Aquarius Men - Commitment Issues

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by MilaniKisses on Monday, April 17, 2017 and has 27 replies.
Hi All,

From what I've read, Aqua men have fears of commitment. They prefer to build a friendship and would rather have the girl they are dating as a bestfriend rather than a 'girlfriend.' Adding to the articles that I've read, I came across testimonials of women who have dated Aquas and their guys pretty much acting the same way - going from friends to gf to friends to gf... All in all, they've all had a different and unique dating experience with an Aqua than other men from different signs.

So this weekend I had a wonderful time with my Aqua guy as always. We did have our first argument (1 month of seeing each other) after he brought up wanting for us to be more of a friendship than relationship. He mentioned that nothing would change between us and that we'd still continue to hold hands, and show affection to one another. He also ensured me that there are no other women he is talking to or interested in. This didn't both me so much as its what I would like for now as well with him since he has some repairing to do after he broke my trust. However, what did bother me and sparked the argument was that he didn't want to do anything sexual as well. He later explained to me the scenario of couples who wait to have sex before marriage. This eased my mind on the subject - but still baffles me as we have had sex numerous times before. Maybe he wants to build sexual/emotional tension with me to release it at a later point??

We spoke on the phone today which was great - he was very sweet calling me his usual pet names. I explained to him that I had clarity on the friendship subject and apologized to him how I was a little standoffish on it before. Of course reading more on this subject, I've found that this happens more often than not with Aqua guys (friend/relationship/friend/relationship pattern).

Has anyone had this experience before?
is this a new Aquarius dude? I thought you gave up on the one from your other threads.
Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_Mars
is this a new Aquarius dude? I thought you gave up on the one from your other threads.
No same one. I did give him up, but then he pulled out all the stops to keep me.
Posted by -Flo-
After everything you wrote, I can no longer respect you to date a man who is having a baby soon because you're more concerned with your own emotions.

Ok, why even respond then? You are off the subject. He was in a horrible relationship with the ex gf in which, their fighting will only cause more stress and a harmful environment for the baby. It was his choice to stay with me...
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Posted by MilaniKisses
Posted by -Flo-
After everything you wrote, I can no longer respect you to date a man who is having a baby soon because you're more concerned with your own emotions.

Ok, why even respond then? You are off the subject. He was in a horrible relationship with the ex gf in which, their fighting will only cause more stress and a harmful environment for the baby. It was his choice to stay with me...
I respond because you keep blowing up the aqua forum for answers that you will never put to use. You want users to validate with your choices and I won't do that.

Like I said in a previous post, once I tell you the truth you will not like what I have to say. This is coming specifically from an Aquarius woman. This man will only continue to play mind games with you no matter how much sweet talking he does because once that baby is born, that's when it will get very serious and you will once again be put to the side. I'm fully aware of what he's doing because if Im immature enough, I'm capable of playing the same mind games as he does.

Don't like what I have to say, don't come to the aqua forum.

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And as I've stated before, I appreciated your straightforwardness. And I have taken other's advice given - I walked out on him! Look, I am wanting to hear more on this subject - so please, let this thread stay true to it's subject.
I'm too surprised you fell back in with this guy.
And this subject is just a reworded version of what you already posted.
Yes I am back with this guy - things have changed and like I've stated, he and I have had a connection like non-other before... One that I can't ignore.

So as I appreciate your opinions, please stick to the subject! Also, reworded? No, this just happened over the weekend and it's a new experience.
Hey Milani I'll answer your question...

but maybe you should leave that aqua guy you have questions about. I've seen a couple of your posts, just looking out for your emotional wellbeing.

I was in a relationship with a aqua for 3 years. As I now recognize, I should have ended that relationship a long time ago. My ex-aqua had a venus in aquarius, and he loved me, but his love style was more as my friend then instead of my lover. He was romantic but the relationship wasn't deep enough for me, I crave a relationship that is deep on every level. He literally was just like my friend. We weren't very sexual, we would only have sex once a month and even skip out on having sex some months(something that I feel is very important in the kind of relationship that I want. ), sex was always if he wanted it, anytime I would want it he would reject me (weird af) so I stopped asking for it and cheated on his ass, then realized that, that type of relationship wasn't want I wanted.

For me I need to have that deep passionate type of relationship, if I only just wanted a friend I would keep it at that, I need both a friendship and a passionate lover at the same time.
Posted by Leoqueen21
Hey Milani I'll answer your question...

but maybe you should leave that aqua guy you have questions about. I've seen a couple of your posts, just looking out for your emotional wellbeing.

I was in a relationship with a aqua for 3 years. As I now recognize, I should have ended that relationship a long time ago. My ex-aqua had a venus in aquarius, and he loved me, but his love style was more as my friend then instead of my lover. He was romantic but the relationship wasn't deep enough for me, it was deep on every level. He literally was just like my friend. We weren't very sexual, we would only have sex once a month and even skip out on having sex some months(something that I feel is very important in the kind of relationship that I want. ), sex was always if he wanted it, anytime I would want it he would reject me (weird af) so I stopped asking for it and cheated on his ass, then realized that, that type of relationship wasn't want I wanted.

For me I need to have that deep passionate type of relationship, if I only just wanted a friend I would keep it at that, I need both a friendship and a passionate lover at the same time.
Thank you LeoQueen. I feel the same way about sex too - I think thats why I was so upset about it. I love having a sexual connection with the person I am in love with.
Well, our Milani is completely unusual. Bear with her, she is a wonderful girl! She actually knows all this story is out if books, yet she confides in us. She is no longer seeking advice, but we are the people that listen to her, because she needs to lay it off. Consider this!

The decisions are solely hers! Time will tell about the outcome, even though we all guess it.

Dear Milani, take good care of your heart, because you have only one!
Posted by compy
Well, our Milani is completely unusual. Bear with her, she is a wonderful girl! She actually knows all this story is out if books, yet she confides in us. She is no longer seeking advice, but we are the people that listen to her, because she needs to lay it off. Consider this!

The decisions are solely hers! Time will tell about the outcome, even though we all guess it.

Dear Milani, take good care of your heart, because you have only one!
Thank you for always understanding Andreea.
You're still missing one major point. This guy has lied to you multiple times. You simply can't take his words at face value anymore. Remember when he said that he wasn't talking to anyone else or interested in his ex? Remember when he led you to believe that the kid wasn't his? There's no reason for you to believe a word he says outside of the fact that you want his sweet words to be true.

The other issue is Aquas are very consistent when they are in love. If this guy was in love with you, he wouldn't be asking you for a "friendship". He's doing this to soften the emotional blow for himself. In reality the person he's truly tied to is his ex, the mother of his unborn child. Aquas may feel deeper than any other sign of the zodiac, simply because they keep a lot of emotions bottled up. So when they love a person they LOVE them hard. That person will always have a hold on the Aqua's heart until they break it off for good.

Right now you're hoping that person is you. You're trying to find information that will support the outcome you desire. The problem is, the ex has more time with the Aqua and a stronger emotional bond. It sounds like he's aware of this hold and is doing what he can to soften the blow for you. Asking for a "friendship" though is a trap. It may make sense to you right now since friendship can be an easy way to work through a relationship for a Virgo, but the Aqua is setting you up for a calculated fall.

I've watched an Aqua lie to her family and friends, simply to go back to an ex. She literally lost friends in the process. She was more willing to keep a guy she knew was emotionally abusive towards her than the friends who supported her for a decade. So understand that when it comes to the person they love, an Aqua will do practically anything to keep that person in their lives. ANYTHING.

However instead of lecturing you further, think on these questions. If the ex were to suddenly take him back and form a family, would you stand a chance? If the ex disappeared with his son, would he also disappear from your life? If things got difficult with you, would he second guess himself and go back to his ex? Basically do you think that he'd value you enough to actually beat those odds?
Commitment = confinement, imprisonment to an Aqua

Don't try and do this to them, it will end in tears

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/detached-aquarius-initial-dating-stage--8315503/?p=4

Posted by Chuckcem
You're still missing one major point. This guy has lied to you multiple times. You simply can't take his words at face value anymore. Remember when he said that he wasn't talking to anyone else or interested in his ex? Remember when he led you to believe that the kid wasn't his? There's no reason for you to believe a word he says outside of the fact that you want his sweet words to be true.

The other issue is Aquas are very consistent when they are in love. If this guy was in love with you, he wouldn't be asking you for a "friendship". He's doing this to soften the emotional blow for himself. In reality the person he's truly tied to is his ex, the mother of his unborn child. Aquas may feel deeper than any other sign of the zodiac, simply because they keep a lot of emotions bottled up. So when they love a person they LOVE them hard. That person will always have a hold on the Aqua's heart until they break it off for good.

Right now you're hoping that person is you. You're trying to find information that will support the outcome you desire. The problem is, the ex has more time with the Aqua and a stronger emotional bond. It sounds like he's aware of this hold and is doing what he can to soften the blow for you. Asking for a "friendship" though is a trap. It may make sense to you right now since friendship can be an easy way to work through a relationship for a Virgo, but the Aqua is setting you up for a calculated fall.

I've watched an Aqua lie to her family and friends, simply to go back to an ex. She literally lost friends in the process. She was more willing to keep a guy she knew was emotionally abusive towards her than the friends who supported her for a decade. So understand that when it comes to the person they love, an Aqua will do practically anything to keep that person in their lives. ANYTHING.

However instead of lecturing you further, think on these questions. If the ex were to suddenly take him back and form a family, would you stand a chance? If the ex disappeared with his son, would he also disappear from your life? If things got difficult with you, would he second guess himself and go back to his ex? Basically do you think that he'd value you enough to actually beat those odds?

I appreciate you for taking your time out to answer each thread properly.. truly do man.

This explains why my Aqua somehow has been putting up with my emotional roller coaster of emotion ov r the last few weeks. I pulled and pushed him away numerous times only to have him come around to me saying beautiful things like I have never hurt him...( this made me fall for me more) and god damn he has my heart for real now.... he has truly taught me what love really is sometimes.... he also tells me that I act that way and tried to cut him off and that I havnt lost him because I just * missed * him... he understood my emotion better than myself... (Aqua moon) it's freaky actually... do u think, it's his Aqua sun placement or his Pisces placements? Sometimes I feel like he's a psychic or something lol... ? What r u insights? And ur friend, what placement has she got?

Thank you guys. I'm really content with the friendship thing knowing that he may flake out or do something that he of course will later regret. I'm not crazy about him as I once was... that wore off as I've seen his behavioral patterns. But I still care for the man, and in a way too, I don't want to lose him again.

I also will say that I have told him several times that I will not commit to him until he is committed to me. He notices that i get a lot of texts from friends and sometimes other guys - he always says "I see you're popular"... AND I also am not shy about texting the other guys in front of him.

Plus my feelings for a Libra guy I briefly dated have recently become stronger. My Libra guy is so sweet and someone I would leave my Aqua guy for in an instant. Problem is, my Libra guy moved away early into our development because he is truly an air sign and can't stay hunkered down in one spot for long. I will say though, the connection I've had with my Libra guy isn't as strong as it is with my Aqua guy...
... OP..... I don't know how to say things without hurting your feelings so I'm not going to say harsh things since u have heard enough... one can only learn life lessons when they go through it themselves so I will only give my limited experience with my current situation as of now.... the last three month also, I have offered my Aqua , friendship since he cudnt be in a relationship with me. Long story short , relationship isn't his priority right now in his life, totally understandable, though I was trying hard to cut him off, or offer friendships or whatever ( eventhough we have very solid friendship base coz we r open n honest about everything to each other ), from the very beginning it has always been a push and pull, he pulls away, then I try to end it, he comes back, then he pull again, dah de dah, the thing is, never have once he agreed to just b a friend with me.. or Say We r friend with benefit ... he says we r always more than that... though my point is being an Aqua moon myself, I try to detach n offer friendship to him but he never onced taken that, still somehow remained loving and called me pet names or whatever, .. lol.. the point is, I'm not sure if him offering u friendship is a great idea to be honest... he wants u in his life as a friend to boost his ego for now... when the baby is out ( esp if it's a girl) he will b donating his time to his baby n a family.. Aqua has never cut the ex off for good. He was sleeping with her while seeing u. When she's pregnant. Most likely he is addicted to that unhealthy relationship of his though he still love his ex and care for her a lot, I am sorry though I really don't see much light or a nice ending with this story... please consider if what you feel for him is really love... or lust to the max....? I was in similar addicted relationship with my ex sag, God it was lust at full moon though it took years for me to finally realise, I didn't listen to people on dxpnet coz I was stubborn but it was one addictive relationship. Nothing about it was healthy. But I had to go through that whole process to grow so I wish you lots of luck and that you don't get burn too much, you will learn something from this lesson, figure out what it is ..... take good care of your heart
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Posted by Chuckcem
You're still missing one major point. This guy has lied to you multiple times. You simply can't take his words at face value anymore. Remember when he said that he wasn't talking to anyone else or interested in his ex? Remember when he led you to believe that the kid wasn't his? There's no reason for you to believe a word he says outside of the fact that you want his sweet words to be true.

The other issue is Aquas are very consistent when they are in love. If this guy was in love with you, he wouldn't be asking you for a "friendship". He's doing this to soften the emotional blow for himself. In reality the person he's truly tied to is his ex, the mother of his unborn child. Aquas may feel deeper than any other sign of the zodiac, simply because they keep a lot of emotions bottled up. So when they love a person they LOVE them hard. That person will always have a hold on the Aqua's heart until they break it off for good.

Right now you're hoping that person is you. You're trying to find information that will support the outcome you desire. The problem is, the ex has more time with the Aqua and a stronger emotional bond. It sounds like he's aware of this hold and is doing what he can to soften the blow for you. Asking for a "friendship" though is a trap. It may make sense to you right now since friendship can be an easy way to work through a relationship for a Virgo, but the Aqua is setting you up for a calculated fall.

I've watched an Aqua lie to her family and friends, simply to go back to an ex. She literally lost friends in the process. She was more willing to keep a guy she knew was emotionally abusive towards her than the friends who supported her for a decade. So understand that when it comes to the person they love, an Aqua will do practically anything to keep that person in their lives. ANYTHING.

However instead of lecturing you further, think on these questions. If the ex were to suddenly take him back and form a family, would you stand a chance? If the ex disappeared with his son, would he also disappear from your life? If things got difficult with you, would he second guess himself and go back to his ex? Basically do you think that he'd value you enough to actually beat those odds?

I appreciate you for taking your time out to answer each thread properly.. truly do man.

This explains why my Aqua somehow has been putting up with my emotional roller coaster of emotion ov r the last few weeks. I pulled and pushed him away numerous times only to have him come around to me saying beautiful things like I have never hurt him...( this made me fall for me more) and god damn he has my heart for real now.... he has truly taught me what love really is sometimes.... he also tells me that I act that way and tried to cut him off and that I havnt lost him because I just * missed * him... he understood my emotion better than myself... (Aqua moon) it's freaky actually... do u think, it's his Aqua sun placement or his Pisces placements? Sometimes I feel like he's a psychic or something lol... ? What r u insights? And ur friend, what placement has she got?

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Hahah I try.

Aquas tend to understand Aqua energy the best. An Aqua Sun will more that likely understand and be fine with you behavior because it won't affect him emotionally. He'll understand your nature because he's the same way.

The girl I referenced was an Aqua Sun, Libra Moon, Aqua Mercury, Pisces Venus, Sag Mars.
Posted by saweetz1988
... OP..... I don't know how to say things without hurting your feelings so I'm not going to say harsh things since u have heard enough... one can only learn life lessons when they go through it themselves so I will only give my limited experience with my current situation as of now.... the last three month also, I have offered my Aqua , friendship since he cudnt be in a relationship with me. Long story short , relationship isn't his priority right now in his life, totally understandable, though I was trying hard to cut him off, or offer friendships or whatever ( eventhough we have very solid friendship base coz we r open n honest about everything to each other ), from the very beginning it has always been a push and pull, he pulls away, then I try to end it, he comes back, then he pull again, dah de dah, the thing is, never have once he agreed to just b a friend with me.. or Say We r friend with benefit ... he says we r always more than that... though my point is being an Aqua moon myself, I try to detach n offer friendship to him but he never onced taken that, still somehow remained loving and called me pet names or whatever, .. lol.. the point is, I'm not sure if him offering u friendship is a great idea to be honest... he wants u in his life as a friend to boost his ego for now... when the baby is out ( esp if it's a girl) he will b donating his time to his baby n a family.. Aqua has never cut the ex off for good. He was sleeping with her while seeing u. When she's pregnant. Most likely he is addicted to that unhealthy relationship of his though he still love his ex and care for her a lot, I am sorry though I really don't see much light or a nice ending with this story... please consider if what you feel for him is really love... or lust to the max....? I was in similar addicted relationship with my ex sag, God it was lust at full moon though it took years for me to finally realise, I didn't listen to people on dxpnet coz I was stubborn but it was one addictive relationship. Nothing about it was healthy. But I had to go through that whole process to grow so I wish you lots of luck and that you don't get burn too much, you will learn something from this lesson, figure out what it is ..... take good care of your heart
Thank you saweetz. I will not lie, it has been on my mind (again) recently of just giving up on evertything... but as last time, he pulled out all of the stops to keep me. I suppose next time I leave him, I cannot fall for that and end it.
Posted by MilaniKisses
Posted by saweetz1988
... OP..... I don't know how to say things without hurting your feelings so I'm not going to say harsh things since u have heard enough... one can only learn life lessons when they go through it themselves so I will only give my limited experience with my current situation as of now.... the last three month also, I have offered my Aqua , friendship since he cudnt be in a relationship with me. Long story short , relationship isn't his priority right now in his life, totally understandable, though I was trying hard to cut him off, or offer friendships or whatever ( eventhough we have very solid friendship base coz we r open n honest about everything to each other ), from the very beginning it has always been a push and pull, he pulls away, then I try to end it, he comes back, then he pull again, dah de dah, the thing is, never have once he agreed to just b a friend with me.. or Say We r friend with benefit ... he says we r always more than that... though my point is being an Aqua moon myself, I try to detach n offer friendship to him but he never onced taken that, still somehow remained loving and called me pet names or whatever, .. lol.. the point is, I'm not sure if him offering u friendship is a great idea to be honest... he wants u in his life as a friend to boost his ego for now... when the baby is out ( esp if it's a girl) he will b donating his time to his baby n a family.. Aqua has never cut the ex off for good. He was sleeping with her while seeing u. When she's pregnant. Most likely he is addicted to that unhealthy relationship of his though he still love his ex and care for her a lot, I am sorry though I really don't see much light or a nice ending with this story... please consider if what you feel for him is really love... or lust to the max....? I was in similar addicted relationship with my ex sag, God it was lust at full moon though it took years for me to finally realise, I didn't listen to people on dxpnet coz I was stubborn but it was one addictive relationship. Nothing about it was healthy. But I had to go through that whole process to grow so I wish you lots of luck and that you don't get burn too much, you will learn something from this lesson, figure out what it is ..... take good care of your heart
Thank you saweetz. I will not lie, it has been on my mind (again) recently of just giving up on evertything... but as last time, he pulled out all of the stops to keep me. I suppose next time I leave him, I cannot fall for that and end it.
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Im not an Aqua, but been somehow involved with one lately. All I can say is this: she got divorced 5-6 years ago, they have a daughter together; the divorce happened because he was abusive and cheated on her for a year! After one year she had the courage to end things. AND, here comes the ugly part: even today she is messed up by him! That rs with him (5-6 years ago) made her emotionally unstable and she gets hurt by him (emotionally) really bad even today. I dont know what he is doing to her, but its not normal behavior to be like this after all these years.
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Posted by saweetz1988
... OP..... I don't know how to say things without hurting your feelings so I'm not going to say harsh things since u have heard enough... one can only learn life lessons when they go through it themselves so I will only give my limited experience with my current situation as of now.... the last three month also, I have offered my Aqua , friendship since he cudnt be in a relationship with me. Long story short , relationship isn't his priority right now in his life, totally understandable, though I was trying hard to cut him off, or offer friendships or whatever ( eventhough we have very solid friendship base coz we r open n honest about everything to each other ), from the very beginning it has always been a push and pull, he pulls away, then I try to end it, he comes back, then he pull again, dah de dah, the thing is, never have once he agreed to just b a friend with me.. or Say We r friend with benefit ... he says we r always more than that... though my point is being an Aqua moon myself, I try to detach n offer friendship to him but he never onced taken that, still somehow remained loving and called me pet names or whatever, .. lol.. the point is, I'm not sure if him offering u friendship is a great idea to be honest... he wants u in his life as a friend to boost his ego for now... when the baby is out ( esp if it's a girl) he will b donating his time to his baby n a family.. Aqua has never cut the ex off for good. He was sleeping with her while seeing u. When she's pregnant. Most likely he is addicted to that unhealthy relationship of his though he still love his ex and care for her a lot, I am sorry though I really don't see much light or a nice ending with this story... please consider if what you feel for him is really love... or lust to the max....? I was in similar addicted relationship with my ex sag, God it was lust at full moon though it took years for me to finally realise, I didn't listen to people on dxpnet coz I was stubborn but it was one addictive relationship. Nothing about it was healthy. But I had to go through that whole process to grow so I wish you lots of luck and that you don't get burn too much, you will learn something from this lesson, figure out what it is ..... take good care of your heart
Thank you saweetz. I will not lie, it has been on my mind (again) recently of just giving up on evertything... but as last time, he pulled out all of the stops to keep me. I suppose next time I leave him, I cannot fall for that and end it.
Im not an Aqua, but been somehow involved with one lately. All I can say is this: she got divorced 5-6 years ago, they have a daughter together; the divorce happened because he was abusive and cheated on her for a year! After one year she had the courage to end things. AND, here comes the ugly part: even today she is messed up by him! That rs with him (5-6 years ago) made her emotionally unstable and she gets hurt by him (emotionally) really bad even today. I dont know what he is doing to her, but its not normal behavior to be like this after all these years.
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He's an Aqua?
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... OP..... I don't know how to say things without hurting your feelings so I'm not going to say harsh things since u have heard enough... one can only learn life lessons when they go through it themselves so I will only give my limited experience with my current situation as of now.... the last three month also, I have offered my Aqua , friendship since he cudnt be in a relationship with me. Long story short , relationship isn't his priority right now in his life, totally understandable, though I was trying hard to cut him off, or offer friendships or whatever ( eventhough we have very solid friendship base coz we r open n honest about everything to each other ), from the very beginning it has always been a push and pull, he pulls away, then I try to end it, he comes back, then he pull again, dah de dah, the thing is, never have once he agreed to just b a friend with me.. or Say We r friend with benefit ... he says we r always more than that... though my point is being an Aqua moon myself, I try to detach n offer friendship to him but he never onced taken that, still somehow remained loving and called me pet names or whatever, .. lol.. the point is, I'm not sure if him offering u friendship is a great idea to be honest... he wants u in his life as a friend to boost his ego for now... when the baby is out ( esp if it's a girl) he will b donating his time to his baby n a family.. Aqua has never cut the ex off for good. He was sleeping with her while seeing u. When she's pregnant. Most likely he is addicted to that unhealthy relationship of his though he still love his ex and care for her a lot, I am sorry though I really don't see much light or a nice ending with this story... please consider if what you feel for him is really love... or lust to the max....? I was in similar addicted relationship with my ex sag, God it was lust at full moon though it took years for me to finally realise, I didn't listen to people on dxpnet coz I was stubborn but it was one addictive relationship. Nothing about it was healthy. But I had to go through that whole process to grow so I wish you lots of luck and that you don't get burn too much, you will learn something from this lesson, figure out what it is ..... take good care of your heart
Thank you saweetz. I will not lie, it has been on my mind (again) recently of just giving up on evertything... but as last time, he pulled out all of the stops to keep me. I suppose next time I leave him, I cannot fall for that and end it.
Im not an Aqua, but been somehow involved with one lately. All I can say is this: she got divorced 5-6 years ago, they have a daughter together; the divorce happened because he was abusive and cheated on her for a year! After one year she had the courage to end things. AND, here comes the ugly part: even today she is messed up by him! That rs with him (5-6 years ago) made her emotionally unstable and she gets hurt by him (emotionally) really bad even today. I dont know what he is doing to her, but its not normal behavior to be like this after all these years.
He's an Aqua?
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No, SHE is the Aqua, I dont know about her ex husband.
Hi all,

So I did it... broke things off with my Aqua guy. It was a peaceful break off... I told him I couldn't do it anymore. He understood since he knew it was his fault for hurting me the first time. I backed out of his driveway and he stood there staring at me go. I rolled my window down and waved at him and then drove off as he continued to see me off...

It hurts and is never an easy thing to do. But in a way, I feel relieved. I just couldn't trust him anymore and I don't think that break of trust could ever be repaired for me.
Posted by MilaniKisses
Hi All,

From what I've read, Aqua men have fears of commitment. They prefer to build a friendship and would rather have the girl they are dating as a bestfriend rather than a 'girlfriend.' Adding to the articles that I've read, I came across testimonials of women who have dated Aquas and their guys pretty much acting the same way - going from friends to gf to friends to gf... All in all, they've all had a different and unique dating experience with an Aqua than other men from different signs.

So this weekend I had a wonderful time with my Aqua guy as always. We did have our first argument (1 month of seeing each other) after he brought up wanting for us to be more of a friendship than relationship. He mentioned that nothing would change between us and that we'd still continue to hold hands, and show affection to one another. He also ensured me that there are no other women he is talking to or interested in. This didn't both me so much as its what I would like for now as well with him since he has some repairing to do after he broke my trust. However, what did bother me and sparked the argument was that he didn't want to do anything sexual as well. He later explained to me the scenario of couples who wait to have sex before marriage. This eased my mind on the subject - but still baffles me as we have had sex numerous times before. Maybe he wants to build sexual/emotional tension with me to release it at a later point??

We spoke on the phone today which was great - he was very sweet calling me his usual pet names. I explained to him that I had clarity on the friendship subject and apologized to him how I was a little standoffish on it before. Of course reading more on this subject, I've found that this happens more often than not with Aqua guys (friend/relationship/friend/relationship pattern).

Has anyone had this experience before?
Let me tell you something more precise on advice. I did that with someone last year, I was going through the end of my relationship with my ex, we were no longer together as a couple and I met a guy who I had a crazy connection with. So I was single (ex still lived in the house) I have 2 kids. we would switch weekends. my weekends off I spent with the guy and my ex basically knew (again it was the end of the relationship).

The guy asked me to be his girlfriend on my birthday and I had gone out to eat with my ex and my kids (bc we were trying to stay friends and all good with the girls). I had told the guy I was going out with them and he blew up my phone with calls and texts. He knew we were friends, I never accepted to be anything more and I liked him but he wasn't the one I wanted for a long term (which I had also talked to him about) so that day I denied his proposal to be his girlfriend and told him is better if we stayed as friends.

He cut off contact with me, even as friends and started going out with another girl and were bf/gf for 4 months and he came back to talk to me but I was over him and had already physically (home) separated from my ex.

And Happier!
Posted by MilaniKisses
Hi all,

So I did it... broke things off with my Aqua guy. It was a peaceful break off... I told him I couldn't do it anymore. He understood since he knew it was his fault for hurting me the first time. I backed out of his driveway and he stood there staring at me go. I rolled my window down and waved at him and then drove off as he continued to see me off...

It hurts and is never an easy thing to do. But in a way, I feel relieved. I just couldn't trust him anymore and I don't think that break of trust could ever be repaired for me.
All last night I had dreams of him - made me miss him more. But still staying strong and haven't texted or called him. :-)
Posted by MilaniKisses
Posted by MilaniKisses
Hi all,

So I did it... broke things off with my Aqua guy. It was a peaceful break off... I told him I couldn't do it anymore. He understood since he knew it was his fault for hurting me the first time. I backed out of his driveway and he stood there staring at me go. I rolled my window down and waved at him and then drove off as he continued to see me off...

It hurts and is never an easy thing to do. But in a way, I feel relieved. I just couldn't trust him anymore and I don't think that break of trust could ever be repaired for me.
All last night I had dreams of him - made me miss him more. But still staying strong and haven't texted or called him. :-)
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Its starting to hit home... I miss him. Blah. Still pushing through it though.
It looks like you'll be changing your mind again by 5 am Big Grin.

How mutable are you?