Help me: I'm loving a Virgo

Its good, then its bad. He pushes me away, I run away, I regret it, he pulls me back, and then its great for awhile. This time though, I think he may not come back. I adore him. He's a 50 year old bachelor who has the patience and kindness of a saint. I'm 39, with an acknowledged lack of patience, but the same decent ideals as him. I adore him. He has told me something of his feelings in quick remarks, in bed, whilst drunk. I know its there. He seems mystified by me, respects me, and I know he cares about me. I've had a crush/ mystification/respect about him since I was a teen.
He lived 2 farms down, and I moved away when I was 17, but have returned last fall, on a weekend basis. I asked him to rent me a room in his big farm house, and he was welcome to the idea, because he knew me. I jumped his bones pretty soon, and he's been in a tail spin ever since....but in the last month or so, has started acting like a"boyfriend" I can even see him "switch on" into the boyfriend mode when he is about to act like he was before, (quiet, no response).
In the last 2 weeks though, he seemed to pull away, not offer to spend time/make suggestions for us to do things (he never did though) or be affectionate, (never has)...!
Am I being too sensitive, pushing the poor man too hard? You should have SEEN the anguish in his face when I (absolutely forced him and pained through his long silences) "asked" him to be honest and say if he wanted to be with me or was it because I was staying with him, too conveniently, and maybe he didn't want to hurt me.
He finally said (with much grimacing and shaking/nodding his head slightly) he "didn't see us getting married" As if I even want that!? Later he took me to lunch, because I "shouldn't eat alone", then back rubbed me, gave me a beautiful hug and kiss (too little too late for me) and I asked him if it what he really wanted, he sais yes, and then he watched me drive away, until I couldn't see him anymore, like a cheesy movie!! The next day, on the Sunday, he dropped by my new studio nearby but didn't come to the door. (When I just rented the studio 7 weeks ago, (after pushing me away)...he started to pull again when he saw me pulling myself away, & said to me in a drunk moment in bed, "I can't believe I almost let you get away!" . And now I'm hurt, confused but relieved a bit, but know he's a special person....HELP !

I have, on many occasions seen to his "education" about me, that I "run", and that it would be nice if he wanted to stop me, pretty funny. I tell him my needs as a woman, in a rational way, which I know he appreciates. Thankfully he's a great listener, and I'm a great talker. I try to be more sensitive, and more vulnerable, and a little sweeter than I would like to be naturally, and it feels good, these little concessions. I still feel him pull away, and I'm only just researching those Virgos, and hope its not too late for us and him, that "old" bachelor.

Wow, good luck with your Virgo guy. I recently tried to date one and it was a push and pull situation, and after being pushed away soo much and critized soo much I had to make the decision to leave him alone. His response was " Im surprised you stayed for this long"...IDK much about Virgos but you would think that at 50 he would be thinking about NOT dying alone...

Aquarians can come across as FORCEFUL and AGGRESSIVE to Virgo's sensitivity. Virgos are really, really put off by this. Virgos like to take things slow and steady and let things evolve naturally. It sounds like you just jumped in and rocked this guy's world and he was overwhelmed. I'm glad to hear you are being more sensitive and considerate, but if Virgo feels it is not sincere, than you are wasting your efforts. Virgos need to connect with someone mentally....there is nothing more erotic and passionate than connecting with someone on a mental level in bed, sharing your intimate thoughts and feelings, etc. Aquarians seem like they detest such behaviour. It's all about the physical aspect for Aquarians, or it seems. Virgo will push people out of their lives if they do not feel "comfortable" with them. They may be unsure for a time, so they test their feelings, i.e. the pushing and pulling you are describing. But once they are sure, either way, they are head-strong and determined to do what is best. It protects their sensitive souls. And trust that they are very sensitive inside. Hence, the sometime outer hardness is like a protective shell. I am a Virgo and have had two Aquarian friends that I have pushed away because I felt they were so insensitive to me and others, callous and domineering.....their insensitivity disabled them from being able to see why people RUN from them. I know all Aquarians are not exactly alike of course. Virgo's and Aquarian's basic natures are so opposite that it may feel like too much effort on both and ultimately not worth it.

Waah. We do have a mental connection, its what I think we have in common, and when our eyes meet, its deep, and I think we are on the same plane much of the time... Oh well. I guess me moving out of his house and into my studio up the road will give us space to think apart. Great.

thank you theskys. I do think this can be seen as strength. Good thing I was born into the aqua sign, because I am single, have to take care of things, pay the mortgage, ....maybe because I am still single is b/c I am an aqua woman. Oi vay. I think my Vrgo likes my spirit, if maybe a little wary of it, but he loves it when I pounce on him. I think though that he doesn't see my vulnerable side, thinks I am so tough, and I see him react softer to people (another woman who is a leo and vies for his attention by dissing me sweetly to him...grrr) and he falls for it. She's married, and has separated from her huband...moved across the road to a guy friends place..to torment her hubby (an aquaman) because she wanted to be centre stage, which stopped happening when I came into the scene and broke up her little gang of men by wanting to spend time with him (She cooked for my single guy, another one, her hubby and her 2 teen boys, in the other guy's house, across the road. It always ended late, after many drinks..). My Virgo guy is protective of her and feels sorry for her, and says she was just being nice. Uh huh. I caught her trying to jump my guy or to come on to him many times, but my guy just dismissed it nicely, and denies it to me...

Posted by theskys
I get along with virgos, especially the not so sensitive ones. I prefer the ones that are more mature and truly evolved. Some of them are childish - especially the females. Sad.

lol oh boy i never met one of u girls is this what i'm going to expect.

...I caught her trying to jump my guy or to come on to him many times, but my guy just dismissed it nicely, and denies it to me...

this behaviour I have read in lots of Virgo related threads. they deny until the last minute of proof.

With the Virguy I know I do not care any more whether he confirms or not. I go for my own intuition and I let the girls know that we are at least in a triangle so they can adapt or react if they care.