Emotional life of Aqua women? (Page 2)

aquaj - Thanks for the laugh!

Posted by MischievousOne
Secondly - Have you ever had to deal with a Aquarian female on an emotional/physical/passionate level? What we show people and what goes on behind closed doors are two different things, if you think you can tell what someone's marriage is like in 5 minutes, you're crazier than all the Aqua's combined on this thread...

This Cap/Aqua couple are actually very close friends of the family, so I know a lot about their life. And there is no "behind closed doors", lol. They sleep in seperate bedrooms. Her definition of affection is patting him on the back. But I'm actually quite fond of her, in many ways she's like me... but not in terms of the emotional life.

Posted by aquaj
I wouldn't let it get to you too much. A Leo man letting the gums flap usually doesn't have much to contribute beyond,"Where do I put muh dick?" and even less to say that is useful.

Didn't you say a few pages ago Leos make "hot sex". Make up your mind, you passive-aggressive schizo 😉

Posted by subtletouch
Sounds as if you're creating an issue, when in fact, there isn't one.
It's a sad day when you wake up and realize the world isn't a mirror reflection of yourself.

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Well then the whole world is having a sad day, because no one just wakes up and accept everyone for who and how they are, do they. Nice try but that was so typically Aqua, pretty words with little or no real substance nor any understanding of what makes the world go around. What I'm trying to say is that every issue in this world is obviousely "someone's issue", this is one of MY issues, which is why I brought it up.... so what's your point?

On a sidenote, there is this girl I know... She's a Pisces and really sweet but emotionally crippled, for the lack of a better word. We're very close, actually her sister and I are the only two people who really know her. It's hard to summorize her, I could never really figure her out because not even she could figure herself out. We've had long conversations about her emotional life, how she can never allow herself to feel but invents feelings in order to act them out, how she's embarrassed about expressing true feelings and being around people who express them. But when I took a look at her chart, it turned out she's an Aqua moon. It all fell into the right place because I knew this emotional quirk from other Aquas but since this girl wasn't an Aqua I never thought to look into her chart for answers.

And she's really suffering due to this placement, it simply does not fit the rest of the puzzle nor does she know how to live with it. This Aqua moon is such a constrast to the rest of her personality. She lives in her bubble yet she does not quite understand it like most other "bubble-people".

@enfant terrible..Vouyer? How do u know that they dont share intimacy/fuck just coz they share separate rooms? Some ppl just dont want ppl all up in their arse 24/7 & that's a fact. I say that coz also me & my husband have separate rooms, we share our private moments & go back to our 'sanctuaries', our rooms. And we have a child to show that we DO have sex. Dont know about your friends, but i have a suspicion that maybe they a. sex-text or b. send pussy/cock shots to each other while in their rooms. Intimacy doesnt have to be physical to be fulfilling, plus maybe they prefer it that way.

I was with someone who had an aqua moon and they were very affectionate. The same with an aqua sun male I knew. In fact I remember a female aqua being a cuddler and very big on emotions so I don't think it's just aqua sun or aqua moons cus these people are some of the most affectionate people I know. They're huggers and lovers. Maybe it's just the people they're around who don't bring that out of them, but I find as a sag everything just flows naturally with an aqua sun or moon.

I think you should see if this aqua has some virgo in her chart cus that's the sign that usually isn't big on affection

I don't think it's because we are actually "cold". As Aqua's, we have no problem emotionally detaching in order to protect ourselves. Also for us, it's easier to hold things in until we are alone and feel it is appropriate and unselfish of us for us to cry or let it out. And I disagree with not needing to be loved... granted, if we fully detach we just end up lying to ourselves that we don't need anyone. What we do need is a stable foundation. We need to feel we are loved in return. We need touch. We need understanding and lots of it. Since we value our individuality, freedom, and independence more than anything, we sometimes mistaken it for not needing anyone. What we do need is someone who fully "gets us" and can let us fly when needed - ie, a day off from the world. Anyone who is too controlling over us is in for a terrible wake up call.

Think of any man who has a "cave". When they need alone time, they retreat to it. Women should know not to hound them about why they are "distant", etc. No apply that same idea to an Aqua. We have our "caves" too.

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that last part should have been "Now apply that same idea to an Aqua. We have our "caves" too."

Seriously? a pat on the back? Man, she really detached. My suggestion, her husband needs to help show her how to emotionally reconnect and respond. We do learn quickly but hand holding is needed. We can be brought up with all the love, hugs, and kisses in the world and still subconsciously feel it's inappropriate for some strange reason... especially if there was any past trauma (ie bad breakup, bullied in school, et - anything that would screw with our logic and rose colored glasses basically).

I have to admit, that I do the pat on the back thing to a man I just want to cuddle up to and love... but we're just friends. For me, it's more out of respect of distance. Sucked when he did it back to me the next time he hugged me since I consciously maintained no patting that time. I think once she becomes aware of it, she will want the help to change it.

@WaterCup: I've lived with them under the same roof for quite some time, so I didn't really have a choice but to get to know them. Sure they have sex a couple of times a year, but I don't think sex necesserily measures happiness, as I said they are happy and that's that. Happy meaning he's a passive-aggressive Cap who will not put his foot down and she's a spoiled Aqua who's used to getting her way. Happy.

@subtletouch, we're going in circles and I still don't get your point! Why shouldn't I have an opinion about them or anyone else for that matter? None of us go through life "minding our own business", we put our feet down and spit fire when we see fit. The difference here is that you don't feel as strongly about this as I do, so subjectively you think I should live and let live... as if you haven't expressed your opinions in here about some of the other signs or whatever. As you said, we're all different -- surprise, surprise -- which is why we have different opinions and that's a reason to share them, so don't get all smart-ass Buddha on me with you live and let live. I don't think you yourself practise what you preach when you feel strongly about something, do you?

Someone once said, "I think therefore I am". The other side of the same coin would be, "I have opinions therefore I am".
For the record I think too much time is spent analyzing my relationship to this couple when it's totally irrelevant to the topic. It's not only about them but about other Aquas in my life as well. Obviousely I don't post something like this unless I have enough material.

@happykitsune: Sure I don't think it's an Aqua moon thing, I just think that in this girl's case, it's really an unfortunate placement that does not cooperate with the rest of her personality and her true needs! No she has no Virgo in her chart, can't remember exactly but it's mostly Water and some Earth.

Posted by AquaQuinn
I don't think it's because we are actually "cold". As Aqua's, we have no problem emotionally detaching in order to protect ourselves [...] We need to feel we are loved in return.

Oh please, you're not gonna pull the "we're cold in order to protect ourselves" -card? Why would this married woman play cold around her husband to protect herself when she's got him exactly where she wants him? What would she possibly want to protect herself from— If she really wanted to protect herself she'd act a little warmer!

We ALL play cold and aloof at times in order to protect ourselves. You mean to tell me that Aquas are so terrified of getting fucked over that they do so more than others? More than let's say Leos and Scorps who have their egos at stake.....?

And about the second passage, about wanting to feel you're loved in return.... I'm sure you'll feel more loved in return if you put a little more effort in it! What you give you will get back. If you think it's embarrassing to show your affection then you deserve the same treatment in return. We could play an emotional limbo like that forever. Exhausting.

Posted by aquajWhat does hot sex have to do with having brains? Leo men are good for one thing and one thing only: hot sex. They have nothing to contribute intellectually that is useful. I don't see how that is anything less than a straightforward assessment. Nothing passive-aggressive about it! lulz.

I interpreted that as meaning his dick falls short of useful. As you said in your own way, it's all about genitals with Leos... 😉

Posted by aquaj
It's just that in order for an actual RELATIONSHIP to happen, I need the man to have brains. Leo men aren't big on stimulating conversation. They're big cuddlers/touchers/f**kers, though.

Depends on what you mean by brains. If you mean someone who'll put up with your Aqua shit then I agree, you need someone with more "brains". Try a Cap. But if you want balls, you might wanna try someone less passive-aggressive and more direct in their approach... like oh let's say a Leo?

About the "stimulating conversation", funny you should bring that up, I wasn't gonna go there but most Aquas I've met are airheads in the true sense of the word. You have a lot to say but it does not stand a closer look because what you say rarely stands on solid foundation or comes with much intellectual substance. It's all rather loose. As far as stimulating conversations go you're like Sags, you just repeat what you've heard and then I'm suppose to think you're somehow profound? Lol

But you're partially right, Leos are physical about everything... meaning we express love, affection, respect etc. physically. So if you can feed that beast meanwhile you might just get a conversation or two out of us,,, that is after the orgasm 😛

Hahahah! You're with a Sag? And you call THAT brains? Lol

Best of wishes to you both, you deserve eachother. With your unified intellectual capacities I'm sure you have a lot of stimulating (pretentious) conversations! That sounded more cruel than intended, but I don't feel like rephrasing....

Posted by aquaj
Isn't this a bit hypocritical coming from a man who is obsessed with Pisces women? lol.

...said the Pisces moon 😉

Its funny how other signs own up to their bad & good traits, but us aquas aren't allowed to(at least to the good traits). Its ok for u enfant to think that aquas are 'airheads', but loads of professional astrologers will beg to differ. We didnt choose the titles which are given to us & like any other sign, we wont be shy to own it either. U dont seem to like aquas very much so im not surprised that u see only their weaknesses rather than their strengths. Ur allowed to say your pov, sadly it doesnt mean its true though & true to the aquarian nature....what u say doesnt mean a damn thing. Now im happy!

Plus i find it kinda weird how ur so observant of this cap/aqua couple. Who do u want him or her? If i was staying with a couple & i had interest in neither of them, i wouldnt even notice if they had sex or not & i would even care for that matter. If he is still with her, that means he is fine with the situation the way it is, im sure she is not holding him hostage. If he is ok with it, i dont see why it bothers u so much unless there's sumthing ur not telling us. Just a thought that came to my brilliant aqua mind, we are brilliant, you know?

About the airheadeness, did u know that aquas have the ability to adjust their mental energy levels (brilliance) based on whoever is around them at the time? What does that say about u? We are humanitarians by nature, we want all to feel welcomed & feel part of- so if im with a retard, i will talk like a retard so that the retard doesnt feel left out. Next time ur with your aqua buddies, say sumthing smart & mentally stimulating & see what will happen.

Lol aquaj, i havent had the displeasure of meeting one. Thanx God for that!

Its the opposition between the two, right? What is the opposite of smartness, intelligence, brilliance, etc, everything synonymous with being aqua. Ahahaha

Posted by WaterCup
U dont seem to like aquas very much so im not surprised that u see only their weaknesses rather than their strengths.

OMG, just shoot me!!! We're going in circles. You haven't added anything new to this conversation so I'll just repeat what I've already said too because it doesen't seem to sink in!

I'm quite fond of Aquas actually, but as it seems, right now I've CHOSEN to discuss the only negative trait that I'm not fond of, because... well, that's what I want to discuss right now! Am I getting through at all or will I be forced to repeat myself again a couple of posts down?

Posted by WaterCup
Plus i find it kinda weird how ur so observant of this cap/aqua couple. Who do u want him or her?

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HAHAHAHAH! JUST SHOOT ME AGAIN!!! Haven't I already explained my "realtionship" to this couple? They are much older than I am so I have no intrest in them, we shared the same roof for a long time (never mind why, makes no difference, just ACCEPT THAT FACT!) so I know everything about them.... also I'm close friends with their daughter who mocks "their ways" all the time, so I'm not the only one who finds them a little on the odd side. They are nice people but the whole Aqua/Cap relationship started to get on my nerves.

I hate to see men act like passive-aggressive pussies around women who expect to be treated like princesses without giving much back but their silent respect. And there is a fine line between "happy" and "being content". I choose to call them happy because they are content with the way things are.

Shit! Kudos to those who can stand being in a "conversation" with an Aqua for more than ten minutes. You guys seem braindead, seriousely. Haven't we already gone through all of this? Do you have any new fresh insights or are we gonna limbo here forever— Some conversationalists.....lol

Posted by aquaj
Just research the Aquarius-Leo compatibility. Every astrologer worth their salt will say that Aquas are more intelligent than Leos. Heck, that's one of the reasons we don't get along with them. Leos need to be the "best" at all times.

Yeah I'm sure thats what they mean by "opposites". Aquas are the brainiacs of the Zodiac, and Leos are the opposite lol. Haven't seen much brains in here though... just a bunch of defensive Aquas who seem to think they have NO NEGATIVE QUALITIES WHAT SO EVER! Did anyone say EGO? Pfft...... who are you guys kidding? Not me that's for sure.

No lol at u, how about shooting yourself- i got better things to do!

@Aquaj: I accept it. You're smarter than me. Now say something smart for once. And I didn't say my topic was a fact the whole world should accept, did I? In that case point me to that post and I will apologize. What I said was that I don't like the emotionally stiffness of the Aqua and what I meant is pretty much what I said: I DON'T LIKE, not "the whole world doesen't like".

Sorry but your brains aren't really showing here, are they.... 😉

How can we show our brainiac side when there's nobody to measure up with at the moment? Get real

U say sumthing smart if u want to have a smart conversation. Show us how smart the cats are

Which is also why aqua is the better side of the opposition bcoz we accept all as they are, no questions asked.

Posted by aquaj
Quote from enfant_terrible's first post on this topic: "Another wack-job of an Aqua chick loves her dogs more than anything else. Why do you always focus your emotional life to the extent of obsession, on cats and dogs rather than human beings?"

Oh yes, it's clearly my perception that is off. You are not implying that all Aquas are a certain way there at all.

I'm not implying Aquas are in a certain way, I'm saying it loud and clearly. However, it does not mean that if it doesn't suit my fancy it shouldn't suit anyone else. Nor am I implying my opinions are the whole worlds. Hit me with something smart, Aqua. Word-games won't get you anywhere with me. See this is what I was talking about when I said a conversation with an Aqua has no real foundation or subtance if you dig deep enough into their arguments. Holes, word-games and more holes....

Posted by aquaj
And should an Aqua respond on this post by saying, "Well actually, that doesn't sound like me in any way, shape, or form?" Why, she's just being "defensive"! and "blind to [her] faults!" It couldn't possibly be that from her perspective, you are just wrong, and that you're too arrogant to see it😄

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Sooooo what you're basically telling me is that Aquas - unilke all the other signs - don't have any faults one can point at? Congratultions.

Same could be said about the conversation with a leo as u have proven here. Aquas have faults like everbody else, but we laugh at our own weaknesses, i guess thats what pisses ppl off. Again, if u want mental orgasm, how about u start the foreplay?

I agree with him in sum of the things he said, but i wont be subjected to being questioned as to why those things are a certain way. Thats nonsense. Ppl are different & thats that, end of story. If he wants replicas of himself then he must go to a lab & create sum. Or even better, go to his own forum where everybody else would relate to him. U cant go to other ppl houses & critisize how they do things- its disrespectful & rude. It shows narrow mindedness on his part.

I agree with u aquaj, i dont own pets either bcoz of the same reasons u mentioned. But, i have love for animals as they are innocent God's creatures who deserve more love. If an animal is being abused or whatever, who is it going to tell? Humans have the ability to solve their own problems, animals dont, that to me means- animals deserve more love & human babies too. Anybody who shaves & has pubic hair, im not responsible for their needs.

enfant, if there is something bigger than the stupidity this thread is based on, is probably the pride that gives you the drive to keep going and going..but you aint going anywhere my friend 🙂

I as an aqua with scorpio moon, find it very difficult to be showy emotionally. Both my sun & my moon are uncomfortable with emotions. I feel deep, but im crippled when it comes to demonstration of feelings. Thats astrologically speaking, psychologically i may be labelled as one thing or another. I dont care bcoz thats who i am.

Posted by aquaj"I'M NOT IMPLYING ALL AQUAS ARE A CERTAIN WAY, I'M SAYING IT LOUDLY AND CLEARLY."
OK, and those who don't fit the description are telling you so. That's how it works in a disagreement.

And I do not question them, nor you for that matter. How could I, I've never even met you. I am however talking about the Aquas in MY LIFE that I have met and know personally.

To summarize: Aquas are embarrassed about showing feelings and affection. I've never heard anyone say that who's not an Aqua or Aqua moon, but it doesen't mean all Aquas fit that description. I'm with you so far....

Posted by enfant_terrible

To summarize: Aquas are embarrassed about showing feelings and affection. I've never heard anyone say that who's not an Aqua or Aqua moon, but it doesen't mean all Aquas fit that description. I'm with you so far....

I completely agree. Even I feel that way most times. It's a hard habit to break. I personally feel selfish if I cry even when I'm alone. I emotionally detach to "protect" myself, my heart. In my childhood it was consciously... now it's automatic. There are times I really really want to just throw my arms around someone I deeply love without my hand starting to pat their back. Although, this ability does make me the one everyone runs to, the crying shoulder and psychiatrist for everyone else, it's extremely draining and not healthy.

Posted by aliennation

Er...I have no Aqua in my chart, and I consider it embarrassing. I'm not a dog that needs to drool and slobber. As a human, I've got the ability and self-control to go beyond mindless warm fuzzies. If I like you, I show it by bantering with you and getting into some stimulating discussions/debates.

Nothing against people who are into the cuddle bunny thing, but other than sex, I'm not touchy feely. Hugs are tolerated, just make it quick. 😉


Actually, according to an actual analysis, Aqua is actually my #3 strongest sign in my chart...even though it's only my N. Node and descendent.

LMAO... I hate drooling and slobbering. If i wanted that I'd get a dog. Nothing worse a turn off than someone trying to swallow your chin or half your face. Although, I do thrive on touch and affection. You don't have to hang on someone to give it. You can brush their arm, touch their shoulder, grasp their hand even if for a moment, or brush their hair out of their face. Even an occasional tickle attack - short and sweet - can make a miracle happen. These simple things can be done in conversation... it also shows you are paying attention to them. The feeling these simple things give can last a few days to a few weeks and put the person on top of the world. It also gives an Aqua the ACCEPTANCE and APPROVAL to do as well.

Posted by aliennation I'm not a dog that needs to drool and slobber.

Why do all of you assume I'm talking about something that I am not talking about :-/ Who said anything about drool and slobbering? I'm talking about not being embarrassed to show and accept affection. We're going in circles here because you desperately want to hear me say something that you can disapprove of....rather than to listen to what I actually mean.

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Posted by aliennation I'm not a dog that needs to drool and slobber.

Why do all of you assume I'm talking about something that I am not talking about :-/ Who said anything about drool and slobbering? I'm talking about not being embarrassed to show and accept affection. We're going in circles here because you desperately want to hear me say something that you can disapprove of....rather than to listen to what I actually mean.

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I actually agreed with you on several points prior... so "you all" doesn't apply. =P so neh =P

aliens comment just cracked me up with a few first kiss memories.

THere's absolutely nothing wrong with PDA, in fact it shows much relaxation and confidence from someone not to care that the people around you might think you have "feelings" (Lol, what a realization!)

No wonder Venus in Cap is probably one of the worst placements for Venus.

I think the mile wide line between PDA and being sexually explicit in public has been clouded over the years. People see it differently. Maybe we need to establish the definition of PDA for each of us before we go further.

For me, PDA would be a touching their arm, arm on/around their shoulder, grasp of their hand or locking arms even if for a moment, holding hands, brushing their hair out of their face, light kiss maybe. I'm ok with this... hanging all over each other I'm not good with and run for freedom ASAP. Anything above an beyond that I find a bit insulting when having to view on a public street or in a family restaurant. Not that I'm jealous or a prude, I'm just conservative, old fashioned, and "proper" in my own way so-to-speak.

^Unfortunately for you, the world is not one big monastery^ 🙂

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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
THere's absolutely nothing wrong with PDA, in fact it shows much relaxation and confidence from someone not to care that the people around you might think you have "feelings" (Lol, what a realization!)

No wonder Venus in Cap is probably one of the worst placements for Venus.

I'll have you know, Mr. Boomboomboom, that I absolutely *treasure* my grumpy little Venus in Cap. 😛

While others swoon, leave their hearts open for the smashing, lose their rationality and obsess about romance, Cappy Venus enables me to sit back, think things over logically and strategically like a Mafia boss, and to never lose sight of my priorities (professional success, learning, exploring and traveling).

I wouldn't trade that for the "ability" to grope in public.

And we still do PDA, but we're just classy about it, like someone above described.

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Trust me..I have tasted that water right from the source.

My cappy ex is a Venus in Cap too and one of my least favourite things about her was definitely her dislike of much PDA. You're talking of being strategical and logical..do you realise there is little or no room for that in things like feelings and emotions?

Ok, let's summarize this. We have two guys who are pro PDA and a bunch of girls who oppose it, more or less. There is definitely something not right here, lol.

I just have too much pride in being a women to openly grab someones cock or do some grinding in the middle of a crowded store... and i think that may be the first time i used the word "cock". HOWEVER, I have sneaked in a few brush by rubs when i though no one was looking... Here again, everyone is different.

Posted by AquaQuinn
I just have too much pride in being a women to openly grab someones cock or do some grinding in the middle of a crowded store... and i think that may be the first time i used the word "cock". HOWEVER, I have sneaked in a few brush by rubs when i though no one was looking... Here again, everyone is different.

Youre being very Aqua now by speaking in extremes (something my aqua dad does all the time)

What you mentioned is not PDA, it is sex in public.

Haha AquaQuinn. A cock is not affection per se... but oh well 😛

I love being facetious. =P

Hahaha. Years ago, i went with a guy to the zoo. While we were watching the animals, he stood behind me & kinda gave me a hug/hold from behind. I was soo uncomfortable, but then he started putting his tongue in my ear. This drove me insane & i almost ripped his tongue off. How disgusting! The relationship ended there by the monkey cage.

I think that saturn plays a huge part in intimacy issues, especially saturn in contact with personal planets. I have my scorpio saturn conjunct my moon,mars & pluto in my 8th house. With that combo, im supposed to be a sex loving nymph, but in honesty, if a guy is not done in a few minutes, i feel like throwing him off. A co-worker of mine who is a cap sun, moon & mars is the same too. She told me that she felt like crying each time she was about to have sex. Hahaha. The other day, a group of girls from work were busy talking about their sex lives, only me & her walked away from the group. Everything is perversion if saturn is around. If sumbody says 'hi sexy', u walk away fast while screaming 'pervert!!' in your mind. Just saying

@alienation: Ok this topic wasn't much about PDA, even I don't do much "public affection" once the relationship is through that first phase. But anyway, I'm with you on the the Cappy approved PDA... altough I don't think the occasional ear nibbling is trashy. 😉

And I've never seen or heard of anyone doing those "trashy" things you mentioned, so I dunno where you got that from. I mean you're practically talking "public sex" there, lol.

Posted by WaterCup
Hahaha. Years ago, i went with a guy to the zoo. While we were watching the animals, he stood behind me & kinda gave me a hug/hold from behind. I was soo uncomfortable, but then he started putting his tongue in my ear. This drove me insane & i almost ripped his tongue off. How disgusting! The relationship ended there by the monkey cage.

I really hope that was a first date.... because if that was your boyfriend and you dummped him because of THAT then you really have some serious issues, no kidding! :-/