hard to not want to give things a chance...I'm scared about that issue too...

I'll look forward to your response LadyM, I hope things are well w your Libra =)

FreeBird,

I've been thinking much about what you have shared...deep thoughts...
See, that's another difference between my x aqua and me...she can tell you right away ALL the problems her friends have...but is hard for her sometimes to look inside of her and her own internal conflicts.
I'm the opposite of that...I look inside me first to see what's going on...and I share that quiet often...and I don't like to get too "emotionally" involved in my friends life...while she is very very okay with that.

Know thyself...

I'm getting to know so much about me throughout these relationships...
I really need to grow up in some areas...and give myself a pad in others...=)

We are all able to make mistakes...I think is what you do about it that makes the difference.

Have a great day everyone!

p.s. Pluto's, I couldn't find any "relationship" info for Linda in the internet, let me know if you see a link, otherwise I'll have to go to Borders!
p.s. and Eliza, quit checking this lady out, for your own sake! =)

Nonchalant: An i dont care attitude; chill conversation; go with the flow; don't bring up any mushy stuff, let her initiate that conversation (thats a sign that she's thinking about it too)...just be friendly.

LadyM,

Thank you for sharing the 'nonchalant' concept, =)
I haven't picked up her calls, and actually asked her to text me or e-mails instead if she wanted to talk...because I fear that the only reason why she calls me and wants to talk is to keep on dragging me a long or just to make sure things end in good terms, so she can still look good in front of me and all my friends (i never told my friends why we broke up and anything bad, so she shouldn't worry about that ever)...or maybe to keep the options open...

Somedays I miss her, but when i think about the last talks we had and how much i did try to make things work...and how she directs her life based on her friends....and all the stuff she put me through....uh...i have no desires to talk to her again...I don't know if I ever will...she's fun and she is a very loyal friend...but she didn't always seem to fair w me during our relationship...and sadly I wasn't just a friend.

How are things w your aqua?

Aquaaqi,

Thank you for your comment. Everything you said makes some sense. Sometimes I feel like after the break up, she really has been preparing little by little to let me go, and during all that time I thought we were actually reconciling...

I think she does have feelings for me too...is just too bad she wasn't willing to look at her feelings too for us to work something out...

BUT I think is okay, Im not the type that run back and pleads for people to get back. I give enough chances and if they aren't taken, then too bad, life is short and need to keep my heart strong and move on....whereas I want it or not...I can't become all dependent on her every decision anymore.

My life has been taking a turn, but there are always new things to be happy and hopeful for around each corner...I hope one day though, she realizes the good things we had...and the potential we did have to be very happy together if we would have worked things out...to at least know the reason why we were investing in what we had...

Anyways, life is good here lately, I hope she's doing well too...

Thanks aquaaqi.

VLL

"This looks to me like she's trying to get over you, and she's letting you go little by little. I do this all the time, and i get that it doesn't look very nice from the other end, and it does look confusing to the other person, so sorry. I think she still has feelings for you, but doesn't want to, so she's initiating the old "phase out" by putting reason over emotion. (Aqua men do it too, and it confuses the women, also). So, I think she wants it to work out, but she knows that it isn't going to. I may be wrong, but that's what this looks like."

-aquaaqi...you hit the nail on the head!!! it couldn't have been said any better... the problem, i think, is that aquas need to stop thinking negatively about something before it even happens...you want something to work out, but you know it isn't going to...how do you know— try it first and see what happens. don't jump to conclusions. and once in a while, i think aquas should listen to their heart and put their emotions before logic...it just might get them to a better place in love and life!!!

'i think, is that aquas need to stop thinking negatively about something before it even happens...you want something to work out, but you know it isn't going to...how do you know— try it first and see what happens. don't jump to conclusions. and once in a while, i think aquas should listen to their heart and put their emotions before logic...it just might get them to a better place in love and life!!!'

Maybe your right.