aqua boys and their toys...

why are aquarius men far more into their friends than their girlfriend? and do most of them seem childish and into big boy toys—

'That sounds like Pisces men to me'

I must be a pisces guy then Hee hee cause half the time I would rather hang out with my friends 2 🙂 I have known them allot longer than my man but if he wants to come with thats cool

and do most of them seem childish and into big boy toys—

For sure!!

by "big boy toys" i mean bikes, boats, cars, etc... and even video games 😢
for example, my bf just bought a dirt bike and is very into riding with the guys every weekend.

i guess i understand the "no drama" philosophy. but then why have a girlfriend at all— (in my bf's case)

aquaj... so what did you do when he told you he was going to hang with the guys rather than you every weekend? did you stand for it?

Ha - Aqua men & there cars - Thats more like it! Pisces men are hopeless I would hate to date one

by "big boy toys" i mean bikes, boats, cars, etc... and even video games
for example, my bf just bought a dirt bike and is very into riding with the guys every weekend.i guess i understand the "no drama" philosophy. but then why have a girlfriend at all—


Participate with him, Tell him to take you for a ride. But I also understand your point of view,.I'd at least communicate his spending (every) weekend with the guys riding his new bike. If this doesnt work find you something that you personally like to do. In a relationship there must be compromise. At least he's not cheating or doing other negative things. If your not happy communicate this to him.

I want a cadillac or one of the original FJ Holdens - ummmm so hot!

Go Get 300K - u can do it! I so had a good Pic for ya but don't know how to put pictures on here?!?

blue aqaua...

he would never take me for a ride, b/c that is his time spent with his friends. in other words, it is his time away from me. somebody already suggested to him that he take me riding one time, and he said "no way".

as far as communication goes, that is the biggest weakness in our relationship. whenever i try to tell him how i feel, or if i just want to discuss something that is bothering me...he doesn't want to discuss it. he has a really BIG problem with confrontation, and he doesn't know how to deal with anything head on. so when i want to talk to him about how i feel, he just shuts me out and gives me the silent treatment...this is pretty typical of aquarius, right?
so, basically we have no communication and we end up dealing with the same problems over and over again.

also, he doesn't quite understand that a relationship is a compromise. so i have done a lot for him, and participated many times in things of his interest, yet when i would like to do something of my interest...he will not do it. he is very selfish in that way. it is his way or no way, and everything must be done on his time.

oh yes im into my toys... 🙂 love my cars and my games..

but i still think a woman would come first 🙂

moon child, i know how you feel now, i tried to approach it by phone message pretty stupid i know, but he was working, and i felt like i had to say what i wanted to say there and then, we'd been out the night nefore and he was acting all like mr boyfriend again, being perfect ect, so the next day im thinking, what are we ? 5 months ago we agreed to be friends, but we dont behave like friends-so i sent him-"we agreed to be friends, which is fine, but we are not behaving in this manner, sometimes i dont know what we are, i feel like i want to protect myself, and u" he wrote back-im working right now, what is it you want to say? send me another message, and ill call u tomorrow, anyway yesterday he did not call-now i feel like im messed up a good thing, but i just wanted to open the comunication lines alittle, now what shall i do?! last night i did the stupid thing and sent another mesage saying-my message was not ment to be stressful, just want to explain some things to you-i know ur working now, so come to me when u have free time-anyway seems like they are all weird with this stuff!

Girls need to give the man more attention if they want it so bad lol. Being with friends make them feel more manly. Being a man doesn't mean to have sex. You need to spend time with friends because then you won't look so pussy whipped.

primegen, yes hes an aqua-and a really good one. The first week i met him he told me -I cant have a girlfrind I was engaged, we broke up and im not ready. so we agreed to be friends-but for 5 months we have not been behaving like friends! I have been super cool girl, given him tons of space, never asked him personal things, never pushed him, just went with the flow(my style anyways) We have been becoming closer and closer.But my girlfriends were telling me, u cant see him once or twice per week its crazy! Well this time suits me, as i have to work alot, and so does he-but i approached him about it anyway-he called yesterday-and said he would come to my house to talk in 2 days , as hes working nights and me days this week-which is fine, but now i feel like i only asked him, as my friends made me feel like there was something wrong with us-now when he does come-I dont really know what to say-my opinion is that-he was just happy going with the flow-we feel like best friends too which-is like the best boyfriend for me-however i guess something needs to be disscussed-as i dont want to get closer-to him,and then for him to turn round in 2 months time and say I cant do it-im still not ready-also just to add its not only a sex thing, hes quite happy with or without-same for me.(plus everytime im with him and his friednds hes warmer and more lovely each time) advive MR Primgen!! plllllease , thanks.

In my experience you cant just be friends with someone you really like.. it will just end up hurting you both.. sure maybe start off as m8s to get to know each other.. but never hide the truth 🙂

maybe im wrong and have just had some bad experiences but ill never be getting into a lets be friends situation again lol 😢

my aqua is greek-To be honest i dont know much, only on are very first date he told me,that he had been with his first girlfriend for 3 years, lived with her for one year, had been engaged-i dont know how long the engagment was.He finished with her last August-thats all i know, and i never asked any questions, i did not feel like it was something i should ask about, and i reckon he'll tell me about it when he wants to.The first months i was was with him he seemed cut up and hurt-maybe from her, i dont know. The last months hes very different, and happy. I think it must be hard as it was his first girl,they were at the same university-so I think im the only other girlfriend hes had. I also feel he really appreciates my personality, I've treated him like a good friend,he feels very free with me, i think thats the only thing thats kept him closer to me, as im sure he was still not ready. Im great with the take it slow think, id much rather build on friendship, but I dont want to have feelings, if its still the wrong time for him-we are both busy this week, and im sure we wont speak until friday or saturday-he called and said I dont want u thinking about thinks, we'll find time to discuss...im very positive , so when i do communicate with him, it wont be with any negative feelings-also, hes done nothing wrong-treats me perfectly, has loads of respect, never lets me down ect.Just want to place my words carefully, as im feeling alittle brain washed from all these aqua rules-dont do this, dont say that!!! personally regardless of sign, i think as long as communication, is done in a mature and positive way,u get somewhere.I dont think he wants to loose me, but im sure hes still testing the water, it will be 6 months in a few days. sorry for my long mail.

"This guy I knew liked me a lot and I wanted to take things really slow so I told him let's be friends and see where this goes. Well, unfortunately for him, it went into the direction of me liking one of his best friends and vice versa so that didnt work out too well."

yeah see it never works out.. well not in my experience..

soooo elly if you do like this guy tell him before its too late and u get way too clsoe as m8s...

Primegen, thankyou.
Your words are always very nice and helpful. Actually I agree with the non-verbal-we do seem to comunicate alot without words, and it feels really odd but comfortable,I dont need words-when it feels like that.......but
The situation between us does feel like we are both waiting for the other one to say something. -What do i want to say to him? 6 months back he told me he wasn't ready-and that he would not want to start something, and then finish it in two months-and leave me feeling sad.(good guy)
So we did the friends thing, hung out alot, he'd kissed me a few times, but would always run for the door if it felt like it was going further-gentlemen! Anyway this carried on, after 2 months we started sleeping together-from his moves)(prehaps i should have messaged u prive)and its just contiuned like this.
I want to tell him I dont want to get closer if hes still not ready for a girlfriend-I want to let him know a girlfriend like me, will not stop him from having a life!! - you see, the greek girls are very needy and want the man 24 hours, they dont want their boyfriends doing anything without them!! and i love it if he goes out without me, its very healthy, we have are time-and he should have his time.I think its just that my greek girlfriends have pushed me into feeling something is wrong-thats why I sent a message to him-asking if we could talk-anyway we'll see.Sorry for my long mail again, im stuck at the hotel all day today! my moterbike broke down, and im waiting on greek time service repairs-hey who knows I could be round long enough to chat on your time zone later,bye

OMG prime, that is so true. every time i have listened to what my girl friends say about my relationship, it gets more screwed up. plus, my man is a very private person, and he does not like when i talk about us/ our relationship with anyone!

"Could be that underlying competitiveness women have amongst each other"

-that is VERY true!!! why is that? i have definitely noticed that though. it always seems like a competition to see who has been dating longer, who goes out more often, etc. it's horrible...

i have become really close with my bf's two best friends girlfriends, and it seems that every time we used to have girls night out... the boys did NOT like it. they don't like when we get together, b/c they think we sit there and compare stories about our relationship, etc.

so, that has something to do with how womens competitiveness can cause stress within a relationship...

and it sucks, cause i love going out with those girls and i miss them...but it seems that every time we get together, the guys get upset with us, or a fight gets started. nothing positive comes out of it... just isn't worth it.

puff up there chests...lol.
i don't talk to guys that do that at the bars 🙂

ummm... i really don't talk to guys at the bars. especially in this town! not may intelligent people around here...you know what i mean!

you mean cafe boa? i have never been there.
don't get to tempe very often

i don't go there b/c it is too far from where i live... and i don't like taking the risk of drinking and having to drive that far. it's not worth it.

i do go to the marquee theater in tempe a lot though to see shows.

PRIMEGEN, thanks. Your are mr advice,clear and perfect. I will never make the mistake again and listen to my girlfriends-I dont need to, I know what i want, and i know what works for me.They can keep their men on dog leads if thats what makes them happy-I just want to concentrate on what i think is an excellent friendship-without being clung to the out come.

hey you should be in bed!!! lol

dont spoil toms fun! think up some intersting topics-i got along day in front of this computer

im on to it right now, but just reading up on natile portman, i like her background