A boyfriend! I like him a lot more than I did 3 months ago when I said the two times a week thing. We even got into a small argument a month ago where I said "You know, maybe I'd like to see u more like 3 times a week". And that never happened. And whenever I text him to hang out he blows me off or doesnt respond. He makes me insecure and nervous that he's seeing a bunch of other people, I would think by 3 months of dating you'd want to make plans on weekends.

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You might want to cut out the passive-aggressive shit. It's not cute and just makes you look insecure. I don't understand how you "don't care" for Vday and all that "mushy" stuff, but yet you're upset you guys didn't do anything. It confuses me and I wouldn't doubt it confuses him too.
I agree with ellesque. You say one thing, but you secretly want another thing. Stop fronting on how you feel and be true to what you want. Lying to him and yourself about how you really feel isn't going to do anything productive.

Signed Up: Feb 15, 2011
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you shouldnt break up with him just because your confused. just ask him whats on his mind or ask him out on a date doing something u know he would like. if he doesnt show you a spark of interest give him a sexy conversation that will blow his mind then tell him your gona call him back that way you will be on his mind and he will be reminded of the fascinating side of you. hope this helps.

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e's probably bored shitless of getting nowhere with you. This kind of slow pace is extremely boring for an Aqua as we love to go out, do, experience.
Christ, I'd have disappeared long ago if I were in his position.

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Posted by ellessque
You are confusing him.
* in the beg I told him I like my freedom
* id like to see him twice a week or so
* he still followed my wishes
* i thought if he really liked me he wouldve done something
* All he did was text me a happy valentines day.
* He did ask me what I was up to on sat night, and I told him I was going out with my friends
* He asked where, and I said Id let him know.
* i ask what hes doing he says hs at home and doesnt feel like drinking.
* I texted him telling him he should come out
Do you want a puppet or a boyfriend?

Well said. He won't want to cater to such an insecure person.

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I'd like to know your other planets, Gemini. You sound even confused to yourself. You know what you want but you're afraid of looking needy and attention-seeking so you expect the guy to "read your mind" . Sorry but he isn't a Scorp, Pisces or Cancer so he won't spend time that much time to delve into the "human puzzle" you set. He might be intrigued at first but Aquas usually have very short attention span (just like you!) so after awhile , he'd just " F**k it" . You're lucky that he is a Fixed Air sign . If he was a Libra, he already has lots of "back-up" plans before you can even suspect him of dating anyone else besides you. Choose a bigger battle and more worthy battle to fight. You need him to be your partner and an ally, not an enemy. So SPEAK UP what you REALLY THINK.
PS: I spent years to read my Gemini mother and my Gemini friends' minds. Lovely and fun people but definitely love mind games.

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1. 1st off, it's a GOOD thing that you haven't slept with him yet. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for not giving up the goods 1. Before he makes you his official girlfriend AND 2. Before you're fully sure he's the right guy for you. If more women would start holding out on giving up the goods too early, as many hearts wouldn't be broken/disappointed as we speak
However, the mere fact that you haven't slept with him & yet he's STILL around is a GOOD thing. If he wasn't into you or if he was only in it for the sex, he would've grown impatient a longgg time ago. As others above have said, 3 months is a long time to not get any sex in "guy world."
2. True. He could've done more than text you on Vday. He could've atleast called. It wouldn't have killed him to put a little bit more finger energy into things & actually dial your number to hear your voice & say hello. Communicating about serious things OR on special occasions/holidays is very important & texting during those times is a big no-no b/c it shows lack of effort. I don't blaim you; if someone couldn't even pick up the phone & dial a few #s, I'd be questioning whether they were into me or not too!
3. In my opinion, he hasn't done anything that's worthy of him getting cut off for good. I can see if your red flag/warning signs are buzzing, but actually giving up? Naw. This could all just be a big misunderstanding OR he might be off his game due to having a bad week. Wait to see if this with him becomes a pattern. If so, THEN have that "talk" if anything, but until then, don't over-analyze everything, try to "guess" everything or get too ahead of yourself b/c that ruins things just like miscommunication does.

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Posted by aquagirl24
Posted by NZAqua
Posted by ellessque
You are confusing him.
* in the beg I told him I like my freedom
* id like to see him twice a week or so
* he still followed my wishes
* i thought if he really liked me he wouldve done something
* All he did was text me a happy valentines day.
* He did ask me what I was up to on sat night, and I told him I was going out with my friends
* He asked where, and I said Id let him know.
* i ask what hes doing he says hs at home and doesnt feel like drinking.
* I texted him telling him he should come out
Do you want a puppet or a boyfriend?

Well said. He won't want to cater to such an insecure person.

she means: she did the opposite and expected him to react. this is the translation to what she wrote. is it so hard to understand??? u cannot answer as you are a female and are trying to justify the aquarius sign, even if she might be right about this guy being fucked up.
if he was in love with her and didnt just want her for a ride, maybe he would have done something for vday. just to show he at least respects her, dont u think?

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I'm answering based on information given. I understand it perfectly.
She's expecting all the hearts and flowers of a full-on romantic relationship and to be validated by a gesture on Valentines day. Thing is, he's probably confused as to her input, given that she keeps him at bay - so why would he go any further than he has already when there's no clear definition of what he's in.
men aren't mind readers, they can get hurt too and here's a bloke who didn't go nuts on Valentines because why should he?
People put far too much tock into this particular day and read far too much into it. If a bloke gets a gift - it's never enough and he can't win.
he texted her - he acknowledged it, it's not exactly an intimate full-on relationship by the sounds.

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Posted by krysrenee7
1. 1st off, it's a GOOD thing that you haven't slept with him yet. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for not giving up the goods 1. Before he makes you his official girlfriend AND 2. Before you're fully sure he's the right guy for you. If more women would start holding out on giving up the goods too early, as many hearts wouldn't be broken/disappointed as we speak

A good thing? Trust issues are not a good thing. Intimacy issues are not a good thing. Viewing sex as power is not a good thing. A possible lack of testosterone is not a good thing. Not knowing what you really want and how to get it is not a good thing. Not understanding how the dynamics of a mature, sexual relationship work is not a good thing. She intuitively knows this, or she wouldn't have asked about it on the other thread. So, don't tell her it's a good thing, because it's not. Hi.
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So let me get this straight...when a woman actually holds out on giving up the goods it's b/c she's insecure, has trust issues and/or is trying to use her cooch as a means to control another person? What has this world come to?! There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with someone holding out on sex. I'm a firm believer that you shouldn't get sexually comfortable UNTIL/UNLESS you're emotionally comfortable.
And hey, if she's got trust issues, insecurity issues or whatever issues, her having sex with him won't change/fix those issues. The only thing he'll gain is that he just got laid. If her reasonings for holding out are stemming from insecurity vs. uncomfortability (they're 2 DIFFERENT things), then she needs to address those issues, not UNDRESS herself.

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I'm an aqua and personally, you would've confused the living shit out of me. I don't really like "planning" when I'm going to see the chick I like...hence why I'm unpredictable...you told him about the 3 times a week thing....wtf? You don't care for vday and I'm probably sure he knows your attitude towards it...so why get upset when yall don't go out for that occasion? Do something unexpected you think he'd like....or fuck him! I mean its been 3 months girl, I'm surprised he's still around cuz I would feel like you just ain't that interested in me if we've been dating that long & haven't had sex...then again, that's just my opinion.

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