Hearing the same question for Aqua men...

Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

I know I'm not the only one. Just giving hugs to women who r in similar boats.... I think if we r patient eventually they will be ours... though I'm not the one with patient...

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Posted by sultrykitty
Yep, I was there too. Can't tell you anything other than do what have to. I had to wait it out, many don't and won't.

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

I know I'm not the only one. Just giving hugs to women who r in similar boats.... I think if we r patient eventually they will be ours... though I'm not the one with patient...

Hhmmm yeea maybe i think ill.patiently move on. No one has ever taken that much time to get me, i dont really feel like doing the same.

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Posted by boxcarmirnta

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

I know I'm not the only one. Just giving hugs to women who r in similar boats.... I think if we r patient eventually they will be ours... though I'm not the one with patient...

Hhmmm yeea maybe i think ill.patiently move on. No one has ever taken that much time to get me, i dont really feel like doing the same.

I'm trying to do the same. What's your sign?

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Posted by sultrykitty
Yep, I was there too. Can't tell you anything other than do what have to. I had to wait it out, many don't and won't.

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Posted by sultrykitty
Yep, I was there too. Can't tell you anything other than do what have to. I had to wait it out, many don't and won't.

So what did you learn and what was the outcome?

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

Posted by sultrykitty

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Yep, I was there too. Can't tell you anything other than do what have to. I had to wait it out, many don't and won't.

So what did you learn and what was the outcome?

Well I knew he had deeper feelings than he was willing to accept. Not that I think any woman who says that is right, more often than not it's self delusion. But for ME, every time I tried to date someone else, it was never the same as with him. So I eventually just quit doing it.


Then after some more time passed, I decided that the limbo we were in wasn't worth it no matter what feelings were there and I ended it. I had no plans to date, just to move on with my life. I guess it made him confront his feelings and he contacted me after a few months. He became more focused on our relationship and more committed to doing things he just paid lip service to the whole time before.


I didn't do ANYTHING to force it. I guess he just decided that he didn't want to lose me.

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Yep, I was there too. Can't tell you anything other than do what have to. I had to wait it out, many don't and won't.

So what did you learn and what was the outcome?

Well I knew he had deeper feelings than he was willing to accept. Not that I think any woman who says that is right, more often than not it's self delusion. But for ME, every time I tried to date someone else, it was never the same as with him. So I eventually just quit doing it.


Then after some more time passed, I decided that the limbo we were in wasn't worth it no matter what feelings were there and I ended it. I had no plans to date, just to move on with my life. I guess it made him confront his feelings and he contacted me after a few months. He became more focused on our relationship and more committed to doing things he just paid lip service to the whole time before.


I didn't do ANYTHING to force it. I guess he just decided that he didn't want to lose me.

That's a sweet story... how long did it take for u to finally call n quit n move on? ... I confessed my feelings everything to him last night. Like literally everything.. n now I have nothing else to hide. I am ready to move forward n move on with life without any regrets....

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Yep, I was there too. Can't tell you anything other than do what have to. I had to wait it out, many don't and won't.

So what did you learn and what was the outcome?

Well I knew he had deeper feelings than he was willing to accept. Not that I think any woman who says that is right, more often than not it's self delusion. But for ME, every time I tried to date someone else, it was never the same as with him. So I eventually just quit doing it.


Then after some more time passed, I decided that the limbo we were in wasn't worth it no matter what feelings were there and I ended it. I had no plans to date, just to move on with my life. I guess it made him confront his feelings and he contacted me after a few months. He became more focused on our relationship and more committed to doing things he just paid lip service to the whole time before.


I didn't do ANYTHING to force it. I guess he just decided that he didn't want to lose me.

That's a sweet story... how long did it take for u to finally call n quit n move on? ... I confessed my feelings everything to him last night. Like literally everything.. n now I have nothing else to hide. I am ready to move forward n move on with life without any regrets....

10 years; we were 30. He was fine doing the once a week thing, putting me on the back burner and generally acting like a teenager. All the while saying we were a couple but only acting like it when we were together. I was fine with it too until I just wasn't anymore. I mean, we broke up many times and we both tried to break away but it always came down to the fact that we couldn't stay away from each other for long (a matter of days to a couple weeks). It took me that long (10 years of this) to realize that the insane connection we had didn't matter if we weren't ever going to progress to something more. And it wouldn't have if I had just kept going along with it.

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Yep, I was there too. Can't tell you anything other than do what have to. I had to wait it out, many don't and won't.

So what did you learn and what was the outcome?

Well I knew he had deeper feelings than he was willing to accept. Not that I think any woman who says that is right, more often than not it's self delusion. But for ME, every time I tried to date someone else, it was never the same as with him. So I eventually just quit doing it.


Then after some more time passed, I decided that the limbo we were in wasn't worth it no matter what feelings were there and I ended it. I had no plans to date, just to move on with my life. I guess it made him confront his feelings and he contacted me after a few months. He became more focused on our relationship and more committed to doing things he just paid lip service to the whole time before.


I didn't do ANYTHING to force it. I guess he just decided that he didn't want to lose me.

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Posted by starwars
not that hard if you get where they're coming from.


their actions and the way they behave are really different than most people like, they dont think texting you daily is a form of commitment, instead they think giving you space and believing that you're still there vice versa is the ultimate form of commitment and loyality LOL


I know it sounds weird but I get it cause im the same way.



- if you can play the same game, then that's great. you have to be that way though, because they can see through bs.


- their idea of love is quite simple: you do you, I do me and we share that together. if you like this approach then it can work.


- call them out when needed to, if an aqua sensed that you're too forgiving and love them hell a lot and will always be there. they will sure have soft spot for you but that wont stop them from being aloof. hell they can reach a point where they feel you're too good for them and call it quits. I do think they need to be cornered 60% of the time.


- don't give your all until you're sure he's worth it. equally invest in the relationship. with aquas you need to mirror them because it helps them realize how they are coming across. always talk with logic too.


- be direct, ask direct questions and expect direct answers. Aquas are seriously one of the few signs that tells you how it is. Idk if you'll run into one who dont know what the fuck he wants but that will be his answer and its for you to decide whether to go with it or not.


- through both words and actions you can see whether they're the real deal or not look out for stuff like: spending time with you, letting you in into their world, talking about you to their friends, sharing their interest with you, asking for your interests and trying to get into it, going out of their way for you, asking for your opinion, reacting to whatever you do say. (they dont bother if they arent into you)


- they can be really blind whenever they mess up, you need to tell them exactly what they've done, how it made u feel and how to solve it. they are really collaborative and open to compromise if they understood what is the problem and why its a problem because they despise drama and would rather get over with it asap.


- what i find similar between aquas and virgos is the aloofness because we have the head vs heart thing going on. it make us look shady even when not intented to. I think both signs look for pure love where they don't lose themselves in the porocess but rather understand and grow together and share the experience with each other


- I also think aquas are very insecure, they're aware of their shortcomings, they don't feel good enough regardless how 'alpha' they are lol. They want someone to understand them and accept them while that someone doesn't get trashed on, lost or hurt in the process.


I do believe all it takes is to believe in them for them to believe in you (its quite endearing) The relationship can be so rewarding if you have an open mind and is able to understand their weird prespective while being true to yourself and who you are. Aquas are the best, they make great lovers who geniunely care about your well being and would put you first if you figured how to deal with them. The excitement and spark will always be there.


#EssaysWithStarwars

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

So basically you're a woman who falls for words over actions? But you rather blame the man than your own naïveté?

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

So basically you're a woman who falls for words over actions? But you rather blame the man than your own naïveté?

Nope. Im way too old to be naive. His actions were also there, he doted on me endlessly did stuff for me all the time. Brought me food presents etc.

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Posted by starwars
not that hard if you get where they're coming from.


their actions and the way they behave are really different than most people like, they dont think texting you daily is a form of commitment, instead they think giving you space and believing that you're still there vice versa is the ultimate form of commitment and loyality LOL


I know it sounds weird but I get it cause im the same way.



- if you can play the same game, then that's great. you have to be that way though, because they can see through bs.


- their idea of love is quite simple: you do you, I do me and we share that together. if you like this approach then it can work.


- call them out when needed to, if an aqua sensed that you're too forgiving and love them hell a lot and will always be there. they will sure have soft spot for you but that wont stop them from being aloof. hell they can reach a point where they feel you're too good for them and call it quits. I do think they need to be cornered 60% of the time.


- don't give your all until you're sure he's worth it. equally invest in the relationship. with aquas you need to mirror them because it helps them realize how they are coming across. always talk with logic too.


- be direct, ask direct questions and expect direct answers. Aquas are seriously one of the few signs that tells you how it is. Idk if you'll run into one who dont know what the fuck he wants but that will be his answer and its for you to decide whether to go with it or not.


- through both words and actions you can see whether they're the real deal or not look out for stuff like: spending time with you, letting you in into their world, talking about you to their friends, sharing their interest with you, asking for your interests and trying to get into it, going out of their way for you, asking for your opinion, reacting to whatever you do say. (they dont bother if they arent into you)


- they can be really blind whenever they mess up, you need to tell them exactly what they've done, how it made u feel and how to solve it. they are really collaborative and open to compromise if they understood what is the problem and why its a problem because they despise drama and would rather get over with it asap.


- what i find similar between aquas and virgos is the aloofness because we have the head vs heart thing going on. it make us look shady even when not intented to. I think both signs look for pure love where they don't lose themselves in the porocess but rather understand and grow together and share the experience with each other


- I also think aquas are very insecure, they're aware of their shortcomings, they don't feel good enough regardless how 'alpha' they are lol. They want someone to understand them and accept them while that someone doesn't get trashed on, lost or hurt in the process.


I do believe all it takes is to believe in them for them to believe in you (its quite endearing) The relationship can be so rewarding if you have an open mind and is able to understand their weird prespective while being true to yourself and who you are. Aquas are the best, they make great lovers who geniunely care about your well being and would put you first if you figured how to deal with them. The excitement and spark will always be there.


#EssaysWithStarwars

Omg word to this!!!! Spot on. This should be pinned at the top of the aqua board!!!!!!!

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

So basically you're a woman who falls for words over actions? But you rather blame the man than your own naïveté?

Nope. Im way too old to be naive. His actions were also there, he doted on me endlessly did stuff for me all the time. Brought me food presents etc.

So he just disappeared after doing all those things? No explanation, no nothing?

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

So basically you're a woman who falls for words over actions? But you rather blame the man than your own naïveté?

Nope. Im way too old to be naive. His actions were also there, he doted on me endlessly did stuff for me all the time. Brought me food presents etc.

So he just disappeared after doing all those things? No explanation, no nothing?

We had a misunderstanding (i needed him to help me with a crisis) and he jumped ship. Unwilling to put in the work required to be involved with someone. Just gave vague bs excuses..we're not a good fit. Even tho we get along perfectly, want all the same things, love all the same things, same goals...honestly we're a match made in heaven....but he cant see it i guess. He ran and hid. *shrug*

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
No you are not the only one. They dont know what they want and they fill your head full of promises they wont keep.

So basically you're a woman who falls for words over actions? But you rather blame the man than your own naïveté?

Nope. Im way too old to be naive. His actions were also there, he doted on me endlessly did stuff for me all the time. Brought me food presents etc.

So he just disappeared after doing all those things? No explanation, no nothing?

We had a misunderstanding (i needed him to help me with a crisis) and he jumped ship. Unwilling to put in the work required to be involved with someone. Just gave vague bs excuses..we're not a good fit. Even tho we get along perfectly, want all the same things, love all the same things, same goals...honestly we're a match made in heaven....but he cant see it i guess. He ran and hid. *shrug*

What a douche!!! I guess he did you a favour by showing you what an unreliable jerk he is. Who wants a companion like that?

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Yep, I was there too. Can't tell you anything other than do what have to. I had to wait it out, many don't and won't.

So what did you learn and what was the outcome?

Well I knew he had deeper feelings than he was willing to accept. Not that I think any woman who says that is right, more often than not it's self delusion. But for ME, every time I tried to date someone else, it was never the same as with him. So I eventually just quit doing it.


Then after some more time passed, I decided that the limbo we were in wasn't worth it no matter what feelings were there and I ended it. I had no plans to date, just to move on with my life. I guess it made him confront his feelings and he contacted me after a few months. He became more focused on our relationship and more committed to doing things he just paid lip service to the whole time before.


I didn't do ANYTHING to force it. I guess he just decided that he didn't want to lose me.

That's a sweet story... how long did it take for u to finally call n quit n move on? ... I confessed my feelings everything to him last night. Like literally everything.. n now I have nothing else to hide. I am ready to move forward n move on with life without any regrets....

10 years; we were 30. He was fine doing the once a week thing, putting me on the back burner and generally acting like a teenager. All the while saying we were a couple but only acting like it when we were together. I was fine with it too until I just wasn't anymore. I mean, we broke up many times and we both tried to break away but it always came down to the fact that we couldn't stay away from each other for long (a matter of days to a couple weeks). It took me that long (10 years of this) to realize that the insane connection we had didn't matter if we weren't ever going to progress to something more. And it wouldn't have if I had just kept going along with it.

Wow 10 years !!!!!! It's only been 2' months for me... Taurus was supposed to be patient. What's your Venus sun ?

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You are amazing !!!! Wait, what sign r u ??? based on everything, I lost mine. All said and done... he's gone to the next best thing.. we r not compatible ... Aqua n Taurus r too hard regardless of all the airy placements !! Though thank u so much for ur explanation. U nailed it... !!!!!! Hugs hugs hugs hugs

Hi there, no worries.


If he's gone then he's gone, find yourself a new man. not all aquas are sane, there are some really controlling ones.


why not give the Libra a chance? I'm glad you're done with that ViS dude. An air sign is all what you need rn lol


and I'm a Virgo

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Yep, I was there too. Can't tell you anything other than do what have to. I had to wait it out, many don't and won't.

So what did you learn and what was the outcome?

Well I knew he had deeper feelings than he was willing to accept. Not that I think any woman who says that is right, more often than not it's self delusion. But for ME, every time I tried to date someone else, it was never the same as with him. So I eventually just quit doing it.


Then after some more time passed, I decided that the limbo we were in wasn't worth it no matter what feelings were there and I ended it. I had no plans to date, just to move on with my life. I guess it made him confront his feelings and he contacted me after a few months. He became more focused on our relationship and more committed to doing things he just paid lip service to the whole time before.


I didn't do ANYTHING to force it. I guess he just decided that he didn't want to lose me.

That's a sweet story... how long did it take for u to finally call n quit n move on? ... I confessed my feelings everything to him last night. Like literally everything.. n now I have nothing else to hide. I am ready to move forward n move on with life without any regrets....

10 years; we were 30. He was fine doing the once a week thing, putting me on the back burner and generally acting like a teenager. All the while saying we were a couple but only acting like it when we were together. I was fine with it too until I just wasn't anymore. I mean, we broke up many times and we both tried to break away but it always came down to the fact that we couldn't stay away from each other for long (a matter of days to a couple weeks). It took me that long (10 years of this) to realize that the insane connection we had didn't matter if we weren't ever going to progress to something more. And it wouldn't have if I had just kept going along with it.

Wow 10 years !!!!!! It's only been 2' months for me... Taurus was supposed to be patient. What's your Venus sun ?

Libra venus. I think my Cap moon came in and did most of the dirty work though; stick it out till it's completely done and dusted.

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Oh dear... what's new? I for one started to date other people... a nice normal libra man who's keen on giving love n commitment .. serious .. too nice... everything I want in a partner... though my heart is calling this Aqua man who can't give me that commitment.... who doesn't go extra miles to keep me.. who's acting cold yet passionate.... who comes and go.... who knows how to keep my attention... who plays the chase game too well..... who I havnt had a closure properly.... why oh why? Am I the one with the problem or what?

Sun taurus.venus Gemini. Moon in Aquarius



What's your sign?

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Well I knew he had deeper feelings than he was willing to accept. Not that I think any woman who says that is right, more often than not it's self delusion. But for ME, every time I tried to date someone else, it was never the same as with him. So I eventually just quit doing it.


Then after some more time passed, I decided that the limbo we were in wasn't worth it no matter what feelings were there and I ended it. I had no plans to date, just to move on with my life. I guess it made him confront his feelings and he contacted me after a few months. He became more focused on our relationship and more committed to doing things he just paid lip service to the whole time before.


I didn't do ANYTHING to force it. I guess he just decided that he didn't want to lose me.

Sometimes though it takes a bit before we realize you created this void in our hearts that no one else can fill.

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10 years; we were 30. He was fine doing the once a week thing, putting me on the back burner and generally acting like a teenager. All the while saying we were a couple but only acting like it when we were together. I was fine with it too until I just wasn't anymore. I mean, we broke up many times and we both tried to break away but it always came down to the fact that we couldn't stay away from each other for long (a matter of days to a couple weeks). It took me that long (10 years of this) to realize that the insane connection we had didn't matter if we weren't ever going to progress to something more. And it wouldn't have if I had just kept going along with it.

How is he like with you now? Is he more expressive and vulnerable with you? Do you feel like things have changed for the better?

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Compared to then, for sure. We still have our moments where there's quite a bit of distance. But all I need is a big hug from him and the closeness comes right back.

Awww I suppose your Cap moon helps deal with the distance but I've heard other Leos have issues with this.

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Well I knew he had deeper feelings than he was willing to accept. Not that I think any woman who says that is right, more often than not it's self delusion. But for ME, every time I tried to date someone else, it was never the same as with him. So I eventually just quit doing it.


Then after some more time passed, I decided that the limbo we were in wasn't worth it no matter what feelings were there and I ended it. I had no plans to date, just to move on with my life. I guess it made him confront his feelings and he contacted me after a few months. He became more focused on our relationship and more committed to doing things he just paid lip service to the whole time before.


I didn't do ANYTHING to force it. I guess he just decided that he didn't want to lose me.

Yes us Aquas can get into that go with the flow comfort zone a little too much. If we feel we have you we can get pretty lazy. It's not until you are gone or walking away that we get our sh#t together. Sometimes though it takes a bit before we realize you created this void in our hearts that no one else can fill. And Leos are the ones that can only fill that void and wound us the most.

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Compared to then, for sure. We still have our moments where there's quite a bit of distance. But all I need is a big hug from him and the closeness comes right back.

Awww I suppose your Cap moon helps deal with the distance but I've heard other Leos have issues with this.

It used to be, I've been able to overcome it. The bigger problem is that when there is that distance and I use the time for "me" (online stuff mostly), he gets upset that I'm spending my time online, gets suspicious or jealous. I think he would be perfectly happy if I just sat around and watched him with anticipation, waiting for him to be ready to spend time with me. Sorry dude, I grovel for no one.

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It used to be, I've been able to overcome it. The bigger problem is that when there is that distance and I use the time for "me" (online stuff mostly), he gets upset that I'm spending my time online, gets suspicious or jealous. I think he would be perfectly happy if I just sat around and watched him with anticipation, waiting for him to be ready to spend time with me. Sorry dude, I grovel for no one.

Yes Lol we can be pretty selfish and I think it's so cute he gets jealous. The jealousy factor between the Aquarius and Leo relationship is cute, imo. There's that subtlety that makes it very endearing and makes you go...awwww you do care It's also a turn on since we both tend to be 'indifferent' to our feelings. It's like a little sprinkle of love.

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Mmm what about a Taurus. Do I have a chance lol? I started seeing another guy a libra n I told him about it... he's certainty a bit sad thoug I don't think he is going to fight for me.. god they r annoying lol sorry

Yes Aqua males can be annoying lol but I don't think he will fight for you in the most obvious way. He may come back but actually beg and chase is not in the Aquarian handbook.


I think fixed signs have the most impact on us Aquas mostly because they are maddening, stubborn, and the most committed imo.


When in love I think fixed signs are the ones that stick it through more so than any other quality sign + we are consistent. Something that Cardinal signs lack a lot. Libras, Aries are some of the most inconsistent signs I've come across. I have yet to date a Cancer or Capricorn but I'd imagine they'd be the same since they are both cardinal as well. Mutable signs are too flaky or unreliable for an Aqua who wants someone to ground them. But they also need someone to give them that freedom and stability they crave. I think this is why you see a lot of Aqua/Aqua relationships because they understand each other the best while providing the other things they want/need.


The thing about Taurus/Aquarius and Scorpio/Aquarius is that they are both possessive and jealous signs who feel this need to always know where an Aqua is at all times. They become extremely insecure when the Aqua goes away for a bit and panic and push an Aqua into a corner which makes the Aqua run away. The trick here is providing an Aqua the space to roam around and trust that they will return to you. In terms of commitment, think of an Aqua as a frog in a pot of boiling water. If you place the frog in it he will jump right out without hesitation. If you however slowly build up the heat then the frog will stay and die. Essentially this is what you want to do with an Aqua, but instead of pot of boiling water, replace with commitment, space, and emotions. You have to build up to it in order to 'trap' him.


I do see this pairing work though. I have a friend who's dating a Taurus and they are very much in love. The only problem is that she has cheated on him, which he doesn't know, but if you can not fall into that trap of temptation then all should be good.

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Not meaning to budge in this cuteness but why do I have this exactly similar thing with Aqua guy? Is it because my moon is in Aqua?

Lol no problem! Thing is Aquarius like a hint of jealousy. If you can show it in subtlety or if we can sense your jealousy (and it won't cause any major trouble) and you try to hide it...then that turns us on. It makes us want you for some strange reason. We go from nonchalant -> passionate and loving in an instant.


I'd imagine you are the same way since you have an Aqua moon and moons are supposed to represent who we already are and how we internalize our feelings. Sun signs are what we try to aspire to be and how we project our personality to the world. Rising is how we see the world and how the world sees us at first glance.

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Probably the very best thing I did in one those times of sheer frustration with my Aqua was to read a self help book on living in a codependent relationship.


Being Libra dominant, I tend to give everything to the one I love, with little expectation of immediate return. In a codependent relationship, that spells trouble. I took on his insecurities, tried to "help" him along. Always listened to his troubles and commiserated with him. Never complained, just showed him love. I had that modeled in my own life but didn't recognize that I was doing the same stuff I looked down on my mom for. It was a book of hers that I picked up.


After reading that book, I realized I was doing what I should have done if I were in a reciprocal relationship, but we weren't even close to that. I started completely changing how I dealt with him, and whattayaknow, it started working. More for me than for him at first, but then it started affecting how he related to me. Things started getting better for both of us. That's when I started going out more, seeing other people, generally living my life without constantly wondering what he was up to. Not letting his crap become mine, learning to be loving without being a pushover really helped.

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Probably the very best thing I did in one those times of sheer frustration with my Aqua was to read a self help book on living in a codependent relationship.


Being Libra dominant, I tend to give everything to the one I love, with little expectation of immediate return. In a codependent relationship, that spells trouble. I took on his insecurities, tried to "help" him along. Always listened to his troubles and commiserated with him. Never complained, just showed him love. I had that modeled in my own life but didn't recognize that I was doing the same stuff I looked down on my mom for. It was a book of hers that I picked up.


After reading that book, I realized I was doing what I should have done if I were in a reciprocal relationship, but we weren't even close to that. I started completely changing how I dealt with him, and whattayaknow, it started working. More for me than for him at first, but then it started affecting how he related to me. Things started getting better for both of us. That's when I started going out more, seeing other people, generally living my life without constantly wondering what he was up to. Not letting his crap become mine, learning to be loving without being a pushover really helped.

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Probably the very best thing I did in one those times of sheer frustration with my Aqua was to read a self help book on living in a codependent relationship.


Being Libra dominant, I tend to give everything to the one I love, with little expectation of immediate return. In a codependent relationship, that spells trouble. I took on his insecurities, tried to "help" him along. Always listened to his troubles and commiserated with him. Never complained, just showed him love. I had that modeled in my own life but didn't recognize that I was doing the same stuff I looked down on my mom for. It was a book of hers that I picked up.


After reading that book, I realized I was doing what I should have done if I were in a reciprocal relationship, but we weren't even close to that. I started completely changing how I dealt with him, and whattayaknow, it started working. More for me than for him at first, but then it started affecting how he related to me. Things started getting better for both of us. That's when I started going out more, seeing other people, generally living my life without constantly wondering what he was up to. Not letting his crap become mine, learning to be loving without being a pushover really helped.

wait u r a cap moon ! cap mooners r so hard !! i feel sorry for them sometimes. my ex had that... he struggled so hard..and prob still do what do u mean by libra dominant ?

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Just venting... venting fornother females on this board dealing with the same problems.... let's all hug each other for now while those Aqua men are fleeing themselves in their very own freedom world....

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this is pretty much spot on about us!!! great analysis!!!


my question is why you dislike "Aqua Moons"?

you said about it multiple times.

cuz they're hypersensitive and easily offended

are you sure it's because of their moon?


i'm aqua moon and i'm not sensitive let alone hypersensitive.

all the people who i find hypersensitive have their moon in aquarius.

aqua rising. what about them?

dope af


I like anything aqua but the moon

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Probably the very best thing I did in one those times of sheer frustration with my Aqua was to read a self help book on living in a codependent relationship.


Being Libra dominant, I tend to give everything to the one I love, with little expectation of immediate return. In a codependent relationship, that spells trouble. I took on his insecurities, tried to "help" him along. Always listened to his troubles and commiserated with him. Never complained, just showed him love. I had that modeled in my own life but didn't recognize that I was doing the same stuff I looked down on my mom for. It was a book of hers that I picked up.


After reading that book, I realized I was doing what I should have done if I were in a reciprocal relationship, but we weren't even close to that. I started completely changing how I dealt with him, and whattayaknow, it started working. More for me than for him at first, but then it started affecting how he related to me. Things started getting better for both of us. That's when I started going out more, seeing other people, generally living my life without constantly wondering what he was up to. Not letting his crap become mine, learning to be loving without being a pushover really helped.

Would love to know the name of this Book

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Not meaning to budge in this cuteness but why do I have this exactly similar thing with Aqua guy? Is it because my moon is in Aqua?

Lol no problem! Thing is Aquarius like a hint of jealousy. If you can show it in subtlety or if we can sense your jealousy (and it won't cause any major trouble) and you try to hide it...then that turns us on. It makes us want you for some strange reason. We go from nonchalant -> passionate and loving in an instant.


I'd imagine you are the same way since you have an Aqua moon and moons are supposed to represent who we already are and how we internalize our feelings. Sun signs are what we try to aspire to be and how we project our personality to the world. Rising is how we see the world and how the world sees us at first glance.

the other day, he told me he was spending time with his boys before he went out dancing( to see me) , i didn't even ask him..and i said.. oh ok ! thats good !! and he's like * are you jealous? *


and i'm like..nooo ! why would i be jealous?


lol.. its almost like he wants me to be jealous or something...


i try so hard not to be jealous coz i used to be like that when i was a lot younger now I'm not like that at all..


well maybe deep down but i will never show it lol...


at times, like today he was active n he didn't reply so i jokingly said, ...aww u r chatting up other girls filling up ur roster...as i can imagine ur penis needs surviving coz i will be away for a month...


lol n he's like what r u talking about? i'm working n my computer is on babe...


n i said, its ok I'm just teasing n u dun have to explain ur self! though thank u lol


this is our kind of play at the moment..its exhausting for me to be honest lol

Yeah he does like to make you jealous but he doesn't like you to get jealous if he's not doing anything purposely to cause that. So it's like, it's on my terms only and when I feel like it. Thing is, how are you supposed to know that?


Acting like you could care less will get him worked up... but teasing him in that way, he'll thinking your just fishing

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I had to take my time to reply to you as i can see how much efforts u put in in each reply!!

so i can finally sit on my laptop !! and reply properly!


wow ! your analysis is amazing. i never thought about me taurus being a fixed sign and aqua moon being a fixed sign..that explains clearly why in the beginning once i FIX my mind on someone.. it takes me years to get over them..i will keep fighting and fighting until i no longer can anymore... it takes a long time..but those that i don't really want to be with in the beginning, at the end i will brake up with them anyway lol /


so, as for our pair, i expressed my feelings to everything and he still comes back and want to see me. i don't know where this is leading ...though its ok, i will just go with the flow..my aqua moon head is tired of analysis...though i think what we have best is communication ! we both talk and listen...and i can honestly express what i feel and what worries me and my current state of emotion or whatever wtihtout sounding needy to him.. my aqua moon helps a lot.. i do it in a more non emotional way.. currently i tease him about i'm his monday girl and his weekends he's a bird flying everywhere lol... he laughs it off out loud.. at the end of the day its only been 2 months for us..i can't trap him in from day one u r right..


and u r also right, deep down i get jealous, not because i get jealous of I'm and other women, i'm jealous that i can't be with him on those days...we have it hard.. as I'm a single mum with a 10 months old lol...my going out life is limited which makes me very insecure in that department.. i have not even been to his place !! he's been coming to mine...


wekeends i get sad and insecure though i keep it all in side, i don't really express it much..it hurts me deeply sometimes but i wish him have a good night or whatever... but i cudn't really stand it anymore, so i started the dating app...so lets see how we go there..



it will help a lot , if he makes me exclusive and public...it will make me more secure..


but hearing from other people on here..aquarius takes a life time to commit lol.. so i can't really complain !!!


i think my aqua moon helps a lot.. my craziness attracts him.. he noes i'm very open minded and willing to go that crazy miles with him...mentally and adventurously..sex wise...


maybe thats why he still want to have me in his life lol.


how about you? which signs work best for u? do u fall for an aqua guy at all ??


thank u for ur reply . honestly u help a lot of girls on here .. hahahaha

Yeah I try help out when I can because I know how it feels when you ask for advice and no one takes the time to answer. I try to be as unbiased and objective as I can be. Plus it helps cope with my heartache.


It's great that you are keeping your options open. It helps keep you distracted and not so centered on this Aquarius guy, which we can sense right away. If he feels like you are busy entertaining others then he'll want to get closer to you to figure if you are or not. Make sure he doesn't find out about this, because if he does then he'll run for the hills. Aquarius don't like to fight for anyone that has others in the picture, we want to feel special but at the same time we want to make sure you also are special enough to have other suitors. It's like exclusivity..we are each other's collectors' items. Again one of the reasons why Aqua/Leo relationships work because Aquas are special and Leos like special things. But I digress...


As long as your jealousy is not projected onto him then all should be fine. Everyone experiences jealousy and Aquas are not exempt. We just have a good poker face tbh. So make sure you don't blow up on him... you can wait until you guys are married to do that .... lol


As far as you being a single mom, I can totally relate on that respect. It's tough especially with a little one like yours. But since he happens to come over why not go out for a bite to eat? or a coffee? it doesn't have to be a long date. It can be a short one like 15 - 60 minutes. That way you get out of the house and don't feel so tied down to one place because of your baby, you might end up resenting your child. Plus that way he can become familiarized with your baby and warm up to him. Also avoid having sex with him until he has emotionally invested into you. I'd say give him about 6-12 months of him coming around and seeing you consistently where you can feel safer. Aquarius men are traditional and won't fall in love as easily as other males in the Zodiac. The longer you wait to put out the more he'll attach to you and want you more. They like to fantasize about sexual encounters, like all men, but more so an Aquarius. The more he fantasizes about you the more he'll think about you and therefore fall in love.


Now, many women get the Aquarius male wrong and think an Aquarius is stringing them along because he keeps popping in and out. He's not stringing you along what he is doing is being consistently inconsistent. I can see where most people might mistake that as stringing along or hot/cold behavior but if you sit back and analyze and Aquarius behavior then you will realize that they are pretty consistent. If an Aqua shows up for 3 days then disappears for 5 then comes back for 3 days and disappears for 5...then he is being consistently in consistent. If he does this continuously for months you will notice the time between the re-appearing and disappearing act shortens in length. If it does, then you will begin to notice him doing little things for you and hinting on his affections for you. This means the Aqua is enjoying your company because he's falling for you.


There is also the other spectrum where he completely does the disappearing and re-appearing act. The time frame he does this in is much longer. You will notice an Aquarius will be really intense in the beginning, calling/texting, flirting, sex? Then all of a sudden he ghosts you and disappears for weeks or months, and then he pops up again only to disappear again. This might be translated as wishy washy behavior but in actuality it's him showing disinterest in you. If he pops up again after months, it's only to re-affirm his belief or feelings he has towards you. If he stays and doesn't disappear again then he finally came to terms with his feelings and realizes that you are the one he wishes to take on a different level, aka commitment. If he however does this magic show for months or years on end, than it's one of two things #1 he's bored and is unsure of you because he wants to find something better so he doesn't want to commit to you #2 he's afraid of commitment. Either one of those responses though, is enough reason for you to walk away from an Aqua like that because you deserve better than to be second option and you don't have the emotional reserve to change an Aquarius commitment ideals. Invest into someone else.


Now onto you darling



It seems to me like he is interested in to you. It's only been two months, so I'd have to say to give it time. Most Aquas take their time into commitment. For me, 3 months is just touching the surface on getting to know someone...let alone know how I truly feel. It took me 12 months to realize, on both my relationships, that I wanted or had feelings for the person. So enjoy the ride in the meantime. Have fun don't stress about it and don't put your eggs all in one basket.


As for MUAH

how about you? Aqua with a complicated love life.


which signs work best for u? I think fire signs work best for me with a lot of earth placements. But I tend to be attracted to Aries, Leos, Geminis, Capricorns, and Scorpios at the offset. I attract a lot of Libras, Sagittarius, Virgos, Taurus, and Pisces.


do u fall for an aqua guy at all ?? I have yet to fall for one. It's hard for me to look at them that way. Most of the Aquarius I come across are maddening. We clash a lot. Besides I need to be with someone who challenges me in all the senses. Aquas are way too similar but who knows maybe one day I'll marry Tom Hiddlestone.

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a nice normal libra man who's keen on giving love n commitment .. serious .. too nice... everything I want in a partner... though my heart is calling this Aqua man who can't give me that commitment....