Aquas, have you ever lost a great love because of your fear of the unknown?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by WaterDevil on Monday, May 27, 2019 and has 34 replies.
Statistically, I've seen aquas avoid the great loves of their life because of their fear of not knowing how that romance would play out, and end up in relationships where they settle and arn't really "in-to" or will ever be IN LOVE with their partner. Just for the sake of feeling secure, and having some sort of emotional control or upper hand. That said, kinda like "The Notebook".

So Aquas, have you ever lost a great love due to your anxiety? Do you have any regrets? Do you still think about that person? Drop your stories.

Also side note, My Aqua professed her love for me. I won't elaborate any further but in case anyone was wondering. I am just merely curious based on some aqua friends of mine and their experiences. Also I am deeply in love and admittedly feeling afraid of the unknown myself.(due trust issues) But that's not what I'm here to talk about (I got a therapist for that lol). Just want to hear your stories.
"afraid of the unknown"

this is really far from what Astrology texts say. because the Uranian energy motivate everybody to go for the unknown.

if I had to find a reason why an Aqua avoid the great love (if this is true at all), I'd go for "fear of losing independence and personal freedom". or maybe that special great love was not that great, rather clingy or making drama.

I'm not an Aqua. Only Saturn in Aquarius here.
The other thing (as it is written in the work of Linda Goodman) is that Aquarius shows its good character traits and does not work more to get to anybody. This is the other parts's job to chase and pin down.

my own experience backs this up too.
Posted by DwellingOnMove

"afraid of the unknown"

this is really far from what Astrology texts say. because the Uranian energy motivate everybody to go for the unknown.

if I had to find a reason why an Aqua avoid the great love (if this is true at all), I'd go for "fear of losing independence and personal freedom". or maybe that special great love was not that great, rather clingy or making drama.

I'm not an Aqua. Only Saturn in Aquarius here.
Im not talking about guessing. Im asking experiences. For i had aquas tell me verbatim they were afraid of losing the person so they stick with the one they can't stand. This isnt a "why do aquas leave" post. Its based on my personal experience with aqua friends. Seems to be a pattern. I also seen an aqua astrologer who proclaims Aquas always settle.
Posted by DwellingOnMove

The other thing (as it is written in the work of Linda Goodman) is that Aquarius shows its good character traits and does not work more to get to anybody. This is the other parts's job to chase and pin down.

my own experience backs this up too.
I think you are missing the point of this post.
Posted by DwellingOnMove

"afraid of the unknown"

this is really far from what Astrology texts say. because the Uranian energy motivate everybody to go for the unknown.

if I had to find a reason why an Aqua avoid the great love (if this is true at all), I'd go for "fear of losing independence and personal freedom". or maybe that special great love was not that great, rather clingy or making drama.

I'm not an Aqua. Only Saturn in Aquarius here.
you must learn to distinguish between

- person xyz talks about Astrology

and

- the reference works of Astrology.

random youtube videos is nothing compared to the texts from Linda Goodman, astro.com, cafeastrology or astrotheme.
"Im not talking about guessing. Im asking experiences."

I have experience with Aqua men from the point of view of a Fire sign woman.

"why do aquas leave"

My impression is that Aquas do not leave. For leaving you need to be inside first. They are scattered and absent and on their way to save the humanity. It is us that can decide to stay and keep stuck with them until they put a ring on it. or no. experience and also read in the Linda Goodman work.

Aqua try not to keep a person. Cause people are free and enjoy free will. So no forcing or blackmailing from the Aqua part. This can be seen better with firey Aquas rather than watery ones.
A friend of mine is Aqua with Cancer Moon and Capricorn Mercury. And is a woman. She would work work work work to keep someone in her life.

A male friend of mine has Leo Moon and Aries Mercury and Aqua Mars. He'd not work. He'd let them work. The reason why he stayed with a Scorpio girl for a while. He moved in with her. Still kept his apartment and moved back as soon as he got the impression she was ignoring his leading abilities.
Posted by an Aqua 11 days ago:

Posted by Antiphates

first love: Gemini

longest "relationship": Gemini

mom's sign: Aquarius

dad's sign: Cancer (genetic), Libra (temporary stepdad)

worst "relationship": Gemini

best signs: Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius, Capricorn,

married to: my sun/Venus conjunction

my heart belongs to: mankind

my sign: Aquarius

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/239963.html

Topic: People who flourish in the unknown?
Posted by DwellingOnMove

"Im not talking about guessing. Im asking experiences."

I have experience with Aqua men from the point of view of a Fire sign woman.

"why do aquas leave"

My impression is that Aquas do not leave. For leaving you need to be inside first. They are scattered and absent and on their way to save the humanity. It is us that can decide to stay and keep stuck with them until they put a ring on it. or no. experience and also read in the Linda Goodman work.

Aqua try not to keep a person. Cause people are free and enjoy free will. So no forcing or blackmailing from the Aqua part. This can be seen better with firey Aquas rather than watery ones.
DUDE I NEVER ASKED "WHY DO AQUAS LEAVE" SMH CAN YOU READ?
I can read.

Take your time to synthesize. Rom was not bild on a single day.

Try to understand my texts tomorrow again.
Posted by DwellingOnMove

...

"why do aquas leave"

My impression is that Aquas do not leave. ...

The second line is commenting the first line.

The first line taken out of the context from your text.

I took it because the concepts of "leaving" and "settling" can have similar roots.

The same is valid for "not leaving" and "not settling".
"For i had aquas tell me verbatim they were afraid of losing the person so they stick with the one they can't stand."

yes, maybe this works well for them. but this could come from some other planet in their chart. Moon or Venus or Jupiter. even Mercury. Libra want to be a couple. Earth signs seek stability. For example Capricorn is very pragmatic.

also when somebody settles for somebody else, different people see the couple in different lights. How can we judge the details we are not informed about?
Posted by DwellingOnMove

"For i had aquas tell me verbatim they were afraid of losing the person so they stick with the one they can't stand."

yes, maybe this works well for them. but this could come from some other planet in their chart. Moon or Venus or Jupiter. even Mercury. Libra want to be a couple. Earth signs seek stability. For example Capricorn is very pragmatic.

also when somebody settles for somebody else, different people see the couple in different lights. How can we judge the details we are not informed about?
You literally are over complicating what is supposed to be a simple question. Why don’t you make your own thread? This isn’t relatable to anything I am saying here.
Posted by DwellingOnMove

"afraid of the unknown"

this is really far from what Astrology texts say. because the Uranian energy motivate everybody to go for the unknown.

if I had to find a reason why an Aqua avoid the great love (if this is true at all), I'd go for "fear of losing independence and personal freedom". or maybe that special great love was not that great, rather clingy or making drama.

I'm not an Aqua. Only Saturn in Aquarius here.
Please stop answering for Aquas or at least stop stating your opinion as absolutely correct.



Although @WaterDevil isn't always accurate, her REAL LIFE observations are more accurate than most people's.

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Posted by DwellingOnMove

"afraid of the unknown"

this is really far from what Astrology texts say. because the Uranian energy motivate everybody to go for the unknown.

if I had to find a reason why an Aqua avoid the great love (if this is true at all), I'd go for "fear of losing independence and personal freedom". or maybe that special great love was not that great, rather clingy or making drama.

I'm not an Aqua. Only Saturn in Aquarius here.
Please stop answering for Aquas or at least stop stating your opinion as absolutely correct.



Although @WaterDevil isn't always accurate, her REAL LIFE observations are more accurate than most people's.

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Appreciate you.
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Posted by STILL

Posted by DwellingOnMove

"afraid of the unknown"

this is really far from what Astrology texts say. because the Uranian energy motivate everybody to go for the unknown.

if I had to find a reason why an Aqua avoid the great love (if this is true at all), I'd go for "fear of losing independence and personal freedom". or maybe that special great love was not that great, rather clingy or making drama.

I'm not an Aqua. Only Saturn in Aquarius here.
Please stop answering for Aquas or at least stop stating your opinion as absolutely correct.



Although @WaterDevil isn't always accurate, her REAL LIFE observations are more accurate than most people's.

Appreciate you.
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Thanks. smile

I see you have made big progress in your skills for exchanging ideas with more intellectual people

since this thread:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/i-think-i-love-the-aqua-12473441

Being able to talk objectively is really important in this context.

With more progress you will get more feedback from the Aquas on board.
Posted by STILL

Posted by DwellingOnMove

"afraid of the unknown"

this is really far from what Astrology texts say. because the Uranian energy motivate everybody to go for the unknown.

if I had to find a reason why an Aqua avoid the great love (if this is true at all), I'd go for "fear of losing independence and personal freedom". or maybe that special great love was not that great, rather clingy or making drama.

I'm not an Aqua. Only Saturn in Aquarius here.
Please stop answering for Aquas or at least stop stating your opinion as absolutely correct.



Although @WaterDevil isn't always accurate, her REAL LIFE observations are more accurate than most people's.

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you must see that there is not much more to say to this.
Posted by DwellingOnMove

I see you have made big progress in your skills for exchanging ideas with more intellectual people

since this thread:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/i-think-i-love-the-aqua-12473441

Being able to talk objectively is really important in this context.

With more progress you will get more feedback from the Aquas on board.
You are somewhat of an ego maniac now arnt you?
Posted by WaterDevil

Posted by DwellingOnMove...

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/i-think-i-love-the-aqua-12473441

Being able to talk objectively is really important in this context. ..

You are somewhat of an ego maniac now arnt you?
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Oh i had two relationships with Aqua men who messed up because of their fear.

One contacted me years later and the other contacted me today 12 years after we finished lol

The sad thing is i know they loved me deeply...(both water moons).....both terrified of expressing that love



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Oh i had two relationships with Aqua men who messed up because of their fear.

One contacted me years later and the other contacted me today 12 years after we finished lol

The sad thing is i know they loved me deeply...(both water moons).....both terrified of expressing that love



.....and now the friends request has been withdrawn

Fear

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Posted by Marai

I've got 3 aqua friends that lost a great love due to painting this perfect picture in their head of something/someone and no-one measuring up to that. Years after they realized that no one is perfect and regret a little they let them go.

Not really afraid of the unknown, they kind of just expect their future to be a certain way and have a hard time letting go of that.

Not for all Aquas, this is just my observation after talking to my Aqua friends.


This! But I'd think that could go for any sign... we all eventually learn no one is perfect and will never be happy expecting it.
The aqua I like has been in my life for two years. He’s got Pisces Mars so he swims to me then swims away. Does she have any Pisces? Could explain why she pulls away when afraid. Lately I’ve been expressing my feelings in a logical way and he’s been responding a lot better to it than when I was only emotional. So maybe try a logical approach.
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The aqua I like has been in my life for two years. He’s got Pisces Mars so he swims to me then swims away. Does she have any Pisces? Could explain why she pulls away when afraid. Lately I’ve been expressing my feelings in a logical way and he’s been responding a lot better to it than when I was only emotional. So maybe try a logical approach.
I don't know......if you are an emotional person and try to shelve that, eventually that's not going to work. We shouldn't have to adapt our personalities for others...I've tried that with air signs and I end up becoming even more emotional ...
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The aqua I like has been in my life for two years. He’s got Pisces Mars so he swims to me then swims away. Does she have any Pisces? Could explain why she pulls away when afraid. Lately I’ve been expressing my feelings in a logical way and he’s been responding a lot better to it than when I was only emotional. So maybe try a logical approach.
I don't know......if you are an emotional person and try to shelve that, eventually that's not going to work. We shouldn't have to adapt our personalities for others...I've tried that with air signs and I end up becoming even more emotional ...
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Oh believe me I’m not shelving anything. I write him walls of text lol I think he’s finally becoming comfortable with it. I just try to add logic too so it makes more sense to him.
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The aqua I like has been in my life for two years. He’s got Pisces Mars so he swims to me then swims away. Does she have any Pisces? Could explain why she pulls away when afraid. Lately I’ve been expressing my feelings in a logical way and he’s been responding a lot better to it than when I was only emotional. So maybe try a logical approach.
I don't know......if you are an emotional person and try to shelve that, eventually that's not going to work. We shouldn't have to adapt our personalities for others...I've tried that with air signs and I end up becoming even more emotional ...
Oh believe me I’m not shelving anything. I write him walls of text lol I think he’s finally becoming comfortable with it. I just try to add logic too so it makes more sense to him.
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That's good. You been with him for 2 years and he still swims away?
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The aqua I like has been in my life for two years. He’s got Pisces Mars so he swims to me then swims away. Does she have any Pisces? Could explain why she pulls away when afraid. Lately I’ve been expressing my feelings in a logical way and he’s been responding a lot better to it than when I was only emotional. So maybe try a logical approach.
I don't know......if you are an emotional person and try to shelve that, eventually that's not going to work. We shouldn't have to adapt our personalities for others...I've tried that with air signs and I end up becoming even more emotional ...
Oh believe me I’m not shelving anything. I write him walls of text lol I think he’s finally becoming comfortable with it. I just try to add logic too so it makes more sense to him.
That's good. You been with him for 2 years and he still swims away?
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Not my bf. Only for a short time. l really think I scared him when I said I loved him the first time even tho he said it back. I’ve played it mostly cool with him the last several months. He’s a friend who I think it’s slowly realizing the potential. He’s shown some feelings too. But he definitely doesn’t deny my expressions of love anymore. I think hes beginning to understand why I feel the way I feel. The main thing is that we’re still here and there’s a reason for it. It means something to me. But we shall see.
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The aqua I like has been in my life for two years. He’s got Pisces Mars so he swims to me then swims away. Does she have any Pisces? Could explain why she pulls away when afraid. Lately I’ve been expressing my feelings in a logical way and he’s been responding a lot better to it than when I was only emotional. So maybe try a logical approach.
I don't know......if you are an emotional person and try to shelve that, eventually that's not going to work. We shouldn't have to adapt our personalities for others...I've tried that with air signs and I end up becoming even more emotional ...
Oh believe me I’m not shelving anything. I write him walls of text lol I think he’s finally becoming comfortable with it. I just try to add logic too so it makes more sense to him.
That's good. You been with him for 2 years and he still swims away?
Not my bf. Only for a short time. l really think I scared him when I said I loved him the first time even tho he said it back. I’ve played it mostly cool with him the last several months. He’s a friend who I think it’s slowly realizing the potential. He’s shown some feelings too. But he definitely doesn’t deny my expressions of love anymore. I think hes beginning to understand why I feel the way I feel. The main thing is that we’re still here and there’s a reason for it. It means something to me. But we shall see.
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The aqua I like has been in my life for two years. He’s got Pisces Mars so he swims to me then swims away. Does she have any Pisces? Could explain why she pulls away when afraid. Lately I’ve been expressing my feelings in a logical way and he’s been responding a lot better to it than when I was only emotional. So maybe try a logical approach.
I don't know......if you are an emotional person and try to shelve that, eventually that's not going to work. We shouldn't have to adapt our personalities for others...I've tried that with air signs and I end up becoming even more emotional ...
Oh believe me I’m not shelving anything. I write him walls of text lol I think he’s finally becoming comfortable with it. I just try to add logic too so it makes more sense to him.
That's good. You been with him for 2 years and he still swims away?
Not my bf. Only for a short time. l really think I scared him when I said I loved him the first time even tho he said it back. I’ve played it mostly cool with him the last several months. He’s a friend who I think it’s slowly realizing the potential. He’s shown some feelings too. But he definitely doesn’t deny my expressions of love anymore. I think hes beginning to understand why I feel the way I feel. The main thing is that we’re still here and there’s a reason for it. It means something to me. But we shall see.
Wishing you much luck with this smile
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The aqua I like has been in my life for two years. He’s got Pisces Mars so he swims to me then swims away. Does she have any Pisces? Could explain why she pulls away when afraid. Lately I’ve been expressing my feelings in a logical way and he’s been responding a lot better to it than when I was only emotional. So maybe try a logical approach.
I don't know......if you are an emotional person and try to shelve that, eventually that's not going to work. We shouldn't have to adapt our personalities for others...I've tried that with air signs and I end up becoming even more emotional ...
Oh believe me I’m not shelving anything. I write him walls of text lol I think he’s finally becoming comfortable with it. I just try to add logic too so it makes more sense to him.
That's good. You been with him for 2 years and he still swims away?
Not my bf. Only for a short time. l really think I scared him when I said I loved him the first time even tho he said it back. I’ve played it mostly cool with him the last several months. He’s a friend who I think it’s slowly realizing the potential. He’s shown some feelings too. But he definitely doesn’t deny my expressions of love anymore. I think hes beginning to understand why I feel the way I feel. The main thing is that we’re still here and there’s a reason for it. It means something to me. But we shall see.
Wishing you much luck with this smile
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Gurlllll I wasn’t lying when I said I wasn’t shelving my feelings. We were drunk texting last night and I told him I loved him....