Aquarius and money

I've read that Aqua folks don't like borrowing money.

Lately my Aqua has been complaining about not having enough money to pay his bills, including a vacation he's taking with his buddies.

I get the feeling he's setting it up to ask me for money, as he knows I have some.

Lately I've paid for our dates, using my car, gas, paying for lunches -- which I don't mind - equal opportunity and all. Also which does bug me (and this doesn't seem to die) he blew off my birthday after I'd given him something pricey for his.

I'm just worried that all of this could go very badly- because borrowing money from me is a BIG DEAL - I've ended relationships and friendships over unpaid loans.

How do aquas relate to money, to borrowing, lending, repaying. What does his borrowing tell you?

Thanks for reading

I've read that Aqua folks don't like borrowing money.

Lately my Aqua has been complaining about not having enough money to pay his bills, including a vacation he's taking with his buddies.

I get the feeling he's setting it up to ask me for money, as he knows I have some.

Lately I've paid for our dates, using my car, gas, paying for lunches -- which I don't mind - equal opportunity and all. Also which does bug me (and this doesn't seem to die) he blew off my birthday after I'd given him something pricey for his.

I'm just worried that all of this could go very badly- because borrowing money from me is a BIG DEAL - I've ended relationships and friendships over unpaid loans.

How do aquas relate to money, to borrowing, lending, repaying. What does his borrowing tell you?

Thanks for reading

Also, talking about your debts, talking about money, what does it mean to you? Are you more trusting if you talk about money to someone?

This isn't necessarily a zodiac principle, as much as it is a life principle. First of all, you shouldn't be footing the bills of a man in the first place, I can understand here and there. But if you're constantly coming out of your pocket, you may want to tell him to find himself a new job with better pay somewhere else, because there's no way he should be having you pay his way on a consistent basic; Aquarius or not.

"the MAGIC MONEY sign is Aquarius" = she says (Astrolada)

listen to her.

"Why is it the most magical money sign?? because Pisces is an IMMATERIAL sign," -- astrolada

BLIND FAITH = PISCES, because the universe takes care.

the more you GIVE, (pisces is also ruled by Jupiter)

Because, as she says, if you FEAR, (saturn) you wont be Lucky with money.

basically if you have POWEERFUL doubts or fears about $ $ $ $ $ $ you lose.

My second house is in Pisces -- I always have money lol

Posted by AquaWillis
This isn't necessarily a zodiac principle, as much as it is a life principle. First of all, you shouldn't be footing the bills of a man in the first place, I can understand here and there. But if you're constantly coming out of your pocket, you may want to tell him to find himself a new job with better pay somewhere else, because there's no way he should be having you pay his way on a consistent basic; Aquarius or not.

yeah in her case, it sounds like you're (pennystealing = you) worrying too much about money.

because by talking about how much he's taking, it sounds like you're worried about him. if you feel that you are annoyed by it, don't do it, Pennystealing. (ironic with your name lol)

oh, astrolada says she's Aquarius Rising. O__O ohhhh. lol

AquaWillis I'm an idiot right 😢

and honestly i'd put my foot down with him. but it's your choice. you made this topic, so obviously you are worried and annoyed.

Posted by pennystealing123
My second house is in Pisces -- I always have money lol

😄


I hear the stampede of men looking for a wife. 😆

I'm free with my money- and that's why it's a big deal when I lend. I'm easy to take advantage of- if he asked me, I'd say yes. The problem is I'll get resentful. So the right person wouldn't ask me. As I've said I don't mind buying lunch or whatever but his effort isn't there.

The pennystealing is a joke - who steals pennies? Lol

Posted by pennystealing123
I'm free with my money- and that's why it's a big deal when I lend. I'm easy to take advantage of- if he asked me, I'd say yes. The problem is I'll get resentful. So the right person wouldn't ask me. As I've said I don't mind buying lunch or whatever but his effort isn't there.

The pennystealing is a joke - who steals pennies? Lol

then it's just him, penny-doesn't-steal. 😄

if you know this, why do you allow it? You have free will, and a choice. If you have a strong gut instinct about him, then follow that.

i tried looking for other YouTube money stuff, but not many for 2015, which is fine. I dont like "predictions" because anything can happen.

but this is not too bad. About the last 3 signs. she seems too "general" though but ok.

i forget to ask the OP,

how were you raised and what are your thoughts on money, family, tradition, and excess, ect.

it is how you look at money philosophically that will determine how you go about your life/with finances.

if you are normally a generous person, don't worry about being paid back if you have plenty of money.

Aquamermaid this was exactly what I was looking for. How close do you have to be with someone to share your thoughts and woes about money?

As I've said before I don't mind sharing money or paying for things. It's my nature to be generous . But I don't want to lend money and then the resentment builds up .

I could almost feel him setting up to ask for a loan. But as it was said, he did not ask and I should not jump to conclusions. So mainly my question is how do Aquarians feel about the issue of money? How do I know that all he's doing is sharing his crisis?

you know...

i have capricorn. So i have this "tight" ass thing with money. But my husband has Leo.

and you know how leo energy is, right? well, generally speaking.

but because he has Scorpio, he's tight with money too. But his philosophy is, don't expect shit back, when you loaning money to people who you KNOW cant pay back. If they want to pay back when they get back on their feet, then fine, but looking for money money and resenting that you loaned it to them is ridiculous.

because you are also RESPONSIBLE for loaning it out to people you should be able to "discern" and "distinguish" if they can pay back or not.

Money

Lisabethur8

Posted by pennystealing123






Money

Lisabethur8

lol Adam Sandler, Virgo/cancer/leo. So Appropriate. 😄

I dated this Aqua man and he would borrow other people's money on occasion and it annoyed the hell out of me, lol.

I know that you're nice and generous with you money but...isn't that like a real turn off that he has to ask? I don't feel sorry for a person who complains that they don't have enough money to go on a vacation with his BUDDIES!

If I were you, I wouldn't let him borrow more than 50 bucks lol. If he doesn't have enough money, you're going to have to ask him WHY? Does he even have a good excuse.

Then again, you have no idea if he will really ask but if he does...I would take all that into consideration, lol.

Penny...i must disagree - again,with some opinions here...

A good Aqua would only ever ask for money if he was well setup financially and there was some sort of 'cash-flow' issue.
Like a big contract was pending and it was a 'sure thing'...whatever that is lol

A dumbaxe aqua will erode your protective Aries instincts to the bone/horn and live tantalisingly in an imaginary future. 'ma?ana ma?ana...'

No Aqua I know is a borrower from friends. The opposite is rather true.
Aquas enjoy facilitation.We like to be Leaned on. But We don't like to lean. We hate it. Only with very very very close one/s.
And we understand right and wrong. (Apparently we invented it lol). So borrowing for pleasure is a no-no.
We're not about the money. We understand emergencies. We have NO issue lending. Thats cool. Always.


Until you don't repay it.
Then we'll despise you.
Never respect you again.
As long as you live.

Weird huh?

If he's really an Aqua, this guy is a low functioning one IMO - sorry 🙂
So instead of being generous and worldly, he's selfish and petty - IMO.

If he missed your birthday he is a loser (IMO)
A loser Penny.
(IMO) There are no excuses for that kind of full-fat Irish creamery butter.


I would do four things:

1. Ask him why he's using some Aqua's identity - and tell him he's toast if this butter doesnt melt, fast lol
2. Pawn his rare Fender Jaguar guitar with the beautiful harmonic tone
3. Suggest to his third-closest friend that you're worried he's got gambling debts with the Russians
4. Start to associate him in your mind as a less serious person. Less of a catch. More of a cartoon. Sponge-Bob?

Now if I seem harsh and overly judgemental, its only because

[a] I know how strong Aquas roll. This aint their MO. Yours has issues. Sorry.
I don't enjoy seeing someone decent putting their faith in someone with none.
[c] I trust your instincts. If you 'Feel' he's about to hit you for a loan, he probably is.


Time for the Ram to butt heads maybe?
Take no prisoners Penny 🙂

(and yeah, Mars in Aries lol)

aquapiscesmoon has it spot on. lol 😄

anyway, wow, i looked at Cancer and money. and i love what she has to say about cancer and money. She says they have to look to LEO:

"Leo is the spectacular, most divinity, the most PURE, the most POWERFUL planet. so NO DODGY BUSINESS."

so Always KEEP INTEGRITY with your money.

my husband is very high integrity with money.

I'm sure that Aries and money is similar:

ohhhh you aries got TAURUS. 😄

"Aries has tendancy to be RECKLESS........so you must apply the TAURUS way."

i have dominant taurus. S?_ i'm extremely pragmatic. good to listen to, pennystealing. 🙂

Posted by pennystealing123
I've read that Aqua folks don't like borrowing money.

Lately my Aqua has been complaining about not having enough money to pay his bills, including a vacation he's taking with his buddies.

I get the feeling he's setting it up to ask me for money, as he knows I have some.

Lately I've paid for our dates, using my car, gas, paying for lunches -- which I don't mind - equal opportunity and all. Also which does bug me (and this doesn't seem to die) he blew off my birthday after I'd given him something pricey for his.

I'm just worried that all of this could go very badly- because borrowing money from me is a BIG DEAL - I've ended relationships and friendships over unpaid loans.

How do aquas relate to money, to borrowing, lending, repaying. What does his borrowing tell you?

Thanks for reading

Don't ever loan money to someone you are dating.

My capricorn opinion is, if he can't afford to go on vacation, then he shouldn't be going. That is insane!!!

Sure, everyone has hard times, but when you're struggling to pay bills and finance your life, something has to be given up. Cut backs have to be made. You can't keep living a lifestyle you can't afford.
And, most importantly, if they can't manage money, that is a poor character trait, so don't ever, ever, ever marry them because they'll bring you down with them.

AND, stop paying for everything!!!! This sets up a precedence that you are willing to support him. Equal opportunity, my ass!!! Equal opportunity is 50/50 not 0/100. You can go on cheap dates - free concerts, picnics, open air movie night in town...

Oh wow, I didn't realize how sensitive the subject of money can be to everyone else, and not just me!

So now I don't feel like a weirdo!

I think I've painted a picture of my Aqua that maybe isn't being interpreted correctly.

My Aqua is a professional, works for the State, and has a second job at the computer room at a halfway house to help poor shmucks feel human. He makes a lot of money, doing what he loves, helping people. He has aspirations to become a councilman.

Lately, he has been caught up with lots of debt. His family put him into a lot of debt. He doesn't complain, but he was confiding in me that he wouldn't be able to take the vacation he wanted because of the cross between a payment due date, and his next check. That's what made me worry about loaning money. I once lent him $ 20 and never got that back. It's $ 20, it won't make or break me, but you see how something small can speak for something substantial.

He hasn't spent much money on me, I'll admit. We've always gone halfsies since the beginning, minus a few dates here and there where he paid. I really don't mind paying sometimes. Sometimes guys like to be treated. We don't hang out so much (why I'm here in the first place), that I'm footing the bill and feeling bad, and besides the $ 20, he's never asked me for money.

It does bother me about my birthday, because here's his chance to show me Materially how much he cares, and he blew it off. Otherwise, I am financially sound, and can take care of myself.

It's just, Tuesday we went on a date, for example, and he wanted to take me out to lunch, but all he had in his wallet was 6 dollars. I just stepped in and paid for it, rather than him finding an ATM. He didn't ask, and I didn't feel bad about it. But THEN made me think, for a PLANNED date, shouldn't he have more than $ 6 in his pocket? I'm driving myself nuts overthinking things. Blame it on my packed 8th house in Virgo-obessession of overanalyzing.

He knows that I have money, (I'm an Accountant for the record) and I wondered if he was confiding in me about his debt expecting me to offer a loan, or if he really felt he was just sharing.

I have been burned in the past, broke up with someone immediately, because he wanted $ 6000, too soon into the relationship. It was all that he was after, because no effort was made after the "no."

I don't want my bubble popped, I guess. I don't want him to ask me. I'll probably say yes with enough prodding

And then as Aquapiscesmoon Said:

"Until you don't repay it.
Then we'll despise you.
Never respect you again.
As long as you live."

That's just how I am when it comes to relationships and money. I'm scared to see him in a different way. Then I'll choose not to be with him. And it makes me sad to think it.

I have learned from this forum not to jump to conclusions, but it has been a battle lol.

Posted by truecap

Posted by pennystealing123
I've read that Aqua folks don't like borrowing money.

Lately my Aqua has been complaining about not having enough money to pay his bills, including a vacation he's taking with his buddies.

I get the feeling he's setting it up to ask me for money, as he knows I have some.

Lately I've paid for our dates, using my car, gas, paying for lunches -- which I don't mind - equal opportunity and all. Also which does bug me (and this doesn't seem to die) he blew off my birthday after I'd given him something pricey for his.

I'm just worried that all of this could go very badly- because borrowing money from me is a BIG DEAL - I've ended relationships and friendships over unpaid loans.

How do aquas relate to money, to borrowing, lending, repaying. What does his borrowing tell you?

Thanks for reading

Don't ever loan money to someone you are dating.

My capricorn opinion is, if he can't afford to go on vacation, then he shouldn't be going. That is insane!!!

Sure, everyone has hard times, but when you're struggling to pay bills and finance your life, something has to be given up. Cut backs have to be made. You can't keep living a lifestyle you can't afford.
And, most importantly, if they can't manage money, that is a poor character trait, so don't ever, ever, ever marry them because they'll bring you down with them.

AND, stop paying for everything!!!! This sets up a precedence that you are willing to support him. Equal opportunity, my ass!!! Equal opportunity is 50/50 not 0/100. You can go on cheap dates - free concerts, picnics, open air movie night in town...

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i like that. free dates for those who cant afford it. Like picnics. even walks on the beach!! nighttime bonfires. lots of ideas and fun stuff!!

@pennystealing,

well from your post, you are "COUNTING". Counting about the 20 bucks?? omg.

girl, if you want to be with a generous man, counting for a lame 20 bucks when you know your man is good man, and he's doing two jobs and has family troubles as they put him debt?? and you COUNT the measly 20 bucks??

i don't know, man, that's just weird.

it's different if you were poor, and you gave him 20 bucks and you needed the money badly and he was well off (not rich but well off) and he just didnt want to pay you back.

where are YOUR priorities??

hell, 100 bucks ain't shit if he needed it.

you are counting too much for a measly amount.

infact, you saying this away from your man would SHAME him!!!! that you are counting the 20 bucks you are annoyed at. He may NEVER EVER want to trust you again to ask. and feel SO SHAMEFUL!!! it's like, what the hell?? she knows i needed it and the situation i'm in, and she's counting and telling strangers??

Lisabethur8

You and I really aren't on the same page at all. Please stop responding to my threads.

You misread my crap all the time, and give these hurtful responses, and its gotten old with me pretty quick.

I've got a fifth house Gemini, I couldn't be more clear than a girls pee on an all water diet.

QUOTE:

"I have been burned in the past, broke up with someone immediately, because he wanted $ 6000, too soon into the relationship. It was all that he was after, because no effort was made after the "no." "


ba-da-bing!!!


you have NO trust in a relationship. I think it's best you don't date anyone who isn't rich.

Posted by pennystealing123
Lisabethur8

You and I really aren't on the same page at all. Please stop responding to my threads.

You misread my crap all the time, and give these hurtful responses, and its gotten old with me pretty quick.

I've got a fifth house Gemini, I couldn't be more clear than a girls pee on an all water diet.

i'm just telling you how i SEE it.

if your man went to a messageboard to tell how his girl is crapping over a measly 20 bucks, when they know exactly your situation, how you went in debt you'd be hurt and shamed.Infact, probably tell you, that you don't really love him that you count pennies.

You can do better Penny.
He's not prioritising you as much as he is his lofty community work.
Not half.

He's making assumptions.
That he and you are strong.
Therefore he considers money here or there is no big deal...
He's wrong.
You're not yet even close to 'strong'.
And if he can't see that then you shouldn't trust his judgement.

On his Balance Sheet, you're an asset.
You should be an operating cost lol - sorry!

Aquas can be self absorbed in the great causes.
But at this stage in the relationship...You - should be his Great Cause.

Ditching on a birthday can happen in Year 3.
Not in the beginning.
Never.

You're in over your head I'm afraid Penny...
You cannot be the one who is always, 'available' to him.


Time to exit.
Do it.


And start again.
With one more grounded.

the Guy's already told Pennystealing how he is. That he's in debt due to his family.

i'm just TRYING to place myself in HER situation. I'd never choose a guy like that, because he doesn't sound like my type. Too many jobs and gives too much to his family and not enough for himself and if he wants to have a woman he doesnt have any money??

BUT if i'm in her situation, because i'm trying to see her situation, I'd just GIVE him the money.

and make sure that he is using it for good things.

One thing i learned from my husband is that being STINGY and COUNTING $ $ $ to people you love is stupid.

i even learned that from my mother, too. who is overly generous with people she loves.

i hate men who are stingy asses!!!

Well, it is obviously bothering you a great deal. And that is perfectly understandable.

The "honeymoon" phase is over. Maybe it's time to assess whether he's worthy of your attentions. Time to assess whether he meets your requirements for a long term relationship - Just sayin'.

Then again, I'm a cap and financial responsibility is big in our book. That doesn't mean they have to make a lot, it just means they must be responsible with it.

Give it some time and see if he can pull out of this mess his family left him with. If he's worth his salt, he will be able to come up with a plan and climb out. If he's not, then he'll just whine and sink deeper. (it's time for his test).

Aquapiscesmoon, you are so right, you have a way with words that feel so personal.

I am an asset, a non-depreciating piece of equipment, just sitting there with minimal use. His family is his long term liability.

He quotes Robert Frost's poem all the time,

"but I've got promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep."

He says that I'm his sleep. He was upfront about the long term, but I don't get the withholding of material things in the day to day.

I am hurt about the birthday, and I haven't said anything to him. When he missed it, (his sister went to the hospital, so he says) I mentioned to him a few days later "I can't wait until we make up my birthday." That was the end of it.

I don't know if I should mention something that I let fester (almost 2 months ago) and I don't know how he'd react to it, and I don't wanna force him to get me something. So that's moot, i guess.

Aquapiscesmoon, you have been right all along. But it hurts me to think of ending it.

Posted by truecap
Well, it is obviously bothering you a great deal. And that is perfectly understandable.

The "honeymoon" phase is over. Maybe it's time to assess whether he's worthy of your attentions. Time to assess whether he meets your requirements for a long term relationship - Just sayin'.

Then again, I'm a cap and financial responsibility is big in our book. That doesn't mean they have to make a lot, it just means they must be responsible with it.

Give it some time and see if he can pull out of this mess his family left him with. If he's worth his salt, he will be able to come up with a plan and climb out. If he's not, then he'll just whine and sink deeper. (it's time for his test).

truecap, I've got Cap rising, so money, stability, financial future, I'm all there with you. That's why I made a whole thread about it, lol.

Then your gut instinct is telling you something.

Ok, here's another question...Why does he give the security guards at his office , the secretary on secretaries day, the janitor at his other job, all gifts, then tells me about them? Yet, me, I get nothing?

Sorry, just thinking out loud. I'm not mad or anything, just, is this like an Aqua thing? To skip over? Do you guys test?

That would feel like a slap in the face.

If it makes you feel better, my aqua didn't get me anything for my birthday this year.

Posted by truecap
That would feel like a slap in the face.

If it makes you feel better, my aqua didn't get me anything for my birthday this year.

That certainly doesn't make me feel any better.

If anything now we're both miserable, lol.

A gift is materialistic. It's something that I personally as an Aquarius put no thought into. Never have. If people want to measure my love for them with materialistic 'things' so be it. My gift for you is me and I see that as a good enough gift. If you search up 'special days' thread or whatever it's called most aquas agreed we don't take stock in those. Birthdays and celebration is foreign to me, I do it out of social etiquette.

Having said that the fact that your aqua seem to be freeloading off you sounds like he's gotten quite comfortable. If you feel in anyway mistreated you need to voice it and make it clear how it affects you. With ANY matter if you voice it we will address it. Aquas or not some people are just more self-centred, to feel mistreated is only natural if you feel the effort you put in did not net the result you wanted.

It's entirely a 'personal' thing. Money is a non issue for me not when it's out of charity. If I choose to give, I never expect it to come back to me. If you are keeping count then it's about time you stop loaning, even to loved ones.

Posted by truecap
That would feel like a slap in the face.

If it makes you feel better, my aqua didn't get me anything for my birthday this year.

geeez. that's horrible.

he doesn't sound like a good kind of man. *smh*


As consistent as i am with famous people/celebrities, look ups, im gonna find out what Aquarius men in the celebrity world does for their women when it's their bday.

http://www.people.com/article/jessica-biel-justin-timberlake-birthday-instagram<BR>
"To toast the actress's 33rd birthday, Justin Timberlake took to Instagram to post a photo of himself and the 7th Heaven alum with a caption that proves just how much he adores his wife.

"Happy Bday to the sweetest, most GORGEOUS, goofiest, most BAD-ASS chick I know. You make me smile 'til it hurts. I love you like crazy!," the "Suit & Tie" singer, 34, wrote, signing it, "Your Huz." "

i dont know if they went out, they probably did.

anyway, for her 32nd.

http://uk.eonline.com/news/517861/jessica-biel-s-32nd-birthday-party-with-justin-timberlake-all-the-details-on-their-intimate-miami-dinner<BR>

Posted by pennystealing123

Posted by truecap
That would feel like a slap in the face.

If it makes you feel better, my aqua didn't get me anything for my birthday this year.

That certainly doesn't make me feel any better.

If anything now we're both miserable, lol.

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No, I'm not miserable. He spent his time with me, more than usual.

Aquanoz thanks for your input- I would agree that many aquas don't care too much about special days- but he's very much into it, birthdays holidays, secretary days, that's what hurt me I guess.