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Dec 07, 2011Comments: 33 · Posts: 13769 · Topics: 154
OK this is my take.
You don't want to be used, you are obviously feeling he might be using you.
You've mentioned it a few times to not have sex and see where it goes, but as far as I can understand you give in to it.
hmm
Why not stick to your guns, don't have sex until YOU are ready and satisfied with his behavior. Men who want to use you usually take off after you've made it clear you want time before going any further.
If he's just using you for sex, he will stop calling you and that's a GOOD thing-- and if he isn't just using you for sex he will definitely keep coming around.
It's a win - win.
I told him if it was just sex to him then I wasn't interested. To which he still wanted to see me. I would like think after I made it clear I liked him as a person and enjoyed spending time with him he wouldn't of been creul enough to still meet up with me. Do you think an Aquarius would do that? He seems very typical Aquarius ! Chased me for a year doing many sweet things saying lovely things. We got close then he backed away and seemed to only be interested in one thing. I have to admit I did go along with the casual thing for a while as I thought it would be fun (I had never tried it before) would it's definitely not for me! I like being in light hearted fun relationships but there needs to be commitment. I'm 99.9% sure he isn't seeing or even talking to anyone else. He's very involved with work and still lives at home with a parent. He's 35 x
Thank You for your Feedback I like the comment of win - win ! X
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Dec 07, 2011Comments: 33 · Posts: 13769 · Topics: 154
hmm he's 35 and still living at home... why?
I think your doing the right thing, and if he does really care hed respect your decision and wait until you are ready.
He seems like a nice guy from what youve explained, its worth seeing now how he acts after youve told him to slow things down abit.
If I was a man Id be confused. I would eventually try to keep getting you into bed if we already had sex. Its a challenge. And then if you didnt give in and thats all I wanted I would slowly stop calling. Speaking from an Aqua. We gobble up sex and hate waiting.
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Oct 08, 2009Comments: 1 · Posts: 6313 · Topics: 313
there's nothing wrong with living at home at a young age, with inflation these days it's a sensible decision, only if you're saving up to get out and are not taking the advantage for granted, that wouldn't be a smart move.
Personally I think people care too much what society thinks and leads people to build terrible generalisations of people, you see a man child where I see a family man.
Nothing wrong with that. Im just saying you already did the deed so it's hard to go backwards.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
OP, here's my take. You say one thing, then do another. Say what you mean and mean what you say. You say you're worried about him making it all about sex and you don't want to have sex. Ok. That's great! Then, first time he asks,, you go to his bedroom to fool around. Don't go to a man's bedroom if you're not intending on having sex. Only a tease would get him worked up then not follow through.. That's confusing to a man, not to mention frustrating. He will get tired of that.
If you want to be true to your word, don't put yourself in a confusing situation full of temptation.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Just plan some activities that don't involve being near a bed! lol!
Like ice skating, a movie, rock climbing, an amusement park, go play pool - whatever you guys enjoy doing. If he's up to spending time with you sometimes without having sex, then he's a good guy and not using you. Then you can have sex sometimes and sometimes you don't.