Aqua hasn't contacted me, should I just move on or is he just doing the aqua distancing thing? :(

I have know this guy for two months. He has always been very closed off since day one but he usually always initiated contact. He went away for work a week ago and he did contact me 2 days during that week but then he stopped and now he's back home and I still haven't heard from him. Is he actually busy, doing the aqua distancing thing or he forgot about me? Should I move on? I don't want to contact him because I already did and I don't want to chase him.

If you don't like chasing or at least initiating, I would move on.

Posted by sultrykitty
If you don't like chasing or at least initiating, I would move on.

I don't want to chase him because I feel like he has commitment issues and getting close and I don't want to get hurt:/ He also told me he wants to take it slow..

As a Fellow aqua we are pretty guarded with our emotions and we need our time to think things through,if we really like someone we will come back to you so for now give him space to breath,we dont like clingy or needy persons its like a plague to us the more you push the more we want to get away,and if he said that he wants to take things slow then you need to slow down

Posted by Lalapefakada

Posted by sultrykitty
If you don't like chasing or at least initiating, I would move on.

I don't want to chase him because I feel like he has commitment issues and getting close and I don't want to get hurt:/ He also told me he wants to take it slow..

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I understand. It's completely in your hands, if you want to wait for him to initiate, do. But don't put all your eggs in one basket. Date, live your life, and rrspond when he contacts you.

If he wants to take it to the next level at some point, then reconsider at least initiating more often. Aquas don't like chasing forever. If they aren't getting back what they put in, the assume you aren't interested and float away.

Posted by Aquarius3189
As a Fellow aqua we are pretty guarded with our emotions and we need our time to think things through,if we really like someone we will come back to you so for now give him space to breath,we dont like clingy or needy persons its like a plague to us the more you push the more we want to get away,and if he said that he wants to take things slow then you need to slow down

It's ironic how you mention that Aquas don't like clingy, needy people when my ex of 5 years, also an Aqua, was precisely that. In fact he talked about his feelings all the time I could never get a word in. And sometimes I just need my me time, but I couldn't have that because of how emotionally needy he was and how reserved and in tune to my thoughts I could be. I can see why our relationship never worked out because our signs are incompatible. Although, he chased me because I could match him on a mental level. As a Virgo, we are thought provoking, analytical, rationale minded people and they embrace this mind of ours.

@OP If he doesn't view you as intelligent and you're clinging then you come off as desperate, a tool to him. Blunt, but true. Eventually, your conversations will fade because he will find you uninteresting. To grab his attention you will need to stimulate his mind, challenge his views. Aquas love debates, more so, if you're playing devil's advocate. And they have big egos due to their mental capacity so you will pique his interest when you're not feeding into his attention. I had my Aqua hooked in the beginning of our relationship he craved our conversations because they revolved around politics, sciences, theories, etc. Aquas crave differentiation because it is unique, it sparks interest and continuously stimulates their mind. Not knowing when you'll produce an inquisitive topic evokes spontaneity, which they relish.