Are aqua females fake?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by AnieshaAries on Friday, June 6, 2014 and has 25 replies.
Im starting to get a tad bit paranoid about a friend of mine. Whenever she has an issue with someone she will never express the problem to the actual person.
There has been times where she'll ring me up fuming about so and so but the next day ill see that shes talking to the person like nothings happened.
Iv told her she needs to be more vocal about her feelings otherwise one day she'll blow up and the person wouldn't even understand where it all came from. She says she'll will be but come the next problem she'll do the exact same thing. Its just starting to make me question that'll she do the exact same thing to me and talk behind my back instead of coming to me. If that ever happened I wont think twice to cut her off especially since I respect her enough to be honest.
The only person she has no issue with vocalising her problem is with her previous on and off fuck buddy now new found 'best friend' even though he undermines her in every way, she does all she can to keep him in her life.
So is it that she just doesn't care enough about her friends to say anything?
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Posted by feby16aqua
She probably feels safe venting to certain people and not to others.



Yeah I understand that but then why be friends with people if you cant even be real with them. What kind of friendship is that exactly?
I myself do not like to argue, fight and all of that emotional mess myself but if you cant keep it 100 with someone to their face then its two faced.
Most of the people in my life are very Air dominated, iv been surrounded by them all my life and the logic that they have of doing what feels right in situations is only based on how its going to benefit them, not fair on everyone else around them.
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Posted by feby16aqua
Yeah it has to do with a combination of : not caring enough (depends who you are), avoiding drama ie emotional upheavals and the draining shit that follows, and the desire to resolve it and move on. At least for me.
I don't always need the war, fire, confrontation and conflict. Many if not all of my gripes can be resolved either in my head on my own or through venting.


I just feel that there's always a way to articulate what you want to say and convey your message in the correct manner without the message being lost and it turning into world war three, but hey maybe thats just me.
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Posted by AnieshaAries
Posted by feby16aqua
Yeah it has to do with a combination of : not caring enough (depends who you are), avoiding drama ie emotional upheavals and the draining shit that follows, and the desire to resolve it and move on. At least for me.
I don't always need the war, fire, confrontation and conflict. Many if not all of my gripes can be resolved either in my head on my own or through venting.


I just feel that there's always a way to articulate what you want to say and convey your message in the correct manner without the message being lost and it turning into world war three, but hey maybe thats just me.
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Aquarians strongly give people the benefit of the doubt especially if they love them. Articulating something that's bothersome isn't always the best option because Aquas understand that feelings and emotions vary.
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Posted by feby16aqua
Posted by AnieshaAries

I just feel that there's always a way to articulate what you want to say and convey your message in the correct manner without the message being lost and it turning into world war three, but hey maybe thats just me.


I 100 PERCENT agree with you! I've been working on that my whole life lol. I think this is a common frustration that arians have with aquas, let me just say I've heard it before.



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Lol yeah I feel like pulling my teeth out with you lot at tines!
Hows it been working out for you? Do you think it gets better or worse for you Aquas?
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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Posted by AnieshaAries
Posted by feby16aqua
Yeah it has to do with a combination of : not caring enough (depends who you are), avoiding drama ie emotional upheavals and the draining shit that follows, and the desire to resolve it and move on. At least for me.
I don't always need the war, fire, confrontation and conflict. Many if not all of my gripes can be resolved either in my head on my own or through venting.


I just feel that there's always a way to articulate what you want to say and convey your message in the correct manner without the message being lost and it turning into world war three, but hey maybe thats just me.



Aquarians strongly give people the benefit of the doubt especially if they love them. Articulating something that's bothersome isn't always the best option because Aquas understand that feelings and emotions vary.
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Yep I agree on the benefit of the doubt part I feel thats part of why she lets things go, but now its starting to become repetitive its making me doubt her authenticity.
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You should feel flattered that she trusts you and appreciates you being her sounding board. Maybe she needs that ONE person who she can discuss things with so she can come to terms with whatever is going on or after saying things out loud she can realize things aren't as bad as they are.
Unknowingly to you, you may be giving her the support and encouragement to find a solution so she can actually deal with her issues with people in a way so world war III doesn't start.
You might be the only person she does this with. I'd consider it a complement.
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Oh, for what it's worth, I've had many, many Aries advise me to right out confront someone and get my feelings out there. It's a very assertive, sometimes aggressive way of doing things. They don't understand when I do it my way. They get frustrated at me because they think I don't listen to them. But as a capricorn, their way doesn't work for me. I hear them and take their advice into consideration, but I would rather do it in a way that I'm comfortable with. I will find a way to address said issue in a nonconfrontational way, but I bluntly get my point across at the same time, all the while maintaining peace.
I have aqua mars, so I probably deal with confrontations much like the aquas do. Not sure if if they would agree, though.
My way: Avoid confrontation when you can, deal with it logically when you have to, hope for the most peaceful solution you can find that satisfies both parties.
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Posted by GG
Yes, they can be super fake. The dudes too. If they don't like you they know how to act like you guys are best friends.


So according to you, just because I don't like you or disagree with you, I should be mean and cold? nahh, that's too much energy wasted, smile, move along... hopefully you get the hint without too much fuss Big Grin
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Posted by GG
Nothing wrong with that at all. She/ he asked a question so I answered it to the best of my knowledge.
I personally prefer the straight forward approach. If you don't like me just let me. I'll respect you for it.



This is going to sound strange but I can't dislike someone completely where I would have to say, hey -- I never want to look at you again. Unless, of course, something horrible happened between us and even then... after the fact I might even talk to that person again. I don't believe in feelings of hate and anger that linger.
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Posted by truecap
Oh, for what it's worth, I've had many, many Aries advise me to right out confront someone and get my feelings out there. It's a very assertive, sometimes aggressive way of doing things. They don't understand when I do it my way. They get frustrated at me because they think I don't listen to them. But as a capricorn, their way doesn't work for me. I hear them and take their advice into consideration, but I would rather do it in a way that I'm comfortable with. I will find a way to address said issue in a nonconfrontational way, but I bluntly get my point across at the same time, all the while maintaining peace.
I have aqua mars, so I probably deal with confrontations much like the aquas do. Not sure if if they would agree, though.
My way: Avoid confrontation when you can, deal with it logically when you have to, hope for the most peaceful solution you can find that satisfies both parties.

Yeah I do appreciate that she can come to me and feel she can talk to me about anything. Im going to leave her to things her way, but how a person can look someone in the eyes, laugh and joke with them like say they wasn't cussing them just yesterday is beyond me. Each to their own.
Yeah you know how us Aries can get passionate about things we care about, I am assertive but never in a aggressive manner (unless the person is aggressive to me first il bite).
As iv grown older iv learnt how to tone down it by giving myself space from the person and situation first then I'm able to address the problem without upsetting myself and the person, I thank my Gemini Moon for that.
Thanks Truecap you summed it up well
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Nothing wrong with that at all. She/ he asked a question so I answered it to the best of my knowledge.
I personally prefer the straight forward approach. If you don't like me just let me. I'll respect you for it.



This is going to sound strange but I can't dislike someone completely where I would have to say, hey -- I never want to look at you again. Unless, of course, something horrible happened between us and even then... after the fact I might even talk to that person again. I don't believe in feelings of hate and anger that linger.


That does sound strange. That must be an Aquarius thing...when I was 19 I gave my Aquarius friend a ride to a city 2 hours from Hollywood. He has a habit of talking down to people. He started doing it to me and started raising his voice. I told him and his gf to get out and I left them in the middle of the road.
I called him the next day and we hung out like nothing happened.
I don't like holding on to bad feelings either. It drains you
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OMG, see that doesn't even phase me. If I value someone, I can really let things slide. smile
Obviously, you too Winking
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I don't have any geminis around me EVER...
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I call shit out on the spot. People think I'm pissed off or hold on to some resentment but I don't. But honestly by the next day I probably don't even give a fuck. My brother's similar, we're both pretty vocal when people annoy us but we're always very direct and address the person directly.
Talking behind someone's back is just not me, I loathe it. It's not going to solve shit if I can't address the source directly.
If you want to relate it to Astrology, much of it has to do with Libra Rising and the need to stay friendly or appear friendly, I can relate to that as a teenager but not anymore because I agree it's fake and it takes far more energy to keep up appearances than just to address it.
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The aquas girls I know personally it's half and half. Some are pretty direct some are definitely wearing a mask of sorts. I just let the ones know I'm not into bitching, take your frustration out if you want but don't expect me to have an input on it or care too much about it.
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I'm far too self absorbed to be gossiping about others. Rather talk about me.
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Posted by aquasnoz
The aquas girls I know personally it's half and half. Some are pretty direct some are definitely wearing a mask of sorts. I just let the ones know I'm not into bitching, take your frustration out if you want but don't expect me to have an input on it or care too much about it.


Thank you this is me 100% .
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In my experience no. That sounds more like Libra, or Capricorn behavior. The Aquas in my life are a lot more direct and straight forward.
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Posted by aqulibini
Posted by AnieshaAries

So is it that she just doesn't care enough about her friends to say anything?


You mean "say anything" that bothers her the person in question whom she bitched about her friend?

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Yep, 2 have been her very good friends for years, the other is her female 'cousin'. One incident happened with her close friend for over 10 years, im going to call her 'K'.
Main details - The Aqua got into a situation with a guy that 'K' knew and felt that 'K' didn't have her back, she started calling her every name under the sun, and saying 'K's not a good friend and she was going to keep her distance, 2 days later i saw a picture of them together out shopping loooool. The issue had never got resolved and till this day more fuel is being added to the issues she has with 'K' but she continues to play happy families, I'm bored of it.
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Posted by prettyladii
In my experience no. That sounds more like Libra, or Capricorn behavior. The Aquas in my life are a lot more direct and straight forward.


Lucky you because I wish my Aqua friend was.
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Umm weird aqua you are talking about.
I have never been one to shy away from calling someone out when they did stupid things. In fact I don't sleep well if I let someone get away with wronging me, no matter how close they are to me.
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OMG!!!! I spent over a decade listening to an AQUA BF of mine b***h and complain about so many people but never once did she confront any of them. I was always there for her, listening to her, trying to make her feel better. I realized after awhile she was full of c**p. I got to the point where I had PTSD just from listening to her go on and on and loudly I might add about this person and that person, etc. Forward to today, we are no longer friends, and she is still friends with some of the people she used to b***h about. All I can say is, thank God I don't have to listen to that anymore. Be careful with these AQUA women. Saying they are "two-faced" is putting it mildly. Also, she treats her husband horribly. He does everything for her and she yells at the poor guy and is so demanding. She doesn't work, nor has she ever, and her house was always disgusting, messy, smelly. She has the biggest EGO I have ever seen. Yet, she is completely unaware of how ridiculous she comes across. I am just repulsed by her behavior. Run!! Far!!
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aqua females are skanky
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Posted by virgoheart
OMG!!!! I spent over a decade listening to an AQUA BF of mine b***h and complain about so many people but never once did she confront any of them. I was always there for her, listening to her, trying to make her feel better. I realized after awhile she was full of c**p. I got to the point where I had PTSD just from listening to her go on and on and loudly I might add about this person and that person, etc. Forward to today, we are no longer friends, and she is still friends with some of the people she used to b***h about. All I can say is, thank God I don't have to listen to that anymore. Be careful with these AQUA women. Saying they are "two-faced" is putting it mildly. Also, she treats her husband horribly. He does everything for her and she yells at the poor guy and is so demanding. She doesn't work, nor has she ever, and her house was always disgusting, messy, smelly. She has the biggest EGO I have ever seen. Yet, she is completely unaware of how ridiculous she comes across. I am just repulsed by her behavior. Run!! Far!!



Cuz Virgo women aren't two-faced? LOL
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Read what you wrote...

You spent over a decade listening to someone whom you considered a biitch, who's really two-faced huh?

Scared
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