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ok, so he sent me a text today and that is the first interaction since are talk. he was sending me a link to download an ablum that is not out yet, that I didn't ask for but he knows I lke this artist's music. i didn't reply, I am happy that he told me the truth but just don't know if he has put me in just pure friend mode or he is still interested in me romantically( meaning liking me more as a friend but just not ready for more )

I mean't more than a friend but not ready for more

you said in another thread that he said he was not ready....so believe him when he says it. be his friend or move on.

you're in friends mode and that's important to an aqua. you have to be his friend first before he pursues anything romantic with you.

yes, you are in friends mode...but take that as a compliment from an aqua...b/c it is very important to them...maybe he WANTS to see that you are capable of just being his friend before taking it to the next level...

don't mean to sound like a broken record but he is so confusing, when minute where dating the next minute hes telling me he regrets letting me go now I am in friend mode! uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuggggggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. thanks

Yeah crushbuddy I know, aquas can be a right pain in the arse.....

its like why come back at all, if your still confused!!!!!!! I happy that he told me the truth its hard not to be a little pissed at him.

should I thank him or just ignore him ?

its kinda hard when you have already been down this road before.

crushbuddy...you must stop analyzing everything and just go with it... or just eliminate him from your life completely if you cannot do that...

crush, you're analyzing everything he says and does so much that you're going to get to the point that just thinking about him pisses you off.

stop analyzing everything. it's ok to analyze some things, but not everything. you can't control his thought process.

he sent you a link; that was nice of him. say thanks and leave it at that.

starfish...i know, i do analyze a lot with my aqua as well...i think it is kind of hard not to with an aqua b/c they can be very confusing. i mean, we wouldn't all be on here right now if we didn't analyze or wonder what's up with them...right?
i am pretty bummed out with my aqua right now b/c he hasn't called me in 2 days...so i might not be the best person to ask about aqua men right now 😉

Well honestly i hadn't planned on replying. He sent that at 9 this morning. the thing is I know that if I want to hang out with him he would be with it because he never said that he wanted to stop doing that. I know its pretty much how I want to handle it. I can't even count how many times he ignored my texts sometimes.

it's ok for all of us to analyze to an extent. if we didn't, we'd be accused of having no emotions and of being detached. it's not just aqua men that are confusing; it every man in every dang zodiac! i'm over analyzing with the Libra in my life right now. we're all very good at handing out advice to other people who oddly enough are going through almost the same thing as us...yet it's funny how we tend to think that our problem is more complex and everyone else is just being irrational.

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I find sometimes that the boards are good for analyzing aka venting out what you want to say but know that you shouldn't... I suggest putting in the thread what you would say to him and ignore him for a while in real life UNTIL he is ready for more... once you let out the emotional response somehow then you can act like the cool cat he might still desire, y'know? He doesn't want to hear from you as anything but a friend, so be that bright and cheery friend that has a no touch policy!!! (And if you need us, we're here to listen.)

ladyvie, lol....venting...that's exactly what I did on the Libra board this morning!

thanks so much, this board has helped me tremendously with my situation. it is hard I must say because I really was hoping things would be different this time around especially since he says that he regrets that we didn't have a clean start before. but i would rather tell you guys what I'm thinking then tell him thats for sure.

Starfish, i hate when they do that !

they can be so mean when they want to but your right they hate it when you do it to them.

"it is hard I must say because I really was hoping things would be different this time around"

Hi Crushbuddy-

I have read your post regarding your Aqual pal and the mystery behind his actions causing much confusion for you. Relationships can be difficult or they can be easy...when we have an expectation of how someone or a relationship "should" be and that expectation is not met - then we do become confused (as in your above statement). We are expecting rather then letting the relationship/person just "be" accepting it for what it is. If this causes too much confusion, anxiety, loss of power/self then perhaps it is time to let go. We can never change anyone and it will drive one crazy to attempt to do so.

Remember all relationships are learning experiences teaching us more about who we are.

Best wishes to you CB!

"My Aqua friend told me one time, Im not ignoring you I just didn't respond."

-that is what they think though, b/c that is how my aqua bf has responded as well. i text messaged him once, and then spoke on the phone to him that night and asked if he had gotten my text message earlier that day (wink, wink, nod, nod type thing) and he said "yeah, was i supposed to respond to it or something?"... i just rolled my eyes and said "no, i guess not".

Freebird, thanks for the message. the truth is I did expect more because he told me that he regrets letting me go, so I took that and probably got to caught up in the statement. So yes i was hoping he was coimng back because he realized that he made a huge mistake letting me go. And honestly his actions so far have not shown me that. thats the part of me that is angry at myself for not asking up front why he was initiating stuff again. I thought he was sure.

i don't know if they are ever sure...

mc, tell me about. I feel like they never put themselves in our shoes because if they did I don't know how they could not see how there shit comes across sometimes.

i believe that they are so confused themselves, that it leaves us confused about them.

your probably right