Aquarian DON'Ts...

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by krysrenee7 on Monday, January 19, 2009 and has 27 replies.
-Be too exacting?Aquarians act according to whim & are often in their own worlds
-Demand a serious relationship early on & never try to be the only thing in your Aquarian's universe in the beginning. They want for others to prove to them first that they are even worthy of being a priority & not just an option, before they start to wear their hearts on their sleeves & put you on a high pedistool
-Try to change an Aquarian mind even if you disagree on some Aquarian viewpoints on certain issues. Aquarians don't mind a mild disagreement every once in a while, but someone who NEVER agrees with them will find themselves w/o their Aquarian
-Try to lure an Aquarian into your arms when their mind is elsewhere (they may turn down the invitation, & worse, not even notice that you gave it). When Aquarians need their distance, give it to them. They don't want to argue about a decision they've already made final.
-Attempt to influence the Aquarian's fashion sense even if you feel it is totally inappropriate or wild (Aquarians like to dress differently from the crowd). Aquarians want someone who is more intrigued by their "differences" rather than annoyed.
-Attempting to get too close to them or too friendly with them. If everything you say or do is too good to be true, they will immediately take a step back & start assuming that there are some mind games being played & won't give in until they are sure they were wrong
-Turned off when others don't follow through ?as Advertised? When you tell an Aquarian how you are & what you expect from them, they expect for others to live up to their words. The worse thing for an Aquarian is to fall in love with the person you were "pretending" to be
-Attempting to outdo them or grab too much of the glory from them. Aquarians are not trying to compete with others when they make their presence known. They are simply doing what you are doing: making their presence & knowledge known. But if they can sense that you've made it into a competition, they will be turned off.
-Don't be a party pooper. When an Aquarian actually comes out of their shell, just enj
Don't keep all the good gossip to yourself
Don't try to be a ?know-it-alls?
Aquarius, male or female, likes to dominate the relationship (as a way of controlling feared emotions). A partner who makes too many demands, becomes jealous, or tries to put limitations on Aquarius's freedom is usually dropped quite suddenly and may be treated like a total stranger
-Don't be a party pooper. When an Aquarian actually comes out of their shell, just enjoy the ride. Don't suddenly make them feel bad for something that you've been asking them to show.
-Don't keep all the good gossip to yourself. Aquarians like to know everything about everything, but not necessarily b/c they plan on using it against others, but instead b/c they have a natural curiosity about everything.
-Don't try to be a ?know-it-all?. Aquarians will respect someone who is just as strong minded as them, but will not tolerate someone who's main intention is to always compete for the "most intelligent" award. If an Aquarian disagrees with you on most of your opinions, they will assume that they are not on the same page with you & will suddenly see no use for you. Aquarians love 2 strong minds bonding together.
-Aquarius, male or female, likes to dominate the relationship (as a way of controlling feared emotions). A partner who makes too many demands, becomes jealous, or tries to put limitations on Aquarius's freedom is usually dropped quite suddenly and may be treated like a total stranger. Aquarians like for their partners to go with the flow & let the relationship play itself out. They get turned off by those who attempt to mold them into something they don't want to be. It will be a waste of time & will never happen.
Let me go ahead & say this...I DO NOT expect for everyone (whether you're an Aquarian yourself or know alot of Aquarians) to agree with me. This is my personal opinion from an Aquarian point of view & what I've posted is what I've personally observed about my self & the other Aquarians I know as well. I'm in NO way labeling all Aquarians or saying that how I feel about this topic will be the same way others feel or the same thing others have observed. But, I am doing what this site allows me to do & that's to state my opinion.
I dont mind all of those regulations that you guys set up in your mind...but in a reality nobody is going to be able to live up to those standards...NO matter what sign they are...Thats why so many Aquariuses are single and searching for something that doesnt exist...You guys expect your mate to be perfect...but you guys can have all of these flaws and its ALRIGHT...Thats the just the way you are and that person has to accept it...The minute you guys do something wrong its ignored...And then when your mate does something wrong BAM you want your space, you dont want to communicate that person isnt right for you and etc...I love Aquariuses but I hate the double standard thing..I messed with one and never again...I have a lot of Aquarius friends but I would never date one
I mean hey, some Aquarians change that part about themselves if the right person comes a long. I hate to hear that you had such bad experiences with Aquarians. Maybe, one will come a long & prove you completely wrong & catch you off guard. Then you'll be hooked all over again Winking
My aqua is n-o-n-e of the above, sorry but if you tried to treat them as individuals you?d have more success!!
And hey, I'm okay with the fact that you don't agree with my post. All I can do is say "Hmph" and keep it moving
krys,
you forgot the Cancers. maybe.
^^^ LOL!!!
-Turned off when others don't follow through ?as Advertised? When you tell an Aquarian how you are & what you expect from them, they expect for others to live up to their words. The worse thing for an Aquarian is to fall in love with the person you were "pretending" to be

I particularly like the above post......however, for me it is a HUGE turn off when one obsessivly and incessanly questions everything another person says. There has to be a time when the interrogation stops. If you are trying to learn what the other person is about, then get up off your arse and learn HOW to be that persons friend. Meaning, hang out with them, TALK to EACH OTHER. If you want to know something about me ask ME. If you don't have the balls, grow a pair, THEN return and talk to ME. How can you learn about someone through secondhand information?
I also enjoy my space, but when you are getting too close or are questioning my every waking move, I will shut you out and distant myself from you faster than you can say Ambsol. Its not easy for me to open up to ANYONE....if I am consider yourself lucky. I am very private and do not particularly enjoy having my privacy invaded or my intelligence insulted. I would not do it another person, so please SHOW me the same respect.


Curse my Aries moon lately......I've been wanting to rip everyone a new one!
yeah!! somechick......everyone seems edgy lately.....uhuh!
There has to be a time when the interrogation stops. If you are trying to learn what the other person is about, then get up off your arse and learn HOW to be that persons friend. Meaning, hang out with them, TALK to EACH OTHER. If you want to know something about me ask ME. If you don't have the balls, grow a pair, THEN return and talk to ME. How can you learn about someone through secondhand information?


LOL ! Sorry somechick but that was a hoot...
well, Aquas are scientific in nature, I've observed them attempt to FULLY understand people by observation and collecting data... as would do with an inanimate object, completely omitting the one vital thing about humans... EMOTIONS/FEELINGS! lol
Scorps are opposite, they'll collect all data on emotions/feelings, eff all else Winking
yea blame aries, everyone does Tongue
"Scorps are opposite, they'll collect all data on emotions/feelings, eff all else"
See, this is where I'm different. I seriously cannot grasp that part of my personality. I have trouble dealing with my own emotions/feelings. I'd rather learn about someone first, then if there is a connection there and I like you enough.....then we can get to feelings and all that crap. But Im dealing witn an Aqua w/a Scorp moon.
Ah well, if it was meant to be it will. If he's interested and sincere he'll figure out SOME way to show it. If not, his loss. Ill be fine with or without him.
Gosh Im cold....I think my air signs are in the wrong place...lol
that doesn't sound like coldness! heehee--- sounds like the opposite! Tongue
See, this is where I'm different. I seriously cannot grasp that part of my personality. I have trouble dealing with my own emotions/feelings.
lol - said nothing about you grasping your own --- meant when scorps study others
"Figuring out our 'patterns' of behavior is not that difficult as compared to other signs.....figuring out what to do about is the challenge"
BINGO! It's like, ok so you've analyzed us and collected your data. Now what? I know exactly what you mean
"The best I've seen are aries. They seem to know when to back off and when to approach than anyone I have ever dealt with - yet - NEVER seem to take it personal...because they figure us out and then know what to do about it AND not take it personal....all at the same time. The roughest experience I had was with virgo. Could never figure that out....was so busy trying to look for flaws in me."
I agree. My Aries friends know how to let me be but at the same time make it clear that they still care even though they are letting me have my space. With my Aries friends, there is never too much space (to the point where I feel they no longer care) or too much pressure for me to open up either. It's right in the perfect middle with them. And with Virgos, I never tell them about my problems anymore. Sometimes I just need to vent, without hearing any "I agrees" or "I disagrees." Sometimes I just need to talk out my problems to them & just have them to listen w/o saying anything. But my Virgo friends can't do it; no matter how many times they keep saying, "Ok, I'll give you your space," they always come back 5 or 10 minutes later & start the interrogation all overa gain. It's almost like they can't help it. Virgos are great listeners when they can sense that you are on top of the game but the minute they can sense that you are vulnerable or need help beyond your own understanding, they'll automatically start to analyze everything & almost make the situation worse. They can't help it sometimes. And so how do I deal with it? I still love my Virgo friends, but I just pick & chose what problems I will share with them, if any at all
The reason I can't even get mad anymore is b/c I had to realize that My Virgo friends were doing the "analyzing" thing at all the wrong times, YES, but meant no harm by it. In their minds, they were analyzing my situation/problem so that they could understand my concern in order to help me to the fullest extent. And hey, when I'm actually not being stubborn & actually don't mind taking someone else' opinion that I didn't ask for, my Virgo friends are the first ones I'll call. But when I just need someone to shut up & listen, I solve that problem by just not calling them. I know they mean no harm (they are just doing what is natural to them) but hey, sometimes they make me think about things in ways that I had never thought about things & when that happens, things get worse. Sometimes I just need for my friend to let me know that she understands. Every time I seek advice, it doesn't necessarily mean I'm asking for an opinion on whether or not I'm wrong or right
"This is where the virgo can fall short. They don't think in 'understanding' terms....the way an aries friend would. Virgo thinks in up or down ways...either you are perfectly wrong or perfectly right. Never a balance of 'hey...that's just the way you are I guess, but love ya anyway"...lol...the way I have experienced with aries. Virgo wants you to do that for them and them alone. Never the other way around at times. Sometimes, YES...an aqua just wants to be understood for being human, the way we understand others as being so human...not PERFECTLY human."
Perfect. You couldn't have said it better. One of the main reasons I had to break it off with one of my ex Virgo best friends is b/c I started to take what she was saying in her advice to me as pressure instead of help. Every time I'd vent to her about something, she'd start off telling me what I did wrong & asking too many questions. So I'd have to keep constantly telling her to just listen. Well she didn't, so it kept getting to the point where every time I'd tell her I didn't want her to interupt me, she'd have the nerve to say, "But Krystal, why don't you want to talk about it? See, you're just in denial" & what she thought was me running away from my problems was really me just saying, "look, I called you b/c I wanted you to just listen." Hell if I was trying to run away from my problems I wouldn't have taken out the time to tell her any of them; I would've just kept them all to myself. But with her, she wasn't content with just the little bit I told her (I told her enough so that she could understand why I felt the way I did, but not everything b/c I didn't wanna get asked any more question) but in her mind, she wasn't going to back down unless I told her every single detail she wanted. And with me, I don't let people pressure me into things I'm not yet ready to talk about or do. Eventually, she became more of a pest than a best friend & it really hit me when the tables were turned & when it was her turn to be analyzed. She'd use all the same "just listen" tactics to me & when I'd give her a taste of her own medicine she couldn't understand for the life of her why I wouldn't just let her be.
I didn't mind a little pressure or scorn every once in a while, because after all I only cling to those who can tell me the things I don't want to hear because they'd rather be honest with me & hurt my feelings. But there's a big difference between telling me the truth b/c I'm asking for it & purposely attempting to pressure me & FORCE your advice on me when I made it clear that I just wanted someone to listen & not talk. And she didn't understand that, so instead of constantly complaining or deciding not to go to her, I just dropped her as a friend. After all, if I feel that I'm not even comfortable talking to you then you are useless to me (in part) as a friend. I did what I had to do
Aguaqi or super powers activate, or whatever the hell your name is.
Why don't you write for us. smile
I find your explanation most accurate, since I have a thing for aqua chicks.
I have a chinese version of the Aqua don'ts . Let us all see.....
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Wo ao ni nuhaizi de shuai.
duibuqi wo do pinyin.
wo ting bu dong Sad
haha I tried to say, "I like aqua girls" for red_aries.
and "duibiqi, Wo [de] pinyin." (excuse my pinyin).
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wo xihuan shui ping zuo de nv sheng.
thats how to say it Winking

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