This is the second aquarian i've been dating. the first one was my bf for a year but this guy is really different. We were dating for a month and then all of a sudden he just didnt call me or text me. but everytime we see each other in our common activity he will come to me and talk and until one day he came back texting and calling me. Before I was thinking that he is just playing but when i read one of the posts here describing the aqaurians, i understand his behaviour. So i thought we have the mutual feelings. He is calling me, texting me but didnt ask me to go out again. I really like this guy, wnat to know him better. We dont have the formal relationship as gf and bf but i know and can feel that he likes me also. The other night he came to me and talk asking how am i. then when i came home i just text him saying goodnight and wishing him a good sleep until he called. We had some fun talking to each other until we talked about sex. We had SOP. We ended up both happy but the next day i was expecting that he will call me but he didnt. Until today he is not talking to me. do you think that he thinks im too easy. Do u think that it turned him off? I sent him a message yesterday asking how he is and the second text asking is there something wrong. I learned from one the post here to limit the texting, calling and im trying to understand him, giving him the space he wants. But as a cancer, i couldnt help being emotional. I want this relationship to grow more. but what should i do? Does the suggestions/rules for the aqaurius i read from this post also applies for me/him?
Confused...
has he called or text since you asked him if something was wrong ?
no until now i didnt receive any text or call from...

moirah, give him space. You've already sent him 3 text messages. He hasn't called after the phone sex, so let him make the next move. From my experience, Aquas love that type of thing (phone sex) and they really don't see it as an intimate thing. Don't call or text him; let him decide when to contact you. Aquas don't rush relationships and since you haven't told him that you would like to see him more, he's out doing his thing and so should you!
thanks houstonpeach74. i really like hearing comments/posts like this. it helps me not to contact him. He did this before. i thought it was my fault before. i just let him on what he wants to do, gave him his space. then one day, he returned and communicate again. i hope that he will be back again...
I agree don't call, he will call you. My aqua loves the whole sop thing , you didn't do anything wrong. Just be patience he will call you.
But why are they like that? is this guy shy of what he did? I admit i did that for him also. I want him to enjoy and since we are both living and working far from home. The first time he started talking about it, i told him that i'm feeling uncomfortable and he told me that he felt embarrassed. So this time I did it. And until now, he is not calling me...I dont want to push myself. I think 2 text messages are enough. I find this so difficult not to talk to him but if this will be the better thing to do I am doing it...
I do not know what's on his mind.. I think its better to be silent for now...
I do not know what's on his mind.. I think its better to be silent for now...

"The first time he started talking about it, i told him that i'm feeling uncomfortable and he told me that he felt embarrassed."
Seems like you shut him down...he just doesnt know what to say to you yet, so i guess you just have to stay patient.
Seems like you shut him down...he just doesnt know what to say to you yet, so i guess you just have to stay patient.
I mean Lady M, this is the second time he talked about it. The first time was last month when everything was ok. I think that night he wanted to do it. BUt when he started talking abouit it, i told him that im feeling uncomfortable. the next day after that, he called me to apologize. and now this time, I agreed to talk about it. I asked him if he is enjoying and said yes. And i can feel that he was really enjoying. after that he told me that he is going to talk tomrrow but he didnt talk to me at all... I am thinking that he is so shy on what he did coz he is a silent type of person. I really want to talk to him before he spend his vacation back home...

seriously, moirah, let him make the next move. i'm afraid if you contact him again and he doesn't call you, it will only hurt you more.
you know what yesterday night, i had an urge to call him but i really fought that urge and thought of the posts here. i am also afraid that if im going to call him and then he doesnt answer, i will be back to zero again...
i know that in my experience you have to give them space and let them call. i know it sounds like he's in control but he is, he has to be. but if you back off...he'll call.
Oh guys i have to confess...due to my urge to call, i wasnt able to fight it anymore. i sent him a text, just a quote giving him a smile...and he text back sending that smile back to me and saying that he made it big just for me..then last night we were texting each other nothing serious. didnt ask him what happened just talking...
anyway he is leaving tonight back home for couple of weeks vacation. will have enough time i think. for now i want to forget him and want to have my own life.
im really confused of him. when i first met him, he looked so interested and he made the first move. always giving me a big smile and asked me for a date. calling me everyday (even he is at his work). not always seeing each other i think at least once a week in our common activity then once a week dating. and he even told me that he doesnt want me to go dating others. i asked him the reason and he said that its not good that im dating others and im dating him (especially his colleague). and he added that its like a man dating different girls. he wanted it to be exclusive. so i agreed coz i understand his point. i didnt date anyone else except for him. and everything runs smoothly. then one day, he called me but im not on the mood to talk but i still talked to him nicely ( that time i felt that something was missing - maybe he's spending more time with his friends and activity than me - being emotional as cancer does) asking me is there something wrong and told him nothing is wrong. was asking him why did he call then just answered me he wanted to. he asked me if i want him to stop calling and answered if he will not call i will miss him. then that night i was waiting for his call as he said he would, but didnt get any. i wondered what was wrong. told him (on sms) does it mean he will just talk if he likes then will not if doesnt feel it. but he didnt answer. i feel exhausted. so i stopped texting him. but everytime we see each other in our common activity, he will come to me and talk.
then one night in our common activity, he came to me and said that i looked so nice. and again here the mr. aqua goes texting and calling me everyday. and he knows how to say sorry if i called then wasnt able to reply. until that night when we had the SOP. the next day, Mr. aqua guy is missing again.
anyway he is leaving tonight back home for couple of weeks vacation. will have enough time i think. for now i want to forget him and want to have my own life.
im really confused of him. when i first met him, he looked so interested and he made the first move. always giving me a big smile and asked me for a date. calling me everyday (even he is at his work). not always seeing each other i think at least once a week in our common activity then once a week dating. and he even told me that he doesnt want me to go dating others. i asked him the reason and he said that its not good that im dating others and im dating him (especially his colleague). and he added that its like a man dating different girls. he wanted it to be exclusive. so i agreed coz i understand his point. i didnt date anyone else except for him. and everything runs smoothly. then one day, he called me but im not on the mood to talk but i still talked to him nicely ( that time i felt that something was missing - maybe he's spending more time with his friends and activity than me - being emotional as cancer does) asking me is there something wrong and told him nothing is wrong. was asking him why did he call then just answered me he wanted to. he asked me if i want him to stop calling and answered if he will not call i will miss him. then that night i was waiting for his call as he said he would, but didnt get any. i wondered what was wrong. told him (on sms) does it mean he will just talk if he likes then will not if doesnt feel it. but he didnt answer. i feel exhausted. so i stopped texting him. but everytime we see each other in our common activity, he will come to me and talk.
then one night in our common activity, he came to me and said that i looked so nice. and again here the mr. aqua goes texting and calling me everyday. and he knows how to say sorry if i called then wasnt able to reply. until that night when we had the SOP. the next day, Mr. aqua guy is missing again.
confusing... i read the posts here saying that they are unpredictable and yes they are right. trying to understand and not to be so emotional (which is difficult for me since i am a cancer). for now i will let him go and be happy on my life. but it doesnt mean that im closing my door for him...
i have done that (SOP) and im having regrets on it. But as we all know we cant bring back the past anymore. so what should i do now—

moir, the general consensus is to move on, but it appears that you're hoping we'd say something opposite than that. i'm done with this thread.
I swear its like a game with them......
oh, but you must admit...you love it!!! it makes it a lot more interesting 😉
Im back. I did. avoid calling him. will just react when i know that he is here again. last thursday we are ok. He was asking me when we will go out again and just answered him anytime coz its the truth. BUt when i gave him the qusetion back he said depends on his work schedule. And I beleived on him. Friday i called him and had a good talk. But yesterday oh! What is this. after going to mall on my own, i was on the taxi going him, here's the aqua...i saw him with my two eyes with another chick.. of course what i felt wasreally bad dont know what to say or do. it really hurts. after trusting everything he says, he did that to me. i sent him a message and said "thanks. i know now". just ignored me. until now he didnt call me. i really want a day to come that he come back to me and asking my attention. i want that day to come that he would be the one to need me. how i wish! but dont know if it would come or how could it happen. do u know some other techniques—
Hmmm...moirah- Mr. Aqua appears to have more than one female friend. Does this work for you? If your answer is - NO! Then like most everyone has stated here, it is time for you to move on with your life. Why do you even have a desire for him to come back to you? Do you enjoy feeling hurt?
I know that Aquas have many pals and there is nothing wrong with that...who knows, he could have just been out with her "as a friend"....the kicker here is - SOMETHING DOES NOT FEEL RIGHT TO YOU. Learn to trust that inner feeling of yours and stop letting the mind take you off course - this is where discombobulation enters our lives.
Best of wishes to you moirah-
I know that Aquas have many pals and there is nothing wrong with that...who knows, he could have just been out with her "as a friend"....the kicker here is - SOMETHING DOES NOT FEEL RIGHT TO YOU. Learn to trust that inner feeling of yours and stop letting the mind take you off course - this is where discombobulation enters our lives.
Best of wishes to you moirah-
Freebird, yes it is normal for them to have many female friends. That is ok with me. But the case here is he told me before that what he likes is an exclusive dating. He only wants me to date him which i agreed and asked him the same. i thought we understand each other. but we didnt. I think he can not talk to me now coz he is afraid of confrontations..Maybe we might met on thursday where ther is a party for our common activity. If I meet him there, what do you think should I do?

Moirah, you're a glutton for punishment. Don't give this guy the time of day. when you saw him and the other girl at the mall, were they kissing or holding hands? This guy could easily have female friends just like us girls have male friends whom we hang out with. And if this guy didn't see you at the mall and you sent him that "now I know" message, of course he's not going to respond because he pbly thinks you're a fruitloop for sending an incoherent message.
If this guy hurts you this much, walk away.
If this guy hurts you this much, walk away.
they were holding hands. looking for a taxi and at that time i was in the taxi.
moirah-
It seems to me that you are not really seeing the truth here- your Aqua pal is clearly interested in another woman if holding hands - as least I would take it to mean so.
Girl...ya gotta get your kahoonas up and working, right now - they are lying dormant within yourself and it is time to release who you are and stand up for what you believe in and how you desire to be treated. Right now, you are allowing yourself to be treated like a "doormat" what's up with that? Do you not feel that you deserve to be treated better and loved more? These are the REAL issues here - this is what you need to be looking at along with why you are making the choices that you are.
Be glad for this experience because for you - it is bringing forth the opportunity to realize your self empowerment.
You have two choices and you need to pick one and STICK TO IT...make a commitment to yourself and then honor that commitment and YOU!
1- stay with the guy...be in a constant state of pain and confusion...experience lack of joy and peace...allow your self esteem to lower...lose your mind...
2- move on and get to know who you are and what you want...be happy with yourself...love yourself...do things that honour yourself(which will then bring others to you who will also honour you)...be open to experience peace...joy and love...have fun living a life!
This IS your life - you must choose and then deal with the consequences of your choice.
Good luck
It seems to me that you are not really seeing the truth here- your Aqua pal is clearly interested in another woman if holding hands - as least I would take it to mean so.
Girl...ya gotta get your kahoonas up and working, right now - they are lying dormant within yourself and it is time to release who you are and stand up for what you believe in and how you desire to be treated. Right now, you are allowing yourself to be treated like a "doormat" what's up with that? Do you not feel that you deserve to be treated better and loved more? These are the REAL issues here - this is what you need to be looking at along with why you are making the choices that you are.
Be glad for this experience because for you - it is bringing forth the opportunity to realize your self empowerment.
You have two choices and you need to pick one and STICK TO IT...make a commitment to yourself and then honor that commitment and YOU!
1- stay with the guy...be in a constant state of pain and confusion...experience lack of joy and peace...allow your self esteem to lower...lose your mind...
2- move on and get to know who you are and what you want...be happy with yourself...love yourself...do things that honour yourself(which will then bring others to you who will also honour you)...be open to experience peace...joy and love...have fun living a life!
This IS your life - you must choose and then deal with the consequences of your choice.
Good luck
those darn sneaky aquas...
Thanks to all of you. It really helps. Hope that one day i would stand in front of him - stronger and better. And have started doing that. Freebird you are right! I dont deserve him...After the last text i sent him to him (when i saw him with this girl) i never did that again.
Anyway i can avoid seeing him coz our common activity had ended already. The last time would be on thursday.
Its really hard to let him go since i am a cancer. But now I realized that it would not be good for me. Time to move on. Again thanks for your words (that makes me stronger).
Anyway i can avoid seeing him coz our common activity had ended already. The last time would be on thursday.
Its really hard to let him go since i am a cancer. But now I realized that it would not be good for me. Time to move on. Again thanks for your words (that makes me stronger).
moirah - you are very welcome, glad that I was of help to you. One correction must be made though........"I don't deserve him" change that to - " HE DOES NOT DESERVE ME!" and then you are set! 😉
You ARE a strong woman - always remember that. Perhaps this experience has come to you so that you can see what an incredibly strong woman you are. I'm very happy for your progress.
Keep that lovely smile on your face moirah 🙂
You ARE a strong woman - always remember that. Perhaps this experience has come to you so that you can see what an incredibly strong woman you are. I'm very happy for your progress.
Keep that lovely smile on your face moirah 🙂
Cheers!
i went to the party last friday and he was there too. i greeted his friends who were also there, laughed with them. i just gave him a nod not to be rude. i kept myseld distant from him. then he sent me a beer through the waitress then just nod again to say thank u. but never came near to him until he got bored and left. never talked to him until last sunday he sent me a text. he knows that i dont want to talk to him but he said he is missing our texts and chats. he said that i looked incredible that friday evening and telling me to take care of myself. i didnt reply to him. i admit that its really hard for me but now im doing my best not to talk to him. i coildnt say if he is sincere on what he was saying coz he just text me once. is it because he got a big ego? aquarians are you like that?
"he wants you to cave, and when you do, he will treat you like crap again."
-this IS what aqua men do, don't they? but, why—
-this IS what aqua men do, don't they? but, why—
yep...it is what Aqua men seem to do...dog-gone it!
From what my Aqua male pals have shared with me why they do this is due to being insecure with themselves and also...ego along with having power and control.
From what my Aqua male pals have shared with me why they do this is due to being insecure with themselves and also...ego along with having power and control.

It's you, not Aqua, fix you not them.
Yeah just give them their fix.
Don't be mean.
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