friendship with Aquarius man problem

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by freespirits on Sunday, January 29, 2017 and has 11 replies.
I met an Aquarius man online about 10 months ago (Last April). Never met in person though. At first emailing, later texting by phone a lot. I naturally wanted to meet him after we chatting for a while. We live in different cities, one time I happened to have a chance to visit his city in late October, so I asked him to meet up. He then told me he hoped he doesn't want to mislead me, he is looking for friendship and he has been starting to see someone for 2 months. I was a bit annoyed because if he had to explain not leading me on means he was aware that he was actually doing it. So I decided to fading out. Then he started to text me more often, almost everyday, and video chat twice a month. Before that probably text twice a week, and video chat once a month. This made me gradually forgot my concerns.

This past Tuesday when we video chat, he said he is going to visit some friends in another city (where the girl he is seeing lives there). So I joking asked is she your gf now? He said yes. All my old doubts came back suddenly: Did his gf know that he is texting me all the time? Is he truly enjoying the friendship or he is have a side fun with me? Although I enjoy our friendship, I don't want to be used and possibly accused in the future for something I hadn't done. Should I keep this friendship? Should I voice my concerns to him?

Thanks for any input!
Keep the friendship if u can handle just being friends . If not , next !
why do aquarius do that ? .. or most men to b exact... sorry to hear that..what do you want from this guy?
Posted by SofiaV87
Keep the friendship if u can handle just being friends . If not , next !
I can handle it, but I don't know if he or his girlfriend can.

Posted by Nepturanus
yes you should talk to him where all of this will lead to, make it clear.

i think he is honest, at least with you lol.
Thanks, if I bring this up to him, do you think he would take it wrongly, like thinking I might have romantic feeling for him? I don't want him to interpret it that way like when I asked him to meet up. I didn't say anything back then because I didn't know how to explain things that hadn't cross my mind.

He is honest with me about things he want to let me know, but I don't like the fact that he started dating without telling me, and only let me know when he need to stop me from visiting him. If he truly takes me as friend, shouldn't he welcome my visit? I would do that to my friend. Or maybe it's just me Sagittarius, but I think it's the same for real friends from any sign. I suspect he might not honest about our friendship with his girlfriend, because he is texting me everyday, I doubt any girlfriend's would like their boyfriends do that.

Posted by saweetz1988
why do aquarius do that ? .. or most men to b exact... sorry to hear that..what do you want from this guy?
I don't know why he do that. I don't think most men do that, at least not in my real friend circle, this friend I've never met in person, so I really don't know.

I do like our intellectual conversation, but I think I want more boundary and transparency in this friendship. I'm not interested in some else's boyfriend.

Posted by freespirits
Posted by SofiaV87
Keep the friendship if u can handle just being friends . If not , next !
I can handle it, but I don't know if he or his girlfriend can.

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Ask him if him & his gf can handle it
@ aquanib wow, we got an internet police here, lol. Next time I should be more selective when finding a picture online. I've update my profile, let me know if you can find me online againTongue.
How to post picture in the message here?
Posted by Nepturanus
Posted by freespirits
Posted by Nepturanus
yes you should talk to him where all of this will lead to, make it clear.

i think he is honest, at least with you lol.
Thanks, if I bring this up to him, do you think he would take it wrongly, like thinking I might have romantic feeling for him? I don't want him to interpret it that way like when I asked him to meet up. I didn't say anything back then because I didn't know how to explain things that hadn't cross my mind.

He is honest with me about things he want to let me know, but I don't like the fact that he started dating without telling me, and only let me know when he need to stop me from visiting him. If he truly takes me as friend, shouldn't he welcome my visit? I would do that to my friend. Or maybe it's just me Sagittarius, but I think it's the same for real friends from any sign. I suspect he might not honest about our friendship with his girlfriend, because he is texting me everyday, I doubt any girlfriend's would like their boyfriends do that.

just like what i said. he might be honest with you but i don't think his girl knows your existence.

just talk about it then see how he react.

the rest is up to you.
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Thanks, I chickened out yesterday when he texted me. lol. Maybe I should call him to talk about this, not by texting. Oh man, why I was nervous, I didn't do something wrong, why it felt like a criminal!