Aquarius Man

Posted by sultrykitty
Aquarius guys in general don't play by any rules, dating or otherwise. They consider a girlfriend as a friend first and foremost, so who does the initiating is irrelevant to them. Do you only wait for your friends to contact you, or is it pretty much give and take?

If you want it, go get it. Particularly in the case of (most) aqua guys. They don't get turned off by that.

Posted by starwars
I HAD TO STOP READING BECAUSE

IVE GOT THE SAME COMMENT COMMING FROM AN AQUARIUS FRIEND SLASH CRUSH !


"I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..."

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Posted by ashley1734

Posted by starwars
I HAD TO STOP READING BECAUSE

IVE GOT THE SAME COMMENT COMMING FROM AN AQUARIUS FRIEND SLASH CRUSH !


"I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..."

What the hell!

I haven't put any expectations on him or the situation, but that's almost how it seems he feels by saying that...like he thinks I think he's the king of the world and he could never fill the shoes. So strange, because it's not like I lavish him with compliments or anything remotely close to it.

I haven't shown any interest at that time either!

I don't think when they said that (the aqua im dealing with at least) he meant that I perceive him as cooler. It's more of "don't expect me to be this fun and flirty all the time, I got moods, don't lash on me once I show different behavior" I think they just don't want people to put expectations on them because that what ruin most of aquas relationships.

I've learnt to not think too much and analyze their words and just take it as it is. (which isn't proven by the deep analyzing ive just made^ )

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Posted by ashley1734
Just a sort of general question about Aquarius men...I have many Aquarius women in my life and the men seem to be similar, but I can't quite figure this one out.

We met years ago through mutual friends and were both in relationships, but hit it off well enough that I remembered him and when we came back in touch recently, we hit it off again although we have yet to hang out this time around. Anyway, I just got back from a trip and before I left he was very enthusiastic about seeing me and we made tentative plans to do something when I was back home. Well the day before I left we were texting and I said "I'm excited to hang out when I get back" and he said "I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..." it came across as insecure obviously, but why can't he just take the compliment?

Anyway, I got back yesterday and we were chatting and he was flirting pretty heavily so I just through it out there and said "soooo when are we gonna hangout?"

He asked when I was free and I said later in the week or this weekend, and he said "I'm pretty booked I'm so popular" and I said "ok no worries, another time then " and then he says "I might be able to late this week or next" and I just said "Ok, well have a good night " (I made sure to use happy faces so he knew I wasn't pissed or anything). And then he sends me a welcome back text this morning and I said "thank you!" and that was it.

Should I just sit back and let him come to me if he wants to hang or just take the cues he's giving that he's probably not going to put much effort in and toss his number altogether?

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Posted by starwars

Posted by ashley1734

Posted by starwars
I HAD TO STOP READING BECAUSE

IVE GOT THE SAME COMMENT COMMING FROM AN AQUARIUS FRIEND SLASH CRUSH !


"I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..."

What the hell!

I haven't put any expectations on him or the situation, but that's almost how it seems he feels by saying that...like he thinks I think he's the king of the world and he could never fill the shoes. So strange, because it's not like I lavish him with compliments or anything remotely close to it.

I haven't shown any interest at that time either!

I don't think when they said that (the aqua im dealing with at least) he meant that I perceive him as cooler. It's more of "don't expect me to be this fun and flirty all the time, I got moods, don't lash on me once I show different behavior" I think they just don't want people to put expectations on them because that what ruin most of aquas relationships.

I've learnt to not think too much and analyze their words and just take it as it is. (which isn't proven by the deep analyzing ive just made^ )

Makes sense. I don't even know if I like him I just thought it was funny he turned my simple "excited to hangout" into that and then now is so slow to make plans.

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Posted by ashley1734

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Posted by ashley1734

Posted by starwars
I HAD TO STOP READING BECAUSE

IVE GOT THE SAME COMMENT COMMING FROM AN AQUARIUS FRIEND SLASH CRUSH !


"I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..."

What the hell!

I haven't put any expectations on him or the situation, but that's almost how it seems he feels by saying that...like he thinks I think he's the king of the world and he could never fill the shoes. So strange, because it's not like I lavish him with compliments or anything remotely close to it.

I haven't shown any interest at that time either!

I don't think when they said that (the aqua im dealing with at least) he meant that I perceive him as cooler. It's more of "don't expect me to be this fun and flirty all the time, I got moods, don't lash on me once I show different behavior" I think they just don't want people to put expectations on them because that what ruin most of aquas relationships.

I've learnt to not think too much and analyze their words and just take it as it is. (which isn't proven by the deep analyzing ive just made^ )

Makes sense. I don't even know if I like him I just thought it was funny he turned my simple "excited to hangout" into that and then now is so slow to make plans.

haha this is very true especially of myself. i know if some one sees my fun side that is pretty much all they will want and its almost impossible to for me sustain it for extended periods of time.
our "bad" withdrawn and aloof side is hard to deal with and will push damn near anybody out of the door

aqua men have to believe you are like in love with them before they take you seriously
for me its the only way ive been able to date throughout my life. its strange to say but usually doesnt make sense to us why a woman would pursue a man that she did not consider her best dating option. we want someone we can consider a prize and want to be thought of that way as well

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Posted by ashley1734
Just a sort of general question about Aquarius men...I have many Aquarius women in my life and the men seem to be similar, but I can't quite figure this one out.

We met years ago through mutual friends and were both in relationships, but hit it off well enough that I remembered him and when we came back in touch recently, we hit it off again although we have yet to hang out this time around. Anyway, I just got back from a trip and before I left he was very enthusiastic about seeing me and we made tentative plans to do something when I was back home. Well the day before I left we were texting and I said "I'm excited to hang out when I get back" and he said "I think you think I'm a lot cooler than I actually am..." it came across as insecure obviously, but why can't he just take the compliment?

Anyway, I got back yesterday and we were chatting and he was flirting pretty heavily so I just through it out there and said "soooo when are we gonna hangout?"

He asked when I was free and I said later in the week or this weekend, and he said "I'm pretty booked I'm so popular" and I said "ok no worries, another time then " and then he says "I might be able to late this week or next" and I just said "Ok, well have a good night " (I made sure to use happy faces so he knew I wasn't pissed or anything). And then he sends me a welcome back text this morning and I said "thank you!" and that was it.

really? you have alot of aqua women in your life? I have NO gemini women in my life unless if you count my gemini step mother.

but we see her on holidays and birthdays ect. events.

well what's his placements, ashley??

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Posted by Twodrinks
I somewhat disagree. Other signs besides aquas have all downplayed their interest in me in the beginning. It's self protection and to test the waters. Not every man is going to go in guns blazing if he's not exactly sure of the womans interest in him and im actually kind of leary of men who do.

Im not in the camp that believes that men should do ALL of the legwork though so maybe Im different. It's a mutual effort. As long as he's not playing games or flaking on her, I don't see the problem. Being beautiful really has nothing to do with it. If she were ugly would you encourage her to settle?

Posted by flowingwater
I can be fun social a great time but once my aloofness dark side creeps up.. Most people leave or get super clingy. This not only makes it worse on me but I can't breathe and disregards the whole point of needing space for thoughts.

Compared to Scorpio, Aquas need a good amount of freedom.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
He's very insecure but considers his own self worth and is balancing you in there as well, isn't getting to know people fun?

If I were you I'd slow down and play more into the friendship side more (genuinely) and stop putting pressure on him to perform as a lover or boyfriend and give him the chance to initiate it and take control, this may take as long as he's ready to lol

Posted by flowingwater
For an Aqua, you never move too slow. So get some popcorn ready because your going to be cruising through this one.

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Posted by ashley1734

Posted by flowingwater
For an Aqua, you never move too slow. So get some popcorn ready because your going to be cruising through this one.

Slower than a Capricorn?

Funny, my BFF is an Aquarius and she was dating an Aquarius guy over the summer and they didn't even KISS until their 6th or 7th date. After every single date I would be like "wellllll???" and she would just giggle and say "not yet."

I don't do slow. I like to get the first kiss over with on the first or second date to see if there is any chemistry. Probably not a good match for an Aquarius.

Slower than a cap and slower than a Taurus. You're dealing with the least emotional sign. If you want to jump right into romance, hugs/cuddles, official relationship, etc. this is not the sign for you.

Those two Aquas understand the foundation on friendship because they know each other rules. That's why, no kiss.

There's this Capricorn sun Aqua moon man at my job. I know he likes me, I can tell but do I show it back? Not even close because I don't feel the same exactly. He's tried making moves on me first. Very subtle but obvious enough. I like to take things slow...

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Posted by flowingwater
I hate to say this..

It's one of the reasons why I left the Virgo I was dating. Although it was sweet and fun, he was moving too fast for me. He couldn't stand the idea of being with me and "just being friends" first. I decided to go with the motion of the puppy love but my rationality kicked in eventually and it made me understand that how fast we were going wasn't stable. He made open parts of me I wasn't ready to expose.. To an Aquarius this is a big deal. You never force.

Fwb is different that's an agreement to fucq each other NSA. Starting a serious relationship, completely different we like to take our time.

Posted by sultrykitty

Posted by flowingwater
I hate to say this..

It's one of the reasons why I left the Virgo I was dating. Although it was sweet and fun, he was moving too fast for me. He couldn't stand the idea of being with me and "just being friends" first. I decided to go with the motion of the puppy love but my rationality kicked in eventually and it made me understand that how fast we were going wasn't stable. He made open parts of me I wasn't ready to expose.. To an Aquarius this is a big deal. You never force.

Fwb is different that's an agreement to fucq each other NSA. Starting a serious relationship, completely different we like to take our time.

Could be why there was so much drama and push/pull for so long with mine. He was constantly trying to put the brakes on and I wouldn't have any of that.

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Posted by Koniucha
That comment about being cooler would have annoyed me. I probably would have said, yeah, you're probably right.

And the being popular comment, I wouldn't even reply

Honestly, those two comments were really corny lol

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Posted by Koniucha
To me, you either want to hang out or not.

How old is he?

Posted by bhakti7
ashley my dear its too bad more leos don't think/act like you because there would likely be a decline in stressed aquamen. i digress

Posted by bhakti7
ashley my dear its too bad more leos don't think/act like you because there would likely be a decline in stressed aquamen. i digress

if you want something to happen then trash the usual approach, as someone else said you're basically handing him a hat that he may or may not want to be wearing.

the western style of dating with its many unspoken rules definitely feels like confinement and a put-on, so catch him in a good mood and let things proceed naturally. Once he gets the sense of you as a friend then inviting him out will become easier because the social pressure to be a date or act out a role with rigidity is gone.

Us dodging women is not out of spite or games, we are putting up walls because he may like you more than you perceive, but if we're feeling like shit (moody anyone?) then how could we possibly go out and give you a dose of downer making us worse off.

just be spontaneous and forget the usual modus operandi, you're both old/mature enough.

and bonus points for approaching, we love that shit. thats a quick way to lock us down

Posted by Angmodurian
OP i love your honesty & i would wanna be your friend in real life. Well aquas only play games to test out potential mates. For friends no games & bullshit its genuine most of the times.