Aquas, what does romance mean to you?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by truecap on Thursday, October 17, 2013 and has 63 replies.
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So what kind of things are romantic to you? What do you do for your loved one that's romantic?
Its said all the time that aquas aren't romantic. Who says that? Okay. I have said it before but I meant they're not romantic in the traditional sense of flowery words and big guestures.
My guy does little things that I think are romantic. Like at the local football game he set up his stadium seat for me to use and he sat on the bleachers. He will crank my car when its cold so it will be warm for me. I think those kind of things are romantic. I guess romance is in the eye of the beholder and how you choose to see things.
Curious to your thoughts on romance.
Doing things for one another, one example would be when my girl told me shes sick, before I went over to visit her I stopped at the store and picked up some spaghettios and cooked them for her (her favorite)
I think is romantic when she takes time to buy me things like a nice dress shirts or a pair of cool work socks. Shows that she puts some thought into me and cares about my appearance.
Cooking for each other can be romantic. Tapping specific shows and then watching them together on the couch.
Its when someone does the little things for another person that its romantic because they are putting their partner before themselves.
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My answer to your question will not satisfy you I don't think Winking
I guess me and Notyouraverageaquarius are the only romantic aquas on this board...
I'm all for spoiling the crap out of the person I love. Words and affection really isn't out of the question for me but I think you nailed it with showing action rather than traditions and being all flowery and stuff.
I want the person I care for to feel good that involves helping them with tasks that I might find boring or annoying. If they had a big night I'd make sure to have breakfast for them waiting in the morning if they've had a tough day maybe a massage or think of something relaxing later.
Just whatever I can to make them feel appreciated, loved and special.
Not txting me everyday xD
Posted by Bsmurray
Doing things for one another, one example would be when my girl told me shes sick, before I went over to visit her I stopped at the store and picked up some spaghettios and cooked them for her (her favorite)
I think is romantic when she takes time to buy me things like a nice dress shirts or a pair of cool work socks. Shows that she puts some thought into me and cares about my appearance.
Cooking for each other can be romantic. Tapping specific shows and then watching them together on the couch.
Its when someone does the little things for another person that its romantic because they are putting their partner before themselves.


Yes, I agree. Those things are romantic.
Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
My answer to your question will not satisfy you I don't think Winking


Aw, come on. Spill it. smile
Posted by aquasnoz
I'm all for spoiling the crap out of the person I love. Words and affection really isn't out of the question for me but I think you nailed it with showing action rather than traditions and being all flowery and stuff.
I want the person I care for to feel good that involves helping them with tasks that I might find boring or annoying. If they had a big night I'd make sure to have breakfast for them waiting in the morning if they've had a tough day maybe a massage or think of something relaxing later.
Just whatever I can to make them feel appreciated, loved and special.


That stuff is the best!
Posted by Aqualad
Not txting me everyday xD


So, giving space is romantic to you?
Doing things together, chilling out, making love, supporting each other, spaghetti, pizza, etc.
Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
Doing things together, chilling out, making love, supporting each other, spaghetti, pizza, etc.


You sound like My hunny! lol
I like the simple romance like everyone has posted. I don't understand those girls that want to be put on a pedastool, sent buttloads of flowers, have their man scream from the rooftops, those big guestures like that. It's like they need all this proof, when the proof is right there in front of them.
Yeah, a trail of rose petals and candles is nice. But it's just not necessary and no one can keep up doing that kind of stuff.
What's so bad about simple and honest?
True Cap...I agree. When thigs are done over board I think its a bit fabricated and not done with much thought!
Occasional Big shabangs arent bad..But simple things like even a wake up kiss! Is alll I need at times.
This is one of the few times I am glad to be a Virgo. Now from my persective I am romantic out of obligation but out of want.
I send flowers to her work on days with no particular meaning or significance.
I send / give flowers on days that are important to her.
I kiss her passionately on the days when she feels ugly.
I allow her to shine in public on days she feels beautiful
I thank her in soft whispers for being in my life when we are alone
I hold her tight in scary movies and I kiss her hand during funny ones.
text just because
call just because
and I leave little thought out notes or cards in her car so she finds them the next.
And the list goes on. So for all you just show up aquas you got a lot to learn.
Cool story bro, jumping to conclusion much?
Posted by aquasnoz
Cool story bro, jumping to conclusion much?


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I will have to say that although ALL of that sounds nice, that may be ALL taken for granted, and can be a bit smothering! Its a bit over the top and women say we want that but if we did we wouldt apopreciate it.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder and if youre given ALL of this good stuff you wont have any room for down time to apprecite it in the first place.
Aquas know when where and how...Im just saying maybe some will agree maybe they wont!
But all you mentioned its WAY too much to keep up! and it sounds superficial to be honest.
Posted by Ssasy
Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
Doing things together, chilling out, making love, supporting each other, spaghetti, pizza, etc.


You sound like My hunny! lol
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I'm not sure about how you sound lol, but I'd like my wifey to look like your avi. Not literally (i.e. like a cartoon) if you know what I mean.
Well i was told I look like her my hair is red lol...
But I know what u mean. and the simple things you do, is what my aqua does/would do...
Posted by miamivirgo
Posted by aquasnoz
Cool story bro, jumping to conclusion much?


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The premise of the thread was how Aquas convey being romantic. So a reply saying I'm glad to be a virgo followed by a list of what any awesome boyfriend and husband would usually do regardless of sign and just perhaps the frequency and also relative to the partner and then followed by show up Aquas have a lot to learn (a broad sweeping generalisation) sounds borderline demeaning to me.
I can't take it any other way because to me it almost seems like you're saying you are better and others should learn not taking into account personality of said Aquas.
Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
Posted by Ssasy
Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
Doing things together, chilling out, making love, supporting each other, spaghetti, pizza, etc.


You sound like My hunny! lol


I'm not sure about how you sound lol, but I'd like my wifey to look like your avi. Not literally (i.e. like a cartoon) if you know what I mean.
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Well Sassy you don't do it everyday. The question was how do you show romance. Cooking a meal for someone who is sick is not romance its basic human kindness.
Romance was the question not being nice or being a human with a level of compassion.
Posted by aquasnoz
Posted by miamivirgo
Posted by aquasnoz
Cool story bro, jumping to conclusion much?


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The premise of the thread was how Aquas convey being romantic. So a reply saying I'm glad to be a virgo followed by a list of what any awesome boyfriend and husband would usually do regardless of sign and just perhaps the frequency and also relative to the partner and then followed by show up Aquas have a lot to learn (a broad sweeping generalisation) sounds borderline demeaning to me.
I can't take it any other way because to me it almost seems like you're saying you are better and others should learn not taking into account personality of said Aquas.
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I didn't see any Aquas post this stuff best you came up with was a massage after a bad day.
Is this going to turn into one of those I do romance better? Do I really require a list? Are you actually trying to quantify affection?
Posted by truecap
I like the simple romance like everyone has posted. I don't understand those girls that want to be put on a pedastool, sent buttloads of flowers, have their man scream from the rooftops, those big guestures like that. It's like they need all this proof, when the proof is right there in front of them.
Yeah, a trail of rose petals and candles is nice. But it's just not necessary and no one can keep up doing that kind of stuff.
What's so bad about simple and honest?



Simple and honest, and worshiping her to the best of my abilities.

Shees Youre ONLY 23! You seem to KNOW what to do!
The question was 'Aquas, what does romance mean to you?' Hence me stating that I am not an Aqua and that I am a Virgo. And I gave my ideas of what it means to be romantic. No quantifying here just a better form of romance as demonstrated.
If you have a better "list" please feel free to post.
But the truth is I am making a comment on the lack of thought and energy output by those who have answered this query.
Attack me all you want you still haven't demonstrated any better ability to be more or less romantic.
If you feel I am saying you are lacking and I feel more superior well that is on you.
Actually I just thought we're all on the same page here cept for you. We don't require a 8000 word essay to describe something so simple. Being romantic must be such a chore for you if you have to keep track of it.
Posted by miamivirgo
Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
Posted by Ssasy
Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
Doing things together, chilling out, making love, supporting each other, spaghetti, pizza, etc.


You sound like My hunny! lol


I'm not sure about how you sound lol, but I'd like my wifey to look like your avi. Not literally (i.e. like a cartoon) if you know what I mean.


Well Sassy you don't do it everyday. The question was how do you show romance. Cooking a meal for someone who is sick is not romance its basic human kindness.
Romance was the question not being nice or being a human with a level of compassion.
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I'm sorry our respective concepts of romance doesn't quite fit with yours, but to be fair the op's question is asking exactly that. It's a torrent of personal viewpoints, all of them are subjective.
Actually its not every day I do these things it when I want to be romantic. Do always expand the scope of an arguement in order to make a point or are capable of staying within the confines of its parameters?
Writing a note isnot the same as a 8000 word essay. I would think you would understand such things.
This is a bit ridiculous now. Sorry Truecap for derailing. You Mr virgo, agree to disagree on the idea of romance. I've made my point and you've made yours.
Posted by Ssasy
Shees Youre ONLY 23! You seem to KNOW what to do!


Thanks I appreciate that.
But to be honest knowing what to do seems rather stale compared to when you put that to practice. You never know what will happen until it happens. Big Grin
Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
Posted by Ssasy
Shees Youre ONLY 23! You seem to KNOW what to do!


Thanks I appreciate that.
But to be honest knowing what to do seems rather stale compared to when you put that to practice. You never know what will happen until it happens. Big Grin
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You are right about it. But the fact the obvious thought is embedded in you, is still a plus, regardless if you practice it now or later, its bound to come out and planted upon that special girl.
You could on the other hand have NO clue what to do and be a total moron and accept that as if it was harmless lol smile
Posted by miamivirgo
This is one of the few times I am glad to be a Virgo. Now from my persective I am romantic out of obligation but out of want.
I send flowers to her work on days with no particular meaning or significance.
I send / give flowers on days that are important to her.
I kiss her passionately on the days when she feels ugly.
I allow her to shine in public on days she feels beautiful
I thank her in soft whispers for being in my life when we are alone
I hold her tight in scary movies and I kiss her hand during funny ones.
text just because
call just because
and I leave little thought out notes or cards in her car so she finds them the next.
And the list goes on. So for all you just show up aquas you got a lot to learn.


These things are romantic also. Not over the top, but sweet and thoughtful and some of them with a little extra planning which makes it special.
Posted by Ssasy
Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
Posted by Ssasy
Shees Youre ONLY 23! You seem to KNOW what to do!


Thanks I appreciate that.
But to be honest knowing what to do seems rather stale compared to when you put that to practice. You never know what will happen until it happens. Big Grin


You are right about it. But the fact the obvious thought is embedded in you, is still a plus, regardless if you practice it now or later, its bound to come out and planted upon that special girl.
You could on the other hand have NO clue what to do and be a total moron and accept that as if it was harmless lol smile
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Yeah, I guess. Better than nothing, lol.
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An aqua I dated for a while once rolled a joint/spliff and burnt the tip really slowly around the end. When he pulled it off and turned it upside-down it looked like a little flower. He gave it to me and said 'Now you can't say I'm not romantic.' Then we smoked the spliff together.
I thought that was quite unusual and romantic and something I'll always remember!
He would do other things that was like aww, like sharing the burden of eating a large portion of chips with me (even though he weren't a fan of them). Movies and cuddles on the sofa, that type of thing.

Making me laugh, mentally stimulating me with debates, talking to me and treating me like there's no other like me is romance to me. Singing included. I used to make my ex sing to me and that was love. Lol!
Ok I'm done being silly. But seriously tho, aquas live in their heads and we are the biggest inner romantics ever!!!
Posted by ceu
Romance for me is also about how my partner and I are together in each other's presence. I will speak to her by looking deeply into her eyes so that we both slow down, open up, and connect with one another. I love the wordless communication of touch, a smile. I'm not even talking about sex.
I am a good listener. When she speaks, she has my full undivided attention. I don't sit there anxious to interrupt with my own story or drift from her because I am formulating a response. I listen. I don't offer advice unless she asks for it. I make sure she knows what she has to say it important to me.
I listen so well that I'm able to surprise her with something she may have mentioned very briefly, but judging from the tone of her voice and the expression on her face, I know will make her happy. It could be an activity, a place, a thing.
I am not big on buying items or observing holidays to show how I feel or to make a situation romantic. There is enough romance in enjoying our time we have together, relaxed, feeling connected.
I would actually prefer instead of my partner buying me flowers (that will die) that she plant a tree for me in a thoughtful place and nurture it so that it grows tall and strong, or relax with me in botanical garden where we can sit and talk and just be, or have lunch with me in a field of flowers that we can run through and laughing tire ourselves in like children, or show me how to plant my own garden and help me to choose the flowers so that I always think of her when I seen them. All of those would be much more meaningful to me.
Much more meaningful than receiving flowers because its Valentines Day and that is what you are supposed to do.
I like someone who demonstrates imagination and creativity when giving me a gift. I do. I also like to give a gift that touches a person's heart because any gift I give, I give sincerely.



You sound a lot like my aqua.
when you say you're going to do something. DO it.
Actions, not words.
I want to see how much you care, how much you love by your ACTIONS. That's how hubby won me. Action guy!! I can do the romance thing by reading and writing it on my own. In real life, ACTION is where it's at. If you say you're going to get us rings, DO IT! hubby did it. If you say you're going to do this in a few years, DO IT. Yeppers. Actions all the way.
Cuddle, closeness and have your OWN interests is also good.
Over corny is too much as well. I hate PDA. My Aries & Sag sister don't seem to mind it as much. Aries sis likes it less but at her wedding she was good with being over the top. Sag sis and her Virgo man just don't care, and snuggle nose to nose and kiss kiss like two love doves. It's cute though.
Have an INDIVIDUALITY as well. Be your own person.
*deep connection as well. Forget to add that.
Not just anyone will do. There's plenty of men out there with pretty faces and shallow minds and bodies.
think of it like this: (to both male and female looking for someone)

When I became of age my mother called me to her side
She said 'son you're growing up now, pretty soon
You'll take a bride'...
[Sings:]
And then she said...
'Just because you've become a young man now
(Man, now)
There's still some things that you don't understand now
(Son, now)
Before you ask some girl for her hand now
(My son)
Keep your freedom for as long as you can now'
My mama told me...'you better shop around'
(Shop, shop around) a-whoa-yeah
You better (uh-huh) shop around!
(Shop, shop around)
Uh-uh-uh
'There's some things that I want you to know now
(Uh-huh-...ooo)
A just as sure as the winds gonna blow now
(Uh-huh-...ooo)
The women come and the women gonna go now
(Uh-huh...ooo)
Before you tell 'em that you love 'em so now
My mama told me...'you better shop around'
(Shop, shop around) whoa-yeah
You better (uh-huh) shop around
(Shop, shop around)
'A-gotta get yourself a bargain son
Don't be sold on the very first one
A-pretty girls come a dime a dozen
A-try to find one who's gonna give ya true lovin'
(Uh-huh...ooo)
'Before you take a girl and say I do now
A make sure she's in love with-a you now'
My mama told me
(You better shop around)
[Instrumental]
Oh-hey-hey-hey
(ooooooh)
'Try to get yourself a bargain son
Don't be sold on the very first one!
(First one, first one)
A pretty girls come a dime a dozen
A try to find one who's gonna give ya true lovin'
(Uh-huh...ooo)
Before you take a girl and say 'I do' now
Make sure she's in love with a-you now
Make sure that her love is true now
I'd hate to see you feelin' sad and blue now'
My Mama told me
'You better shop around'
(Shop, shop around)
(Uh-huh 'don't let the first one get you')
(Shop, shop around)
On no,cuz I don't wanna see ya 'wicher'
(Uh-huh shop, shop around)
Uh-huh 'before you let 'em hold you tight'
(Shop, shop around)
A-yeah-yeah (shop around)
'Make sure shes alright'
(Uh-huh, shop, shop around)
'Uh-huh before you let 'em take your hand my son'
(Uh-huh, shop, shop around)
'Understand my son'
(Uh-huh, shop, shop around)
'Be a man my son'
(Uh-huh, shop, shop around)
'I know you can my
B/c Aquas are perceived by others to not be romantic, that means that any little thing they do that they weren't doing will be perceived as "romantic" lol
We can be emotional with you & you consider that romantic. Not b/c it really is, but b/c you're so happy that we cared enough about you to come out of our shell & give/show you something different than before
When you're not used to getting something, you're overly happy when you finally do get it. That works in an Aquarian's favor b/c people give us a higher praise for things that other signs wouldn't get had they done the same things! lol
Ya know, it's kind of like the wife whose husband is a lazy pig. The minute he actually vacuums or cleans a dish, she is overjoyed! But yet had that same wife had a husband who wasn't lazy, she probably wouldn't even move a muscle had he cleaned the house lol
wel... If i'd have a very romantic lover I would be a little awkward... my idea of romance is virtually non-existent.
I can be sweet and shit but if you are gonna put rose paddles on my bed. i'm out.
Posted by truecap
Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
My answer to your question will not satisfy you I don't think Winking


Aw, come on. Spill it. smile
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What I mean is my opinions are just what one would typically think is romantic. I think for an Aqua I am particularly affectionate and can be demonstrative... I like to touch and be touched. I can only assume this has to do with venus being my chart ruler and the pervasive Pisces placements I have.
I was brought up by a Scorpio so I think I tend to have a lot of those tendencies to want all of you and to truly know you. They say the venus conjunct mars aspect in ones chart (which I have) lends one to have this all or nothing Scorpio aspect as well so who knows.
I do to others what I find romantic. LoL, I'm actually quite pathetic when you've actually got me.
-I'd take you for a walk in the park just the two of us and feed the ducks, geese, egrets, cranes, and w/e the hell else they'd have there.
-I'd surprise you with a cooked dinner or have picnic by the lake or shoreline. Just because I like that one on one quality time. Obviously it could maybe get be too much but I dunno a lot of times for me it never seems to be enough.
-I actually find it romantic when a women doesn't necessarily make it her goal to "change me or mold me" but accepts me just the way I am. And actually appreciates the way I am. IF you can do that and just be a women. THEN
-Chances are you'd inspire my creative side and I may just write you a song to play and sing to you.... yes I have done this before. Sadly at times I feel that when I did this and it didn't work out... Its Almost like the words and expressions that were poured out were wasted or even fake :/
for surely if I was moved to do this she must BE THE ONE
Ahh well I suppose I am a bit idealistic.
-I can be quite over the top when I am intentionally trying to be romantic because I will be a perfectionist about it.
-BUT if you have my heart in your hands there's almost nothing I wouldn't do for you: hold the door, open the door, pull your chair out, play with your hair, always let you win an argument (unless I'm in a playful mood), I'd be your personal chauffeur, your free on call handy man, your bodyguard, I'd give you the shirt on my back.
Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I do to others what I find romantic. LoL, I'm actually quite pathetic when you've actually got me.
-I'd take you for a walk in the park just the two of us and feed the ducks, geese, egrets, cranes, and w/e the hell else they'd have there.
-I'd surprise you with a cooked dinner or have picnic by the lake or shoreline. Just because I like that one on one quality time. Obviously it could maybe get be too much but I dunno a lot of times for me it never seems to be enough.
-I actually find it romantic when a women doesn't necessarily make it her goal to "change me or mold me" but accepts me just the way I am. And actually appreciates the way I am. IF you can do that and just be a women. THEN
-Chances are you'd inspire my creative side and I may just write you a song to play and sing to you.... yes I have done this before. Sadly at times I feel that when I did this and it didn't work out... Its Almost like the words and expressions that were poured out were wasted or even fake :/
for surely if I was moved to do this she must BE THE ONE
Ahh well I suppose I am a bit idealistic.
-I can be quite over the top when I am intentionally trying to be romantic because I will be a perfectionist about it.
-BUT if you have my heart in your hands there's almost nothing I wouldn't do for you: hold the door, open the door, pull your chair out, play with your hair, always let you win an argument (unless I'm in a playful mood), I'd be your personal chauffeur, your free on call handy man, your bodyguard, I'd give you the shirt on my back.


Bloody hell! I think I'm in love!
Confused
that was awkward.
i saw that film, too. Poor girl. (the ending)
Posted by everevolvingepithet
yeh it was just that clip, the whole movie is different lol!


yeah it was one of the best films tarantino made. jackie brown was one bad ass lady.
romantic...candles. hair catching on fire and the male of another sign beating the flames out of my hair. ha.
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