He looked in my handbag ?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Tinxy on Friday, July 10, 2015 and has 28 replies.

I left the room and he looked through my bag !

I know he did bc my secret things were at the bottom and when I returned they were at the top and it was hanging open ?!?

I ask aquaman "did you look in my bag"?
He looks at me with a raised brow

I say to him "don't lie to me as I will know you're lying"
Again raised brow ...
But didn't answer ....

Then he proceeds to question me on what's in my bag I didn't want him to see.

I'm an on/off super secret smoker , it's my thing I do in secret no one knows not even my friends who smoke I smoke along in my garden hidden behind the shed LOL
So I didn't tell him as it's my thing I'm hurting no one just myself.

Why the fuck would he do this ?

He also aske me for my phone so he could check through it , he says "give me your phone I want to see your pictures" ?

I said NO ! I don't like anyone checking my phone it's private , I told him I wouldn't ask him such things FFs

I think he's te cray cray not me lol

Sorry needed to vent


Maybe the bag fell on the floor and everything spilled out...??? If it did he didn't admit it because you automatically assumed he went through it. Then, you were so sensitive about it, it actually does look like you were trying to hide something. If you hadn't said anything, he probably would have volunteered the bag fell.
Not saying that's what happened - Just giving benefit of the doubt.

As far as smoking. He knows. He can smell it on you and taste it on you. I used to be a closet smoker too, but when I got found out, everyone was like, we already knew, don't know why you tried to hide it.

Sooooo....chill, girl. smile
Run gil! RUUUUUUUUUUN!!!! First its ths, next itll be all your privacy and sense of being! If an aqua does this...he has isues. Considering they except respect of their freedom and privacy
How dare he! OMGoodness. AND ASKED FOR YOUR PHONE?!
Posted by SuperMissMan
Run gil! RUUUUUUUUUUN!!!! First its ths, next itll be all your privacy and sense of being! If an aqua does this...he has isues. Considering they except respect of their freedom and privacy

YESS Exactly!! My ex-husband was a controlling (&abusive) Aquarius..he def has issues those are the starting signs
Posted by busyeyes88
Posted by Impulsv
I'm a closet smoker too lol


Ok. Talking about coming out of the woodwork '! How many closet smokers are there on this thread?!! Lol _ ?
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xD i sadly ha to disover that in nyc u have to be 21+ i too am a closet smoker. cnt help it.
My reason is im not legally allowed to smoke. Otherwise idgaf what anyone thinks.
Posted by busyeyes88
Posted by Tinxy
I left the room and he looked through my bag !

I know he did bc my secret things were at the bottom and when I returned they were at the top and it was hanging open ?!?

I ask aquaman "did you look in my bag"?
He looks at me with a raised brow

I say to him "don't lie to me as I will know you're lying"
Again raised brow ...
But didn't answer ....

Then he proceeds to question me on what's in my bag I didn't want him to see.

I'm an on/off super secret smoker , it's my thing I do in secret no one knows not even my friends who smoke I smoke along in my garden hidden behind the shed LOL
So I didn't tell him as it's my thing I'm hurting no one just myself.

Why the fuck would he do this ?

He also aske me for my phone so he could check through it , he says "give me your phone I want to see your pictures" ?

I said NO ! I don't like anyone checking my phone it's private , I told him I wouldn't ask him such things FFs

I think he's te cray cray not me lol

Sorry needed to vent





My ex husband was a controlling Aquarius... Dump him... You can do better.. The warning signs are there!!!
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lol but you keep going for FIXED signs (the taurus, then the leo)

Laughing

actually controlling is from cardinals. Lots of Aquas have cardinal in them, especially Aries /Capricorn, their neighbors. Or just have a dominant cardinal chart.

which is good to have cardinal in chart because it means the energy is MOVING.

Big Grin
and leos have lots of Cancer, their neighbors, or Libra next door neighbors.

ie, Leo sun with Libra venus. or Cancer venus. They have them.
Ooooorrr you can have the "HIDDEN" energy in houses. Tongue

anyway, OP, looking in purse is weird.

i'd be thinking, "Do you want your own purse!?" Laughing

"let me see your photos."

"no"

I'm surprised he didnt jump on you.

Aquarius is not jealous- normally if they are wanting info On the Phone they are suspected something is "off" or there is dishonesty. I'm an Aquarius- I could care less what is on a phone, until I hear or see something that doesn't add up. We are puzzle-piecers. If I sense a possible issue with dishonesty, I will figure it out.
if my husband asks me something that he needs and it's in my handbag,

i'll say, "go check in my purse it's in there."

no big fucking deal.

if he gets a message on his Phone (it's Always Always usually colleagues/co workers cause they're hopeless) lol

i look over and say, 'who is it??"

if he's IN the mood, he'll take away the Phone, and say, "my mistress."

lmaoLaughing

but if he's in a serious mood, he'll just let me see who it is.

My Aquarius ex used to do this, he even looked through my bathroom trash etc when he had the chance. In hindsight i feel bad for him for being so insecure. As an aquarius i understand why though, we have a deep desire for pure trust and bond that is noticed by physical and nonphysical affirmations.
Thanks for all replies and opinions

He gets too much with the questions and delving into my stuff lol

I feel like he'd like to cut me open and see the colour of my blood sometimes , he's pissed me off when we were leaving he was normal kissed me bye then when I got home he then finds the balls to tell me that he didn't like that I asked him if he had looked in my bag !? Cheeky shit.

I would never do such things if I wanted to check his shit if ask him to his face.

He said something odd to me ... He said if I pushed his buttons too hard he would lash out physically !?

Wtf

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Posted by AquaMermaid
Tinxy, You know he loves you otherwise he wouldn't have bothered posting things about you publicly.We're very cautious that way. I'm not the one to go through someone's personal belongings unless they share it voluntarily. I don't even bother looking twice at the people I don't care about. If I like a person waaaaaay too much, I'll be curious about him. Scorpios do this too, I'm well aware of it Winking They'll stalk and investigate.Your smoking is not so much of a problem but your reaction must have alarmed him. The more you resist, the more it's going to fuel his suspicion. Aquarius is not going to run behind you with a hammer, they just detach themselves.I hope you've not given him any reasons to suspect you.

Yeah, I find it weird too. My aqua friend or sister are not like that, but if the person reacts, they will think something is up. May not even bother to even investigate further, the reaction of the person is all they need.
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Well in my opinion if I don't check his phone or even think to check his phone why should he check mine ?

I said to him after he asked to check my phone
" would you let me go through yours". ?

He said "no"

Well then fuck off and don't ask me

I got nothing for him to suspect me about I'm in my late 20's and only ever been sexual with one b4 him and still I haven't had sex with him.

I'm not a hoe I don't talk to loads of men let alone have intimate shit with guys. And he knows this !!!!

Maybe there is something in his past that causes him to distrust. Even if you are the perfect example, he might not be able to let go of past hurts - so it translates to you.
seriously, if youre gonna act like your? HIDING something from your man...

what do you think??

"Oh you can't look in there!!!! NOOOO!!!"

he's gonna say, "what? what are you hiding"

"none of your business."

Ok. well this IS your man. Not some stranger, or your co worker you know??

you don't treat them like some one who is not close to you.
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Posted by lisabethur8
seriously, if youre gonna act like your? HIDING something from your man...

what do you think??

"Oh you can't look in there!!!! NOOOO!!!"

he's gonna say, "what? what are you hiding"

"none of your business."

Ok. well this IS your man. Not some stranger, or your co worker you know??

you don't treat them like some one who is not close to you.

This is NOT her man. she is dating him. And she needs to establish some boundaries and deserves some respect. Her purse is hers and it looks ugly when someone else goes through someone else's purse.

It is like if HE found her checking his wallet. Even if there was nothing there- a man would be equally turned off.
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lol

well if theyre not together, that IS weird

i'd be freaked out. Creepy behaviour then.
Posted by 88akka
Posted by lisabethur8
if my husband asks me something that he needs and it's in my handbag,

i'll say, "go check in my purse it's in there."

no big fucking deal.

if he gets a message on his Phone (it's Always Always usually colleagues/co workers cause they're hopeless) lol

i look over and say, 'who is it??"

if he's IN the mood, he'll take away the Phone, and say, "my mistress."

lmaoLaughing

but if he's in a serious mood, he'll just let me see who it is.



This is cute Lisa, and well you guys are married, and this guy is your man and you are his woman. smile

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thanks, sweetie. smile
Posted by AriesLady8
Ladies, what is your reasoning behind closet smoking?

There's a social stigma to it. It's unhealthy. It stinks. People are offended by the smell and look down on it because they see it as stupid because you know the health risk (cancer, strokes, cardiac disease).

For me it wasn't about insecurity, but more about avoiding a lecture.

I finally decided it was stupid to hide it. I figure if you do it, own it a d face the music.
Posted by 88akka
Posted by truecap
Maybe the bag fell on the floor and everything spilled out...??? If it did he didn't admit it because you automatically assumed he went through it. Then, you were so sensitive about it, it actually does look like you were trying to hide something. If you hadn't said anything, he probably would have volunteered the bag fell.
Not saying that's what happened - Just giving benefit of the doubt.

As far as smoking. He knows. He can smell it on you and taste it on you. I used to be a closet smoker too, but when I got found out, everyone was like, we already knew, don't know why you tried to hide it.

Sooooo....chill, girl. smile



lol, but he also wants to go through her cell phone. So the going through her purse was not an accident. smile


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After her reaction to the purse. Maybe he's suspicious now. I dunno. Lol!
Honestly, I would have been a smart ass and dumped my purse out on the floor and sarcastically identified every item and piece of paper in there. Then I would have opened up my phone and scrolled through pictures and texts and phone listin explaining in painful detail who everyone was and every story I could think of for each picture.

He would have known I was obviously pissed and would have regretted every bit of it.

Yeah, it'd probably be the end unless he did some fast back peddling and opened his phone and wallet to do the same.
I still prefer to give the benefit of doubt and think about all the possibilities before doing that, though.
Posted by Huldra
I think you have huuuge insecurity issues. Quite possibly, scyscraper kind of huge.
Good luck with the Aqua

I agree. The Aqua had no problem whatsoever about putting her on the defensive after he gets busted for searching her purse.

A real gentleman doesn't do things like that.
Lmao!!!
There's no way you can get mad after that response.
Posted by AquaMermaid
This topic reminds me of a funny story, This happened when I was in relationship with my Scorpio Sun/Aries Moon ex boyfriend. We used to live together.So,I went to take a shower and I come out. I see him on the bed with my empty purse on the pillow and all the items spread on the bed. He's holding my sanitary pad and scissors and he cuts it open in half. I was like wtf are you trying to do? He said, "I was always curious what was inside this thing". I was like Ok carry on crazy, damn !Laughing


Hahahaha that's friggin hilarious cutting the towel open _???_???_???_???

Oh my _??
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Posted by Tinxy
Thanks for all replies and opinions

He gets too much with the questions and delving into my stuff lol

I feel like he'd like to cut me open and see the colour of my blood sometimes , he's pissed me off when we were leaving he was normal kissed me bye then when I got home he then finds the balls to tell me that he didn't like that I asked him if he had looked in my bag !? Cheeky shit.

I would never do such things if I wanted to check his shit if ask him to his face.

He said something odd to me ... He said if I pushed his buttons too hard he would lash out physically !?

Wtf



Tinxy, You have anger issues and this is coming from an Aries Mars person. That's a really fucked up thing what he said to you but you should know that Aquarius is a fixed sign, our temper is as bad and destructive. You've already hurt this guy in the past with your words, he stopped talking to you. You came here all hurt and wrote him an apology letter and got back with him. What if he didn't do anything and your suspicion just pissed him off? An Aquarius doesn't loses his temper easily and won't hit someone unless his patience gives up.He just warned you that he's losing his patience. He can only take so much. A mature man will walk away( he already did that last time) and an impulsive man will get violent.
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I know aqua mermaid I always appreciate your input _??_

I will always want him , till the day I die he will be on my mind. Can't live with him can't live without him.

Without him is what I choose bc I want him to be happy.