So we've been doing it for a year now since last September. we're really good friends, he doesn't hang out with me just for sex cuz really he isn't a big sex guy..we care for each other a lot and we literally lived together for more than half year, but we are never exclusive. I started having feelings for him and told him I love him this June, which made him flip out and say we can't see each other any more becuz he feels wrong letting me fall for him when he can't love me back. He claims he likes me a ton and is special to him, he hasn't been in a relationship for a long time and this is the closest he gets in a while.
We've gone through the "lets not see each other any more just stay pure friends" thing like 4 times and we always go back to the FWB again. Then after the huge fight and decision that "we definitely shouldn't do it any more", again we went back to the mode again, and then his parents came to NYC to visit and he introduced me to his family and they loved me. I like them a lot too..we even stayed together for a few days (his parents stayed at his apartment and I stayed at his place too) they see us as a loving couple, basically everyone thinks we're gf/bf but he just says we're good friends..I know all his friends are not in a relationship and are sleeping around with different young hot girls so he's jealous and doesn't wanna miss out.
(Btw he's very cute and gets hit on by girls a lot..and I shall say I'm quite attractive too since he's picky and he likes me a lot)
I understand guys like variety and i can accept that and have an open relationship with him, but he's not into that right now..very emotionally unavailable. And idk what he's thinking, he said before it's not respectful to one's parents when you introduce a non-gf/bf to them (aka FWB like us) so idk what it meant when his parents hung out with me said things like "we think you're great for xxx" and telling him that I'm a keeper...etc
Should I wait for him to be ready to settle down? He doesn't know what he wants now, he's 29 and I'm 22. I've been with a 37 yr old ex boyfriend before and I feel like I'm more mature relationship wise. He's still just having fun and playing the field and I'm okay with that...but just curious if I get a chance to turn this into a serious relationship in the future? Any Aqua guy can give me any thoughts and advice please? Appreciate a ton!! Thanks!
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Jan 27, 2016Comments: 0 · Posts: 1780 · Topics: 6
Oh girl, no. You have to stand for what you want. What are your placements and his?
I'm not sure about his..only know that he's a typical Aqua, my exboyfriend too is an Aqua (and was kinda similar, that we had an open relationship cuz he doesnt wanna give up his variety until when I met this Aqua he realized he loves me and wants to marry me....but I wasn't ready for that and didn't think we were compatible)
I'm a Scorpio and rising Aquarius. I've asked Astrologers online and they kept telling me our charts show we shall have a good chance getting into a serious relationship it just takes time..idk if I should believe that.
Of course my mom doesnt wanna see me getting hurt and asked me not to contact him ever (he's met my mom too). But yeah we're still hanging out and i didnt tell my mom about it.. I know dating in NYC is horrible, everyone thinks they're gonna meet someone better the next second, but I'm quite stubborn and found out that once I fall in love with someone I just don't wanna look at others..I've listened to him tried to date other men to distract my feelings for him but it doesnt work and i dont enjoy that at all, that's just not me. But can't blame me cuz I really tried. I just wanna be with him
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Jun 03, 2014Comments: 7 · Posts: 1996 · Topics: 55
I agree this sounds like you are walking around lala land, you know you need to get out but keep making excuses to extend your delay.
Yeah....but I've seen other threads about Aquarius and all say that it takes slow and needs patience and persistence....which I have a bunch..so wondering if that's the case? Is he just not mature enough and needs more time to figure it out? He's at a transition point of his career right now and been stressed a lot, so doesn't know what he wants and is just figuring things out. (He's been a student for a long time since he just finished Phd this Janunary)
I just wanna be next to him and be there for him when he's upset or stressed and needs someone to talk to..guess same thing as a best friend..
I mean we're clearly not just friends with benefits..we apartment hunted together, went to furniture shopping for his place, and met each other's parents..etc
Idk he's just confusing
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May 04, 2016Comments: 82 · Posts: 2348 · Topics: 51
Just keep sleeping with him till he's 60. He MIGHT put a ring on it. Your wish can still come true
Idk if I just want a serious relationship. I simply wanna be around him cuz I love him. Not just becuz I want a relationship and doesn't matter who.. Of course it'd rather be him
I sound stupid I know...y'all are gonna start slap me now ...
Any Aqua guy?
Anyone by any chance has any positive thoughts?.....
And I know he sees me as a friend to meet his parents, and that's how I acted in front of them the first time we met, just as normal friends, no intimate actions.
But the second time he asked me to have dinner with them he started to hold my hand, cuddle me and kiss me in front of his parents..and asked me to stay over with them. So that's why his parents saw us as a couple..otherwise I would just be a friend of his. I think that's what made me confused as well
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Feb 16, 2015Comments: 1 · Posts: 6172 · Topics: 7
He'll probably be destroyed when you break it off but if he comes back you'll have no doubt where you stand.
This was my experience.
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Feb 16, 2015Comments: 1 · Posts: 6172 · Topics: 7
It's not necessarily a dead end, but it's a question of how long you're willing to be in limbo before you know.
I'm pretty positive from what you said that you're the "real thing" to him, but he won't lock it down until he's sure. And that can take *years*. Meanwhile, you've put your romantic life on hold. Is he worth it? Is what you have worth it? Only you can answer that.
update everyone..
hah so my Aqua did something that disappointed me A TON, showed that he had very poor judgement and not mature at all. this totally turned me off and now I don't even know if I can trust him enough...I guess this is easy for me now to get over with him.
Seriously, what's so glory about sleeping around just becuz you're goodlooking and all your guy friends are doing the same? I'm so mentally tired right now I'm packing my shiit
just an update....after last time i got jealous of him seeing another girl and decided to leave him he asked me to stay and we got back together again..and finally yesterday it happened again and i just couldnt bear it anymore so broke up with him.
FINALLY broke up with him. But I still love him so much that i want to see him again and hope he'd come back to me some day...I know it's stupid but really...just need a hug now. I literally have no family or friends here now
this has been such a painful experience, despite when we're together I'm always so happy, but i get so insecure whenever I'm not staying with him, cuz I know he's go out or "catch up with someone". And this is the first time I ever actually live with someone for this long and we've seen each other;s parents and he's friend with my cousin now as well..
idk....just silly girl here