Am I acting like an Aqua now??

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Nouran20 on Monday, March 18, 2013 and has 31 replies.
Lol this is slightly funny to me dunno y
But this is an update of what has been recently goin on between me and my ex aqua. Those of u ho read about it b4 know everything Big Grin
HE JUST ADDED ME ON FACEBOOK!!!! even when we were together he didn't want me to be on his list or c what hes doing. Right now he is adding me like all of a sudden its ok for me to c everything. Dunno what that means
BUT..................
I realized I wana preserve my OWN SPACE....I am not interested in looking at his posts or whatever...talking to him once in a while is ok for me. I keep thinking of my SPACE now. It is like he is tryna look at my facebook by being on my list. I got my life on it. Family/friends/work/university related stuff
I mean u can guess what im up to my facebook. So No I wont let him crawl into my life again.
Not that Im rejecting him. Just that I know he is NOT worth it.
I need space space space i like my space and i want him out of my space im happy to finally be on my own i dont want that guy coming in and tellin me that im a bad girl cuz lots of guys r commenting/liking my facebook posts..
Since I have mentioned the word space so many times, i feel like a total aqua now lol
What u think everyone?
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Oh and another thing how do u think I should tell him nicely that I dont want to accept is add request and that I respect our freedom and not want us to invade each other's privacy and all.
I dont want him to feel rejected but at same time i want him to know that I wont accept.
I just asked him did u really add me? he was like yeah I did.
I have no idea what to say now.....................any suggestions??
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He's gonna fall in love with you if you're not careful!! smile
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Posted by Sola
He's gonna fall in love with you if you're not careful!! smile


what u mean if im not careful?
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What I have done when I don't know what to do or what I should do is..... Just leave the request in limbo that way they cannot re-freind request me and I still have the option of adding.
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Nouran, is this the same guy with the GF?
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That's great. Great attitude !!! I WISH I has my aqua ex contacting me now !!! Keep your stand and don't accept smile
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First of all he is not gona come and say you are a bad girl. And for you, you are Taurus and you still got strong feelings towards him. Its not easy for you to get rid of him from your mind even if you say so because you are a fixed sign and you never give up.
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Posted by geminidude
First of all he is not gona come and say you are a bad girl. And for you, you are Taurus and you still got strong feelings towards him. Its not easy for you to get rid of him from your mind even if you say so because you are a fixed sign and you never give up.


Totally agree with this & I don't get why other people don't see it.
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Seriously, Nouran, you need to move on. Not everything he does has a secret meaning or motive, he just wants to be friends. Adding you on facebook is not exactly 'marry me' or a complex maths equation & if you don't like it then just ignore it...you don't owe him an explanation. Plus, why would he feel rejected? You are an ex & not his girlfriend anymore. Get real.
And no, I'm not hating on you, but it seems like you want people to say something that'll get your hopes of his return to you up high. Of course you are allowed to believe & do what you want, I'm just saying it as I see it. Not meant to harm.
Btw, I have a taurus bff who is 'dating' an aqua guy & I say 'dating' and not dating because the guy has moved on yet she still clings to some invisible actions he is not even making. If a guy really feels you, doesnt matter what sign he is, HE WILL TELL YOU STRAIGHT...especially if you have history together. He doesnt do some James Bond shit. Good luck with this.
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Add him or not. its your choice.. He may just be keeping things sweet and mutual between the both of you. Don??t take it too seriously or think too deep into it. He has a GF, Aquas are known to be social and friendly with others.
Even I have taken a step back from my Aqua Guy but just the other day he followed me on Instagram. I was following him since I joined which was months ago, and he decided to follow me now.. yes it did make me think..huh? why? But what??s the point? Thinking too much deep into motives is just gna mess with your head.
Don??t think too much into this.. what WaterCup has mentioned above, I say it too... move on from this..
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@Nouran- Life has something better in store for you. A year from now, you can either still obsess over this OR you could be in a totally better space in life. The choice is yours.
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Posted by lisabethur8
Nouran, is this the same guy with the GF?


yes hes the guy with the gf
and btw whenever we talk I try to ask him how is ur gf? is she ok? he will be yeah she is fine
I ask him about his gf too to make it clear to him that im not talking to u cuz I still WANT u..im talking to u like a normal friend and I dont even mind hearing that u and ur gf r great together. Which is true!! its not like ill stab myself when I know they r ok together
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Posted by WaterCup
Seriously, Nouran, you need to move on. Not everything he does has a secret meaning or motive, he just wants to be friends. Adding you on facebook is not exactly 'marry me' or a complex maths equation & if you don't like it then just ignore it...you don't owe him an explanation. Plus, why would he feel rejected? You are an ex & not his girlfriend anymore. Get real.
And no, I'm not hating on you, but it seems like you want people to say something that'll get your hopes of his return to you up high. Of course you are allowed to believe & do what you want, I'm just saying it as I see it. Not meant to harm.
Btw, I have a taurus bff who is 'dating' an aqua guy & I say 'dating' and not dating because the guy has moved on yet she still clings to some invisible actions he is not even making. If a guy really feels you, doesnt matter what sign he is, HE WILL TELL YOU STRAIGHT...especially if you have history together. He doesnt do some James Bond shit. Good luck with this.


Move on?? i am not the one chasing him right now am i?? I did not add him. I dont beg him to reply. I never mention the words "we" "us" or talk about the past with him. Our convos r usually about random things and i always end them quickly. Sometimes he replies and I never say any more further words...so isnt it clear already that I have moved on???
Maybe he is on my mind..well guess what it was a 5 YEAR r-ship..I would ofcourse at some point think of him but i dont picture him in that old intimate way like i used to. I picture us more like friends..even if i got some feelings deep down. It'll fade away with time and when i meet someone BETTER. which im not in a hurry to b in a r-ship.
I know ur not hating on me but u dont really understand me. I am not here to hear ppl telling me OH HE LOVES U just to feel better about the situation..NO certainly NOT! Im here trying to discuss this weired overall aqua/guy thing he is doing..Y is he all of a sudden respecting our friendship and tryna add me and all?? Wasnt he the one who 2 months ago mentioned that he wont talk to me cuz he has a girl?? Which I respected and like i mentioned b4 that i cut off myself and stopped talking to him COMPLETELY..Then y is he doing opposite of what he said? dont u think its ironic?
Anyone in my position would wonder a little about how twisted this guy is.
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Just cuz ur taurus friend is clingy and since ive read ur post b4 about how EXTREME she is and wants to have control all over u and stuff doesnt make me a clingy person. I am a person that respects freedom more then YOU more than any AQUA free spirited blah blah..my r-ship with him was like he was always tryna dominate where he had to make me CHANGE my way for him..who is clingy now???
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Posted by Metoo
Dont explain at all. I love it. I dont think not explaining is being mean or passive aggressive, its just that you dont OWE someone your not dating ANY explantion.
It sounds like when u have contact your pleasant and kind, thats ALL that matters.
If he asks about it directly, tell him you considered it but thought BOTH of you needed space from eachother.
It almost like your doing HIM a favor too. I agree with your decision! Go girl! Single for now and its all about Y-O-U!


I totally agree with you
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I think the point that people are trying to make is that...it doesn't matter why he is doing what he is doing. He is with someone else. Either accept the friend request or don't. But, you are circling the drain with this situation and burning lots of daylight. I understand that you were together for 5 years but, at the end of the day...it is over. Concentrate on yourself and not his motivations. He is a non-factor in your life. Something better is in store for you.
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Posted by lisabethur8
Nouran, is this the same guy with the GF?


yes hes the guy with the gf
and btw whenever we talk I try to ask him how is ur gf? is she ok? he will be yeah she is fine
I ask him about his gf too to make it clear to him that im not talking to u cuz I still WANT u..im talking to u like a normal friend and I dont even mind hearing that u and ur gf r great together. Which is true!! its not like ill stab myself when I know they r ok together
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that's good you ask him about his gf. He sounds like he is doing ok with her. It's just weird how he wants to add you on fb. Maybe he should ask his gf if he can have her add you too? So that you and his gf can be friends and all that, discuss about what kind of a bf he was when he was with you and what type and kind he is now with her and if he treats her differently.
J/k about the last part.
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Posted by geminidude
First of all he is not gona come and say you are a bad girl. And for you, you are Taurus and you still got strong feelings towards him. Its not easy for you to get rid of him from your mind even if you say so because you are a fixed sign and you never give up.


Uh, hmmmmm according to KRSCHannel and other astrologers, it's your moon that uses the mind. It's your sun that is your 'soul' and the rest of the placements determine alot of other factors.
But generally, on a level of "MEN" in general ...general general general (not sargeant or lieutenant) she's got a jupiter moon, therefore it tends to want to EXPAND, and be a bit more adventuring, I guess. The dark side of Jupiter is that it never learns its lessons.
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* ops forgot to add, since i'm a space cadet at times...
in general, "men" who aren't respecting their GFs or significant others, ect are adding ex's because they feel like they can do whatever it is they want to do, with NO consequences of their actions. It's understandable if he has broken up with his gf and trying to move on, but this guy sounds like he doesn't give a frack about the feelings of others.
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Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
I think the point that people are trying to make is that...it doesn't matter why he is doing what he is doing. He is with someone else. Either accept the friend request or don't. But, you are circling the drain with this situation and burning lots of daylight. I understand that you were together for 5 years but, at the end of the day...it is over. Concentrate on yourself and not his motivations. He is a non-factor in your life. Something better is in store for you.


ur right and that is what im doing..its not like i stopped my life and let myself focus on only him
the reason y i dont wana have on my facebook is cuz i dont wana keep checkin what he is posting nor giving him a chance to do check my profile..thats all.
but thanks what u said is good so far
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Posted by lisabethur8
* ops forgot to add, since i'm a space cadet at times...
in general, "men" who aren't respecting their GFs or significant others, ect are adding ex's because they feel like they can do whatever it is they want to do, with NO consequences of their actions. It's understandable if he has broken up with his gf and trying to move on, but this guy sounds like he doesn't give a frack about the feelings of others.


I think he is a very sensitive guy. He does care about how others feel. But do u c how confusing it is? sometimes his actions say he doesnt give a crap. If one minute he says i wont talk cuz i got a gf and the next min he starts talkin about how good we were together and calling me sweet nicknames like we used to before..doesnt it get u all confused if u were in my situation?

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I forgot to mention to everyone that he does get a little mad when he sees me telling other guys happy birthday or posting on thier facebooks..he would start telling me I cant beleive u talk to all those guys..didnt expect ur like that. Im all concerned about u thats y im tellin u to b careful blah blah..
what the hell is that?? Im NOT his girl so y does he sometimes act like im his girl when he has one
Btw I dont mind being friends with his gf..but I brought that up like maybe 5 months ago and he was like no no not a good idea...he was even upset that i added one his friends (a girl)
so i backed off and stayed out of his way.
COME ONNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN..nobody even knows who his gf is even his best friend doesnt know who she is. And he told me he never told anyone about her. So shes some secret girl. Keeping her a secret just proves he doesnt give a crap about her either..
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Posted by Nouran20
Posted by lisabethur8
* ops forgot to add, since i'm a space cadet at times...
in general, "men" who aren't respecting their GFs or significant others, ect are adding ex's because they feel like they can do whatever it is they want to do, with NO consequences of their actions. It's understandable if he has broken up with his gf and trying to move on, but this guy sounds like he doesn't give a frack about the feelings of others.


I think he is a very sensitive guy. He does care about how others feel. But do u c how confusing it is? sometimes his actions say he doesnt give a crap. If one minute he says i wont talk cuz i got a gf and the next min he starts talkin about how good we were together and calling me sweet nicknames like we used to before..doesnt it get u all confused if u were in my situation?


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No, to be honest I wouldn't be confused at all. He's just using you to get more in his "harem". If a guy respects his GF and yourself, he'd leave you alone. Or introduce you to his GF (if his GF doesn't mind and she's into that kind of thing where she can be friends with his ex's)
He sees right through you, where you are easily naive and sweet and uses that. I am guessing because he knows you due to you being his ex, and therefore, knows your personality. He doesn't sound happy with his GF, but that's his problem. He is just creating more of a mountain out of a molehill.
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Posted by WaterCup
Seriously, Nouran, you need to move on. Not everything he does has a secret meaning or motive, he just wants to be friends. Adding you on facebook is not exactly 'marry me' or a complex maths equation & if you don't like it then just ignore it...you don't owe him an explanation. Plus, why would he feel rejected? You are an ex & not his girlfriend anymore. Get real.
And no, I'm not hating on you, but it seems like you want people to say something that'll get your hopes of his return to you up high. Of course you are allowed to believe & do what you want, I'm just saying it as I see it. Not meant to harm.
Btw, I have a taurus bff who is 'dating' an aqua guy & I say 'dating' and not dating because the guy has moved on yet she still clings to some invisible actions he is not even making. If a guy really feels you, doesnt matter what sign he is, HE WILL TELL YOU STRAIGHT...especially if you have history together. He doesnt do some James Bond shit. Good luck with this.


Move on?? i am not the one chasing him right now am i?? I did not add him. I dont beg him to reply. I never mention the words "we" "us" or talk about the past with him. Our convos r usually about random things and i always end them quickly. Sometimes he replies and I never say any more further words...so isnt it clear already that I have moved on???
Maybe he is on my mind..well guess what it was a 5 YEAR r-ship..I would ofcourse at some point think of him but i dont picture him in that old intimate way like i used to. I picture us more like friends..even if i got some feelings deep down. It'll fade away with time and when i meet someone BETTER. which im not in a hurry to b in a r-ship.
I know ur not hating on me but u dont really understand me. I am not here to hear ppl telling me OH HE LOVES U just to feel better about the situation..NO certainly NOT! Im here trying to discuss this weired overall aqua/guy thing he is doing..Y is he all of a sudden respecting our friendship and tryna add me and all?? Wasnt he the one who 2 months ago mentioned that he wont talk to me cuz he has a girl?? Which I respected and like i mentioned b4 that i cut off myself and stopped talking to him COMPLETELY..Then y is he doing opposite of what he said? dont u think its ironic?
Anyone in my position would wonder a littl
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Posted by Nouran20
Just cuz ur taurus friend is clingy and since ive read ur post b4 about how EXTREME she is and wants to have control all over u and stuff doesnt make me a clingy person. I am a person that respects freedom more then YOU more than any AQUA free spirited blah blah..my r-ship with him was like he was always tryna dominate where he had to make me CHANGE my way for him..who is clingy now???


LOL. Okay. If you say so.
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Posted by Nouran20
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I forgot to mention to everyone that he does get a little mad when he sees me telling other guys happy birthday or posting on thier facebooks..he would start telling me I cant beleive u talk to all those guys..didnt expect ur like that. Im all concerned about u thats y im tellin u to b careful blah blah..
what the hell is that?? Im NOT his girl so y does he sometimes act like im his girl when he has one
Btw I dont mind being friends with his gf..but I brought that up like maybe 5 months ago and he was like no no not a good idea...he was even upset that i added one his friends (a girl)
so i backed off and stayed out of his way.
COME ONNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN..nobody even knows who his gf is even his best friend doesnt know who she is. And he told me he never told anyone about her. So shes some secret girl. Keeping her a secret just proves he doesnt give a crap about her either..


he gets angry because he's POSSESSIVE..... "harem" .....just like a Shiek who has 1500 harem girls and is jealous if even one of his henchmen try to get one harem girl for a kiss.
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By the other quote I wanted to add that, his behavior is not hard to figure out...he wants to be friends. Some aquas, myself included, DO remain friends with exes & it doesnt mean we want them or have ulterior motives for remaining friends. Astrologically speaking, he is being an aqua. In reality without the astro talk, he sounds like someone you should be wary of.
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Posted by WaterCup
By the other quote I wanted to add that, his behavior is not hard to figure out...he wants to be friends. Some aquas, myself included, DO remain friends with exes & it doesnt mean we want them or have ulterior motives for remaining friends. Astrologically speaking, he is being an aqua. In reality without the astro talk, he sounds like someone you should be wary of.


i agree with u i have to be wary of him
dunno y nowww that he wants to suddenly be friends?
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I think the fact that he didn't add you of FB when yall were dating should have been a red flag way back then. Just my opinion.
So, I take it you added him?
And who cares what he thinks when you write on someone else's wall.
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Posted by truecap
I think the fact that he didn't add you of FB when yall were dating should have been a red flag way back then. Just my opinion.
So, I take it you added him?
And who cares what he thinks when you write on someone else's wall.


No no HE added me. I just left it on hold. I told him ill take time to just get used to our "new" selves and i told him that We r both different ppl now and i should give myself a chance to get to know the real new him as friend only. Plus I said I need space (which is true) and I respect his space and so I dont wana be involved in his life or become nosey.
He was like r u tryna hide something on ur fb? I said No i got my whole family on it y shud i hide anything. He was like then y r u not accepting blah blah y do u talk to strange guys from my college blah blah..
I said i wanted to ask them something and that it is non of his concern to tell me who I should talk to not to talk. cuz im a big girl i can take care of myself and i know how to keep limits with other guys..dont need his protection.
i dunno if i should accept tho..its been a month now since i left him on hold.
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