Aqua's rekindling old flames??
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by RomansuPantsu on Tuesday, June 13, 2017 and has 49 replies.
I am an Aries woman in the middle of a no contact rule with my aqua ex. He was my first boyfriend and the first guy I was intimate with. We dated for 2 years. I thought he was really my prince charming until the bickering started. Almost weekly we were having tiffs... I am bratty won't lie about that, but I was frequently upset about his lack of attention, affection, and his seemingly uncurable tendency to treat everyone like a bro including me. I wanted him to be sweeter and treat me like his princess...
I know NOW that aqua's tend to live in their heads and I shouldn't take offense to his passionless and almost disinterested responses. I know now that he always cared, he just didnt speak my love language.
So we got into it yet again, but this time it resulted in me bagging all of his stuff up (gifts, photos, letters, stuffies) and leaving it on his doorstep unannounced. I left a note inside reading "since you couldn't care less whether I die or not, here's all of your stuff back". Yes I am aware of how impulsive and immature it was. It wasn't a breakup at all. In fact I wanted him to reach out/chase me for once.. Bad move. Radio static for 2 weeks. I broke the silence and reached out first instead. My whole world shook. He said "Oh guess I should tell you. I'm trying to start a new relationship with someone". It was his ex of like 10,000 years ago... She lives in Canada and they've never met (we live in the states). My first reaction was "Wow you didn't even tell me... And so fast at that..." I will never understand how aqua's can be so heartless like this. I get what I did was wrong though. I will not blame him or myself anymore. Like most aqua's it seems, he laid the "let's be friends" line on me. I said yes foolishly and it obviously ended badly. He forced his hand after another month of back and forth bickering and said "No more stop contacting me. I am not leaving her." Again, I hung on for dear life, but I was not victorious. I had no choice but to agree or he threatened to block me. Before we parted ways I said "Is it okay to message you again in 3 months?" he replied, "Yes. Message me when you feel it's best." He got very emotional. We both said I love you and it's now been 43 days.
I know I am pretty naive for posting this but PLEASE give me positive advice... I am loving the no contact rule so far. We really needed time apart. But I still love him and care for him so.. I've been working, exercising, reflecting, learning, growing, healing, dating (more as a distraction nothing serious), and trying my best to become as independent as possible (aqua's are fond of that right?).
Please, if I reconcile with him, show him the work I've done on myself, give him great company and a GREAT friendship will he have second thoughts about us? He has to change/want to be with me too I know, but just generally speaking is it possible... I want my dorky potato back!
I know NOW that aqua's tend to live in their heads and I shouldn't take offense to his passionless and almost disinterested responses. I know now that he always cared, he just didnt speak my love language.
So we got into it yet again, but this time it resulted in me bagging all of his stuff up (gifts, photos, letters, stuffies) and leaving it on his doorstep unannounced. I left a note inside reading "since you couldn't care less whether I die or not, here's all of your stuff back". Yes I am aware of how impulsive and immature it was. It wasn't a breakup at all. In fact I wanted him to reach out/chase me for once.. Bad move. Radio static for 2 weeks. I broke the silence and reached out first instead. My whole world shook. He said "Oh guess I should tell you. I'm trying to start a new relationship with someone". It was his ex of like 10,000 years ago... She lives in Canada and they've never met (we live in the states). My first reaction was "Wow you didn't even tell me... And so fast at that..." I will never understand how aqua's can be so heartless like this. I get what I did was wrong though. I will not blame him or myself anymore. Like most aqua's it seems, he laid the "let's be friends" line on me. I said yes foolishly and it obviously ended badly. He forced his hand after another month of back and forth bickering and said "No more stop contacting me. I am not leaving her." Again, I hung on for dear life, but I was not victorious. I had no choice but to agree or he threatened to block me. Before we parted ways I said "Is it okay to message you again in 3 months?" he replied, "Yes. Message me when you feel it's best." He got very emotional. We both said I love you and it's now been 43 days.
I know I am pretty naive for posting this but PLEASE give me positive advice... I am loving the no contact rule so far. We really needed time apart. But I still love him and care for him so.. I've been working, exercising, reflecting, learning, growing, healing, dating (more as a distraction nothing serious), and trying my best to become as independent as possible (aqua's are fond of that right?).
Please, if I reconcile with him, show him the work I've done on myself, give him great company and a GREAT friendship will he have second thoughts about us? He has to change/want to be with me too I know, but just generally speaking is it possible... I want my dorky potato back!
Posted by RomansuPantsuwould you take him back if he doesn't change at all?
I am an Aries woman in the middle of a no contact rule with my aqua ex. He was my first boyfriend and the first guy I was intimate with. We dated for 2 years. I thought he was really my prince charming until the bickering started. Almost weekly we were having tiffs... I am bratty won't lie about that, but I was frequently upset about his lack of attention, affection, and his seemingly uncurable tendency to treat everyone like a bro including me. I wanted him to be sweeter and treat me like his princess...
I know NOW that aqua's tend to live in their heads and I shouldn't take offense to his passionless and almost disinterested responses. I know now that he always cared, he just didnt speak my love language.
So we got into it yet again, but this time it resulted in me bagging all of his stuff up (gifts, photos, letters, stuffies) and leaving it on his doorstep unannounced. I left a note inside reading "since you couldn't care less whether I die or not, here's all of your stuff back". Yes I am aware of how impulsive and immature it was. It wasn't a breakup at all. In fact I wanted him to reach out/chase me for once.. Bad move. Radio static for 2 weeks. I broke the silence and reached out first instead. My whole world shook. He said "Oh guess I should tell you. I'm trying to start a new relationship with someone". It was his ex of like 10,000 years ago... She lives in Canada and they've never met (we live in the states). My first reaction was "Wow you didn't even tell me... And so fast at that..." I will never understand how aqua's can be so heartless like this. I get what I did was wrong though. I will not blame him or myself anymore. Like most aqua's it seems, he laid the "let's be friends" line on me. I said yes foolishly and it obviously ended badly. He forced his hand after another month of back and forth bickering and said "No more stop contacting me. I am not leaving her." Again, I hung on for dear life, but I was not victorious. I had no choice but to agree or he threatened to block me. Before we parted ways I said "Is it okay to message you again in 3 months?" he replied, "Yes. Message me when you feel it's best." He got very emotional. We both said I love you and it's now been 43 days.
I know I am pretty naive for posting this but PLEASE give me positive advice... I am loving the no contact rule so far. We really needed time apart. But I still love him and care for him so.. I've been working, exercising, reflecting, learning, growing, healing, dating (more as a distraction nothing serious), and trying my best to become as independent as possible (aqua's are fond of that right?).
Please, if I reconcile with him, show him the work I've done on myself, give him great company and a GREAT friendship will he have second thoughts about us? He has to change/want to be with me too I know, but just generally speaking is it possible... I want my dorky potato back!
@AerialView Honestly I would take him back if he didn't change at all. He balances me out and I feel like a better person around him regardless. Like more patient and mindful.
He's still a great guy as he is. I know you can't really change an aqua and I wouldn't want to change him. I should have said that I hope he puts more effort in. Like more attention and affection. That's all I ever wanted from him.
He's still a great guy as he is. I know you can't really change an aqua and I wouldn't want to change him. I should have said that I hope he puts more effort in. Like more attention and affection. That's all I ever wanted from him.
@Fafa I do love myself!! This no contact rule is honestly doing wonders for my self esteem. But I was pretty insecure DURING the relationship honestly. If it's rare then why did he go back to his ex? o_o
My sun and moon are both aries. Idk about my ex. I'm 22.
My sun and moon are both aries. Idk about my ex. I'm 22.
Nope, no waiting for you. Go out and live your life, enjoy yourself. Only HE can drive the car here, and he will contact you if he wants to try again. Don't even let it enter your mind until HE contacts YOU. If he doesn't, no harm no foul. If he does, you'll be in an even better position to know whether you want to try again or not. He will likely be OK with either outcome.
You guys are killing me.. ?
Posted by RomansuPantsuGotta be tough.
You guys are killing me.. ?
Posted by lesenfantterribles
i know you said you wanted positive advice buuut as someone with strong aqua/air placements (and a scorp sun to boot), once i cut someone off & move on, i dont look back. the more someone pushes & pressures me, the more i will retreat & feel that what i did was for the best bc ultimately, my freedom is of utmost importance.
you can not change yourself by doing things you think he would like. you can not make yourself be "more independant" bc thats what he likes. this only builds a facade & anyone will see right through it.
you are YOU so, be yourself. if he doesn't like it/ doesnt want to try again, it isn't worth it. dont lose your identity bc you arent compatible with someone.
and lol @ long distance relationship, of course an aqua would go for that.
maybe you, but not me. I never did.
Posted by RomansuPantsuwhat the hell???
@Fafa I do love myself!! This no contact rule is honestly doing wonders for my self esteem. But I was pretty insecure DURING the relationship honestly. If it's rare then why did he go back to his ex? o_o
My sun and moon are both aries. Idk about my ex. I'm 22.
you're the double cardinal sign..
you're the go -getter...
how come you sound like you're fixed sitting around waiting for him?
Xena warrior princess. Triple Aries.
go go go...you are the one moving...
go go go...you are the one moving...
Posted by lesenfantterriblesPosted by lisabethur8is this in reference to the long distance relationship comment?Posted by lesenfantterribles
i know you said you wanted positive advice buuut as someone with strong aqua/air placements (and a scorp sun to boot), once i cut someone off & move on, i dont look back. the more someone pushes & pressures me, the more i will retreat & feel that what i did was for the best bc ultimately, my freedom is of utmost importance.
you can not change yourself by doing things you think he would like. you can not make yourself be "more independant" bc thats what he likes. this only builds a facade & anyone will see right through it.
you are YOU so, be yourself. if he doesn't like it/ doesnt want to try again, it isn't worth it. dont lose your identity bc you arent compatible with someone.
and lol @ long distance relationship, of course an aqua would go for that.
maybe you, but not me. I never did.
i am not an aqua sun but do have 2 strong aqua placements & tbh LDRs are an ideal situation for me lol. if not LDR than maybe we can live in separate houses, about 500 feet apart from each other
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I know a double libra who thinks LDR is ideal for them,
and they've been in an LDR for over a decade...with another libra with aries moon.
lol@separate houses. in reality, that situation was Cancer sun and Capricorn sun couple, the artists, Kahlo Frida...
11th housers though and 7th house.
Posted by lisabethur8I just love him a lot.. I don't want to give up on us.Posted by RomansuPantsuwhat the hell???
@Fafa I do love myself!! This no contact rule is honestly doing wonders for my self esteem. But I was pretty insecure DURING the relationship honestly. If it's rare then why did he go back to his ex? o_o
My sun and moon are both aries. Idk about my ex. I'm 22.
you're the double cardinal sign..
you're the go -getter...
how come you sound like you're fixed sitting around waiting for him?click to expand
you are double aries, maybe you're too bossy for his liking.
aquas never need a boss.
aquas never need a boss.
@bittercupcake Immature I know. I have a lot of growing up to do, but I really want this guy back in my life. I hated the arguing. I saw the way I was acting, but I almost couldn't help it... I messed up. My temper and insecurities ruined quite a bit I know. Is a second chance possible after all of thIs..?
Posted by bittercupcakeShould I just completely disappear then?Posted by RomansuPantsu...i think so......despite what fixed signs might say (theres a reason for that)......i think a possibility for reconciliation is possible... only IF changes have been made..... but know that the feeling of that 'love' might never be the same.....but its possible...
@bittercupcake Immature I know. I have a lot of growing up to do, but I really want this guy back in my life. I hated the arguing. I saw the way I was acting, but I almost couldn't help it... I messed up. My temper and insecurities ruined quite a bit I know. Is a second chance possible after all of thIs..?
but ... idk if its healthy for someone to hope for someone.....no matter what the heart says... because there are no guarantees... the only way it can happen is if you truly have changed...and thing is change doesnt happen overnight or in a span of weeks/months...and fixed signs know this... so you will have to truly change yourself...an aquarius will know this and notice it.... but if hes with this chick..he might not even be paying attention to your change....unless you completely disappear...click to expand
Stop listening to these half ass Aquarius lol if they are even Aquarius....
Maybe too Aquarius
One thing you need to get is that us Aquarius like to think we are super special(we are indeed eccentric or I guess strange) and that we move on and never come back
The real deal is that YES we move on quickly ...only in a way where we don't dwell or be sad over something for a long time ... HOWEVER we do not forget our past partners and if we once loved them we will always love them because as humanitarians we accept people , we are kind and we VALUE close relationships. You spent two years with this dude which is already great for you because us Aquarius have commitment issues ppl would be lucky to last 3 to 4 months. He sees something in you he's just shutting whatever issues you guys have done before it gets to a point where some he loved very much becomes someone he hates to the extreme. If he seriously disliked you he wouldn't give you 2 seconds of his time or he would've purposely ruined the relationship so you could just break up with him and make things easier.
As much as the no contact rule works for many signs , Aquarius should not be the one you try that on because we rebound like no other and you have a 50/50 chance of us either actually liking this new person we meet or disliking them and being open to rekindling things with the MOST recent ex lol
Stay his friend for now because this new girl can be a hit or miss, be interesting and a little detached because it creates mystery and Aquarius are logical and live in their heads so if there's something different or up with you we can't pinpoint we will be thinking about it nonstop and driving ourselves crazy .
There's hope for you. Just don't rush him away from this girls because odds are he trying to jump back into a relationship with any girl after a 2 year relationship ..this girl is merely a fling or rebound to calm the feelings his brain is wired to think he doesn't have lulz
Maybe too Aquarius
One thing you need to get is that us Aquarius like to think we are super special(we are indeed eccentric or I guess strange) and that we move on and never come back
The real deal is that YES we move on quickly ...only in a way where we don't dwell or be sad over something for a long time ... HOWEVER we do not forget our past partners and if we once loved them we will always love them because as humanitarians we accept people , we are kind and we VALUE close relationships. You spent two years with this dude which is already great for you because us Aquarius have commitment issues ppl would be lucky to last 3 to 4 months. He sees something in you he's just shutting whatever issues you guys have done before it gets to a point where some he loved very much becomes someone he hates to the extreme. If he seriously disliked you he wouldn't give you 2 seconds of his time or he would've purposely ruined the relationship so you could just break up with him and make things easier.
As much as the no contact rule works for many signs , Aquarius should not be the one you try that on because we rebound like no other and you have a 50/50 chance of us either actually liking this new person we meet or disliking them and being open to rekindling things with the MOST recent ex lol
Stay his friend for now because this new girl can be a hit or miss, be interesting and a little detached because it creates mystery and Aquarius are logical and live in their heads so if there's something different or up with you we can't pinpoint we will be thinking about it nonstop and driving ourselves crazy .
There's hope for you. Just don't rush him away from this girls because odds are he trying to jump back into a relationship with any girl after a 2 year relationship ..this girl is merely a fling or rebound to calm the feelings his brain is wired to think he doesn't have lulz
Posted by RomansuPantsuPosted by lisabethur8I just love him a lot.. I don't want to give up on us.Posted by RomansuPantsuwhat the hell???
@Fafa I do love myself!! This no contact rule is honestly doing wonders for my self esteem. But I was pretty insecure DURING the relationship honestly. If it's rare then why did he go back to his ex? o_o
My sun and moon are both aries. Idk about my ex. I'm 22.
you're the double cardinal sign..
you're the go -getter...
how come you sound like you're fixed sitting around waiting for him?click to expand
Is it love or your ego Aries wanting to win?
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by RomansuPantsu...i think so......despite what fixed signs might say (theres a reason for that)......i think a possibility for reconciliation is possible... only IF changes have been made..... but know that the feeling of that 'love' might never be the same.....but its possible...
@bittercupcake Immature I know. I have a lot of growing up to do, but I really want this guy back in my life. I hated the arguing. I saw the way I was acting, but I almost couldn't help it... I messed up. My temper and insecurities ruined quite a bit I know. Is a second chance possible after all of thIs..?
but ... idk if its healthy for someone to hope for someone.....no matter what the heart says... because there are no guarantees... the only way it can happen is if you truly have changed...and thing is change doesnt happen overnight or in a span of weeks/months...and fixed signs know this... so you will have to truly change yourself...an aquarius will know this and notice it.... but if hes with this chick..he might not even be paying attention to your change....unless you completely disappear...click to expand
Aries are very stubborn and firey...you might be trying to change but it's not in your nature to bend down to a man... I honestly don't see it happening if you get him back and he probably know that..... it's not natrual... you were not happy with him when you were with him... he didn't make you feel special enough.... right now he's challenging you but ask yourself if you will truly b happy if you have him back??? Sounds like you are better off with a libra man who wil b more willing to bend down to your wishes then your relationshuo won't have to be such hard work and constant battling .. I mean, do you really wanna be so hard to be with someone? That's exhausting.
Try so hard to b with someone ? ^
Posted by saweetz1988No? I really care about him? I honestly feel like we can work together to build a happier, healthier relationship..Posted by RomansuPantsuPosted by lisabethur8I just love him a lot.. I don't want to give up on us.Posted by RomansuPantsuwhat the hell???
@Fafa I do love myself!! This no contact rule is honestly doing wonders for my self esteem. But I was pretty insecure DURING the relationship honestly. If it's rare then why did he go back to his ex? o_o
My sun and moon are both aries. Idk about my ex. I'm 22.
you're the double cardinal sign..
you're the go -getter...
how come you sound like you're fixed sitting around waiting for him?
Is it love or your ego Aries wanting to win?click to expand
He's special to me and I don't really have any desire to pursue anyone else.
Posted by saweetz1988I wasn't always happy with him no... I hated the petty squabbles (that I tend to start) but we made each other smile like no other when things were peaceful. I don't mind working hard for this guy... I feel a special bond with him. The breakup was a hard lesson learned. I learned which behaviors really irked him and i'm sorry to him.. I realize now why he may have wanted to run away. I promise my heart and intentions were always in the right place. My mouth tends to ruin things. :/Posted by bittercupcakePosted by RomansuPantsu...i think so......despite what fixed signs might say (theres a reason for that)......i think a possibility for reconciliation is possible... only IF changes have been made..... but know that the feeling of that 'love' might never be the same.....but its possible...
@bittercupcake Immature I know. I have a lot of growing up to do, but I really want this guy back in my life. I hated the arguing. I saw the way I was acting, but I almost couldn't help it... I messed up. My temper and insecurities ruined quite a bit I know. Is a second chance possible after all of thIs..?
but ... idk if its healthy for someone to hope for someone.....no matter what the heart says... because there are no guarantees... the only way it can happen is if you truly have changed...and thing is change doesnt happen overnight or in a span of weeks/months...and fixed signs know this... so you will have to truly change yourself...an aquarius will know this and notice it.... but if hes with this chick..he might not even be paying attention to your change....unless you completely disappear...
Aries are very stubborn and firey...you might be trying to change but it's not in your nature to bend down to a man... I honestly don't see it happening if you get him back and he probably know that..... it's not natrual... you were not happy with him when you were with him... he didn't make you feel special enough.... right now he's challenging you but ask yourself if you will truly b happy if you have him back??? Sounds like you are better off with a libra man who wil b more willing to bend down to your wishes then your relationshuo won't have to be such hard work and constant battling .. I mean, do you really wanna be so hard to be with someone? That's exhausting.click to expand
Posted by Astrology101Sorry this is so drawn out--
Why do I feel like there were other things that actually accelerated your break-up?
I don't know how aquas think.. but what he did was harsh... and yes I am sorry for you.
But you should leave him be, imo.
Why don't you date someone just as a distraction? (I'm not saying have sex.. just date). May help you... Just don't get hung up about him....
He started dating another girl immediately...? Were they secretly talking is what I would want to know...?
That would bother me...
In which case having this time to figure things out is good.
Take Care. Positive thoughts your way.
Hmm not that I know of. Just a lot of bickering and heaps of miscommunication. That will drive any relationship straight into the ground.
It was definitely a blow, yes. He can be very... Abrasive at times. Another thing we fought about is that he used to tease me and make jokes that my giant, sensitive heart just couldn't handle. These jokes weren't downright insulting, but it skirts around that realm for me in all honestly. I just get offended easily which is a fault of mine and I'm trying to correct. But this is what I mean by "I wish he treated me like a princess, not a bro" (aquas are the sign of friendship and equal plains after all right?) He calls his friends all sorts of crappy things and they all laugh about it, that's just his humour, and he did that with me in the beginning. Me personally I can't handle being roasted so I told him to please stop and he eventually did.
Idk man everything seems so petty now in retrospect. I think my behaviours just got continuously ugly because I was started to get anxious, insecure, and truly worried.
I have a lot of mixed advice and I think I want to just wait a little while longer and then reach out to him again and try to befriend him then lightly express how I feel again.. I truly hope that this girl was the basis of a rebound. Because I have a hard time believing he moved on that fast. But he also protested A LOT. Saying "I'm not breaking up with her" , "You think i'm trapped but I'm not" , "She hasn't done anything wrong. She does not deserve to be broken up with" , "I'm not a cheater" , "She is worth it, so leave if you can't handle being my friend." I don't know anymore... I just want to go back to cuddling and eating snacks together... ;-;
Posted by RomansuPantsuPosted by saweetz1988I wasn't always happy with him no... I hated the petty squabbles (that I tend to start) but we made each other smile like no other when things were peaceful. I don't mind working hard for this guy... I feel a special bond with him. The breakup was a hard lesson learned. I learned which behaviors really irked him and i'm sorry to him.. I realize now why he may have wanted to run away. I promise my heart and intentions were always in the right place. My mouth tends to ruin things. :/Posted by bittercupcakePosted by RomansuPantsu...i think so......despite what fixed signs might say (theres a reason for that)......i think a possibility for reconciliation is possible... only IF changes have been made..... but know that the feeling of that 'love' might never be the same.....but its possible...
@bittercupcake Immature I know. I have a lot of growing up to do, but I really want this guy back in my life. I hated the arguing. I saw the way I was acting, but I almost couldn't help it... I messed up. My temper and insecurities ruined quite a bit I know. Is a second chance possible after all of thIs..?
but ... idk if its healthy for someone to hope for someone.....no matter what the heart says... because there are no guarantees... the only way it can happen is if you truly have changed...and thing is change doesnt happen overnight or in a span of weeks/months...and fixed signs know this... so you will have to truly change yourself...an aquarius will know this and notice it.... but if hes with this chick..he might not even be paying attention to your change....unless you completely disappear...
Aries are very stubborn and firey...you might be trying to change but it's not in your nature to bend down to a man... I honestly don't see it happening if you get him back and he probably know that..... it's not natrual... you were not happy with him when you were with him... he didn't make you feel special enough.... right now he's challenging you but ask yourself if you will truly b happy if you have him back??? Sounds like you are better off with a libra man who wil b more willing to bend down to your wishes then your relationshuo won't have to be such hard work and constant battling .. I mean, do you really wanna be so hard to be with someone? That's exhausting.click to expand
A lot of self love and work is prob needed... the thing is Aqua is super super stubborn and more than Aries... so once he's made up his mind it might be hard to get him back... what are his full placements?? I do agree that the no contact rule doesn't really work for Aqua . I know they move on quickly too... that girl is prob a new rebound but he's def giving her a chance..... if you truly love him you need to let him go for now. And he will respect you more for it... me personally I would send him a letter or record a video( they are visual being) apologising what you have done wrong... what actions will be taken for you to change.. how good he made you feel and how special he is to you.... tell him you would like to work at it and for him to give you a chance... but at the end say, you want to see him happy and at the end of the day, you wish him well with everything in life.. esp love and happiness... and that you respect his decision etc.... then after that just let go and start seeing other people.. chatting and slowly moving on.. if he did love you he may consider it.... good luck
Posted by RomansuPantsuWhat's her sign?Posted by Astrology101Sorry this is so drawn out--
Why do I feel like there were other things that actually accelerated your break-up?
I don't know how aquas think.. but what he did was harsh... and yes I am sorry for you.
But you should leave him be, imo.
Why don't you date someone just as a distraction? (I'm not saying have sex.. just date). May help you... Just don't get hung up about him....
He started dating another girl immediately...? Were they secretly talking is what I would want to know...?
That would bother me...
In which case having this time to figure things out is good.
Take Care. Positive thoughts your way.
Hmm not that I know of. Just a lot of bickering and heaps of miscommunication. That will drive any relationship straight into the ground.
It was definitely a blow, yes. He can be very... Abrasive at times. Another thing we fought about is that he used to tease me and make jokes that my giant, sensitive heart just couldn't handle. These jokes weren't downright insulting, but it skirts around that realm for me in all honestly. I just get offended easily which is a fault of mine and I'm trying to correct. But this is what I mean by "I wish he treated me like a princess, not a bro" (aquas are the sign of friendship and equal plains after all right?) He calls his friends all sorts of crappy things and they all laugh about it, that's just his humour, and he did that with me in the beginning. Me personally I can't handle being roasted so I told him to please stop and he eventually did.
Idk man everything seems so petty now in retrospect. I think my behaviours just got continuously ugly because I was started to get anxious, insecure, and truly worried.
I have a lot of mixed advice and I think I want to just wait a little while longer and then reach out to him again and try to befriend him then lightly express how I feel again.. I truly hope that this girl was the basis of a rebound. Because I have a hard time believing he moved on that fast. But he also protested A LOT. Saying "I'm not breaking up with her" , "You think i'm trapped but I'm not" , "She hasn't done anything wrong. She does not deserve to be broken up with" , "I'm not a cheater" , "She is worth it, so leave if you can't handle being my friend." I don't know anymore... I just want to go back to cuddling and eating snacks together... ;-;click to expand
Don't ask him to leave her.. you need to respect his decision.. and you telling him that you are changing but asking him to leave her isn't a good move
@saweetz1988 I was actually thinking of sending him a letter!!! He tells me his heart melts whenever I write him one.
What you too??? I'm really confused... He told me to leave him alone.. He's made it clear he wants some space. Should I really reach out to him again so soon because he'll move on really quickly?? Or should I wait a little longer and have him miss me more like the others say. I don't want to throw him or myself off...
I do not know what her sign is. :/ her birthday is in january so I guess she's either a cap or another aqaurius.
What you too??? I'm really confused... He told me to leave him alone.. He's made it clear he wants some space. Should I really reach out to him again so soon because he'll move on really quickly?? Or should I wait a little longer and have him miss me more like the others say. I don't want to throw him or myself off...
I do not know what her sign is. :/ her birthday is in january so I guess she's either a cap or another aqaurius.
"my sister...aries...is married to an aquarius....they were on this on/off...yes/no...situation for about 2 years... she got fed up and set her terms...and walked away........guess what....? ... he proposed to her and agreed to marry her AND have another child with her....despite saying NO before...... this is how you deal with a mature aquarius...."
How long did it take before he came back to her???
@lesenfantteribles Even if I want to improve on myself and become better?
First loves aren't meant to last.
You need someone who is affectionate, attentive, and finds your outbursts charming. That will never be this aqua. Get out there and start dating. Don't cling to the comfort of this first failed relationship.
Your love story is just starting. Good luck.
You need someone who is affectionate, attentive, and finds your outbursts charming. That will never be this aqua. Get out there and start dating. Don't cling to the comfort of this first failed relationship.
Your love story is just starting. Good luck.
Posted by LadyNeptuneYou're probably right :/
First loves aren't meant to last.
You need someone who is affectionate, attentive, and finds your outbursts charming. That will never be this aqua. Get out there and start dating. Don't cling to the comfort of this first failed relationship.
Your love story is just starting. Good luck.
Posted by RomansuPantsuThe letter is more for you so you can let go. At least you r leaving your self a good * last impression * before you can move forward. Although the fact that he's telling you to leave him alone isn't a good sign. You need to respect his wish and leave him alone. Say * ok I will leave you alone and wish you very very well with your new woman. I'm sorry I ruined things up for us. I am working on my own Errors on myself , enjoy life * but you have to truly mean it .. then dissapear after sometimes he will prob want to talk when he's ready to come around of if that other chick doesn't give him what u used to give him... but he needs to come around himself *
@saweetz1988 I was actually thinking of sending him a letter!!! He tells me his heart melts whenever I write him one.
What you too??? I'm really confused... He told me to leave him alone.. He's made it clear he wants some space. Should I really reach out to him again so soon because he'll move on really quickly?? Or should I wait a little longer and have him miss me more like the others say. I don't want to throw him or myself off...
I do not know what her sign is. :/ her birthday is in january so I guess she's either a cap or another aqaurius.
Posted by RomansuPantsuPosted by LadyNeptuneYou're probably right :/
First loves aren't meant to last.
You need someone who is affectionate, attentive, and finds your outbursts charming. That will never be this aqua. Get out there and start dating. Don't cling to the comfort of this first failed relationship.
Your love story is just starting. Good luck.click to expand
This is true. How old are you? Do some soul healing work
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by RomansuPantsu...you need to stop listening to individuals....who have failed relationships with aquarius... saweetz has not had a successful relationship with her aquarius..... listening to advice from young aquarius who encourage you to be on the sideliness waiting for an aquarius man...DOES NOT work! .... a mature Aquarius will come back to you if you leave him alone....
@saweetz1988 I was actually thinking of sending him a letter!!! He tells me his heart melts whenever I write him one.
What you too??? I'm really confused... He told me to leave him alone.. He's made it clear he wants some space. Should I really reach out to him again so soon because he'll move on really quickly?? Or should I wait a little longer and have him miss me more like the others say. I don't want to throw him or myself off...
I do not know what her sign is. :/ her birthday is in january so I guess she's either a cap or another aqaurius.
my sister...aries...is married to an aquarius....they were on this on/off...yes/no...situation for about 2 years... she got fed up and set her terms...and walked away........guess what....? ... he proposed to her and agreed to marry her AND have another child with her....despite saying NO before...... this is how you deal with a mature aquarius....
an immature aquarius man...will not come and beg you...but then again why do you want one to begin with..? ... because immature aquarius men...will not compromise with you....and therefore will not know how to hold on to a stable relationship... and have many women on the sideliness.... at the end you will end up feeling used....and heartbroken............
..and to add...this is not a 'signs' issue...solely....this is about a man who has no interest in being with you... sign or not...you cannot justify a man's disinterest in you...by excusing his behavior as "Aquarian" like.click to expand
I do agree and changed my mind I didn't realise he asked her to leave her alone coz if that's the case she needs to respect his wish and dissapear
Some posts really gave a lot of perspective. Some made me cry. But thank you all. Even if I don't actively agree with it I respect all feedback. I have seriously read every post and thought some more. I have decided to stick through with my plan of reaching out to him. I asked him if I could message him again after the summer semester in August and he agreed so im sticking by it. Truth is, I don't expect anyone to understand. There are details nobody but him and I know that makes our case unique and I have to consider that, as well as follow my heart.. So. I will write him a letter. If he ACCEPTS and responds back I will befriend him again and go from there.. One thing that I wasn't sure about before, but I am now is that i'm for sure NOT going to ask him to leave her. I realize how disrespectful and damaging that could be for the friendship and my chances. I have to approach this very carefully and logically.
True love is rare for me to find so when you find that special someone who lights your heart up, you take it seriously. I'm not throwing this away. I'm going to follow both the heart and my mind this time.
True love is rare for me to find so when you find that special someone who lights your heart up, you take it seriously. I'm not throwing this away. I'm going to follow both the heart and my mind this time.
Posted by Happy_AquaI've already explained myself. I don't expect you to understand like I said.
It seems like you are only focusing on getting him back.
Despite the fact he is in another relationship now.....
It's not all about you, you, you, you know...sorry to be so blunt, but that is the vibe I get from you.
Your EX-boyfriend is now in a relationship with someone else because he chooses to be NOT with you, but with her.
Why would you ask him to leave her? Do you deliberately want to break them up? Do you not have any respect for their relationship at all?
He will break up when he wants to, not because you ask him.
Also you seem to think you have the power to make your ex do what you want. Aqua's cannot be controlled and you sound like you want to control him and cannot let him go.
Take some of the comments here to heart and work on your self-respect and happiness.
Posted by Happy_Aqua
It seems like you are only focusing on getting him back.
Despite the fact he is in another relationship now.....
It's not all about you, you, you, you know...sorry to be so blunt, but that is the vibe I get from you.
Your EX-boyfriend is now in a relationship with someone else because he chooses to be NOT with you, but with her.
Why would you ask him to leave her? Do you deliberately want to break them up? Do you not have any respect for their relationship at all?
He will break up when he wants to, not because you ask him.
Also you seem to think you have the power to make your ex do what you want. Aqua's cannot be controlled and you sound like you want to control him and cannot let him go.
Take some of the comments here to heart and work on your self-respect and happiness.
----
Thank you. Really.
Posted by RomansuPantsu
Some posts really gave a lot of perspective. Some made me cry. But thank you all. Even if I don't actively agree with it I respect all feedback. I have seriously read every post and thought some more. I have decided to stick through with my plan of reaching out to him. I asked him if I could message him again after the summer semester in August and he agreed so im sticking by it. Truth is, I don't expect anyone to understand. There are details nobody but him and I know that makes our case unique and I have to consider that, as well as follow my heart.. So. I will write him a letter. If he ACCEPTS and responds back I will befriend him again and go from there.. One thing that I wasn't sure about before, but I am now is that i'm for sure NOT going to ask him to leave her. I realize how disrespectful and damaging that could be for the friendship and my chances. I have to approach this very carefully and logically.
True love is rare for me to find so when you find that special someone who lights your heart up, you take it seriously. I'm not throwing this away. I'm going to follow both the heart and my mind this time.
Posted by Astrology101No this is the bulk of everything. But there are fine details that make a difference to me.
So you didn't write everything about your relationship?
Which is fine... do as you please.
Its your life and you should live it according to you.
But if you are not gonna listen to anyone... don't make a thread on it.. and waste our time.
Anywhom, I will continue to listen to everyones thoughts as I've been doing, but ultimately I will make my own desicions and live my life they way I see fit as you said. I decided I won't be taking any advice on: "Not contacting him ever again" that's not going to happen. :/
Letter or record urself. They r visual. show them your most genuine sorry self... explain things in logic and add a bit of vulnerability and emotion.. at the end wish him well. And let go ..
Posted by bittercupcakeAries r stubborn ... if giving it all before leaving will help her move on then she shud be able to express herself .Posted by saweetz1988..it's ok... I just didn't want OP... to sit around and wait for him...no guaranteesPosted by bittercupcakePosted by RomansuPantsu...you need to stop listening to individuals....who have failed relationships with aquarius... saweetz has not had a successful relationship with her aquarius..... listening to advice from young aquarius who encourage you to be on the sideliness waiting for an aquarius man...DOES NOT work! .... a mature Aquarius will come back to you if you leave him alone....
@saweetz1988 I was actually thinking of sending him a letter!!! He tells me his heart melts whenever I write him one.
What you too??? I'm really confused... He told me to leave him alone.. He's made it clear he wants some space. Should I really reach out to him again so soon because he'll move on really quickly?? Or should I wait a little longer and have him miss me more like the others say. I don't want to throw him or myself off...
I do not know what her sign is. :/ her birthday is in january so I guess she's either a cap or another aqaurius.
my sister...aries...is married to an aquarius....they were on this on/off...yes/no...situation for about 2 years... she got fed up and set her terms...and walked away........guess what....? ... he proposed to her and agreed to marry her AND have another child with her....despite saying NO before...... this is how you deal with a mature aquarius....
an immature aquarius man...will not come and beg you...but then again why do you want one to begin with..? ... because immature aquarius men...will not compromise with you....and therefore will not know how to hold on to a stable relationship... and have many women on the sideliness.... at the end you will end up feeling used....and heartbroken............
..and to add...this is not a 'signs' issue...solely....this is about a man who has no interest in being with you... sign or not...you cannot justify a man's disinterest in you...by excusing his behavior as "Aquarian" like.
I do agree and changed my mind I didn't realise he asked her to leave her alone coz if that's the case she needs to respect his wish and dissapearclick to expand
but as long as op leaves him alone after that then all wud b good I hope .... Posted by saweetz1988This will b hard but don't forget to wish him well of his new relationship and geniunly mean it if you truly love him you would want that for him..... say you wish she makes him happy too....
Letter or record urself. They r visual. show them your most genuine sorry self... explain things in logic and add a bit of vulnerability and emotion.. at the end wish him well. And let go ..
So... I took @saweetz1988 's advice and wrote him a letter.. Saying sorry genuinely. I said I don't blame him, I forgive him, I'm not upset, I was selfish, I tend to overract, he should be able to make any desicion he wants that makes him happy and I want him to be happy. I also wrote we shouldn't be friends also so I would not be contacting him at the end of the summer. It was short and sweet and that's basically it. I did it to end things for good sooner than later.
He hasn't responded. Should I message him to make sure he received it or should I leave it be? Honestly.. I kinda want to know how he feels about it but I guess it's clear right? I just don't want to assume things..
He hasn't responded. Should I message him to make sure he received it or should I leave it be? Honestly.. I kinda want to know how he feels about it but I guess it's clear right? I just don't want to assume things..
I've done this in the past with a girl i dated a (LIBRA). She was too much of a push over, she pretty much we're her friends door mat, they constantly borrow money from her and ask for favors and after a little break with her i ended up going back to my Capricorn girl
( biggest mistake of my life).
After a bad break with capricorn girl i went back to LIBRA lady for few weeks. Then **BAM Capricorn girl came back swearing she changed so i left LIBRA girl for the second time' cold blooded i know.
(Again biggest mistake of my life for the 2end time)
Cap and I broke up and-
A year and half later i started to think about how good the LIBRA was too me. I reached out to her to see how she was doing and she was seeing sombody else nothing serious. Even though i wasn't trying to chase her i admit i would have been happier with her then Cap. But everything happens for a reason fastfoward 15 years later she is married 3 kids, her and her husband are successful and she still allowed me to be her friend.
Cap girl is still a gold digger with no real career just looking for sombody to take care of her.
So fyi "ex him out completely" and stop opening up your wounds. He may love you but does not feel you are the 1. And remember you left for a reason, that reason will be the reason you break up again. You have need thats not being met and might never be by him.
People can stay in your heart with out staying in your life.
Move on
( biggest mistake of my life).
After a bad break with capricorn girl i went back to LIBRA lady for few weeks. Then **BAM Capricorn girl came back swearing she changed so i left LIBRA girl for the second time' cold blooded i know.
(Again biggest mistake of my life for the 2end time)
Cap and I broke up and-
A year and half later i started to think about how good the LIBRA was too me. I reached out to her to see how she was doing and she was seeing sombody else nothing serious. Even though i wasn't trying to chase her i admit i would have been happier with her then Cap. But everything happens for a reason fastfoward 15 years later she is married 3 kids, her and her husband are successful and she still allowed me to be her friend.
Cap girl is still a gold digger with no real career just looking for sombody to take care of her.
So fyi "ex him out completely" and stop opening up your wounds. He may love you but does not feel you are the 1. And remember you left for a reason, that reason will be the reason you break up again. You have need thats not being met and might never be by him.
People can stay in your heart with out staying in your life.
Move on
Posted by RomansuPantsuyou have done your part.
So... I took @saweetz1988 's advice and wrote him a letter.. Saying sorry genuinely. I said I don't blame him, I forgive him, I'm not upset, I was selfish, I tend to overract, he should be able to make any desicion he wants that makes him happy and I want him to be happy. I also wrote we shouldn't be friends also so I would not be contacting him at the end of the summer. It was short and sweet and that's basically it. I did it to end things for good sooner than later.
He hasn't responded. Should I message him to make sure he received it or should I leave it be? Honestly.. I kinda want to know how he feels about it but I guess it's clear right? I just don't want to assume things..
YOu have reached out and apologise
I know for an aqua when they are done with you they are done
i was close to getting that done from him coz i was indecisive and kept changing my mind
he was trying to teach me a lesson
2 days with silence i decided to give him a call coz i knew he was upset
the thought of losing him made me very anxious n i was afraid to call him coz iw as scared he will not pick up
but he did
so i was lucky... i had the slight chance
so my point is....
you have done your part
He is with someone now.. respect that please.
let him go
good luck... i hope you are ok
Forgot to update but my ex and I got back together a month ago. So yeeeah. Things are great ! Man 4 months ago was such an unbelievably dark time. I'm happy things worked out in the end.
And he was the one who approached me first which is even better~
And he was the one who approached me first which is even better~
Posted by RomansuPantsunice update.
Forgot to update but my ex and I got back together a month ago. So yeeeah. Things are great ! Man 4 months ago was such an unbelievably dark time. I'm happy things worked out in the end.
And he was the one who approached me first which is even better~
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Posted by lesenfantterribles
if not LDR than maybe we can live in separate houses, about 500 feet apart from each other
Can you explain the feeling behind this? Like is it for aesthetic reasons or independence reasons?
I only ask because I have a problem sharing a bathroom with anyone long term and I can’t pinpoint why. Or sleeping in the same bed with a sleep-farter 😖 I just can’t stand the smells that come from other people and that is reason alone for me to dream of having two separate houses if not just sepearate bathrooms 🤔
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Posted by lesenfantterribles
LOL sleep farter lolololol
it is both aesthetic/independant. i usually dont like other ppl’s decor & i wanna control what my space looks like. like the last thing i want is some fool putting a “live laugh love” decal on the wall.
but also, i dont want anyone breathing down my neck ever so, i cant be around ppl that much. need to be alone like 21.5 hours of the day.
Lol I’m the opposite; I prefer to be around people 18 hours of the day, and then sleep alone or [on the rare occasion] with girl friends 😂😂
What’re the rest of your placements? Maybe you should PM me so we don’t hijack this thread lol.
Posted by aquarius_manLOL dudePosted by lesenfantterribles i know you said you wanted positive advice buuut as someone with strong aqua/air placements (and a scorp sun to boot), once i cut someone off & move on, i dont look back.seems to me you give sshit advice. they got back together.click to expand
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