double the detachment...

so, lucky for me...my aqua has his mars in aqua, and i am learning that it means he is extra detached and needs his space even MORE than the typical aqua...
interesting 😉

double your pleasure...double your fun....

*chews on double-mint gum*

"You are best when unsupervised and independent in your work; at your worst when required to perform any sort of routine or overly systematized task. You're a bit on the high-strung side, and need to be sure of getting adequate relaxation and outside activities that allows the release of tensions."

-yep, this sounds like him!!! i think his biggest pet peave is being told what to do or how to do something...it must be his way and done on his time! or else the rebel comes out, and you don't want that.

thanks for the info, starfish!!!

cute, ladym 😉

at least he doesn't have all THAT and his venus in aries...like ms aqua does...🙂
then its triple trouble..and a bounch of more actions and less words!

SAY NO to Authority!

Yeah, we dont like being told what to do...its has to OUR OWN decision.

Star, where did you find the info for the combination characteristics? I'd like to know about mine.

well, his venus is in sagittarius which is just as bad, b/c it makes him even more freedom loving!

AND, he is libra moon which makes him extremely indecisive and flirty...

yeah, he is a tough one to deal with that's for sure...especially right now. he is acting very detached with me this week for some reason. i have not seen him all week, which is strange b/c we usually hang out 2-3 times a week. we were supposed to hang out last night but he said he wasn't feeling well and that he was in a bad mood. and then he texted me this morning saying how he think he has the flu b/c he was up all night getting sick.
but, he went to a concert with his buddies on tuesday and i have a feeling that he may have run into the girl that he left me for last time he broke up with me. i asked him if he had run into anyone he knew at the concert and he did not mention anyone, but why would he tell me if he did see her. and, i know that she listens to that band and i know that they went to the same concert together while they were seeing each other b/c he had told me. and ever since tuesday he has been very distant with me, not calling as much and doesn't really seem to want to see me.
so, now i am putting bad thoughts in my head and wondering if he is hanging out with her again...

well, i was thinking of driving past his house on my way home from work, since it is on my way home. i just have a weird feeling about all of this...and this is exactly how he acted before he left me last time.
i even texted him to see how he was feeling and he did text me back and then i texted back again saying if he needed anything to let me know, and i have not heard back from him still...that was an hour ago.

i am not going to accuse him of anything b/c i do not have proof...i just find it strange that ever since tuesday he has become more distant with me.

well, he texted me early this morning and told me how he was up all night feeling sick, and then i texted him back, and then he called me. so, we spoke for a little while this morning on the phone. i texted him this afternoon just to see how he was feeling and then he got back to me a couple of hours later, probably b/c he was resting. we text each other b/c i am at work, and i can't really sit here and talk on my phone...so it is just easier to text him.
when i am not at work we talk on the phone to each other...

i just don't know why i am having this weird feeling...i wonder if it is just me putting bad thoughts in my head, or if i am having this feeling for a reason.

well, he told me to give him a call later on when i spoke with him this morning...

i think it is hard for me too b/c he left me at this same exact time last year, so i am constantly reminded of it...

yeah, well he doesn't so much like it when i just "drop by"...without calling first. i have done that in the past when he was sick, trying to be the considerate girlfriend, and i got yelled at for it. i guess it was too much invasion of his space...
but, that makes me wonder sometimes. is he hiding something from me—

MC,

I'm curious about something. I'm an Aqua female so I can relate very well to how Aquarians are. However, I always believe in fairness. So my question is, does your boyfriend ever pop up unannounced at your place? I ask this because it sounds very odd for him to yell at you when you come unannounced since you are his girlfriend.

NO, never!!! well, one time he did come to see me at my work unannounced after we had been broken up for a month and a half b/c he said he wanted to see me...ugh, even though he was dating another girl at the time...anyway, that's another story!

no, he does not show up at my work or my home. and he never calls my work either...and he only calls me on my cell phone while i am at work when he has something important to tell me...so, he does respect my privacy and my time as well...

mystical...ok, so i am not the only one who finds it strange that i am not able to swing by and say hello...and you are an aqua yourself, and you find it strange.
i just wonder if he is hiding something from me, ya know...

leokitten...even if i called first and said i am coming over, he would probably say no...or he would have an excuse for me not to come over.

i just feel sick to my stomach right now...

yes he is sick right now and stayed home from work all day...
he went to the concert with three of his buddies, but i have a feeling she may have been there b/c they went to the same concert together when they were dating over the summer. he didn't call me that night, but i called him before he went to the concert. he texted me a picture from the concert that night, and then he called me first thing the next morning...but he has been acting distant and weird since the night of the concert.

I was seeing a double aqua too 🙂 Aqua Mars and Aries Venus (like moi =D) Little older but you'd never know, he looks younger! I would have guessed 24 max but he's actually 29. He used to call me often and then I stopped taking his calls so he only calls once in a while now. It was fun and spontaneous and even a little different which I liked. The 'connection' wasn't there though. And what moves fast, jams fast lol

I wouldn't call him detached though...? He was actually very attentive when we were together and I even saw some signs of jealousy in him. Nice 😉 haha but other than that... he was very aqua-ish. That Aqua/Aqua description fits him almost to a tee. I couldn't even contemplate dating him... our eyes see in such different shades that I can't even imagine where we'd find the tolerance lol

Hah! Speaking of the devil... he just called me hahaha. Guess we have a date. A friendly date since I'll be in his town next week and he's been holding onto something that's mine... which... I suspect he kept on purpose. That sneaky aqua lol

Okay, so I get it now. He shows you the same respect and he expects you to give to him the same with not popping up announced. However, when you are dating someone, it shouldn't always have to be planned out first. Heck, he's an Aquarian. Usually, Aquarians like to be spontaneous. Well, I love being that way. I do think it's strange he would yell at you for showing up unannounced. However, if it was something you did constantly, then he'd have a point to be annoyed. I don't get the feeling you are like that. If he is hiding something, is a tricky one. Do not try and pry at him because that will get him annoyed with you. You don't want to give him an excuse to end things. Some people act a certain way purposedly so they can get the ammunition needed to end things. I've never acted this way but I've had friends who act like this and I don't think it's acceptable behavior. As you probably already know regarding Aquarians, you have to stimulate them mentally, like get in their head which isn't an easy thing to do. He does care for you a great deal since the two of you got back together again. However, what you must do, is keep things interesting and light. No heavy emotions. I know it's hard to do because you love him and want to show him how much he means to you. Right now, he says he's been sick with the flu. Leave him be then. Don't contact him, even though he told you to call him today. I say this because he needs his time to get better. Also you have a gut feeling about the other girl. Your emotions are running high. Therefore take a breather and calm down. Don't think negative thoughts because that can cloud your judgement. Have faith in him. I understand that he's acting the same way he did when he broke up with you the first time. Please don't let him sense your insecurity about that. You never want a guy to know he has power like that. I've done it myself with a guy and let me tell you, afterwards I felt like crap and emotionally drained. I learnt my lesson.

i don't necessarily know that he cheated on me with her, but he was hanging out with her and going to see her at her work (a bar) while we were still together. he has told me that he did not have sex with her or hook up with her while we were still together, so i can only go by his word.
yes, i am having problems right now b/c he has already left me for another girl once...so i always wonder if he will do it again. and being a cancer, it is hard for me to forget the past and to let go of what happened.
when he got back together with me he told me he would do whatever it takes to be back with me and all he wanted was for us to be happy together. he realized he lost a great thing, and he said that he was going to work on his issues and do whatever he could b/c he loves me. so, i believe his intention was to start over and his goal was for us to be happy with one another.
he has no plans this weekend, except that he is going biking on sunday. we are supposed to hang out tonight, but now he doesn't feel well. so i have a feeling he won't want to see me, again...

thanks girls, i appreciate it!!!

Hey, I'm glad I can help in any way I can. I'm an Aqua myself so I know I'd be annoyed. When I say I'm going to call someone, I do it. In my opinion MC's boyfriend should have said he would call her later on, and not asked for her to call him. What's that?

Yeah, go out and have some fun. Please, don't let your boyfriend have too much control over you. You must show him you are a social butterfly who does very well on her own. Aquas love people who are independent. Also never let him see you are still worried about him leaving you for another girl. Oh, please, don't do that. He might feel he has the upperhand in the relationship.

Also you say the two of you are suppose to hang out. Well, how it is that suppose to happen, if he doesn't call you. I guess it is that you are suppose to call him to see if he's better to be able to hang out. Well, you should not call him. There is no need. By you not calling him, will show you where his head is at if he calls you wondering what happened to you. You have to keep him wondering.

woah woah woah....

Arent we all jumping to conclusions ladies...can we please give the sick man a pass. This is just last year memory jitters...for now...

Oh I always agree with unusualcancer...aqua conossieur (sp)

Starfish, how do you figure it out if you aquas friends birthday is FEB 1st ?

well, i found out why he doesn't call me anymore...and he has been having me call him lately. he told me it is b/c i never answer my phone when he calls, so he is tired of calling and having that happen. he would rather me call him so this does not happen.

anyway, we did spend saturday together b/c he was feeling a lot better. so we did see each other over the weekend and everything was fine!

mc, glad it all worked out. hopefully you can breathe a little eaiser now.

"Btw, my mr. aqua friend is also Aqua/Aqua!"

-LOL!!! how funny...yeah, lucky us! well, i guess you can relate to my issues then.

starfish...yeah, well he feels i don't answer my phone on purpose which is not true and i have tried to reassure him of that. so, in return he thinks i should be the one to call now...so, yeah it is childish and it is also his insecurities showing.

it is very childish!!! I guess thats his way of not putting hiself out or whatever he wants to call it. They do things sometimes that are so childish.

starfish...since we got back together, i do not call him ever. well, i return his phone calls, but i am not the first to call. i decided to give that up a while ago...
so, i think he has gotten to the point now where he is questioning why i don't ever call him. and so, i told him that i don't like calling him b/c i don't want to catch him at a bad time, etc. he then said that i can call him anytime i want to...that i wouldn't be bothering him or anything like that...he wanted me to know that i can feel ok with calling him at any time of the day, whenever i need to...

i agree with you...it is silly of him. also, on saturday night when we were together...i was talking about my christmas party that i am having and i was saying how i feel pathetic b/c i only invited like 20-25 people, and i feel like i don't have many friends anymore, etc. so, he says to me "how do you look at me then? you must think i am really pathetic b/c i only have 5 good friends..." and he went on and on...but i just looked at him and was like huh—? i was talking about myself and he took it is me saying he is pathetic...very insecure, right?
i wish he understood that i love him regardless if he has 1 friend or hundreds of friends, that is insignificant to me. but, i cannot change his insecurities...

yep...that is how my aqua is...very insecure, but i don't know why!!! he is gorgeous, has a perfect body, has a good job, great friends and family...etc. not to mention a fabulous girlfriend 😉
anyway, i just don't get it either...

Moonchild are you a June or July cancer?

i am a july cancer...july 8

I hold up my hand as being an insecure aqua lady. I pees me off actually. And I am with a June cancer at the moment and I am experiencing these unpleasant feelings with him. But he's a June Cancer and I reckon they have a high degree of gemini in them.

"i found out why he doesn't call me anymore...and he has been having me call him lately. he told me it is b/c i never answer my phone when he calls, so he is tired of calling and having that happen. he would rather me call him so this does not happen."

I do the same. What do you expect from a people who barely like using the phone....

yeah, i get along better with july cancers than june cancers...and i have dated a july cancer and a june cancer, and they are very different. june cancer guys seem to be more into themselves, arrogant, rude, a-holes, etc. where the july ones are more laid back, down to earth...imo.

I do not like all this June Cancer Guy bad press. It's perturbing me......I think I'm supposed to be a capricorn...

sorry, mellowdee...just speaking from experience. i am sure they are not all bad...
just like how all aqua men can't be bad, right? 😉

So do I have to say yes in order for you to back down on the June Cancer guy slurs?? Hey this is like dirty politics and tit for tat 😛

moonchild,

i've been readin you. glad to hear things are better. i understand so well the fears you have and the reason why you back off a bit to not bother...

funny...my ex-aqua girl used to get SO mad at me (still does) for not answering her calls right away, in fact she left a voice messsage last time we hang out with a bad word in the midts of the message because of my non-answering ways she said...lol...she crack me up.

HOWEVER, in the past before we broke up, i was on my way to chicago w friends and she was on her way to another city with her friends...so i wanted to say goodbye before i left so i called and she would answer: " hey, someone is calling me from work, i'll call you right away"...

and 1 hours passed by, 2 hours passed by, and about 4 hours later...she called....
and of course i was a bit upset, i waited before i got mad and said "what happened" and she said "nothing, what are you doing?"

grrrr...lol...she would drive me nuts.

because yeah, i was supposed to answer ALWAYS right away and yet when she meant "i'll call you RIGHT BACK" i was supposed to be okay with her 4 hours delay with no explanation and no apologizes...yeah right, double standards i couldn't take.

so after that incident and other ones that happened during our separate trips (which i took it bc i felt that she didn't wanted me in hers) she and i broke up once we got back. then i found this forum...then i thought she and i were working things out...but i was wrong...then i met cute libra girl...then x-aqua was trying to reach me back...then confusion came to my heart...and then i had to make a decision...and here i am 🙂

vll

yeah, my aqua does not like that i don't answer my phone...but it's not like i do it only to him or on purpose, you know. it's not like i look at my phone and think, nah...i don't feel like talking to him right now...lol! not like that at all...

my aqua is really good about calling me back on time though. if he says he will call me back in 10 minutes, he calls in 10 minutes or less. he is punctual about that, and he is also very punctual when we meet up...he is ALWAYS on time, or like 5 minutes early every time we go out...and me, well i am always 5-10 minutes late. and he HATES it...but i am never going to change. i have been like that all my life, so he has learned to accept it, even though i am sure it still bothers him at times.

mc, i am a bit late sometimes too, he...i get easily distracted...i swear i may have more air signs in me that what i think sometimes, lol, she hates it when i'm late too...but i promise her i'll get better...i hope she gets better about her 4-hour delay calls too though...plus i think it would be easier if she would at least explain and apologize ya know! good for you about not picking up right awat leokitten...we need to manage their aqua ways a bit once in a while!

well ladies guess what? my aqua lady has been telling me how much she loves me almost everyday...i'm almost letting my guards down a bit to let her back into my life...i'm obersving and thinking carefully what this 2nd year could mean...