Capricorn808
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Capricorn guy here... Aquarius Girl confuses me!
Lots of space left... sorry about that
First of all clarify this
"-I ask her guy friend if she likes the girl... he says yes but she doesn't want "something serious" with him "...I think you are saying you asked the cap GUY FRIEND if HE likes her and HE said yes?
To be honest I dont think she likes either of you. If I like someone I would not want to get them
jealous by being all up in another mans face. She probably doesn't want to hurt either of your feelings and her friendliness may come across a flirting.
You should not be upset with her or butter hurt because based on what you wrote, she has never declared to you once her interest in you other than possible flirting.
Why do you think it was necessary to contact her on facebook? She is right, that is not the place.
It would have been better if you asked her face to face. Your response "whatever" suggest that you have not understanding or want to understand why she said facebook is not the place for that. You could have created yourself a better opportunity to tell her you liked her and asked her if she is interested or seeing someone instead of asking elsewhere.
Please give more detail on your situation other than flirting. I just think you are getting angry with her for no apparent reason. She does not BELONG to you.. lol 🙂
I have a issue with a Cap guy at work also that just doesn't get the hint. So I will take my dilemma to the cap board also. 🙂
"-I ask her guy friend if she likes the girl... he says yes but she doesn't want "something serious" with him "...I think you are saying you asked the cap GUY FRIEND if HE likes her and HE said yes?
To be honest I dont think she likes either of you. If I like someone I would not want to get them
jealous by being all up in another mans face. She probably doesn't want to hurt either of your feelings and her friendliness may come across a flirting.
You should not be upset with her or butter hurt because based on what you wrote, she has never declared to you once her interest in you other than possible flirting.
Why do you think it was necessary to contact her on facebook? She is right, that is not the place.
It would have been better if you asked her face to face. Your response "whatever" suggest that you have not understanding or want to understand why she said facebook is not the place for that. You could have created yourself a better opportunity to tell her you liked her and asked her if she is interested or seeing someone instead of asking elsewhere.
Please give more detail on your situation other than flirting. I just think you are getting angry with her for no apparent reason. She does not BELONG to you.. lol 🙂
I have a issue with a Cap guy at work also that just doesn't get the hint. So I will take my dilemma to the cap board also. 🙂
You are young..move on...lol 😉 don't stress yourself
I'm not angry... umm okay I was angry.. but I figured it was my own problem... I haven't been able to find love in my life and that makes me mad.
I know I'm young... I'm a smart rock musician and handsome med student(yeah I'm arrogant too... sorry about that)
Yeah you're right she doesn't belong to me... but I think I want her? she is smart and I find her attractive. I like smart and attractive people!
Figures maybe she doesn't even like any of us after all... meh...
How do you know if Aquarius girl likes you?
Or am I supposed to just move on and forget her?
I can't aceept that... I want her lol
I know I'm young... I'm a smart rock musician and handsome med student(yeah I'm arrogant too... sorry about that)
Yeah you're right she doesn't belong to me... but I think I want her? she is smart and I find her attractive. I like smart and attractive people!
Figures maybe she doesn't even like any of us after all... meh...
How do you know if Aquarius girl likes you?
Or am I supposed to just move on and forget her?
I can't aceept that... I want her lol
And I did know why she wanted me to speak with her in person instead of facebook
I guess because you can see if the guy is real about what he is saying... the thing is I thought at that moment she wanted to stroke her ego with me saying it to her face.
I just... thought she was using me to make the other guy jealous...
I'd like to stop being so dumb and start talking to her again
I guess because you can see if the guy is real about what he is saying... the thing is I thought at that moment she wanted to stroke her ego with me saying it to her face.
I just... thought she was using me to make the other guy jealous...
I'd like to stop being so dumb and start talking to her again
Women are no different than men. If a woman really wants you, you'll know. She'll tell you. She'll show you. She may not chase a guy or "go first" but she'll def. reciprocate her interest if the guy goes first...and you did.
She didn't bite the bait b/c she's not that into you. She may think you're attractive & may flirt with you from time to time, but if she wanted more, she'd tell you. I know women can sometimes send mixed signals, but if a woman is straight up never making a move on you at all after you've shown interest then that means that she's not too interested.
Even if she does like this guy friend, why would that be grounds for you to throw a tantrum & give up on her?! She's single! She's allowed to flirt with whoever she wants! And if a guy really wants her, then he'll step up to the plate, show her why he's worth the choosing & step his game up in hopes that he'll be the lucky guy who gets her.
If she's as great a woman as you think she is, then you shouldn't be so surprised that other men find her just as attractive like you do.
Don't have a double standard. When a man is single, he's expected to not only flirt around with multiple women but to also have multiple women that are interested in him. If a bunch of women backed off from men simply b/c they were too concerned about the competition, men wouldn't even have options to begin with!! lol
Tell her how you feel. Stop being so timid. Rejection is the worst that can happen. And you're a big boy so take that risk if you really like her. 2 things will happen: She'll either 1. Surprise you by showing a mutual interest on a level potentially further than friendship OR 2. She'll slightly let you down.
Being rejected & told what it is up front is a helluva lot better than constantly having to wonder, guess forever or overanalyze little small details/actions that may not even be significant.
Just ask her. And if she admits that she's friend-zoned you, then yes move on. There's too many fish in the sea to continue chasing the 1 person on earth, out of 7+ billion, that may not think you're "the one." She may not want to be caught (by you), & if that's the case, then spare yourself an ego-crashing later on and stop chasing her.
She didn't bite the bait b/c she's not that into you. She may think you're attractive & may flirt with you from time to time, but if she wanted more, she'd tell you. I know women can sometimes send mixed signals, but if a woman is straight up never making a move on you at all after you've shown interest then that means that she's not too interested.
Even if she does like this guy friend, why would that be grounds for you to throw a tantrum & give up on her?! She's single! She's allowed to flirt with whoever she wants! And if a guy really wants her, then he'll step up to the plate, show her why he's worth the choosing & step his game up in hopes that he'll be the lucky guy who gets her.
If she's as great a woman as you think she is, then you shouldn't be so surprised that other men find her just as attractive like you do.
Don't have a double standard. When a man is single, he's expected to not only flirt around with multiple women but to also have multiple women that are interested in him. If a bunch of women backed off from men simply b/c they were too concerned about the competition, men wouldn't even have options to begin with!! lol
Tell her how you feel. Stop being so timid. Rejection is the worst that can happen. And you're a big boy so take that risk if you really like her. 2 things will happen: She'll either 1. Surprise you by showing a mutual interest on a level potentially further than friendship OR 2. She'll slightly let you down.
Being rejected & told what it is up front is a helluva lot better than constantly having to wonder, guess forever or overanalyze little small details/actions that may not even be significant.
Just ask her. And if she admits that she's friend-zoned you, then yes move on. There's too many fish in the sea to continue chasing the 1 person on earth, out of 7+ billion, that may not think you're "the one." She may not want to be caught (by you), & if that's the case, then spare yourself an ego-crashing later on and stop chasing her.
Oh my god... I love you
I need this kind of things... you know when people remind me I'm actually very dumb sometimes and I'm overthinking this stuff
but do you think I should tell her I like her? just like that?
I mean we just started talking again... shouldn't I wait like... a bit?
I'm the typical cap guy who needs to be completely sure about it... you know, like... If I really want to do this... If I really should do this.
Thanks
I need this kind of things... you know when people remind me I'm actually very dumb sometimes and I'm overthinking this stuff
but do you think I should tell her I like her? just like that?
I mean we just started talking again... shouldn't I wait like... a bit?
I'm the typical cap guy who needs to be completely sure about it... you know, like... If I really want to do this... If I really should do this.
Thanks
So many variables. Make a decision and hold your breath.
"I left butthurt," adorable lol. You're expecting too much, I think.You should accept her friendship since they make great friends and also move on that way you won't get hurt if she wants to fool around with him. If she comes around eventually, thats a bonus but try not to sell yourself short kid.
She probably likes you... Maybe she wants a sign that you like her. Don't worry about some other guy who likes her, if she wanted to be with him, she would be. Go with it, be friendly and keep communicating.
🙂
🙂
" I tell her in facebook that I actually like her but she seems quite busy with her college guy friend
-Whatever... I tell her it doesn't matter and that I don't want drama in my life
-I stop talking to her from then on"
Cap, YOU sound like a drama queen. You already told her off on FB (for having an admirer?!) and broke up emotionally with her. What is you DON"T like about her? That she is popular and friendly? Aren't these good news?
I would ask her for a date if I were you. See if you get one. Go on a few dates with her, and if you get on well, THEN talk about exclusivity.
When young Capricorn Michael Schumacher met his future wife Corinna, she was dating another racing driver. Schumi swept her off her feet, like the determined and competitive guy he was. And no, he wasn't even rich and famous back then. Take example from the best of your kin.
-Whatever... I tell her it doesn't matter and that I don't want drama in my life
-I stop talking to her from then on"
Cap, YOU sound like a drama queen. You already told her off on FB (for having an admirer?!) and broke up emotionally with her. What is you DON"T like about her? That she is popular and friendly? Aren't these good news?
I would ask her for a date if I were you. See if you get one. Go on a few dates with her, and if you get on well, THEN talk about exclusivity.
When young Capricorn Michael Schumacher met his future wife Corinna, she was dating another racing driver. Schumi swept her off her feet, like the determined and competitive guy he was. And no, he wasn't even rich and famous back then. Take example from the best of your kin.
I know that "butt hurt" comment was so cute lol...
Hope it works out 🙂
Hope it works out 🙂
Posted by Undine
" I tell her in facebook that I actually like her but she seems quite busy with her college guy friend
-Whatever... I tell her it doesn't matter and that I don't want drama in my life
-I stop talking to her from then on"
Cap, YOU sound like a drama queen. You already told her off on FB (for having an admirer?!) and broke up emotionally with her. What is you DON"T like about her? That she is popular and friendly? Aren't these good news?
I would ask her for a date if I were you. See if you get one. Go on a few dates with her, and if you get on well, THEN talk about exclusivity.
When young Capricorn Michael Schumacher met his future wife Corinna, she was dating another racing driver. Schumi swept her off her feet, like the determined and competitive guy he was. And no, he wasn't even rich and famous back then. Take example from the best of your kin.
some cap guys are a tough act to follow.
Oh, cappy, cappy. It's hard for us caps not to get our way isn't it? It's like we get this scenario in our head of how things will play out, how we want it to play out (yes, we spend way too much time thinking) and when things don't play out like we wanted, or like we hope, it's hard not to be disappointed and well, just pissed off - EVEN though we know we're being irrational or not fair to the other person. LOGICALLY, we know not to get butt hurt, but emotionally, we do. Yes, caps have emotions!
I will tell you being with an aqua is NOT easy for a cap - in the beginning. We caps, especially the males, like to get the ball rolling, set forth things in motion, push things to go the way we want them - but an aqua will resist, resist, resist. An aqua is their own person and no one is going to make them go about the way that person wants. An aqua will rebel if they think, even the slightest little bit, that that person is pushing them or "directing" them.
Have to be subtle and non-pushy with an aqua.
Best thing to do is build the friendship, give the aqua lots of loose string, and let the aqua pull the slack out of the cord. No other way to do it. Hard for a cap who's used to getting what the want and taking charge of situations (yes, we try to take charge in relationships too, especially the men).
Be patient. You, as a cap, have the patience gene. You must allow the aqua to feel like they have the freedom and make yourself attractive to the aqua (I don't mean physically, I mean spiritually, intelligently, and wit wise - use that personality of yours) so that the aqua WANTS to draw in closer to you. Must be the aqua's choice.
You will have your patience tested. If they are interested, it will become well known and they will recognize and appreciate that you were patient with them.
- From one cap in a relationship with an aqua to another interested in an aqua
I will tell you being with an aqua is NOT easy for a cap - in the beginning. We caps, especially the males, like to get the ball rolling, set forth things in motion, push things to go the way we want them - but an aqua will resist, resist, resist. An aqua is their own person and no one is going to make them go about the way that person wants. An aqua will rebel if they think, even the slightest little bit, that that person is pushing them or "directing" them.
Have to be subtle and non-pushy with an aqua.
Best thing to do is build the friendship, give the aqua lots of loose string, and let the aqua pull the slack out of the cord. No other way to do it. Hard for a cap who's used to getting what the want and taking charge of situations (yes, we try to take charge in relationships too, especially the men).
Be patient. You, as a cap, have the patience gene. You must allow the aqua to feel like they have the freedom and make yourself attractive to the aqua (I don't mean physically, I mean spiritually, intelligently, and wit wise - use that personality of yours) so that the aqua WANTS to draw in closer to you. Must be the aqua's choice.
You will have your patience tested. If they are interested, it will become well known and they will recognize and appreciate that you were patient with them.
- From one cap in a relationship with an aqua to another interested in an aqua
Oh, want to add, though, once we get past those initial hurdles with the aqua, and things settle into a relationship or friendship status, it makes for a pretty good relationship.
Both have to build trust. Once that's done, it gets way, way easier.
🙂
Both have to build trust. Once that's done, it gets way, way easier.
🙂
Posted by Capricorn808
Oh my god... I love you
I need this kind of things... you know when people remind me I'm actually very dumb sometimes and I'm overthinking this stuff
but do you think I should tell her I like her? just like that?
I mean we just started talking again... shouldn't I wait like... a bit?
I'm the typical cap guy who needs to be completely sure about it... you know, like... If I really want to do this... If I really should do this.
Thanks
You said this
"I haven't been able to find love in my life and that makes me mad."
Well, could it possibly be because you haven't been willing to take the risk of reaching out.
I know us caps need to feel reassured that we won't be rejected, however, aquas are like that too. Aquas actually want people to make the first move.
Someone has to do it, sooooo, guess what? You're a cardinal sign. That's your job to get the ball rolling. lol! (just remember what I said before - subtle and gentle, not pushy).
🙂
I know I prefer to be friends first with a guy, to see if in fact he is someone I am interested in romantically. However, if someone is putting pressure on me for more, when I haven't suggested that I would like to be more than just friends, then I back off and put space between us. Being flirtatious doesn't count as expressing romantic interest in my book.
My advice to you, stop thinking about it, let go and have fun and explore/enjoy your friendship with her. If you are unable to let go of the idea of wanting to be with her, then I would move on, otherwise, this will end badly.
My advice to you, stop thinking about it, let go and have fun and explore/enjoy your friendship with her. If you are unable to let go of the idea of wanting to be with her, then I would move on, otherwise, this will end badly.
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I'm a Cap guy 22yo... Girl is Aquarius and same age... here goes the story!
-Met girl in college
-She starts being flirty with me
-I start liking girl and flirt back
-This girl throws house party... she invites me
-I go to party
-Her college guy friend is there
-She is flirty with her college guy friend, he tries to make moves on her (he tries to touch her legs) but she rejects his advances...
-She is also flirty with me
-What the hell? I get confused
-I ask her guy friend if she likes the girl... he says yes but she doesn't want "something serious" with him
-I leave party butthurt, drunk and jealous because I don't know what's going on!
-I tell her in facebook that I actually like her but she seems quite busy with her college guy friend
-She says that such things are not to be discussed in facebook
-Whatever... I tell her it doesn't matter and that I don't want drama in my life
-I stop talking to her from then on
-She still talks with her college guy friend... he seems to be interested in her but everyone at college think he is already friend zoned and she just seems to be friendly with him.
-Months later she starts being friendly with me every now and then...
-I don't know if I should pursue her or just forget her... I don't want to be used... I don't know if she likes her guy friend or if she really likes me
BTW her guy friend is also a capricorn dude....
What do I do? Heard Aquarius girls like their men to be friends first....
I don't know... what if she is using me to make her guy friend jealous?
Or is she using him to make me jealous?
Or maybe she just doesn't like any of us?
man.... I don't know what to do.
Thanks for your time again!