Aquas and recovery time.

Just wondering why it takes an aqua so long to recover when someone ditches them and walk away. I have been noticing this in a few aquas by now and am quite curious to know the internal details and background. They say they cannot breath, they feel like s..t, they feel worthless, want to suicide and stuff like that.

Is it bcoz aquas have some habit of seeing their own worth through the eyes of the one they are in love with??

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No, not at all. If I ever came to that point [which Ive never have...I dont understand where you got these opinions] it would definitely be a pride thing. Letting myself become vulnerable enough for someone to do such a thing like this to me. Its more of anger towards yourself than anger directed towards the violator, b/c essentially you have control over what happens to you and your emotions.

Its like when I get upset to the point of tears...It makes me angrier b/c I have let my own anger and of course someone pushing my buttons get the best of me. Definitely a pride thing.

It also comes to the point where an aqua has given you their trust (which is a difficult task in itself personally) and you've essentially committed their biggest fear. We do have emotions. We dont take them lightly.

Lady M, you really need to lose control one of these days. It would be therapeutic and it doesn't hurt as much as you think it might.

The after math is the problem duck guy.

it happened in these cases when the guy walks away saying he is no more interested bcoz she is this and that leaving the aqua all guilty and hurt.

after math, smarafter daff...

I honestly dont like drama.

"it happened in these cases when the guy walks away saying he is no more interested bcoz she is this and that leaving the aqua all guilty and hurt."

Their just heart broken; it happens to the best of us. Although suicide is taking it a little too far imho.

My solution to this fear of losing emotional control is just lose control constantly -- until you don't give a shit about it anymore.

I experienced this as a musician -- sometimes it felt good to really goof up due to stage fright. No one noticed, or cared much. Consequently I rarely lose my cool performing now.

On the other hand, perhaps I should shut up. Because I now have very superficial relationships with men. I dunno if this is a phase or not, but I don't care to get too close.

Well I can't speak for everyone, but ditto on the not getting close. It's selfish, but sometimes I just like knowing they are going to be *there* while I run around and do my thing.

Aquas getting hurt is similar to this scenario: You buy a fire-proof safe to keep all your most prized possessions inside of (E.I. an Aquarian heart) & when the house burns down the safe & EVERYTHING in it burns down when it shouldn't have & we're not knowing whether to be more concerned about the house burning down in the first place OR the safe not being as fire-proof as we thought (if we had've known, we wouldn't have bought it).
Aquas are known to be very hard to truly get to know & commit to. We spend alot of time sorting out whether or not something is worth it & when we finally let our guards down for someone else, we see that person as the Fire-proof box. We are usually not the ones who skip from one guy or girl to the next, when we're looking for a potential, we look hard and very carefully (which in our minds means that once we ACTUALLY Do find someone, we figure that we've done enough research to know we can go for it).When we've given our hearts to something that we planned on still sharing even through bad times it devestates us when our partner leaves & just walks away. Once an Aqua truly loves you, they will always love you. We are so good and pushing away people in the beginning, & being detached in the very beginning, but once we actually sink, we almost forget what we were like BEFORE we committed

"just wondering why it takes an aqua so long to recover when someone ditches them and walk away. I have been noticing this in a few aquas by now and am quite curious to know the internal details and background. They say they cannot breath, they feel like s..t, they feel worthless, want to suicide and stuff like that."

Aquarian commit sucide? Oh nooooooo, when we Allow ourselves to fall in love we can fall deeply, once trust is proven, expect nothing but our Best as a freind and lover😉 If we are heartbroken we recover in our own way but hardly ever will a Aquarian commit suicide over it.

typo- friend

((Aquarian commit sucide? Oh nooooooo, when we Allow ourselves to fall in love we can))

no they dont. but keep saying it every now and then.

Suicide? Oh never. It's amazing, love can make you do some crazy AND blind things but suicide is something that happens when lack of love for self occurs. And even though Aquarians can be the most extreme lovers when we ACTUALLY DO fall for someone, we never let it get to the point where we put that person's worth over our own, because remember, we still (even in relationships) have the Stubborn, self-confident & "distant" traits in us just like we had BEFORE we committed

((Absolutely not. I see my own worth as my own worth and do not mesh myself in with in others to the point of loosing myself in others.))

Libras normally feel lost after someone walks away from us bcoz when we are in a relationship, we have our entire world built around them and begin to reflect our partner. If its a water or earth sign, we end up changing ourselves to accommodate their character and we change ourselves in the process. And when they walk away, it takes us a lot of time to get back to our normal nature. So when couple of aquas behaved in similar pattern, I just had a doubt if aquas do the same thing in an extended fashion.

With the first aqua girl, i thought it was bcoz of her age, second one I thought its bcoz of cultural factors; but then i read this thing abt oprah winfrey in wiki.

"I'd had a relationship with a man for four years. I wasn't living with him. I'd never lived with anyone?and I thought I was worthless without him. The more he rejected me, the more I wanted him. I felt depleted, powerless. At the end I was down on the floor on my knees groveling and pleading with him" which made me think may be there is a way aquas calculate their worth based on their partners behavior towards them.

No, there are other factors in Oprahs life (her rape as a child, her mother issues, etc...) She was an insecure woman...and yes aquas have insecurities when it comes to dealing with relationships, but Oprah and maybe your friends have other life factors involved.

hmmm.... thats a huge possibility since i know a bit about something similar to that.

((We are not aquas or libras or scorp. We are our experiences))

experiences form the information part only. Processing logic is purely based on aqua or libra Operating system.

Honestly we dont get it. We feel its self sufficiency and everyone must be this way...b/c we are, lol. BUT yes it takes a bit of time and alot of nagging from relatives and significant others to understand that maybe everyone isnt like this...AND not everyone appreciates space. 😉

Lady M:"AND not everyone appreciates space.'

I hear that! I personally know people who are actually afraid of space.

me too.
*cough*pisces*cough*...

(("Processing logic is purely based on aqua or libra Operating system."))

thanks for bringing this up bijou.

I was talking about the logic by which your brain operates in its natural mode and how it gathers and process information. Not the logic which forms the information part which was fed into our brains during our lifetime.

And I dont see astrology as some techniques for predictions. to me it makes the operating system of your brain hardware. The protocols by which all those energy packs(thoughts) run through your neurons. It remains unchanged through an entire life but its affected by external factors - most probably planetary movements on a continues basis on various degrees. The more accurate informations we carry, the more accurately our brain process data. But still its subject to those external influences from other planets.