Aqua's & Lonliness

Do any of you other Aquas feel lonely?

The type of lonely that just cant be cured, like its you vs the world.

Or even when your with friends or a bf / gf you dont even feel like their there with you?

Not trying to sound depressing or anything, this is just a common reacurrance in my life, and I'd like to know if Im the only one. It also feels good to get it out in words.

How do you deal with it? Does it get better, maybe with maturity and age?

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Yup, it's chronic. It was better when I was younger. Something just changed in my late teens & I became a recluse due to how lonely I felt even with people around so I figured, why bother being around people if I still feel lonely. I think it has nothing to do with people imo, but something to do with the soul. Personally, I feel like I'm yearning for something bigger than myself. Bigger than this world even. It's like a constant unquenched thirst.

I've always felt alone but I know the cause of it.

Certainly does get easier with age and I'm by no means old lol. When that feeling amplifies I just remind myself of the million things I could be doing!

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Do any of you other Aquas feel lonely?

The type of lonely that just cant be cured, like its you vs the world.

Or even when your with friends or a bf / gf you dont even feel like their there with you?

Not trying to sound depressing or anything, this is just a common reacurrance in my life, and I'd like to know if Im the only one. It also feels good to get it out in words.

How do you deal with it? Does it get better, maybe with maturity and age?

I am Aqua Rising and yes I feel an innate sense of loneliness, introspection and detachment. I often feel like I have different views than my friends.

I deal with it better now by accepting that we're all just trying our best here. No one really knows what they are doing. Somehow that thought is freeing. Just be yourself without apologizing for it. Confidence is important, and as long as you're not hurting anyone you should be fine.

Yes it gets better with age and maturity, as long as you are developing wisdom imo.

No

nope. even when i'm alone, there's a feeling of lots of loved ones around. (could be spirits you know but hey i'm NEVER alone or feel alone)

so you lonely folks, who don't have spirits running around hovering over you making you feel safe....

listen to Bryan Adams, he'll fill your soul with ache and love.

even the youtubber comments, from female to male are saying...oohhhh loveeee his energy....drooollll

Posted by lisabethur8
nope. even when i'm alone, there's a feeling of lots of loved ones around. (could be spirits you know but hey i'm NEVER alone or feel alone)

+1 I love my 'me' time and never feel lonely. I have a good family, a boyfriend and as a few close friends so when I'm ready to come out of hibernation they're always there. I honestly think that even if I was alone in this world I don't think I would feel lonely

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Posted by lisabethur8
nope. even when i'm alone, there's a feeling of lots of loved ones around. (could be spirits you know but hey i'm NEVER alone or feel alone)

+1 I love my 'me' time and never feel lonely. I have a good family, a boyfriend and as a few close friends so when I'm ready to come out of hibernation they're always there. I honestly think that even if I was alone in this world I don't think I would feel lonely

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It's not about "me time", I also love that as well. I think the "lonliness" some of us feel is what's described as "feeling alone in a crowd of people". It's like you're not clicking with what's happening around you. Like you aren't enjoying the conversations, activities like you should. I can't explain it in words but sometimes I watch the people around me & notice how certain things makes them so excited & giddy, whereas I get no such feeling from the same things. It's like there's a noticeable disconnect somehow, which can create a lonliness like feeling since you can't feel part of whatever is going on around you.

Personally, I find it hard to connect to people. There's a part that always feels isolated & not 100% present, which makes it very difficult to fully be there & enjoy myself like other people.

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Posted by lisabethur8
nope. even when i'm alone, there's a feeling of lots of loved ones around. (could be spirits you know but hey i'm NEVER alone or feel alone)

+1 I love my 'me' time and never feel lonely. I have a good family, a boyfriend and as a few close friends so when I'm ready to come out of hibernation they're always there. I honestly think that even if I was alone in this world I don't think I would feel lonely

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well there's a TON of lonely people in this world, not just on this sun sign you know. And you wonder why they are feeling so lonely. They get PREYED on alot though. because of their loneliness.

if you don't have family that love you and close friends, it's hard. It's a terrible loneliness for them.

There's a constant feeling of being an observer rather than a participator even when participating. Hard to put in words since it's 'feeling' related.

However, I do get what the OP is talking about & maybe it affects aqua/scorps more *shrugs*

sounds more IMPERSONAL than personal. If it's impersonal = you are an observer and you don't get personal with people. it has a very LONELY feeling i'm sure.

kind of like a talk show host who talks to people in huge crowds. it's very impersonal.

very different than a singer/guitarist/show performer who shares their personal talents in a very personal way to an audience.

Having no family isn't as bad as some people put it but it definitely isn't as easy though I wouldn't say it's loneliness as opposed to feeling lost and void of a purpose. There really is no comparison to what loneliness should feel like if it's the standard for the most part of your life.

Tends to make one strange when all other preteens are thinking about going out and partying and hooking up you're left pondering the existence of life. Only to find out there is no existential meaning to anything and it is what you make it, that loneliness is what you make of it. Never stops things from feeling like utter despair but it helps.

Perhaps water moons tend to value the purpose of life and existence which in turn lends power when we feel helpless, hopeless and lonesome.

I just think it's such a sensitive subject because we all go through experiences with different thresholds, the intensity of that emotion isn't validated by the event but just mere fact we ALL go through it some wallow more than others (common water trait).

and do you know what I find works wonders? hugs.

*hugs all you lonely peeps* and *force hugs you scorpy moons* don't try to run away 😛

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and do you know what I find works wonders? hugs.

*hugs all you lonely peeps* and *force hugs you scorpy moons* don't try to run away 😛

I was about to say hugs feel like an invasion of personal space lol. I don't do hugs. Only for kids 😄

I was like this when I was younger. It was like, no matter how many friends I had, how great of a boyfriend or job I had, there was still something missing. I couldn't ever put my finger on it. Just knew that something was missing.

Even during the times where I'd be out having the time of my life with the people I loved, feeling fulfilled would only last up until the time I got home. When it was just me, myself & I, that's when that void came back. So of course I tried refilling it with the likes & company of others, but like I figured, that refill was only filling temporarily

Once I got older & did some soul-searching though, I realized what I was missing. I've always been so logical & so stimulated by the philosophical world & by what makes the world & the people in it tick, that I didn't leave enough room for emotional intimacy with myself & others. I never took out the time to truly get to know, befriend & figure out myself.

I wasn't "feeling" at the times & with the people that I should have. The only time I started "feeling" connected to anything was in the moment when I felt lonely or was experiencing some kind of negative emotion, lol which of course only subconsciously sent the message that emotions were more of a burden than a blessing or way to feel connected.

It was all psychological. The whole "Aquarians don't mind solitude" thing I think comes by default. I'm sure some are naturally born this way, while others get so used to solitude they DIDN'T want that they eventually learned to like it bc they didn't have a choice!

Realizing that solitude that's actually enjoyable (vs. me being alone as the result of a bad thing) is the key to my emotional health was what connected the dots for me. I was always tired emotionally & didn't have much energy to feel emotionally connected to myself or others b/c I wasn't taking out enough time to recharge my batteries & refuel from all that stimulation & focus on others I was projecting out.

Kind of like feeling nauseous after not getting enough sleep, without realizing that you're only nauseous b/c you haven't slept. The 2 aren't separate occurrences. It's cause & effect. The void or feeling like something was missing went away once I learned time management & self-care. Metaphorically, once I started getting enough "sleep" I noticed that the random uncomfortable nausea or "voids" went away.

I was like this when I was younger. It was like, no matter how many friends I had, how great of a boyfriend or job I had, there was still something missing. I couldn't ever put my finger on it. Just knew that something was missing.

Even during the times where I'd be out having the time of my life with the people I loved, feeling fulfilled would only last up until the time I got home. When it was just me, myself & I, that's when that void came back. So of course I tried refilling it with the likes & company of others, but like I figured, that refill was only filling temporarily

Once I got older & did some soul-searching though, I realized what I was missing. I've always been so logical & so stimulated by the philosophical world & by what makes the world & the people in it tick, that I didn't leave enough room for emotional intimacy with myself & others. I never took out the time to truly get to know, befriend & figure out myself.

I wasn't "feeling" at the times & with the people that I should have. The only time I started "feeling" connected to anything was in the moment when I felt lonely or was experiencing some kind of negative emotion, lol which of course only subconsciously sent the message that emotions were more of a burden than a blessing or way to feel connected.

It was all psychological. The whole "Aquarians don't mind solitude" thing I think comes by default. I'm sure some are naturally born this way, while others get so used to solitude they DIDN'T want that they eventually learned to like it bc they didn't have a choice!

Realizing that solitude that's actually enjoyable (vs. me being alone as the result of a bad thing) is the key to my emotional health was what connected the dots for me. I was always tired emotionally & didn't have much energy to feel emotionally connected to myself or others b/c I wasn't taking out enough time to recharge my batteries & refuel from all that stimulation & focus on others I was projecting out.

Kind of like feeling nauseous after not getting enough sleep, without realizing that you're only nauseous b/c you haven't slept. The 2 aren't separate occurrences. It's cause & effect. The void or feeling like something was missing went away once I learned time management & self-care. Metaphorically, once I started getting enough "sleep" I noticed that the random uncomfortable nausea or "voids" went away.

I'm always alone and for some reason I'm not lonely I don't know if its a bad thing or a good thing. I'm in a cafe at the moment typing this and I know sometimes Id prefer to meet up with someone when I'm out and about to lunch with people but I don't know anyone in this city. I live with my dad and my step mum and the only friends they have are fijian and when they come over they all speak in fijian and the fact that i have no clue what they're saying doesn't bother me and usually I don't stand for any kind of rudeness but I tend to just go off in my own little world or phone. The truth is I can preoccupy myself while I'm on my own for ages and I'm entertained for hours we have many activities going on hehe...

I can be in a room full of people and still feel all alone, especially if the conversation/reason for gathering is dull.

*aqua mars*