Aqua man interested? Can't read him...

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Inlovewithmraqua on Monday, January 14, 2013 and has 20 replies.
I'm good friends with an Aquarius man (Venus Cap, Mars Sag). He always make subtle hints at his attraction for me, but I've always brushed it off as a nice gesture from him without any deep emotional meaning. Lately, he has been extremely critical of my boyfriend. Extremely! Is it normal for Aquarius men to act this way towards someone who is just a friend? Does he want something more with me? How can I tell?
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Why is he critical of your bf? Aqua's are very loyal and WILL not tolerate their friends being hurt. That being said if he is into you he will let you know when he is ready.
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I'm an Aquarius, depending on his age yes he can be extremely protective of his friendships, we can be a bit empathic too so if you're hurting or in distress an Aqua can begin to mirror so whatever feeling/vibe he's picking up in you energy space and from the conversations you share he'll MIRROR that back to you so if your hurt and if your frustrated that feeling will be EXPRESSED back out to you, this can sometimes be taken the wrong way, I too being a bit empathic towards the people that are close to me I can mirror back their frustration, I've learned to not do that and to be more INDEPENDENT from the people I love and care for emotionally and mentally, allow them to have their own feelings and not mirror. We Aquas can be very mental, mental stimulation is important and if you're sharing stimulating information about your boyfriend he then can quickly become INVESTED in your situation and become quite attached to the outcome.
He sense you are not being treated well (at least in his mind your not) thus he's mirroring back to you YOUR FEELINGS, he's not doing this on purpose, Aquas love their friends, they love the people that they spend the most time with be it female or male, it's a friendship kind of love, not an intimacy romantic kind of love/feeling. Aquas are very invested in their friends lives, friends come FIRST on the social ladder and b/c friends are first an Aqua will INVEST his/her time and energy mentally, emotionally and physically which can be mistake for romantic interest.
Maybe you should consider putting some distance in between you and the Aqua and not share your relationship issues with him anymore, keep your boyfriend issues and your friendship issues with MEN separate, as a male his first response as a male is to PROTECT, it's not that he's in love with you, maybe he is, I don't know but try not to twist his protective nature with romance, we hate seeing our friends and loved ones struggle in some way or another, we can become quite possessive of our friends b/c friendship is #1 for some Aquas, if your a friend he's going to have your back no matter what and attempt to protect you from disappointment.
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He's being nice. The question really is....are you into him? Be careful because Aquas males are natural Sir Galahads. Too many women mistake their friendly concern for something more. Watch your heart on this one.
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Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
He's being nice. The question really is....are you into him? Be careful because Aquas males are natural Sir Galahads. Too many women mistake their friendly concern for something more. Watch your heart on this one.


that's a good one, fireearth, they are overtly friendly. Their kindness is mistaken as "love" and "romance" perhaps.
When in reality it is just kindness and charity. So when they are pushed up against the reality of what hit them: that the other person has fallen in love with their charity, they are left confused as to why they gave off that signal when it was NOT what they meant at all. And this makes them feel horrible for even being charitable and kind in the first place.
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hmm first off, you have a boyfriend.
I dont care what anyone says. You need to be with your boyfriend if you're committed. If not, why are you in a relationship?
Who cares about the Aqua if the aqua man is NOT your boyfriend.
Basically if you care MORE for you bf, and not worry about what this aqua guy says, then you can tell him to get off his high horse and remind him that you are taken. Men like that, have NO respect whatsoever it seems.
how would YOU like it if your bf had a friend who is a girl that is CRITICAL of YOU? Would you like that huh?
That he's listening to HER criticism of YOU? YOu might as well tell him to jump off a bridge because obviously he is thinking MORE of HER opinion of you than he is of yours.
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btw this is COMMON SENSE too.
If you are like this, the Aqua man in question will look down on you for listening to him and NOT your bf.
Unless your bf is beating up on you, cheating on you, or something very very drastic. Then he's acting like a Sir Galahad coming to the rescue trying to "Save" the princess from harm.
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Posted by lisabethur8
hmm first off, you have a boyfriend.
I dont care what anyone says. You need to be with your boyfriend if you're committed. If not, why are you in a relationship?
Who cares about the Aqua if the aqua man is NOT your boyfriend.
Basically if you care MORE for you bf, and not worry about what this aqua guy says, then you can tell him to get off his high horse and remind him that you are taken. Men like that, have NO respect whatsoever it seems.
how would YOU like it if your bf had a friend who is a girl that is CRITICAL of YOU? Would you like that huh?
That he's listening to HER criticism of YOU? YOu might as well tell him to jump off a bridge because obviously he is thinking MORE of HER opinion of you than he is of yours.


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Posted by ElleSeCache
Posted by lisabethur8
hmm first off, you have a boyfriend.
I dont care what anyone says. You need to be with your boyfriend if you're committed. If not, why are you in a relationship?
Who cares about the Aqua if the aqua man is NOT your boyfriend.
Basically if you care MORE for you bf, and not worry about what this aqua guy says, then you can tell him to get off his high horse and remind him that you are taken. Men like that, have NO respect whatsoever it seems.
how would YOU like it if your bf had a friend who is a girl that is CRITICAL of YOU? Would you like that huh?
That he's listening to HER criticism of YOU? YOu might as well tell him to jump off a bridge because obviously he is thinking MORE of HER opinion of you than he is of yours.


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Posted by Inlovewithmraqua
He always make subtle hints at his attraction for me, but I've always brushed it off as a nice gesture from him without any deep emotional meaning.
...Is it normal for Aquarius men to act this way towards someone who is just a friend? Does he want something more with me? How can I tell?


This boggles my mind, he's shown you interest but it is you who decided to place him as just a friend. Maybe it's just me but I always go for an answer.
Anyhow if you were already taken at the time then I agree with the consensus leave it alone and think nothing of it and tell him to back off, though your username gets me questioning! I sincerely hope your bf is an aqua as well. If you're interested and your boyfriend is boring at least do the right thing and break it up.
Whatever it is you sound like your confused and yeah that never works out right.
On topic though. Yes it's normal for aquarius men to act this way for whatever the purpose, you might be his friend and he's genuinely concerned or he might be actively sabotaging the relationship and the only way for you to tell is to ask him, DIRECTLY.
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Posted by EvilTurtle
Why is he critical of your bf? Aqua's are very loyal and WILL not tolerate their friends being hurt. That being said if he is into you he will let you know when he is ready.


I'm not sure exactly, he just began a rampage recently when I mentioned a minor disagreement my bf and I had. It seemed so out of the blue!
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Posted by lisabethur8
hmm first off, you have a boyfriend.
I dont care what anyone says. You need to be with your boyfriend if you're committed. If not, why are you in a relationship?
Who cares about the Aqua if the aqua man is NOT your boyfriend.
Basically if you care MORE for you bf, and not worry about what this aqua guy says, then you can tell him to get off his high horse and remind him that you are taken. Men like that, have NO respect whatsoever it seems.
how would YOU like it if your bf had a friend who is a girl that is CRITICAL of YOU? Would you like that huh?
That he's listening to HER criticism of YOU? YOu might as well tell him to jump off a bridge because obviously he is thinking MORE of HER opinion of you than he is of yours.


I am totally committed to my boyfriend...I can't wait to marry him and spend my entire life with him! My aqua friend knows this...that's why I am so confused. I believe he knows that nothing will ever happen between us, but my fear is hurting him and weakening our friendship over my mishandling of the situation. I wanted to know if he is expressing sincere feelings for me so I can address it with him in a way that won't prompt his distance and coldness. I love my aqua friend as a friend nothing more, but nothing less either. I want him in my life...I just don't want to create an issue if there isnt one and he doesnt want our friendship to turn into something more.
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Posted by aquasnoz
Posted by Inlovewithmraqua
He always make subtle hints at his attraction for me, but I've always brushed it off as a nice gesture from him without any deep emotional meaning.
...Is it normal for Aquarius men to act this way towards someone who is just a friend? Does he want something more with me? How can I tell?


This boggles my mind, he's shown you interest but it is you who decided to place him as just a friend. Maybe it's just me but I always go for an answer.
Anyhow if you were already taken at the time then I agree with the consensus leave it alone and think nothing of it and tell him to back off, though your username gets me questioning! I sincerely hope your bf is an aqua as well. If you're interested and your boyfriend is boring at least do the right thing and break it up.
Whatever it is you sound like your confused and yeah that never works out right.
On topic though. Yes it's normal for aquarius men to act this way for whatever the purpose, you might be his friend and he's genuinely concerned or he might be actively sabotaging the relationship and the only way for you to tell is to ask him, DIRECTLY.
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My bf is an aqua! Omg I didn't realize how that could be taken haha....all of those closest to me are born January21-26! Both are aquas!
I'm not confused at all...my boyfriend will be my husband very shortly. I just want to be as careful with the feeling of my aqua friend because I cherish our friendship and care about him greatly!
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Most Aquas will cherish honesty even if they have to let go of their pride. Tell him as it is and confront him. It can go either way but know that if he's genuine in any way there's no getting in the way of your friendship. I've had some pretty ugly confrontations that lead to "I WILL NEVER TALK TO YOU AGAIN I HATE YOU", but you know we can't all keep our cools but for me a true solid friendship not only mean the good times but surviving the horrible times too.
And phew I'm sure glad your bf's an aqua too smile
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Posted by Inlovewithmraqua
Posted by aquasnoz
Posted by Inlovewithmraqua
He always make subtle hints at his attraction for me, but I've always brushed it off as a nice gesture from him without any deep emotional meaning.
...Is it normal for Aquarius men to act this way towards someone who is just a friend? Does he want something more with me? How can I tell?


This boggles my mind, he's shown you interest but it is you who decided to place him as just a friend. Maybe it's just me but I always go for an answer.
Anyhow if you were already taken at the time then I agree with the consensus leave it alone and think nothing of it and tell him to back off, though your username gets me questioning! I sincerely hope your bf is an aqua as well. If you're interested and your boyfriend is boring at least do the right thing and break it up.
Whatever it is you sound like your confused and yeah that never works out right.
On topic though. Yes it's normal for aquarius men to act this way for whatever the purpose, you might be his friend and he's genuinely concerned or he might be actively sabotaging the relationship and the only way for you to tell is to ask him, DIRECTLY.


My bf is an aqua! Omg I didn't realize how that could be taken haha....all of those closest to me are born January21-26! Both are aquas!
I'm not confused at all...my boyfriend will be my husband very shortly. I just want to be as careful with the feeling of my aqua friend because I cherish our friendship and care about him greatly!
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jeez just tell him be direct if he wants to be your friend he will. A few awkward laughs all is fine. If he wants you well it will hurt him but he'll live. Best to leave the personal stuff to yourself.
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Just for the record i am trying to limit the number of times i need my shinning armor to only six times a year.
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I have an aqua friend who is always trying to poke holes and place doubts in me about my aqua boyfriend. This guy does it for very, very selfish reasons. In the past he stated he wanted me to be FWB with him (that's it, nothing else) and I refused. So, now he tries to sabatoge my confidence and security. What a selfish jerk, huh? Needless to say, I don't share anything with him and try not to have any contact with him anymore.
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Posted by EvilTurtle
Just for the record i am trying to limit the number of times i need my shinning armor to only six times a year.


Awwww...only six? I always pictured a knight in shining armour on a white stead as an Aqua with mars in Pisces rescuing damsels in distress. Don't know why.
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sorry my mars is in capricorn so more practical then dreamy. Will merc in picses work? The whole FWB thing never works out someone always gets hurt. Not into hurting people.
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