Friend or more...how to tell?

I'm curious....Are you getting paid to help him? Or are you helping him (secretly hoping) he'll like you more?

"BUT the thing is he does not open up to me a lot. When I ask non invasive general questions (like, how many siblings he has or why people call him by his nickname) he gets irritated and avoids talking about it, so I've learnt my lesson not to ask him anything until he is ready to open up."

Those questions aren't really invasive, if he's getting irritated then he's not open to having something real with you or he'd be the one asking questions to get to know you. If he's not trying to get to know you, to know who you are then you can conclude he's not that into you romantically. It can be misleading when a man is affectionate, he may feel affection for you because maybe your attractive but not someone he's attracted too in a romantic way, maybe it feels good when your around physically and hey your available to cuddle and hold hands so he'll certainly take that affection but that doesn't mean he's into you, your there, your available and it's easy to get.

IMO He's not interested in you romantically, he may be misleading you because he needs your help and figure if he show small subtle displays of of liking you the free work you provide will continue to flow.

Suggestion, some boundaries need to be established, so maybe you should consider stopping the help, stop helping him and/or stop helping him for free. How is he repaying you for your time and energy? Is he cooking for you, is helping out around your home for example fixing things that need repair or maybe even fixing/servicing your car. What exactly is he doing to reciprocate/show you he appreciate you and your time besides leading you on and getting irritated when you show real interest in getting to know him?

Don't follow him or you'll most certainly be led into something you don't want to experience, it'll remain ambivalent if you don't set a boundary.

Either stop the help or stop the affection to eliminate confusion.

thanks 🙂! I'll try not to think too much into it and keep it as friends...it's hard not to over analyse having so many planets in Gemini with a Libra moon

I don't think you're doing anything wrong.Only HE would know where he wants to go with you.Theres no way to figure this out,based off what he does.All of his opinions & thoughts are based off what's going to be safe for him,so not even me an Aqua male could figure this out.Just keep being you,to me you sound like you know how to handle us.🙂

You guys need to have that 'talk.'

Yes he's an Aqua & we can sometimes be emotionally retarded or even send mixed signals

BUT rule #1: If you ever expect to be happy with ANYONE (not just this Aqua) you've got to learn how to stop apologizing for what you want.

It's ok to cater to his needs or compromise a little just for the sake of not rushing things BUT you have needs to. If you want to know something, ask!

This isn't all about him. You have needs, wants & questions too.

Believe it or not, an Aqua's know exactly what they're doing when they pull the hot/cold stuff.

Sometimes they do it just to see if you'll chase them or go the extra mile to get them to open up. Most people just give up & therefore, an Aqua in this situation can always say that they didn't tell you b/c you didn't ask

Trust me, you demanding better communication & a clue as to where things are headed should NOT be a turn off to him.

A woman who doesn't apologize for what she wants & who demands what she wants ought to be a turn on for a man.

And if he's turned off all b/c you have your own personality, needs, feelings that just so may be different than his, he's NOT the one honey. TRUST ME

he wants a piece of ass.

Posted by krysrenee7
You guys need to have that 'talk.'

Yes he's an Aqua & we can sometimes be emotionally retarded or even send mixed signals

BUT rule #1: If you ever expect to be happy with ANYONE (not just this Aqua) you've got to learn how to stop apologizing for what you want.

It's ok to cater to his needs or compromise a little just for the sake of not rushing things BUT you have needs to. If you want to know something, ask!

This isn't all about him. You have needs, wants & questions too.

Believe it or not, an Aqua's know exactly what they're doing when they pull the hot/cold stuff.

Sometimes they do it just to see if you'll chase them or go the extra mile to get them to open up. Most people just give up & therefore, an Aqua in this situation can always say that they didn't tell you b/c you didn't ask

Trust me, you demanding better communication & a clue as to where things are headed should NOT be a turn off to him.

A woman who doesn't apologize for what she wants & who demands what she wants ought to be a turn on for a man.

And if he's turned off all b/c you have your own personality, needs, feelings that just so may be different than his, he's NOT the one honey. TRUST ME

THIS is why I LOVE aquas... you just laid it out hun. You most likely helped a TON of people with this post. True eye opener. Thank you aquas for walking around on the earth. If you guys weren't here...hell... I dunno what I would do in a world without aquas. Probably just dwell in my dream cave.

Posted by aquadiesel
ahhh moon in taurus are VERY EXTROVERT, its weird u dont get on... u have moon in libra, the only gd libra moons i know are taurus sun and libra sun combos... i donno if gem sun lib moon is a gd match. u must gossip a lot... i take it taurus moon doesnt like that. am the quite typethey talk to me very much instead...bcos i dont gossip i guess...

your right as a Taurus moon I don't like gossip. I find it very off putting.

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Posted by candi3bb
he wants a piece of ass.

hahahaha!!! did it actually come from u—

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Was that too blunt? 😛