Aquarius and Exs

Aquas,if you miss an ex would you talk to them? Would you tell them straight up that you miss them? Or would you wait for your ex to say it and then say it back?

Or would you drop hints in hopes of them saying the words "I miss you"?

I like for people to make the 1st move, if they don't then I just suffer in silence. No way I'm putting myself out there. I've had an ex tell me that they miss me, all I said was "Okay" because I didn't want him to know that I still think about him, etc. I have my reasons for hiding how I truly feel from him though.

Are you an aqua yourself or trying to figure out one?

I'm trying to figure one out. He broke up with me 1month ago. And now he's been texting me all week, he texts me first, he always brings up the funny moments we had together, told me that he trusts me and can tell me anything, he even asked me if I was talking to other guys or if I've had sex with someone else yet. Why would he ask that? He's slowly warming up to me, like we are back to teasing and making fun of each other Haha I think he misses me but he doesn't want to say it? I miss him obviously but should I be the one to say it? It seems like that's what he's waiting for

Why did you guys break up?

Or maybe I should rephrase that lol, why did he break up with you?

Personally, I'd never take back anyone that broke up with me. It must be humiliating & quite ego crushing. But if you feel like giving it another go, then why not? Make sure it doesn't become a pattern though, him ending the relationship whenever he feels like it.

He broke up with me because he thought he could handle the distance but couldn't ; LDR and he had alot of things on his mind.
I know aquas don't like it when you pour your emotions out so how should I say that I miss him? I was thinking something like "it's always good to hear from you" or idk lol

I'll answer your question in two parts with regards to the demise of the relationship. Firstly, if the ex or friend burn bridges with you; and secondly, if the ex or friend did not burn bridges with you.

My ex was not just my friend but my boyfriend as well. He burned bridges with me by lying and cheating (totally disrespectful and utterly unacceptable to an aqua). Yes, I miss him, BUT I miss him like I miss my deceased father. When someone burns bridges with they diminish any hope of reviving romantic relationship + friendship. will never want anything to do with him. Now I've forgiven him and wish him the best. I have no ill will against him, but I just don't retry a person who's already failed to be a good friend or bf.

So, yes I do miss my ex but I will never do anything about that "missing feeling" I have. I won't be caught msging him saying I miss him or wanting to reconnect or anything like that unless I did something that weighs on my conscience, im which case I may contact them to release whatveer is weighing on me, but it will be to the point.

Second part: if the friend or love didn't burn bridges. We parted amicably. I won't be initiating contact to either let them know I miss them or to reconnect the old relationship or friendship. If they were to contact me and say they miss me or want to reconnect, I will be civil and politely decline any offers to reconnect. I may acknowledge that I miss them, but will also let them know that my missing someone means nothing. Lol. I'm not nostalgic like a cancer and nor do I like living in the past.

Posted by QueenVictoria22
He broke up with me because he thought he could handle the distance but couldn't ; LDR and he had alot of things on his mind.
I know aquas don't like it when you pour your emotions out so how should I say that I miss him? I was thinking something like "it's always good to hear from you" or idk lol

Never mind what the signs say, he's still human after all. Just say how you feel. Tell him that you missed him. If that makes him act weird then he is not worth your time. You should be able to be free to talk to your mate about your feelings, don't you think? How long have you been dating?

Posted by QueenVictoria22
He broke up with me because he thought he could handle the distance but couldn't ; LDR and he had alot of things on his mind.
I know aquas don't like it when you pour your emotions out so how should I say that I miss him? I was thinking something like "it's always good to hear from you" or idk lol

Well gotta love an aqua for honesty. He could've led you on if he was a douche, but he told you he can't do it. Kudos to him for honesty. I don't mind emotions weird as long as they are not excessive display of emotion. You can let him know you miss him. Don't even try to keep him in your life as a friends because you'd only be hurting yourself by keeping someone in your life who you want more as friends, but can't have. I dont want friends that secretly like me, and I don't think an aqua guy would either unless his moon is in attentionwhore. Give it time, which heals. Once you are over him, you may be able to be friends with him because aqua is a sign of friendship and we can maintain friendship with both genders. My aqua cousin has a lot of female friends, but he doesn't like them more than friends.

lmao @ moon in attention whore.

Posted by QueenVictoria22
he even asked me if I was talking to other guys or if I've had sex with someone else yet.

See, I would have addressed it right then and there. Ah, but, remember, I'm a forward, get-the-ball rolling, call-you-out-on-your-shit kind of capricorn. lol!

I would have responded "so should I be flattered that you miss me or insulted you think I'd be sleeping with someone else this soon?"

Then hold my breath waiting for his response! lol!
And being an aqua, he would respond in an avoidance kind of way with some kind of humor.
But, I know I'd have gotten my point across.

My first instinct is "it's none of your damn business" but then that doesn't get you anywhere if you want them back. lol!

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lmao @ moon in attention whore.

I knew you'd like that. I think I did that just for you :p

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lmao @ moon in attention whore.

I knew you'd like that. I think I did that just for you :p

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first online laugh of the day, thanks 🙂

Posted by aquarius09
I may acknowledge that I miss them, but will also let them know that my missing someone means nothing. Lol. I'm not nostalgic like a cancer and nor do I like living in the past.

Yeah I see what you mean and that's interesting I'm a Cancer 🙂

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Posted by QueenVictoria22
He broke up with me because he thought he could handle the distance but couldn't ; LDR and he had alot of things on his mind.
I know aquas don't like it when you pour your emotions out so how should I say that I miss him? I was thinking something like "it's always good to hear from you" or idk lol

Well gotta love an aqua for honesty. He could've led you on if he was a douche, but he told you he can't do it. Kudos to him for honesty. I don't mind emotions weird as long as they are not excessive display of emotion. You can let him know you miss him. Don't even try to keep him in your life as a friends because you'd only be hurting yourself by keeping someone in your life who you want more as friends, but can't have. I dont want friends that secretly like me, and I don't think an aqua guy would either unless his moon is in attentionwhore. Give it time, which heals. Once you are over him, you may be able to be friends with him because aqua is a sign of friendship and we can maintain friendship with both genders. My aqua cousin has a lot of female friends, but he doesn't like them more than friends.

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Yeah at first I was upset and hurt and I completely shut him out without thinking,i went in defensive mode. Now that I look back at what he said, it's true I shouldn't be mad ,he was being honest and knows what's best. I think I can handle being friends with him ,the distance makes it easier to move on from the hard feelings. I think he still likes me, I sent him a pic of me and he said that I'm pretty. I told him he's cute and he just denied it, made a joke of it and laughed and changed the subject.But yeah,I'm fine with being friends...for now

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Posted by QueenVictoria22
He broke up with me because he thought he could handle the distance but couldn't ; LDR and he had alot of things on his mind.
I know aquas don't like it when you pour your emotions out so how should I say that I miss him? I was thinking something like "it's always good to hear from you" or idk lol

Never mind what the signs say, he's still human after all. Just say how you feel. Tell him that you missed him. If that makes him act weird then he is not worth your time. You should be able to be free to talk to your mate about your feelings, don't you think? How long have you been dating?

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True and I'm just waiting for him to text me first, then I'll tell him that I miss him ha. We were together for 3 months and 2 weeks

Posted by WaterCup
lmao @ moon in attention whore.

I think his moon is in Libra, I'm not sure what that means.
my moon is in sagittarius

Posted by QueenVictoria22

Posted by aquarius09
I may acknowledge that I miss them, but will also let them know that my missing someone means nothing. Lol. I'm not nostalgic like a cancer and nor do I like living in the past.

Yeah I see what you mean and that's interesting I'm a Cancer 🙂

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So you know all about living in the past and holding on to people who touch your heart. 😉

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Posted by WaterCup
lmao @ moon in attention whore.

I think his moon is in Libra, I'm not sure what that means.
my moon is in sagittarius

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Moon is sag, eh? Your sag influence will make you strong.

Libra moon? Oh no! You better pray that's not true because having your sun or moon in libra is like having a people pleasing syndrome. The greatest effect that it'll have on you is that 1) you will say or do anything to be liked and seek attention aka moon in attentionwhore and 2) you will not know how to be alone. You will always have side chick/man lined up to fall back on.

Now I'd like to think his aqua sun would lend him the power to know how to be alone w/o having someone on the side, but libra moon can really ruin that. My cousin that is aqua sun and libra moon always has a chick lined up on the side. He creates a facade that he's all happy being "single" because he doesn't count those female friends that he leads on as anything. According to him, he's single and the women he leads on are "friends". Lol

Don't be the side chick. Take some time away from him. Get yourself a new guy and once you are stable in your feelings with the new guy, then you can be friends with him if you want. I'm also saying this now that I know you're a cancer. You guys are really sensitive and rejection/break up is not your strong suit. Save your psyche!! That's the no. 1 thing I promote on this website to women: save your psyche!! I assure you that sticking around men who don't want you or want you as 2nd option only really damages you, not them.

Posted by QueenVictoria22
Aquas,if you miss an ex would you talk to them? Would you tell them straight up that you miss them? Or would you wait for your ex to say it and then say it back?

it's too bad it's mostly women in here chiming in.

the aqua men are just scarce. Basically all men around here in every sign is SCARCE.

Tumbleweeds rolling by....

it really DEPENDS on the individual. We can't say what's on this guy's mind. Who is to say what the heck he wants. You yourself would know him better than us. You already can get a feel of who he is as a person than to ask strangers online you know.

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Posted by WaterCup
lmao @ moon in attention whore.

I think his moon is in Libra, I'm not sure what that means.
my moon is in sagittarius

Moon is sag, eh? Your sag influence will make you strong.

Libra moon? Oh no! You better pray that's not true because having your sun or moon in libra is like having a people pleasing syndrome. The greatest effect that it'll have on you is that 1) you will say or do anything to be liked and seek attention aka moon in attentionwhore and 2) you will not know how to be alone. You will always have side chick/man lined up to fall back on.

Now I'd like to think his aqua sun would lend him the power to know how to be alone w/o having someone on the side, but libra moon can really ruin that. My cousin that is aqua sun and libra moon always has a chick lined up on the side. He creates a facade that he's all happy being "single" because he doesn't count those female friends that he leads on as anything. According to him, he's single and the women he leads on are "friends". Lol

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yeah my sag moon does make me strong,for an example I like being single, I've been in a lot of open relationships ,nothing serious. Dating this aqua guy was my first serious relationship.I dated a virgo,taurus , aries,gemini and Capricorn,they were blahh lol. I fell HARD for this aqua guy! 😆
His Libra moon must explain why he was clingy ,like when I told him that I was busy or doing my homework he would still text me and send me a bunch of cute,mushy,flirty texts -_-
Oh NO! I hope he isn't doing that to me! I rather not know about it haha.When he broke up with me he told me that he just wanted to be alone, he didn't even want to be around his friends,I think it's cuz he got homesick or something. His in the Military, I don't think he has time to be talking to multiple girls. since he works nights and sleeps during the day he had to squeeze me in his schedule :/

Posted by feby16aqua
libra moon is not moon in attention whore. Just pure silliness.

Silliness is a total understatement and euphemism at best. Sycophancy makes you all emotional terrorist. Lol. Don't deny it because it really is that bad. Refer to "need to be liked" post on the libra board. I guess libra in power placement brings about everything I mentioned earlier.

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libra moon is not moon in attention whore. Just pure silliness.

Silliness is a total understatement and euphemism at best. Sycophancy makes you all emotional terrorist. Lol. Don't deny it because it really is that bad. Refer to "need to be liked" post on the libra board. I guess libra in power placement brings about everything I mentioned earlier.

Naah I'm good. I don't need to refer to anything.

I spend most of my day in an adversarial setting of unspoken hierarchy lol and I know what it's like full spectrum to be unliked and even secretly hated. I relish it lol.

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Good for you! But I know enough about libra sun and moon to know that despite the lack of awareness, they all have strong sycophant tendencies. I won't expect a libra to acknowledge that. But outsiders looking in, people will agree with me 😉 After all, it's all over the libra board

Posted by QueenVictoria22
Aquas,if you miss an ex would you talk to them? Would you tell them straight up that you miss them? Or would you wait for your ex to say it and then say it back?

I am going through this right now actually where I'm the one pursuing an ex that I missed so yes generally speaking some Aquarius do miss their ex. I have an ex who was up my tail that wanted me back and he was an Cap/Aqua cusp who missed me too. What I notice is it's usually who was in the wrong. If for an example I did something wrong to an ex than I will probably want to rekindle something with that ex more than if an ex did something to me. If it was a mutual breakup it applies to the first one too. Me personally I tell them straight up that I miss their company but the more I talk to them the more I reveal. 🙂

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Posted by QueenVictoria22
Aquas,if you miss an ex would you talk to them? Would you tell them straight up that you miss them? Or would you wait for your ex to say it and then say it back?

I am going through this right now actually where I'm the one pursuing an ex that I missed so yes generally speaking some Aquarius do miss their ex. I have an ex who was up my tail that wanted me back and he was an Cap/Aqua cusp who missed me too. What I notice is it's usually who was in the wrong. If for an example I did something wrong to an ex than I will probably want to rekindle something with that ex more than if an ex did something to me. If it was a mutual breakup it applies to the first one too. Me personally I tell them straight up that I miss their company but the more I talk to them the more I reveal. 🙂

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yeah we had a mutual break up . I told him that I miss talking to him and he said he misses me too ,at first our conversations were short and weird , but now we are warming up to each other again. We don't talk everyday like we use to but we do talk every week 🙂 I'm not sure if he's willing to rekindle , but I told him that I would wait for him LDR and he just said if that's what you want, so be it. It's complicated :/

But, is he going to wait for you, too?

I think he broke up with you because he knows the parameters of the relationship is not fair to you... you know being a LDR.

He probably is unsure of how long he will be in the military and living this type of life style as well. I think he regrets the decision... Thats probably the reason he still contacts you.

I think it would be wise for you to just treat him like a friend and pursue any outside interest you encounter. I don't think deep down he really expects you to wait for him (we are too realistic a sign) although he may secretly wish you do anyhow.

I'm sure his decision was with your best interest in mind. Don't take that the wrong way like he's totally selfless or something... I'm sure it was with his best interests in mind as well lol!!

I'm not the type to make the first move so if my ex reaches out to me and the feeling is mutual then I'll be honest and let them know. If not I'll keep my mouth shut

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I think he broke up with you because he knows the parameters of the relationship is not fair to you... you know being a LDR.

He probably is unsure of how long he will be in the military and living this type of life style as well. I think he regrets the decision... Thats probably the reason he still contacts you.

I think it would be wise for you to just treat him like a friend and pursue any outside interest you encounter. I don't think deep down he really expects you to wait for him (we are too realistic a sign) although he may secretly wish you do anyhow.

I'm sure his decision was with your best interest in mind. Don't take that the wrong way like he's totally selfless or something... I'm sure it was with his best interests in mind as well lol!!

yeah true I see what you're saying. When we talk I sometimes feel like he has anger , like when I tell him about my future plans he'll talk to me awkwardly like as if he gets offended by it?, idk but I think he's mad because he wants me but the distance is an obstacle

thanks everyone for your inputs , I really do appreciate it 🙂 we have our weird days (short talk) and happy days (funny,long talks). I'm glad that he still keeps in touch

Posted by truecap
But, is he going to wait for you, too?

he told me that things will be better when he gets back from deployment. He told me a lot of different things,like: find a guy that deserves you ,you don't have to wait for me.I kept telling him that I want to wait for him because I love him and miss him. he said I miss you and love you too, life happens when your busy planning it, things can change,who knows, no one knows. but if that's what you really want then so be it

(*sighhh*) I am so confused with my aqua ex , he still contacts me every week ,some days he seems cold and careless,detached like as if he doesn't want to talk to me , but he's the one who starts talking to me first. Then Other days he seems funny, warm , caring . And Lately he's been talking to me less :/ I feel like we still have something but he's being stubborn and not opening up to me. Am I just being impatient? I feel like there's a possibility of us getting back together , but I Think I should move on or am I just being impatient?

Posted by QueenVictoria22
Aquas,if you miss an ex would you talk to them? Would you tell them straight up that you miss them? Or would you wait for your ex to say it and then say it back?

Depends on why we broke up & how long it's been since we broke up.

Sometimes you can still have deep feelings for a person that hurt you badly. It's natural to have your days where you miss even the most toxic, evil & hurtful person. If I was having a moment like that, would I contact my ex & share my sudden feelings of missing them? No.

Why? B/c I'm terrified of those situations when you slip up emotionally, speak to them & give them range/opportunity to wheel you back in by playing on your emotions or vulnerability. Even if they contacted me & told me they missed me, I would either ignore them OR hear them out, but purposely not reciprocate anything back.

If I was in a new relationship & had an ex contact me telling me that they missed me, I would either ignore them or not reciprocate those feelings back out of respect for my current partner. I would never want to entertain the thought of going backwards when I'm already with someone new that I can see going forward with. As you've probably heard, Aquarians take new relationships very seriously

If I am single & missing an ex that didn't necessarily murder my emotions AND this particular ex has become my friend over time lol I could see myself def. telling them I missed them & reminiscing about old times. If I felt that doing so was safe & kept me from the dangers of going back to him, I would see no harm in talking with them about the happy times we had. Even then, I probably wouldn't tell them that I miss them 1st. I'd let them go there 1st

Sounds like a mess. I woulda removed myself from this emotionally the second I knew I was being deployed. I would stop myself from contacting exs if it ever came to that point, usually spurred on by feeling lonely and it's reactionary to think back to the 'good stuff'. No contact until I've moved on, it's not fair on myself nor the ex and you are a clear example of this.

The simple fact is there IS distance. If he wants to stay committed then good for him, there's no way for you to be certain, question is if he's worth it. My view is if either party makes that decision to wait then it is on themselves. Wait if you like but don't let love turn into resentment when things don't work out.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
You're hot. He's an idiot.

Yep, this.

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haha when we were together he always told me that I'm too pretty n good for him. Ha. But yeah he's starting to frustrate me or am I just being impatient and worrying too much? Idk but I love this guy so much , I can't just get over him

Okay update. He starting to be nice to me again , but we got in a huge argument , he doesn't want to apologize for hurting me and he made it clear that he doesn't want to marry me or have any romantic relations with me, he said he wants a friendship with me and he wants me as a friend. I don't think I can stay friends with him after he hurt me so bad and promised me the world. Now he's saying that he Can't do anything that he promised me and so my heartache is turning into anger. I don't know what to do , should I just forgive and stay friends with him and put my anger aside or should I just cut him off? And I told him myself that I'm confused because I say he's either all mine or not, I'm not sure if I can be friends with him after he bullshitted our relationship . And he said that it's my choice and that he never bullshitted. Ugh. Advice please!

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Okay update. He starting to be nice to me again , but we got in a huge argument , he doesn't want to apologize for hurting me and he made it clear that he doesn't want to marry me or have any romantic relations with me, he said he wants a friendship with me and he wants me as a friend. I don't think I can stay friends with him after he hurt me so bad and promised me the world. Now he's saying that he Can't do anything that he promised me and so my heartache is turning into anger. I don't know what to do , should I just forgive and stay friends with him and put my anger aside or should I just cut him off? And I told him myself that I'm confused because I say he's either all mine or not, I'm not sure if I can be friends with him after he bullshitted our relationship . And he said that it's my choice and that he never bullshitted. Ugh. Advice please!

What did he do?

He promised me marriage and all of that serious and romantic stuff and then he broke up with me over text , he was not man enough to call. And sometimes when we text it seems like he doesn't care because he never says much(short responses) and so I brought it to his attention and he acted clueless about it ,no apologies. The next day he was a total kiss a** and was sweet talking me. Now he's telling me that he just wants to be friends

Why do aquarians like to stay friends with their ex? Does it mean anything? Should I be friends with him?

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(*sighhh*) some days he seems cold and careless,detached like as if he doesn't want to talk to me , but he's the one who starts talking to me first.

Its that dichotomy. That right there is your guy holding back his feelings for you because somewhere inside him the things he wants to express (emotions) are being filtered through a logical quagmire which leads to frustration and becoming mute. Its almost as if he is getting angry with having emotions for you. A very Aqua thing. Anger being almost the prelude to full blown love.

Its strange.

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that sounds more like MOST men who don't know how to love, and can't accept love, and they feel they aren't worth being loved.

it's almost too tragic if they didn't just SURRENDER and stfu and give in.

They only got one life to live, and if they aren't gonna start loving..... well, it MAY BE the last lifetime they ever get to live it.

Posted by QueenVictoria22
He promised me marriage and all of that serious and romantic stuff and then he broke up with me over text , he was not man enough to call. And sometimes when we text it seems like he doesn't care because he never says much(short responses) and so I brought it to his attention and he acted clueless about it ,no apologies. The next day he was a total kiss a** and was sweet talking me. Now he's telling me that he just wants to be friends

well he's already cowardly. but there must be something about him you like or you wouldn't go through all this despite his cowardly ways not to call.

these kind of guys are kind of scary for women who need security and love, to be honest, because they don't lay it out on the table. You can't feel SECURE. AT ALL. terrible.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
You're hot. He's an idiot.

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Question for aquas can't you guys just be straight forward when it comes to this?

Aquas,if you miss an ex would you talk to them? Would you tell them straight up that you miss them? Or would you wait for your ex to say it and then say it back?

no. i may indirectly mention them in a social network status like twitter, but i will not make the first move. i would not tell them that i miss them either. i would wait for a past romance to say it back.

"Why would he ask that? He's slowly warming up to me, like we are back to teasing and making fun of each other Haha I think he misses me but he doesn't want to say it? I miss him obviously but should I be the one to say it? It seems like that's what he's waiting for"

If you feel it and are the type to want to communicate it, then tell him you miss him. I personally am not a very communicator. However, my actions speak louder than words, and that is how I express my love, my missing someone or my anything with/for someone. If I were to guess by his actions, he is feeling you out.

Why is he so STUBBORN?
I chatted with his best friend and his friend told me that my aqua man still loves and cares for me. He also said when he brought me up into their conversation he was acting like he didn't care about me ,he got offended that his friend brought me up. I think there is a slight possibility that we will get back together but how can I get my aqua man to make some movement? I already told him that I still love him and he Still loves me. What can I do about a stubborn aqua man—?? I love.him to death :/

Posted by QueenVictoria22
Why is he so STUBBORN?
I chatted with his best friend and his friend told me that my aqua man still loves and cares for me. He also said when he brought me up into their conversation he was acting like he didn't care about me ,he got offended that his friend brought me up. I think there is a slight possibility that we will get back together but how can I get my aqua man to make some movement? I already told him that I still love him and he Still loves me. What can I do about a stubborn aqua man—?? I love.him to death :/

I know how you feel.
Ive been through this a numerous of times. Eventually you will realize that youre giving way too much and get fed up and move on.
Im in limbo because I wat to move on....As a cancer, listing to my own advice to give to you...Just give it some space, and focus on you....:/ Hard I know But why must we always have to try so hard while the other person sits there and enjoy the show?