Hello peeps!
I see not much activity on the board. Its been a while. I come around once in a while and see these poor women getting beat down by their own sex. Sad. Men are enough of a challenge. I just wanted to speak my mind to whoever will listen. Dont see some Regulars like Aquanoz. Years ago i dated a married Aqua while being married to an Aqua. Still married to Aqua and i still see married man but only because we live in same town. I barely survived my own emotions, but have learned so much! When i see another cheating man i ask him what he thinks a woman of any kind feels when she has to be a dirty secret? Never mind the wife. Marriage is nothing but a contract. People are who they are and women know the kind of man they marry. Any indignation seems ridiculous. Picking sides is even more ridiculous.
Being married to an Aqua (3 years) has been and is a very satisfying experience. If you can wrangle one and can handle their ways of showing love, which is sublime and highly satisfying on a mental and even spiritual plane. As i Pisces who craves affection i have to do with his universal adoration for me and since it is so true and so arduous i can just float away in a cloud blanket of love. I love my Aquas. I hope if you ladies who pine after them learn to discipline yourself to stand the test of time and the legendary endurance it takes to deal with this kind of man... The love they will end up giving you will be highly satisfying.
Men are men. They will take what you give em. I dont believe in female male friendships and fwb is no different. Men and women cant just be friends otherwise married people would be hanging with the opposite sex on a regular basis. Dont fool yourself ladies. I had many male "friends" as an attractive woman. Still do but I see that men stop calling when the potential is gone or can never exist. There always needs to be that possibility no matter what for them. FWB. is okay as long as your his only FWB. Im mean really.
anyone disagree with that? Im sure this topic has already been discussed. "Men and women cant be friends"
Just wanted to say ive survived. Nothing ended badly and no one got hurt. You cant help who you love but you can live by your code. Dont be of two minds. you cant split yourself pretending IT doesnt hurt. Women are not wired like men. Speak up eloquently while you can or lose your chance at real bonding. happy Independence.
Aquanoz!!
So glad to hear you speak your logic about this topic. the longer the men have stuck around the more they became my "friends" but there is a difference between Aqua men and the others. I dont know why Aquas place such value on "friends". For other men its not so... sacred. My husband insists on calling me his best friend and from my past best friend experiences i would not consider him to be my best friend. He is my mate. He would be like the king while the best friend might be a rook.
I cherish connections with people as well, and while i become easily attached as a Pisces its not always a strong connection. The strong connection feels like ive always known the person and always will. Its difficult when there is a breakup there. if i were to see my last boyfriend/strong connection im cerain id feel that old familiar cosmic pull. if you and your best friend dated im glad it ended amicably. But why did you not cultivate it ? what turned you off from that prospect?
another thing that is true is that and aquas first love will be their last or that person will NEVER be forgotten if they left him. Because it would not be the other way around. this is why Aquas are special. I love it when rules fly out the window. Not just aquamen but aqua influence men may value friendship with women more. Perhaps they see women as superior to men because they are usually very in touch with their feminine side. sex drives men but Aquas have an override mechanism. Ive seen it in action. I wont go around saying men and women can be friends unless the guy is an Aqua but i think i actually believe that now.
The extra marital lover i had was an aqua. I thought that if we became friends that would be devastating to his family. I had to keep it JUST sexual. I swear im not making this up. It was a conscious decision. After having done this of course i resent my own actions but know they were very ultimately for the best BUT he was one of the strong connection peeps we speak of. this is why i struggled with it and do a little still because i see him around.
Meh, what can you do? I dont place value on friendships as much as i place on intimates. Its the Pisces way i guess. Cursed martyrs. ( ;
Thanks Aqua mermaid. Congrats on your Scorpio union. the other fixed sign. so much intensity and passion. love it for you.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Cyan I can definitely relate to what you said about aqua men. So true.