Aqua normality?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by BAV on Friday, March 6, 2020 and has 18 replies.
So, left my gf, tried with the Aqua (this was a month ago). Told her that we should take it slow, and that I dont to jump from one relationship to another so soon. Next, it was a roller-coaster. Very intense feelings from her (most when we were dating), like I have some sort of magnetism over her and she changes her mood when we see eachother, she more loving, sweet etc etc. But, still, days without speaking, telling me that she has build up high walls around her, bla bla. A week ago she texted me that she will tell me when she comes back from a trip (actually today) where our relationship fractured and she will tell me "what attitude to have with her, in order for her to stay in the rs". I got angry at her selfishness, told her that I dont like that superior tone. Next day I sent her a long text, with everything in my mind about her, basically telling her that I understand she has issues with guys in general, but that she has to live her life, to take decisions, to be involved or I will not stay. And that I dont have to change my attitude, she has to change her mindset and accept good things in her life.

Her reply (within 1 minute) was fabulous: I dont have time to read now, will read later (it was long), but no matter what you wrote me, I love you, I love you very much... I was like wtf?! Are you for real? Anyway, next she texted me her version about where things got weird between us: some things that I have told her in the past (that is hard for me to leave my ex - which I did in the end; that I dont want to jump from one rs to another that soon - it was the next day after my breakup and she was basically texting me to move together in a rented place; and that we should things slowly and not force them). And that all this DONT MATTER and that she loves me very much and that we will continue our beautiful love story when she comes back (today). She was actually being sweet and all that shit. Next day, we barely talked, she was busy, again love you, love you too. And then NOTHING. no texts, no calls, nothing. I thought she needed space, so I let her be. Today, she calls me at work (we work together), with some work related stuff, asked me how I am and tells me that we will talk after she is less busy.

So, what do I make of this? She is the least consistent person I know, I never know whats going on in her heard. I am a Taurus and I love stability, I know she can be stable (she proved me for a month a half before I left my gf, when we were kind of lovers..). Or maybe she just realized that we are not suited together and ghosting is her way of leaving. From I love very much and want to continue what we started to nothing at all in 2-3 days is incredible.
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Um that sounds like an abnormal Aqua with lots of Gemini, Pisces or Cancer placements prob.
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"she will tell me "what attitude to have with her, in order for her to stay in the rs". I got angry at her selfishness, told her that I dont like that superior tone."

Like it or not, you've got to listen to what she needs to be happy. In fact, you have to encourage her to open up to you!

Similarly, she has to listen to your needs...why don't you put them in writing: how much and how often do you need reassurance, attention, sex, conversation, quality time, acts of service, love declarations, dates....anything from her or with her! Make that list reasonable, since she's got a job and a child to look after.

At this stage, you need to know if and how much you two need to compromise in the name of love, and if you two are willing to.
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Posted by ClassyAquarius

Dude, when we work, we seriously don't have time to talk. It has nothing to do with you. She is focusing on her work. I can't do two things at once so I don't text people at work neither. Stop freaking out.

Give her space otherwise she will run away.
Its not that! Its not like I dont understand that she works. I work too and dont like to be asked and pressured. We havent talked for 3-4 days at all, AFTER she said we would come back to the "sweet loving" thing that we had. And I am pretty sure that she will not come back smile) I gave her space. I will give her more space. At the same time, I am detaching myself.
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Posted by Phantum

You're free now, so there is the potential for it to really be something, so now it's scary. Also, you backed off and said you didn't want to hop from one relationship to another, so she's probably bracing herself for whatever that means.
Isnt it normal? It was the very next day after leaving my ex, that she insinuated that we move together.. It was a bit much for a healthy start. I have my doubts, so why rent an apartment and maybe stay for a month and then if it doesnt work out.. what?
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Talked to her about it. We dated 3 days ago. She basically told me that she has made up her mind, took the decisions that she needed to take. She meant that she wants to move out of the country. Again, when we saw eachother, we were like before (this always happens when we see eachother), we could stay for hours and days together, not bothered by anything and just feel good. But, yet, she is not inlove..

Texted her right after that because this is not 100% from her side I will take a step back from all. That I want us to plan for the future, living here or where she plans on moving, not casual dates weekly and maybe a weekend every month or 2. Her reply: I love you, we will find the way.

And then nothing. No contact since then.

I think she is just focusing now on her new job prospect, outside the country. A month ago, she implied that we should get married and go together. I havent said anything meaningful. If things would be different and I would see a desire from her side, I would consider this.

The point is that I think she doesnt see a future here and wants to move AND knowing that I wouldnt go with her, she backs away, not to get involved in something for which she doesnt see a future.
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I don’t think you listen very well, it’s not always about words.. also you seem to have a bad temper.. but in general you are right when you say you are a Taurus who likes stability and she is an Aqua so it would be like trying to hit a square into a circular hole if you carry on with this relationship. Just don’t be angry, there’s no need, it’s not your fault or her fault that you want different things.
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Posted by peachy06

Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. 👍🏼
The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I don’t think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about “winning” such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.

I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesn’t know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I can’t stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesn’t trust you and that’s why she’s inconsistent.
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The irony of the cheating Taurus claiming he likes stability.

Bro you left your stable situation to get involved with someone who has been inconsistent from the start. You knew what it was.

So don't play victim now that you realize you can't change her. After all, your certainly not willing to change for her.

Stubborn is as stubborn does. Or something equally prophetic, idk.
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Posted by Phantum
Posted by aquarius09
Posted by peachy06

Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. 👍🏼


The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I don’t think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about “winning” such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.

I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesn’t know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I can’t stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesn’t trust you and that’s why she’s inconsistent.


Did you entertain the Libra dude until he offered to pull the plug on his girlfriend and then decide he sucked? Cheating is cool but leaving the cheating situation is not?
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I didn’t know he had a girlfriend. He came clean when he, in his head, made the decision to leave her. I was surprised to find that he had a gf and I’m the type of person who gets immediately repulsed by cheater. I immediately lost attraction for him and left the scene.
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Posted by peachy06
Posted by aquarius09
Posted by peachy06

Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. 👍🏼


The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I don’t think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about “winning” such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.

I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesn’t know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I can’t stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesn’t trust you and that’s why she’s inconsistent.


I share the same mindset, but what do you keep saying "you" ? I'm not OP ???
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I know. I’m referring to the OP throughout but wanted to further the point you made. Lol
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Posted by aquarius09
Posted by peachy06
Posted by aquarius09
Posted by peachy06

Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. 👍🏼


The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I don’t think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about “winning” such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.

I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesn’t know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I can’t stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesn’t trust you and that’s why she’s inconsistent.


I share the same mindset, but what do you keep saying "you" ? I'm not OP ???


I know. I’m referring to the OP throughout but wanted to further the point you made. Lol
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I thought you were the Aqua the OP was talking about! And you were explaining your point of view to us all.
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Posted by AriesJo
Posted by aquarius09
Posted by peachy06
Posted by aquarius09
Posted by peachy06

Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. 👍🏼


The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I don’t think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about “winning” such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.

I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesn’t know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I can’t stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesn’t trust you and that’s why she’s inconsistent.


I share the same mindset, but what do you keep saying "you" ? I'm not OP ???


I know. I’m referring to the OP throughout but wanted to further the point you made. Lol


I thought you were the Aqua the OP was talking about! And you were explaining your point of view to us all.
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LOL! Nope. If I were the Aqua he was talking about, he wouldn’t have advice to seek on dxp.
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Posted by aquarius09
Posted by Phantum
Posted by aquarius09
Posted by peachy06

Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. 👍🏼


The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I don’t think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about “winning” such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.

I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesn’t know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I can’t stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesn’t trust you and that’s why she’s inconsistent.


Did you entertain the Libra dude until he offered to pull the plug on his girlfriend and then decide he sucked? Cheating is cool but leaving the cheating situation is not?


I didn’t know he had a girlfriend. He came clean when he, in his head, made the decision to leave her. I was surprised to find that he had a gf and I’m the type of person who gets immediately repulsed by cheater. I immediately lost attraction for him and left the scene.
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It wasnt like this. I told her from the start that I am with someone, she continued knowing the truth. After a month I told her that I am leaving my gf, independently of her (of the Aqua).

After 10 days of mostly no contact, I realized that SHE is the one who needs constant reassurance, that she is needy at times (Venus in Cap, mine in Gem). Texted her that I needed this time off to recalibrate myself and that I still love her. Her reply: I love you too, we should go outside the town on a weekend to rediscover ourselves coz we lost it a bit. In the meantime, she left the city because of the corona and texts me that she loves me from time to time. I tell her the same, but I am not sure how to proceed with her being away...

So, she has venus in Cap, I have it in Gem.. what do you make of it?
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Posted by BAV
Posted by aquarius09
Posted by Phantum
Posted by aquarius09
Posted by peachy06

Serve you right for leaving your ex gf for another woman. 👍🏼


The key point most people overlooked is precisely that. People you cheat on your partner with aka enablers ironically are also distrustful of the cheater. LOL. I don’t think she trusts you. If you can leave your girl for another woman you will do the same to her some day. There is nothing satisfying about “winning” such a person, especially for a guarded Aqua.

I had a Libra dude (go figure another Venusian who doesn’t know how to be single) who was willing to leave his gf for me and I ghosted him prior to him pulling the plug. I can’t stand people like that, let alone love them, who leave unhappy relationships until they find someone else. She doesn’t trust you and that’s why she’s inconsistent.


Did you entertain the Libra dude until he offered to pull the plug on his girlfriend and then decide he sucked? Cheating is cool but leaving the cheating situation is not?


I didn’t know he had a girlfriend. He came clean when he, in his head, made the decision to leave her. I was surprised to find that he had a gf and I’m the type of person who gets immediately repulsed by cheater. I immediately lost attraction for him and left the scene.


It wasnt like this. I told her from the start that I am with someone, she continued knowing the truth. After a month I told her that I am leaving my gf, independently of her (of the Aqua).

After 10 days of mostly no contact, I realized that SHE is the one who needs constant reassurance, that she is needy at times (Venus in Cap, mine in Gem). Texted her that I needed this time off to recalibrate myself and that I still love her. Her reply: I love you too, we should go outside the town on a weekend to rediscover ourselves coz we lost it a bit. In the meantime, she left the city because of the corona and texts me that she loves me from time to time. I tell her the same, but I am not sure how to proceed with her being away...

So, she has venus in Cap, I have it in Gem.. what do you make of it?
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You told HER you’re leaving your gf (independent of Aqua)? Who are you lying to? Me or yourself. You’re a typical Gem venus. You left your girlfriend because you were entertained by another woman. Jokes on you because you left consistency (a stable gf)for an inconsistent side chick. You’re a rookie cheater though. Experienced cheaters secure something with a side chick and then leave the previous relationship.

As for her inconsistency, pay attention. She’s not that into you. As an Aqua, I won’t lift a finger for anyone unless I’m genuinely into you but I will sweet talk people because it’s effortless. Her I love yous don’t mean anything if she’s not putting the action.
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So basically you two went through all the dramatics for nothing.

Nothing worse than fruitless efforts.
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All this for lust. Your making all these mistakes for sex. You can’t possible truly love a person that tricks you the way she does.

This woman is playing you like a fool. Her stories are all full of lies. Her claiming to move out of town for work is a lie to create a since of urgency so that you could hurry up and leave your gf for her. Now that you’ve done everything that she asked, she skips town because of the Coronavirus! Another BOGUS story. If you are not a troll and this story is true, this woman is EXTREMELY dangerous and needs to be left alone. My gut tells me She has some type an ulterior motive. Block her and never look back.
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Posted by CreativeCap

All this for lust. Your making all these mistakes for sex. You can’t possible truly love a person that tricks you the way she does.

This woman is playing you like a fool. Her stories are all full of lies. Her claiming to move out of town for work is a lie to create a since of urgency so that you could hurry up and leave your gf for her. Now that you’ve done everything that she asked, she skips town because of the Coronavirus! Another BOGUS story. If you are not a troll and this story is true, this woman is EXTREMELY dangerous and needs to be left alone. My gut tells me She has some type an ulterior motive. Block her and never look back.
What makes you so sure that’s what up?

Fyi, he’s been posting about her for years.
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