Aquas, what is love?
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by AiryWater on Sunday, May 17, 2009 and has 21 replies.
Just two quick questions for my fellow Aqua.......What is your definition of love? How do you know if what you feel for someone is love?
Love to me is an emotion that can seriously blind your judgement. As long as the positives are there and worth the negatives, then im all for it.
Love is Loyalty
my explanation:
I'm generally a selfish person when it comes to my time, my emotions, and my independence.
when I find someone that makes me not want to be selfish, that's love.
I'm generally a selfish person when it comes to my time, my emotions, and my independence.
when I find someone that makes me not want to be selfish, that's love.
"What is your definition of love? How do you know if what you feel for someone is love?"
To me, love is more of an ACTION more than it is an emotion. Emotions go back & forth & change every day, but once an action or deed is done, there is no turning back. Love for me as an Aqua means having the ability to come out of self (rather it be through flaws or through the barriers we have built up for protection against others) out of respect & good-doing for the other person, w/o expecting the same in return. Love is the ability to be honest with them, even when you don't want to or normally wouldn't just BECAUSE you know that person's feelings are just as valuable as your own. It's the ability to easily be mature enough to look into the mirror at your own flaws for that one person b/c it'll possibly save you & the relationship, even if it means getting to your most weak & vulnerable point.
I know I love someone when their opinions or feelings are just as important to me as my own. When I am able to put down my wall (not b/c I have to BUT because I WANT to) the way I'd want someone to do for me (which is veryyyyy hard). When I'm able to give to one person what I never even thought I had the ability to give to myself or others, just out of respect & admiration for the relationship or union built. I know I feel love for someone when their very presence lightens up my day, my mood & my outlook, when I would've otherwise been down from listening to my own pessimistic mind. I know I love someone when my heart, mind & intuition tells me I love them, but not for selfish, low self-esteem or fear of losing them, reasons. I know I love somoeone when even when they've wronged me, I can't possibly think about getting them back. Or when I still want the best for them & can't function normally unless they are just as happy as I am, even if they've done everything to hurt me or push me away. I know I feel love for someone else when I can say "I love you" to that person & have NO doubts that I'm with the right person, saying it to the wrong person or vice versa. I know I love you when I can tell you I love you & not even worry about whether or not the same is true the other way around. I love the best when I love myself the most
To me, love is more of an ACTION more than it is an emotion. Emotions go back & forth & change every day, but once an action or deed is done, there is no turning back. Love for me as an Aqua means having the ability to come out of self (rather it be through flaws or through the barriers we have built up for protection against others) out of respect & good-doing for the other person, w/o expecting the same in return. Love is the ability to be honest with them, even when you don't want to or normally wouldn't just BECAUSE you know that person's feelings are just as valuable as your own. It's the ability to easily be mature enough to look into the mirror at your own flaws for that one person b/c it'll possibly save you & the relationship, even if it means getting to your most weak & vulnerable point.
I know I love someone when their opinions or feelings are just as important to me as my own. When I am able to put down my wall (not b/c I have to BUT because I WANT to) the way I'd want someone to do for me (which is veryyyyy hard). When I'm able to give to one person what I never even thought I had the ability to give to myself or others, just out of respect & admiration for the relationship or union built. I know I feel love for someone when their very presence lightens up my day, my mood & my outlook, when I would've otherwise been down from listening to my own pessimistic mind. I know I love someone when my heart, mind & intuition tells me I love them, but not for selfish, low self-esteem or fear of losing them, reasons. I know I love somoeone when even when they've wronged me, I can't possibly think about getting them back. Or when I still want the best for them & can't function normally unless they are just as happy as I am, even if they've done everything to hurt me or push me away. I know I feel love for someone else when I can say "I love you" to that person & have NO doubts that I'm with the right person, saying it to the wrong person or vice versa. I know I love you when I can tell you I love you & not even worry about whether or not the same is true the other way around. I love the best when I love myself the most
To sum it up, I know I love someone when my heart, mind & intuition allows me to (without any fear attached)
I think aquas are the best people to answer that question, not despite but because of their emotionless nature. Because they can see that love is basically what fulfills one of human's needs (eg religion fulfills the need for a meaning in life), love fulfills the need for being needed/not being alone.
I know that's a very cold explanation but surprisingly enough aquas fall harder than others once they decide to fulfill this need. Now this regards love for a close partner. Regarding love for people and life in general they're more of humanitarians rather than love people. They adapt to the selfish nature of humans/world hence dettach from emotions so easily. No wonder why many aquas are atheists.
Therefore to sum up I agree too that once someone makes me turn all these to myself and dispute my selfishness/aloofness I will always go back to that person nomatter if she moves to mars.
I know that's a very cold explanation but surprisingly enough aquas fall harder than others once they decide to fulfill this need. Now this regards love for a close partner. Regarding love for people and life in general they're more of humanitarians rather than love people. They adapt to the selfish nature of humans/world hence dettach from emotions so easily. No wonder why many aquas are atheists.
Therefore to sum up I agree too that once someone makes me turn all these to myself and dispute my selfishness/aloofness I will always go back to that person nomatter if she moves to mars.
I am female Aquarian who love a person who is more than what I'm capable of doing. Maybe one or two steps ahead of me. He must not be dominating nor aggressive nor arrogant and flexible at all times. Genuine smartness always excites me. He showed his smartness early in his young life. One example, the person I love is not excellent academically but reads encyclopedia books during his bathroom time when he was young. He has unlimited information of different subjects that any discussion during our lifetime together won't bore me to death. He is fun to be with.
Overall, Aquarian's brain must be fed and nourished first then the matters of heart and soul will develop on its own and naturally.
Anyway when I talk of lifetime, don't forget I got some of "me time" too. It just balance my whole life.
Overall, Aquarian's brain must be fed and nourished first then the matters of heart and soul will develop on its own and naturally.
Anyway when I talk of lifetime, don't forget I got some of "me time" too. It just balance my whole life.
Posted by airbender
my explanation:
I'm generally a selfish person when it comes to my time, my emotions, and my independence.
when I find someone that makes me not want to be selfish, that's love.
aqua moon, not sun - def 125% true on the independence thing.
I don't think the question of "is it possible for an Aquarian to love?" I think the real question IS, is it possible for an Aquarian to find someone they feel worthy of love.
We Aquarians are so picky. One minute you turn us on the next minute we're sitting in a room reconsidering our decision to be with you. We don't want our partner's one way, but then again we can easily become grateful & see gain in the situation if they are that exact way. It's very hard for me to find someone that I can "come out of myself" for b/c there's always a flaw or some excuse for me not to.
This may sound aloof, but I think alot of Aquas are looking for perfection in a mate. Yes, we know that no one is perfect, but then again when we are in those moments when we are testing the waters with someone, it's almost like any little thing they do can easily off-set our decision & feelings about that person. It's almost as if we're saying, "You better not mess up...EVER," b/c if that person does they'll never have us the way they used to.
We Aquarians are so picky. One minute you turn us on the next minute we're sitting in a room reconsidering our decision to be with you. We don't want our partner's one way, but then again we can easily become grateful & see gain in the situation if they are that exact way. It's very hard for me to find someone that I can "come out of myself" for b/c there's always a flaw or some excuse for me not to.
This may sound aloof, but I think alot of Aquas are looking for perfection in a mate. Yes, we know that no one is perfect, but then again when we are in those moments when we are testing the waters with someone, it's almost like any little thing they do can easily off-set our decision & feelings about that person. It's almost as if we're saying, "You better not mess up...EVER," b/c if that person does they'll never have us the way they used to.
This video pretty sums up what it feels like for an Aqua in a relationship!!!
feeling a connection to another person..aside from that...what you make of it
"This may sound aloof, but I think alot of Aquas are looking for perfection in a mate. Yes, we know that no one is perfect, but then again when we are in those moments when we are testing the waters with someone, it's almost like any little thing they do can easily off-set our decision & feelings about that person. It's almost as if we're saying, "You better not mess up...EVER," b/c if that person does they'll never have us the way they used to."
I agree, but sometimes, when you hunt for perfection in your mate, all you end up finding are your OWN flaws.
I agree, but sometimes, when you hunt for perfection in your mate, all you end up finding are your OWN flaws.
"perfection in a mate" not true, they just seek for qualities not usual to most people. Like for example as I use to say I like someone "ambitious and normal" meaning she won't start the cliche "he should be funny and educated and clever and a real man, where are all the men and blah blah". What you've said about perfection and own flaws shows you don't think like most women who do study men intensively. "You better not mess up ever" not true as well, maaany times I felt I want to escape my cancer's moodiness but I never did and instead I every time tried to fix her mood.
"What you've said about perfection and own flaws shows you don't think like most women who do study men intensively."
Character is a neutral concept and holistic.
Character is a neutral concept and holistic.
Posted by krysrenee7
I don't think the question of "is it possible for an Aquarian to love?" I think the real question IS, is it possible for an Aquarian to find someone they feel worthy of love.
We Aquarians are so picky. One minute you turn us on the next minute we're sitting in a room reconsidering our decision to be with you. We don't want our partner's one way, but then again we can easily become grateful & see gain in the situation if they are that exact way. It's very hard for me to find someone that I can "come out of myself" for b/c there's always a flaw or some excuse for me not to.
This may sound aloof, but I think alot of Aquas are looking for perfection in a mate. Yes, we know that no one is perfect, but then again when we are in those moments when we are testing the waters with someone, it's almost like any little thing they do can easily off-set our decision & feelings about that person. It's almost as if we're saying, "You better not mess up...EVER," b/c if that person does they'll never have us the way they used to.
For an Aqua (man) - who is worthy enough to love? What is this perfection that you find sooo interesting and worth to love? No one is perfect, we all have good and bad days, problems, past times, strengths and weaknesses... so, what is perfection for an Aqua to fall in love with?
It's when baby don't hurt you.
This topic actually ties into another topic I posted (Thoughts/Feelings after detachment). This guy that I detached from I thought I loved him but if it was truly "love" then shouldn't I be hurt after detaching from him? So I"m confused to what I actually felt was love maybe it was something else............still confused
I experienced one thing from my Aqua few days ago, before he completely detach from me. It was when we spoke about love and our relationship:
he confessed that he is with me because he saw in me few times how "perfect" I am regarding my kindliness and so much love I have. Next morning he said that when he told me that he felt like the knife pikes his heart. 4 days ago and yesterday he admit that he cannot be with me cause he just cannot understand the way I am - fearless and free with my love to him.
he confessed that he is with me because he saw in me few times how "perfect" I am regarding my kindliness and so much love I have. Next morning he said that when he told me that he felt like the knife pikes his heart. 4 days ago and yesterday he admit that he cannot be with me cause he just cannot understand the way I am - fearless and free with my love to him.
sometime its realy hard for us to figure out love but wen we think were in lov it like wen u cnt last a day without hearin dat persons voice wen u have to see there face at least once every 2 days its like if u cnt touch them evry 3 days youll go crazy its like wen ever ur not around them youll spending most of ur time thinkin bout them and times yall shared and good love makin cnt get off ur mind its like youll feel this fire burnin in ur heart we u hear there name and if they even mention something bout moving away are leavin u wouldnt think u could make it a day alive like ur whole life would be down its like we cnt keep dey name out our mouth and most of out q.t times with friends i keep brining up there name to where the point our friends just wnt to pull off dey head lol but dats when i know im in love coming frm me a aquarius
sometime its realy hard for us to figure out love but wen we think were in lov it like wen u cnt last a day without hearin dat persons voice wen u have to see there face at least once every 2 days its like if u cnt touch them evry 3 days youll go crazy its like wen ever ur not around them youll spending most of ur time thinkin bout them and times yall shared and good love makin cnt get off ur mind its like youll feel this fire burnin in ur heart we u hear there name and if they even mention something bout moving away are leavin u wouldnt think u could make it a day alive like ur whole life would be down its like we cnt keep dey name out our mouth and most of out q.t times with friends i keep brining up there name to where the point our friends just wnt to pull off dey head lol but dats when i know im in love coming frm me a aquarius
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