Aquas and long distance relationships?

My Aqua bf of over 4 years (started dating at 19 and now 23) is going to be going to study abroad for 5 months in another country (and he's thinking about going an extra semester if he really likes it). I am realllly sad and selfishly wish he wouldn't go cause I have very little hope in long distance relationships. But at the same time I am happy for him because I know he is really dissapointed in his school and wants to go to this one because it's recognized as a great school and offers courses that he wouldn't be able to take otherwise. And I would hate for him to have any regrets in life, especially because of me. He says that he already sees me as the only person for him and he promises that he will make sure that we stay together. He set up a skype account and payed for a phone line for us to talk as much as we want. But I have serious doubts. I think that if you don't see someone for a long time and are exposed to a bunch of new and exiting people..eventually u might cheat.

Any advice on how to handle the situation and how to act? I am so happy for him but at the same time I can't help but feel selfish about the situation too. Im the type of person who wouldn't want to go somewhere like that for a long period of time unless the person could go with me (Im in school too so I can't go with him). I was fine with 5 months cause it's only normal for students to go study abroad but it's kind of hurting my feelings now that I know he's thinking about an extra semester. Like he's willing to sacrifice our relationship just because there is one extra class he realllly wants to take and he cant do that at home unless he goes to one specific private school that would be too expensive. He says he is not sacrificing our relationship and says he would come back and not do the extra semester if I gave him an ultimatum but I would never want to do that. Just wish he would come back on his own.

Also do you think Aqua's are able to stay with long distance relationships or do you think he would give up after a while and after he meets new ppl and sees that Im not the only one out there who could be with him? I would love to hear from ppl if anyone has been in a long distance relationship with an aqua or is an aqua who was in one too. Thanks!!

Currently, my aqua and I are in a sort of long distance relationship. We met online, and for the first two months of our relationship, we were still online. Then he lived with me for two months, and because of obligations back home and money issues, he returned back to his state. He's been there for about 3 months, now. So, in total, we've spent 5 out of 7 months of our relationship apart. You may say...well, if you started off online, it would be easier..and indeed it was, until we actually got to see each other. Parting after that was hard. But, anyway, he's had to move around a bit since then, and meet new people, etc. He's also finally starting up college again at the end of the month! In his own state, of course. I'm fine with this. I trust my aqua. He's also shown his love to me many times so I don't think he'll ever get bored of me, etc. Even though he always talks about how he's so sex deprived, I know he won't go off with another girl because of that. It's normal to be upset by the distance and even a bit worried, but, sometimes you just have to trust people. I think, after a month or two apart, you'll see that you can trust him. However, be warned, don't let your ugly side show during this time. I had a major problem with distance with my ex, who went to college a few hours away. He hardly had any time to talk to me...so, I got upset...and I took that out on him. Lots of yelling, etc. He, also not being able to bear the distance, gave me an ultimatum, himself, and showed his ugly side to me. That whole period he was in college was the worst experience ever because we both took out our emotions on each other. And yeah, ultimatums are a really bad idea. Unnecessary stress, really.

Anyway, just try to be supportive and understanding. Don't let your emotions get the better of you and try to trust him. I can't really give you any more advice on that, since it's up to you to be motivated to do these things and to keep yourself in check. And once again, if I were you, I wouldn't worry, too much. I believe he'll stay faithful to you, and probably be too caught up in the new, exciting environment to even get any doubts, etc.

All i can say being an aqua male if he trully loves you he will make it work. When an aqua finds something that stimulates him support him and gain a loyal friend for life.

For me personally if there's end to the distance even if it's a year or 2 and I've already been with someone for 4 years then I'd definitely go back to them because I love them 🙂 Depending I guess but I'm big on my promises as an aqua and I always try to keep promises. You're forgetting we do love new things too all aquas I know seem to have this insatiable thirst to learn or go for what they want. You are right in some way that is selfish but let them love themselves and they'll love you for it later on.

My ex and I went out for 2 years before she was offered a job permanently overseas and it was what she wanted to do. For us then it was my choice to move over and I just didn't want to. I did like her but might've been from a previous relationship and she might've just been a long rebound *shrugs* but in this case it was permanent and it made it easier for me to leave it behind. I need both mental and physical connection, though I'd never think of doing anything physically with other girls, I wasn't going to torture myself for it.

Use this time on yourself I guess. It's always hard when someone you love has to go away but take this time to work out what you want in life. Thing with Ultimatums are that no matter what happens it'll always be bitter.

Respect his journey and your own. While he is overseas develop interests outside of him. Perhaps, you may want to travel somewhere, learn a foreign language, volunteer, and/or learn to dance the tango. You start acting crazy and needy...he may change his plans and stay but, he will RESENT the hell out of you and it will KILL any type of love feeling that he has. Being in the presence of someone is not the same as being loved by them. Especially, when you are dealing with an Aqua male. My Aqua Ex was military and deployed a lot. My current Aqua travels out of the country for business approximately every 6 weeks. We also live about 45 minutes away from each other. Sometimes, when the weather is bad we don't see each other face to face for a week or two. But, we always stay in contact via phone and text. For the record, someone can cheat on you whilst living in the same household. If someone has a cheating heart they will do it no matter what.

Ask him to send you pics of the landmarks in his new locale. 🙂 Aquas like doing that kind of stuff.

Thanks for your reply guys. I'm trying my best to not guilt trip him for it and thankfully he's very reassuring about our relationship saying that we'll stay together no matter what and he would make sure to compromise with me if either one of us wants to actually move away for work so that we can go together. It just freaks me out that he would just move away one day without taking me into consideration. This is understandable because it's study abroad and just temporary but I'm also just worried that he is the type to permanently move away even if I can't go because there would be no way that I can go with him. Like if he moves out of the country I doubt I would be able to do the same and find work easily. You know what I mean? I just feel that in a relationship, both of the people need to compromise when the other wants to move away. It scares me to think he would just up and move without making sure to find a place which I can go to also. He told me that once I get into a graduate school he would move with me there but I don't really trust that cause he would probably just want to move where he would be able to advance in his career the best. I would never want to sacrife either my career or love life over the other and he says he wouldn't either but it really doesn't seem like it to me. But we'll see in the future I guess. I don't want him to ever hate me from stopping him from doing something he wants in life but at the same time I want him to try at making sure we stay together. Otherwise being together is almost a waste of time and he should be the type to get in a relationship when he is older and in a more stable job and time in his life

Are your doubts justified or is that spawning from insecurity? It's not meant to be offensive but he sounds like he's definitely to make compromises to be with you yet you don't trust him?

It's a bit of both I would say. He didn't tell me that he was going to go study abroad until 10 days he was gonna leave. He applied in October and said he didn't want to tell me because he wasnt sure he would even be able to go because he didn't think his parents would want to pay for it. He said he didnt want me to get so upset for no reason if he didnt even think it was gonna happen. And then he got accepted and his parents agreed to pay for it while I was on vacation with my family for 2 1/2 weeks. He didn't tell me then because I told him to not ruin my vacation by telling me any bad news (he broke up with me briefly once 6 months into our relationship while I was on vacation and it uined my time so I told him to not do something like that again) so he told me the day after I came back (and 10 days before he had to leave).

It's just that he told me so last minute and didnt include me in his plans that I feel a little angy and dissapointed that I wasnt included in such a huge decision of his life. I get why he didnt want to tell me because he didnt want to ruin my vacation or tell me when he didnt even think he'd go but it still hurts that I was the last person he told. He told all his family memebers and all our friends while I was on vacation before telling me and I feel that after being together for 4 years that I deserved to know before our friends. Im just a little suspicous and worried that he wouldnt incude me on huge plans if he planned to move away to another country, or even just another city or state, until last minute because he doesn't want to hurt my feelings and would therefore not include me in the decision. You know what I mean? I think I deserve to made part of the decision rather than just telling me RIGHT before u leave.

Remember that old saying, "if you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was"?

Well, try to apply that attitude in this case. Your support and encouragement might just make all the difference in his coming back to you. It will be tough. You will have periods of doubt. Just trust him and trust yourself.