Gem confused by Aqua

About six months ago I met and instantly fell for an aqua man. We connected as friends and were intimate almost immediately. He not long came out of a long term relationship (12 months ago) with a child involved and I think this is still affecting him. He says he wants to be friends, its like he yearns for the perfect woman but can't seem to hold anything with them for too long. He has been with a number of other women since I met him and none of them are still around. I work away and we live about an hour from eachother. He's had a few financial dramas lately. He calls me a lot, we hang out loads, he says the intimacy is best he's had since he was in love with his ex. I don't get it, mixed signals. He has nothing but nice things to say to me and I sometimes just feel him looking at me in a way that a friend shoudln't. I kinda mentioned Id go further with him and he was keen to talk about it but nothing, no real answer. If he doesn;t like me, why does he keep bothering with me? Maybe I should have let him do a bit more work in the early stages? Did I make it too easy for him and he is over it? Why does he tell me about all the others? he is totally honest with me. We have fun, so much fun but I feel confused. Should I just let him go on his way for a while? Come on aqua men give me some advice!!! After I kinda laid out how I felt about him, we was keen to talk to me 'we need to talk' and we talked it through. He said he has often thought 'i should be with her' but something holds him back. He said to promise him that if anything was ever on my mind that I must always talk to him about it. He was very sweet in responding to me putting it out there a little. Later that night he called me after a couple of drinks and was giving me so many nice comments He said he was in a real mad spot in his own head right now. I asked him why he considers the other girls initially but he never considered me. He said that he did but he cared for me so much as a friend, that he was confused within himself and the last thing he wanted to do was hurt me and ruin our friendship. Is that an excuse for "im not into you' ?? He basically said he couldnt be with me like that right now. The more I think abot it the more i think i should just brush it all off, forget about it. I'm not pushy at all to him, i give him his space but does my gemini way distort the fact that Im into him - like crazy

Yeah but maybe it'd be a good idea if you are upfront about how you feel about him. That might swing it for him too.

i don't know your situation, i am not there to see it first-hand, but maybe this guy is afraid of letting you/himself get too close, too soon. perhaps its the fear of getting hurt or ruining a good thing that prevents things from getting off the ground. i think you need to take a zen approach to this relationship and just let it be what it is. it will develop in time if you both are meant to be. didn't i read on here that one must practice gobs of patience while involved with an aquarian male? it is what it is...you can't catagorize it. just enjoy your time together and ride it out rather than looking to others for definite answers. only you know the answers to your questions. you'll figure them out in due time. (or perhaps your really just friends w/ benefits?!) i think, bottom line is aquarians choose you, you don't choose them. and the way your relationship unfolds is on their terms, good, bad and indifferent - not always on yours. either accept it/him for what it is, or move on.

Listen guys, her guy INSTANTLY became physical with her but all of a sudden he just wants to be friends because of some bullbutter trouble he got with his family!? He says that his brain is in a 'mad' spot?! BULL -ISH!! Come on everyone, just be real about this situation...to him, you're one of two things: you're (at best) his girl on the side, or (at worst) a BOOTY CALL!!! Seriously, us windy aquarians (Yes, including me...) put up some CRAZY game to trick you into thinking we truly care and love you, but really we couldn't care less. I, though, never lie to my women, so it's possible that he truly does like you, which places you in the 'girl on the side' category, and is lying about his troubles with family issues when he's really still with his baby's mother or someone else. On the other hand, he's just tricking your soft heart through acting as Mr. Amazing to guarantee that he can get anything he wants from you at anytime. (Man, he's good!) Remember, men will be men, and aquarian men...well...let's just say that when it comes to relationships, we're like hurricanes!

Mellowdee: "Yeah but maybe it'd be a good idea if you are upfront about how you feel about him. That might swing it for him too."

If you do this affares, there's a 10,000% chance that he may stop messing with you to halt destroying your heart altogeather, and I'm talkin about any man would do this. If he's physical with you, especially instantly, but don't want to be with you, then that tells me that he truly doesn't care about you or your feelings for him, and since his calendar is full already wth issues with his family and his brain being in a 'mad' spot (IF this is true...what bullbutter), him as an aqua won't have room to make time for more drama...thus removing you from his book for a lesser load. Remember, I'm just giving you the bigger picture of things, I'm not sure what you're whole situation with this guy is.

This honestly, is truly strange that an aqua would do this to the lovely gemini. I personally LOVE GEMINI'S!!! HURRAY FOR GEMINI'S!!! WOOOOOO!!! *Ahem* Uh, back to what I was saying, I've heard that gemini's and aquas really get along and connect quite well...you better let him know that you are the one and these ladies aren't you...you CAN and WILL do better than that cuz you're the almighty GEMINI WOMAN!!! In my opinion, I think you just need to be there for him, DON'T RUSH HIM...the sex thing has to stop also...and he'll learn that he needs you in your life and blow into your arms, maybe forever...

'aquarians choose you, you don't choose them.'

sooo very true.

Thanks guys, so much truth in that. Time difference here, so when you guys posting I probably sleeping!! dreaming about.......ha ha. I think he treats me differently to other girls he associates with cause he does like me, as a person i mean, not necessarily a girlfriend. We definitely get along like mad as quite often geminis and aquas do. We were having a conversation in the car one day about a girl he was kinda seeing, one of his best mates were there and his mate was writing off her actions about her wanting to know his ex girlfriend so she could find out more about him - kinda stupid i think too anyway his mate says 'chicks are idiots like that bla bla' and my aqua turns to me and says 'not all of em hey' and stroked my arm. Like I say, so confusing. Now I don't hink this should apply, nor does it bother me in any way but are aquas intimidated (strong word)? He has two kids to two different ladies, his financial life kinda a mess, feeling a little 'what the hell am i doing with my life' kinda thing, he talks to me about it. I think he looks up to me, eventhough we all ave our insecurities and I think the same as him often also. But i have no kids - he 30 , i 28. Never been married, own business, investments etc. He has Zilch, nutta, not a thing. I don't care, but could he? He kinda implies he thinks I am a bit of a game player too, and all we gems are big flirts arent we, love the chase etc. He always wants to know about my men happenings though, like when my ex from many years ago who is still a good friend has been calling me, went to the footy together etc. It i go out with the girls he wants to know whether the boys were chasing me or if I got it on with anyone. I havent been with anyone since him - he been with the whole bloody town just about!!!! I sense some of the reason he does that is insecurity perhaps? Hurt from the past cause he feels he screwed it all up, scared to happen again. Aquas like this hey - cut themselves off in case get hurt. Believe me he suffereing from the past. Not with his ex though - she has someone new.
I think I give him space, do his own thing etc. Give him time to explore the other girls etc, not pressure him, be there as his mate. I told him I care so that's all I can do. Maybe he'll realise we got something special some day.

What do you think is missing aqua kower of all?

"i think, bottom line is aquarians choose you, you don't choose them. and the way your relationship unfolds is on their terms, good, bad and indifferent - not always on yours. either accept it/him for what it is, or move on."

-oh my gosh...that is SO true!!!