Aquarius - or just man not that into you?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by sousou on Thursday, September 6, 2012 and has 12 replies.
Yes, I think he's just not that into you. At least you don't have a lot invested. Now you can move on. NEXT! lol!
You seem pretty level headed, you'll do just fine and meet a better guy!
His comment regarding independence? Strange. Most of them like independent women.
Posted by Metoo
Oh wow, how strange, wonder what else was in his chart but honestly it sounds like a speed date. He wanted to get everything all at once, ooorrrr did someone hire a private investigator on you?
I mean, they are curious people, I wonder if he knew he couldnt see you again for awhile so wanted to cover alot this time. Aquas can be spooky, but this is a whole other level.


LMAO @ "speed date"
When I had met my previous Aqua he def wanted to know like everyone about me...but not the very first date!!! Maybe over the next week or so we talked everyday about everything.
This whole story is totally crazy-- please oh please keep us posted if you hear from him I am SO curious!!!!
Oh hunny I dont think this guy WAS of the human species... he sounds more like a freakin robot hahaha Winking
FRIENDS? That's the key word. Wondering if he means friends first (aqua is like that)? Or if all he wants to be is friends.
What are you going to say back?
My aqua told me this. I believe it to mean he wants to get closer to you. As in friends and more.
Hey Ninjagirl - interesting.
Friends + more = FWB,
or
friends + more = friends and we'll see how it goes? :s
Give friendship a shot!!! What have ya got to lose?
Yes, Aquas love asking questions about you on the first date. One of my Aqua ex asked me what sort of relationship I like right on our first date and then threw me off the loop with another asking to be in a long term relationship with me at the end of our dinner! Slow down , man, we were just having dinner! Lol. They do many things that others may find very strange and out of order but I think it is all due to their thinking. Always running ahead of time, into the future with all the plans. The only problem is that plans might not always work in reality so you have to be patient and forgive the poor guy. Who knows, if you were running on time for your date, he might have the big hot air balloon waiting for you with music and flower all around? Lol. My point is if you find him worth the while and you share enough interests to be friends then why not going with the flow and see how it turns out? Of course, never give up your principles for any one. If you don't like FWB then make it clear to him if he ever suggests it. However, for now, all I see is a suggestion to be good friends. Let's not jump ahead of ourselves after one date smile
Aqua's key word for interest is friends.
I would be his friend, DO NOT have sex with him.
The friendship thing will go out the window and you won't have a chance.
A lot of them will not take things further than sex if you aren't their friend.
The harder you play to get, the more he will chase you -- its just how they are.
Posted by sousou
Hey Ninjagirl - interesting.
Friends + more = FWB,
or
friends + more = friends and we'll see how it goes? :s


I call it the misty grey area. Perhaps a bit of both at different times/stage in the relationship? We been going for a year and a bit so it may mean different?
Posted by Metoo
Well, I hope the friendship proves to be as interesting as the date.
Were things getting kinda intimate online before the in person meeting?
In other words was he suggesting more than friends or being flirtatious online before?
If so then if his actions change now it will suggest he didnt feel chemistry in person.
Then he really does mean JUST friends, but when they really like you, often times they behave the polar opposite way so time will tell. Let him do most of the initiating with contact.
I actually think aquas can get under your skin slowly so watch that friendship doesnt lead
to you catching feelings ha! ha! ha!
The last thing I will say it its kinda creepy and still doesnt settle well how he took that call and said "I'll be making a move in 5 minutes" Its just weird and eery. The sliding down the couch slowly to leave also disturbs me. Lack of social tact here, but I just feel a little creeped out. Something is off.


I agree...there is something off but it could be nerves or he may have got shy and started acting strange LOL (mine has told me this). I've known mine for 6 yrs, and when we reconnected it was like all the rush of emotions came back so he was much more direct in his approach. I can tell when he's nervous because he starts talking fast or asks lots of questions in quick sucession. It's quite funny to watch...but my guy is one of many so who knows.
Even with the odd behaviour they do creep up on you....you can't help but love em LOL, poor thing.
I am very much like this Aqua. So I understand the 'background check'. We're just too secured and practical so we want to knw a lot about people in one go. We don't want to waste time especially if we want things to start off strong, as in being friends.
Using 'good' friends mean a lot. I say, he's interested, but not so sure if he'll like you. Give it time. Nothing to lose.

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