Do Aquarius get more aloof with age??

So from your experience/opinion, do Aquarius tend to get more distant as they get older? From what I've seen, they went all out and being affectionate/paying attention to the girl of their interest when they were in their 20s and usually 30s. But as they get older (ie. in their 40s), I'm not sure if it's them being cynical about relationships or what but I don't see that same enthusiasm or interest shown to the person they care about. Is that true from your observation as well? When do you know when an Aqua is aloof/distant and when he's truly no longer interested? Do you show it differently or do we just have to guess? 🙂

I find that as I get older there is no reason to be more aloof than I already am. I am very affectionate with my husband and my friends. I know this is a major difference from the younger me. So I would have to say no.

The only thing that would make me more aloof now, is if something changed within the relationship that I am in. Aquarius put up a wall (ie. aloofness) between us and others to protect ourselves and to let you know (if we havent already said it verbally) something is not right.

My boyfriend of 5 months is an Aqua in his early forties. I have yet to see a sign of aloofness from him. He likes holding hands, cuddles and kisses, even in public places, calls or texts me in average 10 times a day and meets me as often as he can. He has a delightful smile on his face and glowing eyes for most of the time we are together. He is an adorable, gorgeous, gap toothy Aqua bear.

I suppose it has nothing to do with age, more with the novelty (among other qualities) of a relationship.

My aqua is in his 40s and sometimes he is aloof - but it's only ever through text (which can easily be misunderstood). Occasionally it does hurt, but I think I've figured out when he's aloof its because he's got something going on - working on someone's car, hanging with his son, at the grocery store, doing something for his parents. Usually, a few hours later he'll start texting me telling me what all he's been doing and I'm like "ooohhhh". I wish instead of just a few words of response, he would just say "working on my nephew's car right now" and I wouldn't think twice about it. It's that sitting there wondering why they are aloof is what will drive you crazy.

As far as the age related question, I think when we are older, it is natural to be a little more guarded if our past marriages or relationships disappointed us and didn't work out well. It's just human nature to be more discerning.

I don't know about more aloof but yeah aquas can be pretty detached. I have a really bad experience with an older aqua woman who I trusted and who betrayed me pretty badly. How I feel about her is (I'm sorry to say) coloring how I see the sign: opportunistic and manipulative. This woman used people to get work done in her house for free and never owned up to her own problems with people but had to draw in her friends to gang up on the offending party. And when the dust settled on her dust ups, it usually had to do with her sticking her nose where it didn't belong and causing huge blow outs with friends over it. On the surface she was so nice. You'd never know how cold and calculating she could be. But that's one woman and I know I shouldn't let it color the way I see the sign. Still, Cancer and Aquarius has to be the all-time worst combination, for both signs. We'd drive each other to the funny farm in no time.

Posted by Este8
I don't know about more aloof but yeah aquas can be pretty detached. I have a really bad experience with an older aqua woman who I trusted and who betrayed me pretty badly. How I feel about her is (I'm sorry to say) coloring how I see the sign: opportunistic and manipulative. This woman used people to get work done in her house for free and never owned up to her own problems with people but had to draw in her friends to gang up on the offending party. And when the dust settled on her dust ups, it usually had to do with her sticking her nose where it didn't belong and causing huge blow outs with friends over it. On the surface she was so nice. You'd never know how cold and calculating she could be. But that's one woman and I know I shouldn't let it color the way I see the sign. Still, Cancer and Aquarius has to be the all-time worst combination, for both signs. We'd drive each other to the funny farm in no time.

that's ok. I've hated so fiercely before, and tried in vain to not allow it to colour my view of a person in the past and have "attached" it to a sign or placement. My hate was so fierce that it kind of overshadowed everything else.

As for the question:

my husband doesn't think so, although honestly i am always daydreaming or lost.
Don't know if that accounts to aloofness or not, but definitely not cold. I get easily cold so i have to snuggle up to him alot to conduct his heat. (he's dominant fire...so there you go) lol

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Posted by Este8
I don't know about more aloof but yeah aquas can be pretty detached. I have a really bad experience with an older aqua woman who I trusted and who betrayed me pretty badly. How I feel about her is (I'm sorry to say) coloring how I see the sign: opportunistic and manipulative. This woman used people to get work done in her house for free and never owned up to her own problems with people but had to draw in her friends to gang up on the offending party. And when the dust settled on her dust ups, it usually had to do with her sticking her nose where it didn't belong and causing huge blow outs with friends over it. On the surface she was so nice. You'd never know how cold and calculating she could be. But that's one woman and I know I shouldn't let it color the way I see the sign. Still, Cancer and Aquarius has to be the all-time worst combination, for both signs. We'd drive each other to the funny farm in no time.

that's ok. I've hated so fiercely before, and tried in vain to not allow it to colour my view of a person in the past and have "attached" it to a sign or placement. My hate was so fierce that it kind of overshadowed everything else.

As for the question:

my husband doesn't think so, although honestly i am always daydreaming or lost.
Don't know if that accounts to aloofness or not, but definitely not cold. I get easily cold so i have to snuggle up to him alot to conduct his heat. (he's dominant fire...so there you go) lol

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I'm sorry you've had the same bad apple experiences. It's hard when you feel someone you trusted and were there for "did you wrong." But I do know that was ONE bad apple and that I really don't have a lot of experience with Aquas or of course I'd love you! Like Pisces, you cats are very humanitarian high octane thinkers. You definitely march to the beat of your own drummer and I love that about your sign. You're thinking, at its best, is "way out there" ahead of the curve.

As for your situation, Cancers are emotional and our emotions go up and down with the moon. You've got your work cut out but we're loving & loyal. This is what I can offer in the way of support. Use your amazing air signed mental powers to communicate more and check in with your husband. The more he knows what you're thinking, how

you feel, the less he will worry needlessly.

peace,
Este

Posted by Este8
you feel, the less he will worry needlessly.

peace,
Este

Thanks, Este
i honestly was just understanding where you're coming from.
it's ok to hate if you went through something bad like that. We get impressions from people all the time, and they're going to disappoint you or we elevate them in a pedastal because we get a certain impression of them and when we realise they aren't what we perceive them to be, they are just like anyone else, full of flaws and less of a pure image than before.
The more "purer" image one presents, the disappointment is more devastating. If we had seen them as mean hearted from the beginning, there probably wouldn't be such a huge disappointment.

Thank you all for your replies. A lot of what you said make sense because that's exactly what's going on with my Aqua guy. From what I've gathered, the way he approached relationships with his exes when he was younger seemed to be a bit "less guarded" than he is with me now. I asked him if it's because he's not into me as much but he said "no", just that he doesn't want to get hurt again so he wants to take it slow. And it is s-l-o-w! 🙂 He's not as affectionate as I'd like him to be, but he is who he is so I don't bother him with it. Just wondering why he's attentive sometimes while other times he's quite detached (not calling as much, not texting back, etc...). Aquas...grrrr 🙂

My aqua says "lets take it slow and see what happens". And yes, when they say slow they mean
s--l--o--w. He's been burned before and is probably very careful to make sure it doesn't happen again. When they are like this, it seems there are more tests. They want to make sure you are who you say you are and that you're worthy, because the last one they thought was worthy, just simply wasn't. I think it has to do with their trusting themselves to make a good decision this time around.

Of course, I could be way off - I'm not an aqua. Just my observation. Then again, that could be just the way a cap thinks. lol!