aquarius man confusing me!

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Littlepig77 on Tuesday, December 15, 2015 and has 25 replies.
Hello All, so I started seeing an Aquarius! Thing we're going well. We were just getting to know one another, I told him I felt like it was just sex to him and I wasn't interested if that was the case. After this He invited me round and didn't try it on. Just cuddled and chatted. He then asked me round his house this time he asked if I wante to go to his bedroom I agreed but told him I didn't think we should have full sex but I was quite happy to play around as I was concerned if we slept together I would get to attached and I didn't want too if I wasn't then going to hear from him for ages after! He told me he thought I was weird. He did this in a nice joking manor and he didn't see the difference between being intimate with oral or full sex. Any way we played about and had a good time. He was nice and cuddley after and we laughed after about silly stuff. I think we left on good terms. He told me to text him when I got home so he knew I was home safe. Which I did . He didn't reply that night but it was about 2am as he's quite a drive from me. He did however send a reply at 8pm the following day saying he had fallen asleep and he enjoyed the Pringles but was very disappointed with the chocolate I left! Ha! He didn't ask any questions but it was a fairly lengthy reply. I replied a few hours later just with something fairly short and pleasant. I didn't hear back but there wasn't anything after but there wasn't much to reply too! Do you think maybe I have damaged things by saying I think he only wanted me for sex and then not being prepared to have full sex with him? We have slept together several time previously and it was great fun! I'm a Gemini and we get on quite well! I told him maybe we should get to know each other slightly better he said he felt it was a little late for that. What do you think my best course of action would be!? I find he totally desirable and ofcourse I love sleeping with him I just don't want to be used! He's ultra busy and runs his own business so uninteresting that he doesn't have loads of time ! But he's a gem and I don't want to lose what ever it is we have smile
OK this is my take.

You don't want to be used, you are obviously feeling he might be using you.

You've mentioned it a few times to not have sex and see where it goes, but as far as I can understand you give in to it.

hmm

Why not stick to your guns, don't have sex until YOU are ready and satisfied with his behavior. Men who want to use you usually take off after you've made it clear you want time before going any further.

If he's just using you for sex, he will stop calling you and that's a GOOD thing-- and if he isn't just using you for sex he will definitely keep coming around.

It's a win - win.

I told him if it was just sex to him then I wasn't interested. To which he still wanted to see me. I would like think after I made it clear I liked him as a person and enjoyed spending time with him he wouldn't of been creul enough to still meet up with me. Do you think an Aquarius would do that? He seems very typical Aquarius ! Chased me for a year doing many sweet things saying lovely things. We got close then he backed away and seemed to only be interested in one thing. I have to admit I did go along with the casual thing for a while as I thought it would be fun (I had never tried it before) would it's definitely not for me! I like being in light hearted fun relationships but there needs to be commitment. I'm 99.9% sure he isn't seeing or even talking to anyone else. He's very involved with work and still lives at home with a parent. He's 35 x
Thank You for your Feedback I like the comment of win - win ! X
Posted by Littlepig77
I told him if it was just sex to him then I wasn't interested. To which he still wanted to see me. I would like think after I made it clear I liked him as a person and enjoyed spending time with him he wouldn't of been creul enough to still meet up with me. Do you think an Aquarius would do that? He seems very typical Aquarius ! Chased me for a year doing many sweet things saying lovely things. We got close then he backed away and seemed to only be interested in one thing. I have to admit I did go along with the casual thing for a while as I thought it would be fun (I had never tried it before) would it's definitely not for me! I like being in light hearted fun relationships but there needs to be commitment. I'm 99.9% sure he isn't seeing or even talking to anyone else. He's very involved with work and still lives at home with a parent. He's 35 x

You keep doing what's good for you, he will respect you more for it.
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?
Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?


Oh dear god another lazy ass 30 something aqua man child

Run little pig run ....
Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?

. Well he arrive at work at 9 each morning and leaves at 9:30pm . He parents home is an hour away so he literal only goes there to sleep. He does that 7 days a week! I've known him 2 years and he's only had about 3 days off and that was for family weddings. What do yo make of that? X
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Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?


Oh dear god another lazy ass 30 something aqua man child

Run little pig run ....
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:-) but these creatures are so intriguing! Is this common for Aqua males?
Posted by Littlepig77
Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?

. Well he arrive at work at 9 each morning and leaves at 9:30pm . He parents home is an hour away so he literal only goes there to sleep. He does that 7 days a week! I've known him 2 years and he's only had about 3 days off and that was for family weddings. What do yo make of that? X
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it sounds strange to me especially since the home is an hour away from his work... has he ever been on his own?

Posted by Littlepig77
Posted by Tinxy
Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?


Oh dear god another lazy ass 30 something aqua man child

Run little pig run ....

:-) but these creatures are so intriguing! Is this common for Aqua males?

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Mine was lile that...straight from mom's house to mine at 31. Big regrets about that.
Posted by Littlepig77
Posted by Tinxy
Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?


Oh dear god another lazy ass 30 something aqua man child

Run little pig run ....

:-) but these creatures are so intriguing! Is this common for Aqua males?

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Intriguing is one word

I'd just say selfish alien , I'm not hating I do have mucho love for Aqua , but a man child at home esp an Aqua is well ............. Just wrong lol

Watch and see , come back when you see it

When you do see it you'll shit bricks

smile
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Posted by Littlepig77
Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?

. Well he arrive at work at 9 each morning and leaves at 9:30pm . He parents home is an hour away so he literal only goes there to sleep. He does that 7 days a week! I've known him 2 years and he's only had about 3 days off and that was for family weddings. What do yo make of that? X

it sounds strange to me especially since the home is an hour away from his work... has he ever been on his own?


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No he has always lived in the house he grow up in. It's not a financial Problem as he is quite well off. And like you said he drive is far from ideal each day. From a mans point of view donyouvthink me now holding back physically after already being intimate with him will of put him off? X
Posted by Tinxy
Posted by Littlepig77
Posted by Tinxy
Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?


Oh dear god another lazy ass 30 something aqua man child

Run little pig run ....

:-) but these creatures are so intriguing! Is this common for Aqua males?


Intriguing is one word

I'd just say selfish alien , I'm not hating I do have mucho love for Aqua , but a man child at home esp an Aqua is well ............. Just wrong lol

Watch and see , come back when you see it

When you do see it you'll shit bricks

smile
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On tinxy my fingers are crossed your not right! I fear you may be! What would your take on the situation be if he didn't live at home? Do you think me holding back being fully intimate after already being so was a bad move? X
Posted by sultrykitty
Posted by Littlepig77
Posted by Tinxy
Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?


Oh dear god another lazy ass 30 something aqua man child

Run little pig run ....

:-) but these creatures are so intriguing! Is this common for Aqua males?


Mine was lile that...straight from mom's house to mine at 31. Big regrets about that.
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Oh no! What happened? X
Posted by Littlepig77
Posted by sultrykitty
Posted by Littlepig77
Posted by Tinxy
Posted by aquapiscescusp
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?


Oh dear god another lazy ass 30 something aqua man child

Run little pig run ....

:-) but these creatures are so intriguing! Is this common for Aqua males?


Mine was lile that...straight from mom's house to mine at 31. Big regrets about that.

Oh no! What happened? X
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We're still together and while he has his own business and works a lot of hours, I'm the one with the consistent income so it's me that pretty much pays all the bills. I refuse to have any joint accounts or loans with him.

It's my choice to live like this but it would've been nice to see how well he can make it on his own, without anyone to do his shopping, the physical act of paying lots of bills ( he pays his car insuranceand that's about it), ging through the whole house buying experience, etc.

And I don't think it will really make one bit of difference to him whether you get sexual or not. Aquas don't really think in those terms. But they WILL lead you on (unintentionally) if you sleep with them without a commitment.
I think your doing the right thing, and if he does really care hed respect your decision and wait until you are ready.
He seems like a nice guy from what youve explained, its worth seeing now how he acts after youve told him to slow things down abit.
If I was a man Id be confused. I would eventually try to keep getting you into bed if we already had sex. Its a challenge. And then if you didnt give in and thats all I wanted I would slowly stop calling. Speaking from an Aqua. We gobble up sex and hate waiting.
there's nothing wrong with living at home at a young age, with inflation these days it's a sensible decision, only if you're saving up to get out and are not taking the advantage for granted, that wouldn't be a smart move.

Personally I think people care too much what society thinks and leads people to build terrible generalisations of people, you see a man child where I see a family man.


Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
there's nothing wrong with living at home at a young age, with inflation these days it's a sensible decision, only if you're saving up to get out and are not taking the advantage for granted, that wouldn't be a smart move.

Personally I think people care too much what society thinks and leads people to build terrible generalisations of people, you see a man child where I see a family man.




Thank you for the input I don't have an issue with him living at home! Not at all however I'm not sure you could describe him as a family man, he would rather spend as little time with family as poss! Could I please have your male opinion on if you think my actions have damaged things? X
Posted by aqualady0118
If I was a man Id be confused. I would eventually try to keep getting you into bed if we already had sex. Its a challenge. And then if you didnt give in and thats all I wanted I would slowly stop calling. Speaking from an Aqua. We gobble up sex and hate waiting.

I just wanted to spend a little more time with him before jumping back into bed! Not because I don't want too! Far from it there is nothing I want more than to grab him but I feel sex can cloud people's visions especially before you really know someone! Do you think I should make conversation with him or wait and see if he contacts me? I made sure I was very affection to him the night we didn't sleep together so I hope he still felt disirable.!
Nothing wrong with that. Im just saying you already did the deed so it's hard to go backwards.
OP, here's my take. You say one thing, then do another. Say what you mean and mean what you say. You say you're worried about him making it all about sex and you don't want to have sex. Ok. That's great! Then, first time he asks,, you go to his bedroom to fool around. Don't go to a man's bedroom if you're not intending on having sex. Only a tease would get him worked up then not follow through.. That's confusing to a man, not to mention frustrating. He will get tired of that.

If you want to be true to your word, don't put yourself in a confusing situation full of temptation.
Posted by truecap
OP, here's my take. You say one thing, then do another. Say what you mean and mean what you say. You say you're worried about him making it all about sex and you don't want to have sex. Ok. That's great! Then, first time he asks,, you go to his bedroom to fool around. Don't go to a man's bedroom if you're not intending on having sex. Only a tease would get him worked up then not follow through.. That's confusing to a man, not to mention frustrating. He will get tired of that.

If you want to be true to your word, don't put yourself in a confusing situation full of temptation.

Thank you that does maKe Sense! I did say thaT before AccepTing tO go upstairs that I wasn't prepared to have full sex. I don't think he was frustrated as there was an ending! What would you recommend I do from here? I do want to have sex with him I just don't want to be used. truecap how will I know? X
Just plan some activities that don't involve being near a bed! lol!
Like ice skating, a movie, rock climbing, an amusement park, go play pool - whatever you guys enjoy doing. If he's up to spending time with you sometimes without having sex, then he's a good guy and not using you. Then you can have sex sometimes and sometimes you don't.