Another aqarius guy problem

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Freye on Sunday, December 9, 2012 and has 11 replies.
So, to start - sorry for my bad english, it's not my mother tongue.
This is probably going to be long, i'm just feeling a little desperate for the last few weeks, so decided to look for advice here.
There is this guy (20, i'm 20 to), he is from the same college as I am. It's the second year that we know each other. At first, he seemed arrogant, but surprisingly charming and attractive. For the first few months I wasn't close to him at all, he became best friends with this other girl and they hung out a lot, almost all the time. Then they both started a project together, and since I had started to like him, I joined the project too. For 2 months we had to be together every day, almost all day. At that time the girl became one of my best friends too, and I got to know my Aquarius better too, turned out he is really a wonderful person and I started to fall for him. Then the bad times started - he had huge fights with his best friend, I got in between it all, but in the end it brought us all closer. (I'm telling this, because this was kind of the reason he started talking to me about personal stuff, and we bonded). Then he started to initiate road trips for us, he came with me to my hometown, we had fun, talked a lot. Then I started thinking that he might like me too, it really seemed like that, he arranged a lot of time for us to spend together.
it's just that, there was always some kind of tension between us, so we never became best friends, just very close. Then we all went away for the summer, I had a Europe trip with one of my other friends, and he went to find a job abroad together with the girl I mentioned at the beginning.
For a while they were starting to think, that they wouldn't come back to school, that they will stay abroad and keep working, but I kind of convinced them to come back. (It turned out that he was the one that made this decision) While away he sometimes called me, we talked for a long time. Then they came back, it was all normal, except he started talking to me less. But I saw that he had started to stare at me sometimes, once it even looked like a "doe eyed" look. But then I noticed that he talks to me less and less, sometimes it even seemed like he avoids me when I try to start a conversation that is a bit more personal. There have been a few times when we've talked, he seemed to be concerned about my feelings and stuff, like I am about his. I'll continue in the next post, this is really long. Winking
So, now he hasn't tried to contact me for the past 3 weeks. I know he needs space sometimes (An Aquarius, that's kind of logical haha). But this is a bit too much. Ignores my texts, sometimes he answers, sometimes not. He has moved in another home and has some issues to deal with, so it's normal that he's busy. But even when he isn't it just seems that he's starting to block me out of his life. I mean - he knows he can count on me for support in anything, but no, no calls, no conversations no nothing. Ok, I don't really know if this made any sense. It's just that I have really fallen for him and he has given me some clues that he might have too. If I didn't have a hunch that he might like me too, than I would try to forget him, but that just doesn't seem possible. And I know, that if I try to talk to him about it, whell .. that just wouln't help. He usually got frustrated when he thought I'm angry with him, then he tried to make it up to me, make me feel better. It's just that I don't understand what I did to make him go from spending all his time with me and having open conversations to ignoring me.
Ok, so, I hope you can help with some opinions smile I'm a bot chaotic, is something isn't clear from what I've written - just ask.
Thanks!
I think if an aqua (well, any guy for that matter) is into you, you will know it. I would quit worrying about him and look elsewhere. I'm sure you didn't want to hear that. Sorry. Stay busy, live your life. If he misses you, he will contact you.
This is really boring and you are really creepy even I can see its never gonna happen between the two of you...
Freye when you said he made plans for 'us' was the other girl there? When he came and visited your home town was the other girl there? More to the fact regardless of connection has he ever tried to be more romantic or was it just platonic?
I say this because these are your questions, if you can remove your emotions for a second and really listen to your own story it really sounds like he likes the other girl a lot more.
They came back after you talked to them, even if he made the decision did he tell you it was because of you? I'm asking you this because I believe most aquas hate it when people assume how we think. We are people of the moment, I've felt a genuine connection with people before but never kept in contact the harshness of the reality is that I feel like I don't need to stay in contact. He might have some pressing issues in his life right now but just because you told him he can count on you it doesn't mean he'll do it. I have a Sag friend that loves pulling that line out and the more she does it the less I tell her about things, I share when I want to that is the end of that.
Look this is me trying to give you a reality check in the softest way possible. Your story to me seems like he's spent way more time with the other girl than you. Yes bonds can be formed through college but I think your romanticism is clouding your judgement.
What has stopped you from telling him how you feel about him? If it's just shyness then bite the bullet and tell him if you truly believe there's a connection. If you've always had this feeling he was never really that into you then just let go of the torment and move on. Either way the only solution is to tell him, hope for the best prepare for the worst.
Thank you, this was great advice, I'll think on those questions. You may be right, I just needed someone to give me the reality check so I can move on.
And no, the other girl wasn't there at those times, but I'm still gonna think it all over and just try to get a clear view. He always made the plans for just the two of us, and about the trip: was coincidence that they had to go together. There are some things that could be misunderstood from my text, but that doesn't actually matter, because I just started to see other sides of the story. So, thanks again, if he wants to, hell contact me, if not, well, I'll just stop thinking so much about it.
I'm sorry sweetheart you do sound like a great person and a caring one at that given you've gone to lengths to care about him through your actions. Maybe he'll realise sooner or later how much you care about him? Question is, is it worth waiting for him.
Stay positive and optimistic. He obviously isn't good enough for you Winking
okay well now that you say that I'll give you a better idea of how I acted when I was younger compared to now. This is just me and my chart may differ to his.
When I was younger I was actually afraid to like someone. I'd be the really open person but completely freeze up when I find out I have feelings for a friend I would go from being completely open to closed up because I feel what I say may end up working against me in fear the other person won't like me.
Being a bit older now but none the wiser. I tend to speak my heart more often, I'm just now more generally guarded but become an open book to the person I like. I still love to retreat into my brain and think over a lot of things but when it comes down to it I always say what I feel because I never want to regret my choices or dwell on the what ifs.
If your young aqua is anything like me there can be hope. If you want to wait, then go ahead wait a few more weeks, busy yourself but perhaps I can rub some wisdom of my own onto you? Speak from the heart and speak genuinely with him. You won't have nothing to regret, there might be heartache but it generally doesn't stay too long once you've said all that you wanted to say.
^won't have anything to regret lol. not nothing >
Thank you, I suppose that this could be similar with him, the thing that frustrated me was - should I take some king of action or just give him space. So, now I suppose I'll give him some time, if he really is thinking things over, it wouldn't do any good to pressure him more. So, I'll wait for some time and see what happens. smile